Are you willing to vulnerably admit that at times of frustration you just want to say “F’ it”? Yes, I admit that I use the F word on occasion.
For instance, I might say it prior to the third glass of wine, or finishing the cake after the kids went to bed. Does this happen to just me?
“She realized that vulnerability was easier to wear than vanity. So she stripped straight down to nothing. And set herself free.” ~ Cara Alwill Leyba
This week I spent time wondering why the “F’ it” moments happen.
My F’ It Moment
Recently, at a point when my dreams seem to be on the horizon but still so far out of reach, I had a major “F ’it” moment.
I had planned my eating protocol for the day. I knew I’d be meeting friends at my favorite winery, so I planned one glass of wine. (famously naive) At the winery, I had my planned glass of wine and then bought a bottle to take home. When I got home my plans got railroaded, as if I can blame it on the circumstances, and proceeded to drink the bottle too. The moment I opened the bottle I recall saying to myself, “Fuck it!” (not abbreviated)
The real reason I had a “F’ it” moment was not my evening circumstances. Frankly, the real reason I felt the need to “F’ it” was my unrealized dreams weighing heavy on my heart ALL DAY.
The next morning I awoke with the guilt of not honoring my planned protocol, and the familiar shame storm.
I wrote in my journal: I can’t seem to catch a mystic break. God, I’m trusting you. Please lead me to the gold-mine within.
Then I came across another poem…
I want to breath in passion like air. I want to fill my lungs with the magic and lust and possibility only passion brings. And the feeling that is only available to you when you finally, fully, fiercely surrender. ~ Cara Alwill Leyba
The absence of evidence is NOT the evidence of its absence. Surrender to the mystery.
Surrendering is actually saying, “F’ it” in a completely different way. It is breathing in passion like air and saying to yourself, “this just might work!” What do you actually have to loose when you choose to believe notwithstanding the absence of evidence?
Faith is a powerful emotion that helps you believe your dreams are worth pursuing.
It just might work!
The first “F’ it” has no upside. It is just a familiar way to approach discouragement that leads to guilt and an inevitable shame storm. Creative solutions are impossible to discover when your energy is consumed by discouragement.
The second “F’ it” has HUGE upsides. The thought “what if it works” produces a feeling of hope and leads to massive action.
Here is what I’ve learned about hope this week:
Hope is not an accident.
You cultivated hope by allowing the mystery.
The mystery is a little voice that whispers maybe, when the whole world is shouting no.
This hope is an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.
Hope is the charged emotion that elevates your dreams.
Not forced, but ready to see crazy things happen!
What if you gave up entertaining the thoughts that cause fear and discouragement, the thoughts that lead to lack?
Have compassion on your discouraging thoughts, noticing them without guilt or shame, and then simply release them.
Surrender to the idea that it just might work, and to the mystery of uncommon creativity.
This is my life’s work.
Believing in possibilities and abundance is my super power. Even when I suffer discouragement, my will to break through will not allow me to wallow in it. I desire to cultivate a mindset that surrenders to fierce hope.
I am happy to share my journey with you in hopes that it inspires your journey. As your life coach I will help you to reclaim your life, full of dreams and visions for your best years ahead.
I’d love to work with you to develop a proper “F’ it” mindset.
If you regret a recent “F’ it” moment that produced a shame storm, I know I can help you flip it to a “it just might work” mindset. I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.
Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you! It just might work!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!