Restoring Cherished Relationships

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach and master of reinvention, shares her journey to restoring cherished reltionships

If you are like me, you have way too much invested in your family and cherished relationships to walk away in defeat, but you also don’t want to waste another day feeling frustrated or unimportant. 

You’re not sure how to restore what is broken, but something has to give!  

Jeff and I found ourselves in a great divide in 2021, where something had to give.  On the outside we were a cute couple, never really talking shit about each other to our friends and family.  Unfortunately, there were two very important issues that had us in complete grid lock.  We spent the majority of our time together fighting and very close to the dreaded D word, divorce.  

Without going into details, I can tell you that I know what it is like to feel disposable, unheard, sad, lonely and in despair.  Jeff felt unappreciated, blamed as the source of all issues and frustrated because he couldn’t fix them.  

Could it really be over, or was there a chance we could find real solutions to our grid lock?  Honestly, it didn’t look good for months.  

Help in restoring

Not so much a turning point, but a last ditch effort.  We agreed to hire a couple’s coach.  

Thank God for Jill who spent 3 months helping us communicate, solving grid lock and giving us hope for the future.  Most of all, we learned to listen to each other without defensiveness.  

Another profound shift in me happened during this time.  I began to restore my relationship with myself.  

Cherished

When you are upset about what is being said (or implied) about you in the heat of an argument, good chance you’ll fear it is true.  

After 3 decades together, Jeff and I knew how to push each other’s buttons. He knew exactly what to say to shut me down. We learned to pause when we felt flooded from a heated conversation. For me, that gave me time to think about what I believed. Was what he was saying really true? Did I believe that about myself?

Once you establish what you believe about yourself, it really doesn’t matter what the opinions of others are. You take back your power.

If I could go back in time with what I know now, I would spend everyday reinforcing what I believe about myself and truly enjoying my own company.  

The relationship with yourself is cherished.

Life giving or life sucking relationships?

Many of my clients are stuck in life sucking relationships, but are in fear of being rejected if they ask for what they really want.  Or even worse, many women don’t even know what they want.  

Jeff and I are proof that you can break the patterns that keep you in grid lock.

You are not alone.  So, please break free from the isolation of shame and guilt.  

You can truly understand your relationships and be understood.

It is possible to restore your cherished relationships from life sucking to life giving.  

Coming soon….

What I learned from spending months restoring my cherished relationship with Jeff was so profound that I want to share it with YOU!

Coming soon:  Restore your cherished relationships in 90 days!  

I will be launching this program in a few weeks.  This 90 day program will be FULL VALUE and personalized to your unique relationship grid lock.  Due to the nature of this personalized program, space will be limited to only ten women.   

If you want first dibs on this upcoming program, simply email me that you are interested with the subject line: Restoring Relationships.

I am here to serve you in bigger ways in 2022

Here’s to vibrant relationships and enjoying life! Your best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

What is possible

Do you know what is possible?  Who taught you? 

On December 17th 2019 I recorded a Facebook Live that showed up in my memories this week.  Watching this video reminded me that it was Mister Rogers who taught me to believe in possibilities.

Read all the way to the end to learn how committed I am to YOUR possibilities!

His influence on possibilities

Jeff and I had just went to see the long awaited movie A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood.  I have fond memories of watching Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood as a child and was looking forward to learning more about the man.  

I took for granted the role Mister Rogers had in my formative years.  He taught children that they were in control of their thoughts and feelings, and that anything is possible.  

I have always believed in my capacity of creating life on my own terms.  Maybe Mister Rogers put that thought into my head.  

In my blog article, His influence on possibilities, I wondered what I once believed possible as a child.  What did YOU believe was possible as a child?

What if you dared to dream with the innocence of a five year old, AND with the inner strength of the woman you’ve become?

Don’t give up

Mister Rogers never gave up on his personal quest to help children believe in the importance of their thoughts and feelings.  

“It would not be easy, No – for in order to win such a battle, he would have to forbid himself the privilege of stopping, and whatever he did right he would have to repeat, as though were already living in eternity.”  Tom Junod

What will YOU believe is possible for 2022 if you don’t give up? 

