Yep, my Christmas decorations are packed up for another year. I truly loved celebrating our favorite traditions and staying connected to my family and friends with our yearly Christmas cards. On Christmas Day we hopped on a Zoom call with my family before Christmas dinner. While it was definitely different, I managed to soak in all the magic of the season.
Packing up Christmas does not mean I’m a humbug!
I am known to pack up my Christmas decorations the day of. This year I left them up two extra days. I’m really not a humbug, I just get excited about a new year.
This is the second year I have set goals for the new year with a system I absolutely love. I am super clear on what I need to work on to become my future self, the woman I know I can become. I love choosing HER in 2021!
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I want to wish you a Merry Christmas Y’all! I hope you are enjoying every second of your traditions, or finding new ones. Either way, I hope you are creating all the magic of this season.
I want to take this opportunity to say…Y’all, I appreciate you! 2020 has been a crazy year. Thank you for sticking with me as I navigated a year of tremendous growth.
Join me in the excitement of a new year. Have you set yourself up for an awesome 2021? If you learned anything from me this year, I hope you are becoming future focused, creating your future from your future. Here’s a great podcast to check out on the subject: I’ve Never Done That Before episode #347.
I hope my journey has inspired you to believe your best years are ahead. One of my 2021 goals is to help 21 women get the results they never thought possible. If you have big dreams for 2021 or just want to get clear on life in this season, I’d love to chat. Take advantage of my free mini session by clicking the link below.
This year will be a magnificent year! But first, let me encourage to spend the week soaking in ALL the magic of the season. 🎄
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
Do you find yourself missing the awe of Christmas through your little one’s eyes? Does your heart ache a little as you navigate holiday traditions with an empty nest?
You are not alone. It is a bitter sweet season for many of us.
A love/hate relationship with holiday traditions.
Confession: I had a melt down today. Jeff and I returned from a trip north to visit our grand babies in Michigan and celebrate Thanksgiving with my family in Ohio. I could blame it on exhaustion from the long road trip, but the truth is decorating an empty nest is just not as fun as it used to be with kiddos under our roof.
As a young Mom, I remember wearing myself out to provide my littles with all the treasured traditions that my Mom and Grandma effortlessly modeled for me. I became weary of Christmas to the point of almost dreading all the work, which was not how I wanted my kids to remember their childhood.
One year I lowered my expectations during the holidays and insisted on creating our own yearly traditions. I have fond memories of cutting our tree down at the local tree farm, baking cookies and giving new PJs on Christmas Eve. Most years I caved on Christmas Eve and allowed the kids to open all their gifts.
It has been ten years since Jeff and I celebrated our final Christmas with our kids at home. All the holiday hoopla doesn’t seem worth it without the kids. My meltdown is definitely a sign that I need to rethink my relationship with holiday traditions and work to create new ones for this season of life.
Honor the past
Why is it so hard to move on, even after ten years?
It is common for people to focus on a familiar past, especially during the holidays when you need the comfort of family traditions.
It is helpful to allow yourself a trip down memory lane, but don’t wallow there. Although memory lane is nostalgic, don’t forget to take off the rose color glasses.
For instance, I have a lot of great memories of creating Christmas magic for my kiddos, but am brutally honest about the feelings of overwhelm I often experienced. In fact, one year I decorated our Christmas tree with caution tape. We had just purchased a historic home that we were in the middle of renovating. I had a huge case of Ba-humbug!
Having a healthy relationship with your past is part of my three step process to reinvent midlife and is especially helpful during the holidays.
Living in the Now
Living in the now means creating a sense of tradition for this season of life.
The holidays can be an exciting time to allow your creative juices to flow! Regardless of the changes from year to year, pick a few traditions that just make you happy. This year I am excited about a few new ideas for holiday decorating and gifts… stayed tuned.
As a reminder, there isn’t a playbook or manual for midlife. Create Christmas magic for you!
What memories can you create today that your future self will look back with fondness?
Create an intention for the holidays where you honor your past seasons, but fully live in the NOW with gratitude for each season moving forward.
If you hang out with me for too long, I’ll convince you that your best years are ahead.
Gift yourself an investment into your future
You owe it to yourself to become everything you were meant to be. I invite you to make an investment in your mind, your health and your future.
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Now that I have allowed myself a Christmas melt down, I can truly enjoy my cozy cottage decorated for this holiday season. Here’s to celebrating new holiday traditions!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.
This Christmas has been an emotion roller coaster for me as I reminisce Christmas memories and focus on creating new Christmas traditions with Jeff. Doubtful I’ll get through writing this without becoming a sappy mess.
