Loving yourself

Beauty has so many forms, and I think the most beautiful thing is confidence and loving yourself.  ~ Kiesza

The ugly truth is that I have spent a lifetime self loathing and looking for my worth in the eyes of others. 

A beautiful illustration came to me in meditation.  

I was standing on a shore hesitant to join the fun at a swimming hole, watching friends splashing around out in the deep.  As much as I wanted to join the fun, I had reasons for staying on the shore.  The water was too cold.  I don’t like swimming in a lake, and not being able to see what I’m swimming with.  With just enough courage, I dipped my toe in the water.  I thought, Well, that wasn’t so bad.  Eventually I inched into the water waste deep.  Stepping forward was actually refreshing.  All of the sudden I felt empowered to join the laughter and the silliness of friends splashing around in the deep.  

The swimming hole represented a life full of joy, but my beliefs held me on shore.  A few daily affirmations allowed me to dip my toes into belief.  Once I felt comfortable, I was able to develop new beliefs about myself.  And now I have the confidence to shake off the opinions of others and join the fun!  

Beautiful, do you love yourself?

Loving yourself makes you irresistible.  

Cultivating love for yourself is not selfish or egotistical, and is the opposite of self preservation and being needy.

Reversing the negative chatter takes some work.  

It is liberating to reach deep within to meet your needs when you’re alone and bored, at times when relationships are difficult or when you are reaching for a huge goal.  You can have your own back!

What do you believe? 

If we don’t believe we can have what we want, we unconsciously create lifestyles that assure we can’t possibly be fulfilled.   ~Victoria Castel from The Trance of Scarcity

You are the only one who can create the confidence within.  Developing confidence doesn’t have to be a big scary leap at first.  Simply start by having a chat with your image in the mirror.  Tell her where you see value, purpose and beauty.  It might feel weird, but can be a powerful tool into seeing into your soul.  

I do this!  I tell myself regularly that I have the grit and resolve to stand up for what is important to me and to try things that are a bit scary.  These thoughts create a feeling of moxie {just love this word!}.  And that feeling moves me to create the lifestyle that is uniquely me.  

What do you want to believe about yourself?  Your current lifestyle can give you a clue into what you actually believe. 

Block the blockers

You might be blocking what you want.

In my free workbook, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS, I offer a worksheet that helps you call out your BS with a simple question, is it true?

Others might be blocking you. 

I’m not sure which is harder, blocking your own BS or blocking what you think others are thinking.  A good question to ask yourself, is their opinion relevant?  

Spoiler alert:  the answer is NO.  It is usually BS.  

Need a little help dipping your toe in the water? 

Is this is resonating with you, but seems a bit too hard to imagine genuinely loving yourself?

Let’s get you on the calendar!  

Picking a date on my calendar is a simple step forward, like dipping your toe in the water.  Before long you will be joyfully splashing in the deep. 

Here’s to falling in love with life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!