Restoring Cherished Relationships

Posted on January 10, 2022 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach and master of reinvention, shares her journey to restoring cherished reltionships

If you are like me, you have way too much invested in your family and cherished relationships to walk away in defeat, but you also don’t want to waste another day feeling frustrated or unimportant.

You’re not sure how to restore what is broken, but something has to give!

Jeff and I found ourselves in a great divide in 2021, where something had to give. On the outside we were a cute couple, never really talking shit about each other to our friends and family. Unfortunately, there were two very important issues that had us in complete grid lock. We spent the majority of our time together fighting and very close to the dreaded D word, divorce.

Without going into details, I can tell you that I know what it is like to feel disposable, unheard, sad, lonely and in despair. Jeff felt unappreciated, blamed as the source of all issues and frustrated because he couldn’t fix them.

Could it really be over, or was there a chance we could find real solutions to our grid lock? Honestly, it didn’t look good for months.

Help in restoring

Not so much a turning point, but a last ditch effort. We agreed to hire a couple’s coach.

Thank God for Jill who spent 3 months helping us communicate, solving grid lock and giving us hope for the future. Most of all, we learned to listen to each other without defensiveness.

Another profound shift in me happened during this time. I began to restore my relationship with myself.

Cherished

When you are upset about what is being said (or implied) about you in the heat of an argument, good chance you’ll fear it is true.

After 3 decades together, Jeff and I knew how to push each other’s buttons. He knew exactly what to say to shut me down. We learned to pause when we felt flooded from a heated conversation. For me, that gave me time to think about what I believed. Was what he was saying really true? Did I believe that about myself?

Once you establish what you believe about yourself, it really doesn’t matter what the opinions of others are. You take back your power.

If I could go back in time with what I know now, I would spend everyday reinforcing what I believe about myself and truly enjoying my own company.

The relationship with yourself is cherished.

Life giving or life sucking relationships?

Many of my clients are stuck in life sucking relationships, but are in fear of being rejected if they ask for what they really want. Or even worse, many women don’t even know what they want.

Jeff and I are proof that you can break the patterns that keep you in grid lock.

You are not alone. So, please break free from the isolation of shame and guilt.

You can truly understand your relationships and be understood.

It is possible to restore your cherished relationships from life sucking to life giving.

Coming soon….

What I learned from spending months restoring my cherished relationship with Jeff was so profound that I want to share it with YOU!

Coming soon: Restore your cherished relationships in 90 days!

I will be launching this program in a few weeks. This 90 day program will be FULL VALUE and personalized to your unique relationship grid lock. Due to the nature of this personalized program, space will be limited to only ten women.

If you want first dibs on this upcoming program, simply email me that you are interested with the subject line: Restoring Relationships.

I am here to serve you in bigger ways in 2022.

Here’s to vibrant relationships and enjoying life! Your best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

What is possible

Posted on December 18, 2021 by tiffany

Do you know what is possible? Who taught you?

On December 17th 2019 I recorded a Facebook Live that showed up in my memories this week. Watching this video reminded me that it was Mister Rogers who taught me to believe in possibilities.

Read all the way to the end to learn how committed I am to YOUR possibilities!

His influence on possibilities

Jeff and I had just went to see the long awaited movie A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood. I have fond memories of watching Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood as a child and was looking forward to learning more about the man.

I took for granted the role Mister Rogers had in my formative years. He taught children that they were in control of their thoughts and feelings, and that anything is possible.

I have always believed in my capacity of creating life on my own terms. Maybe Mister Rogers put that thought into my head.

In my blog article, His influence on possibilities, I wondered what I once believed possible as a child. What did YOU believe was possible as a child?

What if you dared to dream with the innocence of a five year old, AND with the inner strength of the woman you’ve become?

Don’t give up

Mister Rogers never gave up on his personal quest to help children believe in the importance of their thoughts and feelings.

“It would not be easy, No – for in order to win such a battle, he would have to forbid himself the privilege of stopping, and whatever he did right he would have to repeat, as though were already living in eternity.” Tom Junod

What will YOU believe is possible for 2022 if you don’t give up?

We are all connected

“The connections we make in the course of a life—maybe that’s what heaven is, Tom. We make so many connections here on earth. Look at us—I’ve just met you, but I’m investing in who you are and who you will be, and I can’t help it.” Mister Rogers

I’m so glad we are connected. I want to take this opportunity to thank YOU for following my journey for the past two years. I hope you have been inspired along the way to believe in your potential.

If YOU are new to Flown The Coop…WELCOME!

My heart is in serving YOU in 2022! Like Mr. Rogers…I’m investing in who you are and who you will be, and I can’t help it.

To celebrate Christmas I am giving 10 women a copy of my journal, Four Stages of Reinvention with four free coaching sessions. I want YOU to start 2022 believing in your possibilities.