Growing up my Mom made sure my sister and I had perfect Christmas memories. We grew up making more cookies than our neighborhood could eat, stringing popcorn and cranberry garland, visiting Santa at my grandpa’s Masonic Lodge, driving to downtown Columbus to see the lights, decorating the tree and waking up to a living room full of presents on Christmas morning. I’m sure it was very similar to our friend’s Christmas, but it was magic to me. This picture cracks me up… not sure why I was shooting my sister a stern look.
When Jeff and I were raising our little family, I was either really into Christmas or the biggest ba-humbug in history. I never felt that I could live up to my expectations and was exhausted before I even attempted to gear up for Christmas. Somehow, we managed to create a few traditions that stuck over the years. We made cookies (always buckeyes), hunted and cut down the perfect tree, decorated the tree, topped the tree with a lift from Dad, and a new pair of pajamas on Christmas Eve. Most years the kids opened all their presents before Christmas because Jeff and I simply could not wait. Cutting the tree became an all day event, as I insisted on hunting the tree farm until I found the perfect tree, regardless of the weather. As the kids got older, the traditions were for my benefit. Yep, the kids were having a blast!
The year before we all flew the coop…. oh boy, did the years fly by.
Over time, I experienced my favorite traditions in other ways. Like the year my sister and I baked cookies with my Grandma.
My Mom now makes Christmas cookies with Emily, my daughter and her friends.
Emily and Jacob (daughter and son-inlaw) have started their own traditions, including cutting down a tree from our favorite tree farm. Emily posted to Facebook, “We got a Christmas tree. I was channeling my mom and made us walk all the way to the back of the tree lot, in the cold to find the “perfect” tree. Good memories.” LOVE that girl!
I LOVE the smile on her face!
Last year Jeff got to place the star on the top of our tree for the first time.
This year I went shopping alone for our trees (yes I said trees, meaning two for our house and five for The Coop) and bought them from a big box hardware store. GASP! After all these years I discovered that I can get seven trees for the price of one. However, it will never have the same magic.
This year Jeff and I started a few new traditions. He joined me in making buckeyes.
We went to see The Nutcracker at The Festival Institute in Round Top. Jeff and his mother, Ginger, had never seen The Nutcracker. None of us had experienced The Festival Institute. Wow!
This was my first year to decorate The Coop. I honestly enjoyed transforming The Coop, making ornaments and hosting Christmas At The Coop. I look forward to Rocking Around The Coop next year. Great memories to build new traditions upon!
I miss the traditions of my childhood and the ones Jeff and I created with our kids. It is heartwarming to watch my adult children maintain some old traditions, while creating their own. Jeff and I have whittled down the traditions in our empty nest and have enjoyed a slower paced holiday. I’m insisting we wait until Christmas morning to open our gifts, a first for us.
The traditions are fun, but it’s the people I created them with that is priceless. I’m so grateful for a rich life filled with family and friends!
May your holiday season be full of joy! In the midst of a hectic season, I pray that you savor time with loved ones and make memories to last you all year long!
And the birds fluttered around her writing, “YES” in the sky!
~A reminder for me to surrender to the journey and trust.
While most people are busy dashing from one holiday event to another, I find myself curled up in our “empty” nest decorated for two and thinking about the journey. This year had unexpected bends in the road. I wonder what 2014 will bring? It feels good to be still, enjoying our first Christmas tree at FTC headquarters and establishing new traditions for the two of us.
I am excited that Flown The Coop has settled into a nice routine of quality shows and feel blessed beyond measure with customers who have become friends this year!
Even though Jeff and I have “flown the coop”, we are grounded by our expanding family! We are having fun planning our daughter’s wedding in 2014 and getting to know our son’s girlfriend and her son.
“If you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back in pain and regret.” Jim Carrey
I am determined to not allow the mountains Jeff and I had to climb this year wear me out. Cancer, a stolen trailer and other various disappointments slowed me down a little.
Cherishing the relationships in my life and enjoying rest in December will rejuvenate me.
If I live the life I’m given, I won’t be afraid to die. ~Avett Brothers
There is no way to predict which way the road will bend in 2014, the uncertainty is both scary and thrilling. Life is a journey.
I’ve spent time researching trends, dreaming of projects to undertake and looking at what worked in 2013. When it comes down to it, I know this journey is best traveled simply pursuing what I love. I envision “Road Work Ahead” signs along the way. And that’s ok.
I love being the author of my job description and pursuing new ways to connect with junque and the lovers of junque. I love deep roots in family and strong friendships.
I hope to be known as a person surrendered to LIVE the journey given me, despite the unexpected bends in the road. I will reread this post mid year and see where I stand.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Hope your December is filled with the warmth of your relationships and traditions. I also hope that 2014 will be the beginning of an excellent adventure! Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. Fly free!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!