The Daily “Fresh Hell”

Fresh hell

After a month of chatting about FUN, I want to go out on a limb with a conversation about the “fresh hell” we’ve been living through.

Yep, let’s get real.  

The past few years have felt like a roller coaster ride of emotions, leaving most clinging to hopium {that is hope-ium – a new term}. 

Are you wondering, will life will ever have a sense of normalcy?  When will this ride be over?   

Your life on hold

If you are anything like me, you love to dream and to invest in the future, but you’re so distracted by the daily dose of “fresh hell” coming from the powers that be {whoever that is}.  

There are tasks on your to-do list, but scrolling through social media for the latest news halts progress.  

Are you tip-toeing the balance between the need to be informed and the desire to bury your head in the sand?  

It’s exhausting!  Are we ok with all of this????

The daily barrage of “fresh hell” grates on the nerves, is frustrating and feels out of control.

Are you putting your dreams on hold, and at times even think why bother?

It’s hell

I see so much suffering, including my own version of misery.  Since March 2020 I have lost friends, dealt with the possibility of a lost job, and find it difficult to talk to my family about real concerns, etc. 

There hasn’t been an authentic conversation around some people since the “fresh hell” became taboo, even criminal.

The women I know just want the opportunity to talk about this bizarre time in history, to share their “fresh hell” of the day.  

Lucky for me I have learned skills to work through the chaos and have support when I find myself going in circles.  

I want to offer hope…

There is a way forward to not only cope, but to thrive in this messy world.

I’ve managed it!  

No, you won’t be able to change the polarizing landscape of today’s world, but you can create a pathway forward.  

How can I serve you?

I don’t assume to know what you need.  

Maybe you just need someone to talk to, or could use a comforting recipe, an essential oil or herbal remedy.  I have developed a million journal prompts that could be helpful.    

It’s possible that all you need is a break from the “fresh hell” and add more spice to your life.

It would definitely help to connect with kindreds!   

I’m here to serve!  

Let me know what you are struggling with!  Comment on the blog, on my social media posts, DM me or even schedule a chat with me.  

I have set up a special calendar link for this topic, Thriving Through The Daily Fresh Hell.  Simply pick a date/time that works for you.  

The beginning

It is human nature to want to live with purpose and meaning. 

This could be the beginning of a beautiful conversation and a point of discovery.  Let’s answer the daily dose of “fresh hell” with resiliency.  

Want to link arms?

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

The song hit a chord

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping you find meaning and purpose to midlife.

The other day I was riding down the road in my pick-up truck Miss Dixie, with windows wide open {cuz it’s fall ya’ll}, blasting Gavin Degraw on the radio.  Dang!  The song I Don’t Want To Be hit a chord.  

“I don’t have to be anyone other than the birth of two souls in one.  Part of where I’m going is knowing where I’m coming from.”  

Now what?

The need for purpose isn’t necessarily a crisis, but probably feels more like a nagging. Now what?

There were times when I was raising my children that I thought, oh my God… when will I ever have time for myself? 

Now that I have all the time in the world, I often miss my kids. BTW: Adult kiddos are so much fun!

Wether you’re an empty nester, newly retired or recently divorced, the question of now what can tug at your heart.  

Not superficial, but profound!  

One of my clients commented to me that she was tired of being superficial.  Me too!

If you embrace the typical midlife crisis, you might fill the void with a brand new sporty car… anything to feel young with an exciting future ahead of you.

Instead acting superficial, what if you had a profound shift in how you view all this free time? Could this time be a gift?

The birth of two souls

It’s easy to look to the past for identity. It’s clear where you’ve been, but do you know where you want to go or who you want to BE?

What if getting to know yourself is more exciting than a brand new sporty car?  

Maybe you just need to crank up Gavin Degraw for inspiration!

“I don’t want to be anything other than me.”

It is fun!

Creating a profound shift could feel heavy… but I promise it is fun!  

I like to say my empty nest is not boring, because I am in it!

You are NOT boring!

Find out what you like. 

Discover what excites you. 

Decide what really matters to you.

Is this hitting a cord?  

Last month I focused on fun… finding your inner artist, taking yourself on a date, getting on the dance floor, and being zesty.  

I hope it all hit a chord.  

These articles were designed to help you live midlife with meaning and purpose, and see this season as a gift to get to know yourself… what you like to do for fun.  