The first 10 women to email me their address with the subject line “I believe in possibilities” will get their copy in the mail the first week of January. eckhardt.tiffany@gmail.com

Here’s to truly believing in possibilities!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

I can’t wait to meet ya!

Posted on January 18, 2021 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead. In this blog she discusses being future focused. Ever wonder about her, Can't wait to meet ya!

Dear Tiff (because that is what I call myself), I can’t wait to meet ya!

Can you remember what was important to you last year? Are you a little unsure of what you want to create for your life in 2021? Let me share with you a future focused practice that will help you stay in touch with where you’ve been and who you want to become.

In 2019, at a Tony Robbins event, I wrote a letter to myself at the end of a few intense days. I was full of powerful optimism. It felt great!

When I wrote the letter, I sealed it up and handed it to a staff member at the event, who promised to send the letter to me at a random date. I can’t tell you how fun it was to open the letter from myself.

In that letter I promised myself a few things. I’m proud to say that I actually followed through with becoming a certified life coach with The Life Coach School. I pressed the “enroll” button on their website while sitting in my hotel room late at night after committing to my future during the event. The final line of that letter was, “Above all – keep fucking going.” And I did.

A tradition is born…. can’t wait to meet ya!

On January 15, 2020 I decided to write another letter to my future self. Again, I was full of optimism with big dreams. That’s the way I like it!

I give myself a HUGE pass for 2020. There was no way to predict how our world would implode. One of my favorite lines of the 2020 letter is, “No more leading a life of quiet desperation. You are a solution seeker.” And I was.

This year I wrote another letter with the thought, can’t wait to meet ya!

Building a relationship with yourself

Do you have a relationship with your past, present and future self? Building this relationship is a wonderful way to create the life you’ve always wanted.

I am extremely compassionate with who I was January 15, 2020. Poor girl had no idea what fresh hell she would have to endure on a daily basis. One thing I can say about her is that she plugged into growth and embraced the journey. What can you say about your January 2020 self? Be kind to your past self. Despite all the failures, I bet you learned valuable lessons along the way.

Living in the now is an extremely helpful skill to learn. The Bible says to not worry about tomorrow, it will take care of itself. Your future self is encouraging you to build the skills today that she will need in the future. So, get busy creating!

What will your future self think about you a year from now? Will she be proud of what you attempted or how you grew? I guarantee if you start thinking about her, you will show up differently today. What is important to her? What do you need to learn today to set her up for success?

Write the letter

Writing a letter to your future self each January is a pivotal way to learn about yourself from year to year.

I had forgotten what was important to me in 2019 and then at the beginning of 2020. I realigned with some of my past ambitions and pivoted from some that no longer serve me.

Writing a letter to your future self is a valuable tradition. It’s a chance to write from the heart to the person you know yourself to BE. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

Offer compassion to your past self

High five your accomplishments

Explain what is important to you today (in the now).

Share your goals with her

Tell her how you will work on for her behalf

What do you enjoy and hope to add to your life during the year? Any adventures you hope to take her on?

What relationships will you foster?

Your future self will thank you!

I can speak from the receiving side of a letter, and am grateful to my past self for caring about me.

I hope my letter tradition will inspire you to write your own letters to the woman you will be in January 2022. This practice can inspire you to act on her behalf today. It can become a tradition you look forward to each year as a marker of your personal evolution.

Becoming future minded allows you to aim for possibilities. Your future self will thank you!

I concluded my January 2022 letter with, “I hope you will be proud of me. Can’t wait to meet ya.” XOXO Tiff

On a side note: It was magical when I received a letter from myself after the Tony Robbins event in 2019. I am offering to hold your letters until the end of December 2021. If you send me your letter sealed in a self addressed stamped envelope, I will drop it in the mail in late December.

Send to: Tiffany Eckhardt, P.O. Box 174, Burton, Texas 77835

I can help

It is my goal to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead. Writing a letter to your future self is just one of the tools I use to help women get in touch with who they are and how they want to show up in the world.

Are you a little unsure of what you want to create in your life?

I’d love to chat with you about creating a future from the future with exciting growth.

I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious how a life coach can help build a bridge to the life you want. Click on the link below to view my calendar, then click a date and time that works for you. It really is as simple as that!

Here’s to a year of working towards who we know we can be! I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to meet her!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Discarded Places

Posted on January 11, 2021 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life coach and master of reinvention helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Discarded places

I have an affinity for discarded places. Abandoned homes offer scope for the imagination. I often wonder what story they could tell?

Jeff and I have restored numerous homes in the past thirty years. My favorite two homes started out as irredeemable projects. The first house sheltered numerous dogs no one knew existed until the family moved out. The second house we affectionally named the cat house. The former owner was a recluse who let cats overrun the home. Imagine how these two houses smelled when we purchased them. Our friends and family thought we had lost our minds, believing the homes were tearer downers instead of a fixer uppers.

Restoring homes often cost more and took more time than expected. We never worked from a plan, the creative process kept us going.

In hindsight, would we have took on these discarded places? Yes. The hard work and the cost was always worth it. Our first home won an award for the most improved property in 1998. The second home I mentioned was on the Champaign County Preservation Alliance 2007 Home & Garden Tour.

Discarded dreams

Discarded homes reminds me of abandoned dreams.

Do suffer grief from ignoring dreams that once whispered to your heart? What stories do your discarded dreams tell?

Are you ready to tell a different story? As Dr. Christiane Northrup explains in her book Goddesses Never Age, midlife women begin to “realize they’re no longer willing to put their dreams on hold and live according to what everyone around them wants.”

Restoration

I learned restoration is always possible with our irredeemable projects.

Trust your intuition. Your dream won’t scream for attention. It is often a knowing, a yearning. Pay attention to the yearnings and allow your creative juices to flow.

Can you allow your imagination to explore the possibilities? I recommend giving your dreams a voice by journaling them.

Don’t dwell

Jeff and I never dwell on the what ifs or the hows. Oh, the stories I could tell! Throwing caution to the wind has created a few doozy mistakes, but also allowed us to experience a few fairy book stories like how we landed in Burton, Texas in 2014.

Worry is a misuse of the imagination and kills dreams. If you find yourself dwelling on a dream instead of pursuing it, get curious. Could you be indulging in worry? Mathew 6:27 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

Hope brings restoration. If it is on your heart, move toward the dream. Don’t worry about the “how”. As Marie Forleo famously says, “Everything is figure-outable.”

Master of reinvention

My life is built on renovated places. I am the master of reinvention. I’ve had the heart ache of walking away from a dream when it came to it’s natural end, but rarely a heart ache from a dream not pursued.

It is my goal to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

If you have a whisper tugging at your heart, I can help!

Does your life resemble the abandoned home with scope for the imagination? Let’s restore your discarded dreams or create new ones. I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious how I can help. Check out my calendar link below to pick a date and time that works for you!

Here’s to renovating those discarded places! Let’s find out what is possible.

~Tiffany Eckhardt

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

How do you flush a shitty year with a broken crapper?

Posted on January 2, 2021 by tiffany

It’s hard to flush a shitty year with a broken crapper. True story! The year 2020 was not easy for the easily offended and neither is my first blog article of 2021.

This is probably TMI, but my New Years Eve ordeal is too ironic and funny not to share. As a result of Jeff and I switching to a primarily plant based diet, I broke the toilet on New Years Eve. It wouldn’t flush.

Bless my heart, I tried to fix the crapper before Jeff got home from work, but it was not budging. Just so you know, dish soap and baking soda only creates a sudsy mess.

So, before we could go to dinner at the fancy restaurant we had a reservation, Jeff had to to put on rubber gloves and fix the toilet.

How could we start the year hoarding toilet paper and end it with a broken crapper? I actually saw the humor in it. You just can’t make this shit up.

How do you flush a shitty year?

Make a list of highlights.

First of all, I don’t think the year 2020 was completely awful. I am willing to bet you can remember a few highlights. I journaled a few of mine and was pleasantly surprised to have quite a list.

Write a letter to your past self.

One thing I learned in 2020 was to have compassion for myself when I was in despair or lonely. I have learned to forgive myself when I know I messed up. On the flip side I am truly grateful to my past self for showing up for growth. I am proud of how I learned to manage my mind during the ups and downs.

Make a list of lessons you learned.

Tony Robbins often says life isn’t happening to you, but for you. You never really fail when you learn in the process. So, what did you learn in 2020?

What if your best years are ahead?

It is my mission to help more women, especially midlife women, believe their best years are ahead. One of my 2021 goals is to help 21 women a month create their best lives.

Now that 2020 is officially down the drain, put the past in perspective. Once you are able to reframe your past, you are able to create from the future.

It is so important to learn to live in the now and honor your future self. What can you do today that your future self will be proud of?

Will she quit or self sabotage?

Can you chose HER, the woman you know yourself to BE?

Deadline is January 5th to join Choose Her Community Goal Challenge

There is still time to join my community goal challenge for 2021. This is an 6 weeks online program that will set you up for a winning 2021 with exciting clear goals, new friends to keep you on track, an understanding what success means to you and who you have to become to achieve the possibilities.

Don’t ignore your potential. Invest in HER, the woman you know yourself to BE!

Follow the link below to get ALL the details.

Happy New Year Ageless Goddess!

Here’s to you, the kindred spirit who believe in big dreams, an unstoppable creative and lover of life, giver of hope. Let’s spend 2021 talking about free thinking ideals and pursue wellness of mind, body and spirit.

You’re the kind of woman who wouldn’t let a broken crapper get you down… no, you are indomitable.

