Dealing with rejection can sting! No matter your season in life; you will deal with the preverbal high school lunch room. Let me share 4 things you need to know about rejection to finally kick it to the curb.
1. They don’t like peaches
“You can be the juiciest peach in the world, but there’s always going to be someone who doesn’t link peaches.” Dita Von Teese
Jeff doesn’t like peaches. He doesn’t like watermelon either. I know, WHAT? No matter how much I try to convince him of their juicy goodness, he insists he hates them.
So, if you can’t control people’s choice of fruit or their opinion of you, why do you keep trying?
2. You believe you can control another person’s opinion
What other people think about you is none of your business.
You could spend your time trying to control what people believe about you, but let me offer you a little secret. They really aren’t thinking about you. Their opinion of you says more about their opinion of themselves.
It’s true. Other people are busy trying to control what other people think of them, so they can feel better about themselves. It never works.
Don’t you wish you could have learned this truth during your high school lunchroom days?
3. You don’t accept yourself
I know what you are thinking. How do I recognize rejection and not take it personally?
A better question to ask yourself is why don’t you feel accepted?
Trust me, I know what it feels like to want the approval of others, only to feel rejected. I am a rebel. I was born to buck the system. I’ve taken several personality tests. I am a RED/BLUE or an A/B depending on the chart. I scored an 8/7 on the Enneagram test, the challenger. Not many people know how to take a strong personality. It took me nearly fifty years to finally love that I am fiery, with deep convictions. That is who I am. I feel accepted now, because I decided to accept myself. Yeah, I may not be a cup of tea because I prefer being a shot of tequila.
When you rely on other people to make you feel accepted, they will always fail. It isn’t possible for someone to create a feeling within you.
Your thoughts about yourself is what create feelings of acceptance within.
4. The things we appreciate will appreciate
What if you developed your own opinion of yourself and recognize your full worth.
Homework: Make a list of twenty five things you appreciate about yourself. Create this list in less than five minutes. Don’t give yourself a chance to analyze the list as you go. Step back and appreciate all that you have going for you!
*Remember: Self-Appreciation is not arrogance. Arrogance is believing you are better than another person. When you show up with self-appreciation you are offering all your gifts and talents.
Take creative control
Most women who reach midlife are sick of the drama of fitting into a mold. The proverbial high school lunchroom has shown up more times than you care to admit. Fitting into perceived molds is frankly exhausting.
Midlife women conversely know that they are capable of hard things. You can recall all the times you survived life’s trails. So, why not ask yourself, “what do I want to create?”
Will you let the fear of rejection get in your way?
If you’re still resistant about the opinions of others, you know you have work to do.
I’d love to help you take creative control of your life. It is my mission to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead of them.
Schedule a FREE mini session with me. It is a 45 minute chat to discover what is holding you back. You may or many not be dealing with rejection, but I guarantee you it is a sneaky little thought or well rehearsed story that objects to your dreams.
Simply click the link below and pick a date on my calendar that works for you.
Let’s take the sting out of rejection!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.