We are all connected

“The connections we make in the course of a life—maybe that’s what heaven is, Tom. We make so many connections here on earth. Look at us—I’ve just met you, but I’m investing in who you are and who you will be, and I can’t help it.”  Mister Rogers

I’m so glad we are connected.  I want to take this opportunity to thank YOU for following my journey for the past two years.  I hope you have been inspired along the way to believe in your potential.  

If YOU are new to Flown The Coop…WELCOME! 

My heart is in serving YOU in 2022!  Like Mr. Rogers…I’m investing in who you are and who you will be, and I can’t help it.

To celebrate Christmas I am giving 10 women a copy of my journal, Four Stages of Reinvention with four free coaching sessions.  I want YOU to start 2022 believing in your possibilities.  

The first 10 women to email me their address with the subject line “I believe in possibilities” will get their copy in the mail the first week of January.  eckhardt.tiffany@gmail.com  

Here’s to truly believing in possibilities!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

His influence on possibilities?

Sunday night Jeff and I went to see the long awaited movie A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood.  I have fond memories of watching Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood as a child and was looking forward to learning more about the man.  I took for granted the role Mr. Rogers had in my formative years and his influence on possibilities.  

The movie is based on a 1998 Esquire magazine article Can You Say… Hero?  Tom Junod had the honor of getting to know the iconic figure personally.  In his article Junod talked about how Mister Rogers took an interest in his feelings. The movie portrayed this unlikely friendship.

One of the best lines of the movie is a moment when the journalist shares with his wife his  assignment to profile Mr. Rogers.  Knowing her husband’s reputation of exposing the worst in people, she says, “Lyod, please don’t ruin my childhood.” 

Did Mister Rogers influence your possibilities?

Life Coach, Tiffany Eckhardt wants you to create a life on your terms and help you believe in possibilities!

Watching A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood on Sunday made me wonder what I believed was possible as a child?  I love looking at a picture of myself as a little girl, full of childlike optimism. 

I wonder, What did YOU believe was possible as a child?  Do you remember any of the daily lessons from Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood?

I didn’t realize as a child that Mister Rogers was teaching children that they were in control of their thoughts and feelings.  How did I not pick that up as a child?  I just enjoyed all the characters and the regular segments. I was too busy having fun.  

Digging deeper into Mister Rogers’ story I became conscious of why becoming a certified Life Coach is so important to me.  I have always believed that I am capable of creating life on my terms. Unfortunately, somewhere along the way I developed a story in my mind that creating life on my terms was selfish. LORD… that story has not served me! I’d love to have the impact Mister Rogers’ had by teaching people the key to unlock their success in life is to understand their thoughts and feelings.

Here’s what I’ve learned from his influence on possibilities

1. Mister Rogers was paving the way with his intentions…

  • Trying to give the world a way to deal with their feelings
  • Inspiring the world to kindness
  • Sometimes we have to ask for help, and that’s ok
  • Each person is precious
  • We are not broken
  • I like you just the way you are

2. Mister Rogers lived an example of what is possible and never gave up. 

“It would not be easy, No – for in order to win such a battle, he would have to forbid himself the privilege of stopping, and whatever he did right he would have to repeat, as though were already living in eternity.” 

Tom Junod

3. Mister Rogers believed that we are all connected.  

“The connections we make in the course of a life—maybe that’s what heaven is, Tom. We make so many connections here on earth. Look at us—I’ve just met you, but I’m investing in who you are and who you will be, and I can’t help it.” 

Mister Rogers quote to Tom Junod in an interview

In accepting a Lifetime Achievement Award at the 24th Annual Daytime Emmy Awards, Mister Rogers stuns the audience with a moment no one expected.  He asked the audience to take 10 seconds to think about all the special people who have loved them into being.  There wasn’t a dry eye in the place after his 10 second pause.  It was his humble way of reminding us we are all connected.

A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood reminded me of my “why”

I want to remind people it is possible to become whoever they want to be.  It’s never too late to create the life of your dreams.  You just need the tools!

I’d love to help YOU create the life of your dreams with self awareness and intention. Read 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach  Schedule a coaching session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want.  You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams.  Your first session is FREE!

Oh, and don’t miss a chance to see A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood! It is as heartwarming as you’d expect!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky