You may be good at beating yourself up for eating the third piece of pizza or forgetting an important zoom call, but hardly ever give yourself credit for the twenty years you spent raising competent children who are now making their way in the world. So, learning to possess swagger will take some practice.
I brought up bragging during my Fail Friday on May 7th. I shared a three-step daily practice that includes bragging, gratitude and desire. Focusing on the “trinity” thoughts daily will drastically improve your midlife wellness awakening.
First of all, I believe failure has an important place in your growth. My weekly Facebook Live called Fail Friday is designed to highlight failure and give examples of people who use their failure as stepping stones to success.
Sara Blakely is a great example of the importance of acknowledging failure. Her Dad set her up to embrace failure by insisting on a nightly tradition of sharing failures at the dinner table.
When it comes to failure, I definitely have swagger. Unfortunately, it is rare that I’ll boast about a success. Why is that?
What ever your mind focuses on you will attract in your life. It is easier to focus on problems to be solved than to celebrate a success. So how do we switch our focus to swagger?
To redirect focus, stop yourself with the statement, “NOW I know what I don’t want.” Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”
For example, you notice that you really don’t like feeling out of control when you’ve had the third glass of wine. The next morning you get up not feeling yourself and start beating yourself up for that third glass. Stop beating yourself up and proclaim, “NOW I know what I don’t want.” Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”
The Swagger Practice
You may have more of what you don’t want stored in your subconscious. You simply need to deposit more swagger into the story you rehearse in your mind.
Dr. Northrup shares in her book Goddesses Never Age a daily practice of bragging, gratitude and desire “I think it is fantastic for bringing perspective to your daily experiences and remembering how challenges set you up to more deeply appreciate blessings. Doing this exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of getting through a To Do list.’
- Think of something to brag about. It doesn’t have to be earth shattering, just a thought you can be proud of. You don’t have to share it publicly, but definitely record it in a journal to look back on.
- Identify something you can be grateful for. This is different from a brag. What blessing in your life fills your heart with joy?
- What do you desire? This should be out of reach. If money or time were not an object, what would you want?
I LOVE the idea off doing this daily activity with your wingwomen. It will uplift your tribe and encourage swagger.
Swagger takes practice
You can attain a life your proud of and enjoy getting out of bed for. If the idea of creating daily swagger is resonating with you, I’d love to help. I can help you sort through the thoughts that are keeping you stuck.
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And the bird fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.