If loneliness or boredom is nagging at you, I can help.   

I invite you to schedule a chat with me.  This is an opportunity for you to share what is nagging at you and preventing you from living a life of purpose.     

Simply click my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to riding down the road, windows wide open and blasting a song that hits all the right cords!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Got zest?

Zest adds flavor to life!  

Are you zesty?  

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

This isn’t the first time I’ve written about zest.  I have always promoted the need to have something zesty to look forward to.

The past few weeks I’ve focused on your creativity, taking yourself on a date and getting on the dance floor.  

I hope you saw yourself in these posts and are ready to add zest to your life!

Something zesty to look forward to.  

“The quality of life is in proportion, always, to the capacity for delight.”  Julia Cameron

It is difficult to have capacity for delight when you live in the land of regret.  If you are always looking to the past, it’s hard to see a zesty future.    

To stop dwelling in the past, first learn to delight in the present by taking time to be grateful for all the good that you’ve created in your life.  

And then look to an exciting future by intentionally planning something zesty to look forward to. This excercise creates more of what you love.  

Our need for zest

Midlife is the perfect opportunity to be intentional about your need for zest.  

As a midlife woman, it’s time to unleash your spice.  It’s time to defy the rules and expectations you’ve followed and start doing more of what delights you.  

Working towards a dream or goal, planning a vacation or even planning a garden gives meaning to your life and creates excitement.  

Stay open to opportunities for zest

Do you have a list of zesty things to look forward to?   

Here’s a great place to start…  

Create a list 20 things you like to do.  Don’t overthink it or worry if you can’t come up with 20.  Once you are open to what delights you, more ideas will flow.  

Pick one item and describe how you will feel when you are planning it and doing it.  

Does it feel zesty and add spice to your life???  

The key is to stay open to opportunities for zest.  

Zest zappers

There are bound to be zest zappers in your life.  

You may not even be aware of how you are zapping your zest.  

Do you worry that it’s too late? Does focusing on yourself seem selfish?

Maybe you just need help believing you are capable of creating a zesty life.  

I’d love to help you tackle the blocks preventing you from moving forward toward a life that excites you.  

I invite you to schedule a free consultation.  Let’s chat about what seems to be in the way of you experiencing the freedom and fullness of midlife.  I am confident that I can help you add zest to your life!

Simply click HERE to pick a date/time that works for you.

Here’s to becoming a seasoned women with something zesty to look forward to!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Are you Zesty?

Does your success have a deadline?  

This is a big year for me!  I became a certified life coach, opened our first guest house and turned 50 years young.  I’m actually very excited about my big milestone year, despite the COVID shutdowns.  I truly believe this will be the best decade of my life.  I always love to have something zesty to look forward to.

Honestly, it did bother me a little that it took 50 years to hit my stride.  I found myself thinking, “I should be successful by now.”  The word “should” is a red flag!  Should we be anything?  

I changed my thought to, “this is my season!” 

Say the two thoughts to yourself.

“I should be successful by now”

“This is my season!”

Don’t they feel completely different? I feel motivated to discover what I’m truly capable of with the thought “This is my season!”  

AND SERIOUSLY…. Does success have a deadline?  

It’s time to be zesty!

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

There are so many examples of women who launched successful businesses later in life.  Martha Stewart, Julia Childs, Vera Wang, Estée Lauder, etc.  Even if you aren’t interested in starting a business in this season, these women are reminders that it is never too late to create the life of your dreams.  

A seasoned woman is definitely not a rookie.  She has experienced life and knows how to turn obstacles into possibilities.  She has learned to be ok with her authentic self.  In fact, she has the confidence to be zesty in this season of life!  

Three things a seasoned woman KNOWS

1.  A seasoned woman is well aware life is 50% good and 50% bad.  

2.  A seasoned woman understands the importance of failing forward.

3.  A seasoned woman knows her seasoning is unique and valuable.

What are YOU going to do with your season?

The Pulitzer Prize winning poet, Mary Oliver once posed the question,

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?” 

Do you believe that you can create the life of your dreams at any season of life?  

I do!

This decade of my life will be zesty!  I have learned the art of failing forward and am ready to create the life of my dreams through intentional thought management.  I will be gritty, seasoned with both passion and perseverance.  

I’d love to help YOU believe the best years are ahead.  Schedule a FREE mini session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want.  You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams. Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.

Here’s to living a ZESTY LIFE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach