The cost of NOT restoring cherished relationships can take a toll on you emotionally and financially.
As I shared in last week’s blog, during 2021 Jeff and I were seriously talking about divorce, but chose to walk through healing and learn to communicate, with the help of a couple’s coach.
The good news is there is a happy ending to my story!
As Johnnie Taylor’s 1973 song goes … It’s cheaper to keep her.
I’d never sit in judgement of anyone who has divorced. It is a very personal choice, that at times may be the only option. I personally wanted to avoid it. I believed that what Jeff and I had was worth saving.
The average cost of a divorce with children in Texas is at $23,500.
The fastest a couple can get a divorce in the state of Texas is 61 days.
But we all know of couples that drug out their divorces for months, with costs soaring well above the average, not to mention the cost of separating assets and retirement.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve invested way too much in my cherished relationships to simply walk away.
Emotional Cost is so high!
In 2021 Jeff and I had two major grid lock issues. Every night seemed to be another round of fighting on one of them. It was miserable.
Let me remind you, we looked like a cute couple on Instagram. We hardly ever talked trash about each other to friends and family.
Although I had no idea how I would support myself, the real cost of divorce for me would be emotional. I felt disposable and was afraid of being lonely. All the arguing left me feeling unlovable and hopeless.
The questions that kept me up at night were…
How will this affect my family?
How will we spend Christmas and holidays?
Would we both go to the birthday parties and future celebrations?
How long will I carry the sting of rejection? Would I ever be able to trust another man?
How would I get use to NOT talking to Jeff everyday? Who would I run my crazy ideas past?
How we restored our relationship
Since March of 2019 I’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars in coaching and personal growth. I attended two Tony Robins events, got certified in Life Coaching through the Life Coach School and hired business coaches.
Like they say in the coaching world, I am a product of the product. I can honestly say that this investment has changed me and gave me the ability to manage my mind. And honestly, I was doing a lot of self coaching during this time!
When divorce was thrown around like a nuclear bomb in our home, I humbly acknowledged we could not resolve this on our own.
Hiring a couple’s coach was the most logical answer to our grid lock issues. We learned to listen and communicate what we actually meant. If we felt flooded in emotions, we simply stopped the conversation until we had time to process the feelings. Jeff and I finally came to resolutions that turned our relationship around. The cost of coaching? Priceless!
What we learned saved us from the high cost of divorce.
This week as I relive some of the hurtful thoughts that I had to work through, I am deeply grateful that Jeff and I did not throw it all away. I don’t even want to imagine what my life would be like if we had.
Out of our restoration birthed a new program
I am dedicated to serving YOU in BIG ways in 2022. I am willing to share what I experienced, in the hopes that YOU can restore your cherished relationships too!
Monday January 17, 2022 I am launching a personalized program to walk you through restoring your cherished relationships supported by a my new program called Restore Your Cherished Relationships in 90 days.
This program offers 5 valuable components.
This is a weekly one on one Zoom call with me. Every week you will have a 45 minutes with me to share your unique relationship issues. We will work through the emotions you are experiencing and create a path forward. This is by far the most valuable aspect of the program as you will finally feel heard.
I have experienced the most amazing a-ha moments in my life with a coach who’s only objective was to listen to me and offer genuinely curious questions.
You no longer need to feel isolated. It always surprises me how convinced women are that they are alone.
I will create an online community for you to connect with women who are walking a similar journey. This will be your chance to be encouraged by weekly group Zoom chats.
This is where I put together journal prompts, worksheets, reading lists, podcast suggestions and more. You will get a weekly email with all these goodies personalized for your journey.
Journaling through my emotions during this difficult time helped me get to know myself in a whole new level. I have great prompts for you to ask yourself high quality questions.
You will have 24 hour access to me via email. When you are in the heat of the moment and don’t want to wait for you connection call, you will be able to email me the issue. I will respond to you within 24 hours… but most likely it will be sooner.
The couple coach we hired offered this. One night when Jeff and I were flooded with emotion she was there to walk me through it. I will always be grateful for that!
The final component is my six week evaluation. At this time we will evaluate your progress. If you aren’t in love with your progress you will be offered a chance to jump ship or Course Correction. I am confident that you will start to see hope for your relationships at this point in the program.
Are you raising your hand wanting to know more?
Sweet! Click the link below to learn more about the program. If for some reason you still have questions… message me or schedule a chat on my Calendar.
Due to the personalize nature of this offer I will only be able to work with 10 ladies. So, don’t procrastinate!
The FACEBOOK LIVE where Jeff and I shared our journey….
Here’s to restoring YOUR cherished relationships in 2022!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!