I will remain dedicated to those who can’t be caged in 2021. If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

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Packed up another year!

Posted on December 27, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead. On the blog today she shares how she packed up Christmas and is ready for an exciting new year with a Choose Her Community Goal Challenge

Yep, my Christmas decorations are packed up for another year. I truly loved celebrating our favorite traditions and staying connected to my family and friends with our yearly Christmas cards. On Christmas Day we hopped on a Zoom call with my family before Christmas dinner. While it was definitely different, I managed to soak in all the magic of the season.

Packing up Christmas does not mean I’m a humbug!

I am known to pack up my Christmas decorations the day of. This year I left them up two extra days. I’m really not a humbug, I just get excited about a new year.

This is the second year I have set goals for the new year with a system I absolutely love. I am super clear on what I need to work on to become my future self, the woman I know I can become. I love choosing HER in 2021!

You can Choose Her too!

Join the Choose Her Community Goal Challenge beginning the first full week of January, 2021.

I am excited about facilitating a community of kindred spirits who want to make 2021 a year of intentional growth!

Set yourself up for a winning 2021 with exciting clear goals, new friends to keep you on track, an understanding what success means to you and who you have to become to achieve the possibilities.

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I hope you join me in making your future self so proud that you invested time and energy into her success!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Merry Christmas Y’all!

Posted on December 20, 2020 by tiffany

Jeff and I with our awesome grandkids Arthur & Eleanor

Merry Christmas Y’all!

I want to wish you a Merry Christmas Y’all! I hope you are enjoying every second of your traditions, or finding new ones. Either way, I hope you are creating all the magic of this season.

I want to take this opportunity to say…Y’all, I appreciate you! 2020 has been a crazy year. Thank you for sticking with me as I navigated a year of tremendous growth.

Join me in the excitement of a new year. Have you set yourself up for an awesome 2021? If you learned anything from me this year, I hope you are becoming future focused, creating your future from your future. Here’s a great podcast to check out on the subject: I’ve Never Done That Before episode #347.

I hope my journey has inspired you to believe your best years are ahead. One of my 2021 goals is to help 21 women get the results they never thought possible. If you have big dreams for 2021 or just want to get clear on life in this season, I’d love to chat. Take advantage of my free mini session by clicking the link below.

This year will be a magnificent year! But first, let me encourage to spend the week soaking in ALL the magic of the season. 🎄

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you love choosing her?

Posted on December 13, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife. She helps women believe their best years are ahead.

Do you love choosing her, the woman you know yourself to BE?

Last year I chose a mantra that served me well, “I love the woman I am becoming in 2020,” which turned out to be a year of tremendous growth. Each obstacle that tempted me to quit, I remembered my commitment to my future self, and continued on the journey. I can honestly say that I love who I am today because I fought hard to become her.

I want to see what happens if I don’t give up in 2021. So, I choose a mantra that will inspire me to keep going in the face of any obstacle.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife. She helps women believe her best years are ahead. — I love choosing her!

The inspiration to choose her

Janet, one of my favorite teachers at the Life Coach School, taught a workshop this month called: Turning Obstacles Into Results. This timely workshop focused on an important part of a goal setting process, identifying obstacles ahead of time.

The key to achieving your heart’s desire is to acknowledge that your feelings will wax and wane in the process. Identifying obstacles ahead of time gives you the chance to not only strategize, but understand what you will make that obstacle mean.

Will you make the obstacle mean you are a failure or your dream is impossible? Janet decided that overcoming an obstacle meant that she loved choosing her, the woman who is willing to do hard things to create the life she wants.

Janet inspired me to adopt the mantra “I love choosing her” for 2021. Every time I do something that stretches me, I will proclaim, “I love choosing her,” the woman I know myself to BE!

Keep choosing her

I have used various tools to effectively stay the course; vision boards, Pinterest boards for the word of the year, vision video, affirmations and mantras like my new one for 2021.

Developing a future focus has revolutionized goal setting for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love creating tools like the ones I listed. They just never moved the needle until I learned to create a future from my future.

I understood that 2020 would be a tremendous year of growth as I continually focused on my future self. Moving forward in 2021 I have a strong relationship with my future self and want her to be proud that I stayed the course. I understand that obstacles are not in my path, they are the path. I will choose her on a daily basis.

Setting goals

Will you choose her today, the woman you know yourself to BE? Set her up for success by setting goals.

Wouldn’t it be great if you had clear goals, understood what separated you from your goals and developed strategies that will help you stay the course? Yes! And wouldn’t it be nice if the process was actually fun?

I can help! I’d love to walk you through a goal setting process that I used to achieve my goals for 2020. During one of the most trying years in our history, I became a certified life coach, read fiction books for fun, lost weight, improved key relationships, opened an Airbnb and started a coaching business. One of my clients who went though the goal setting process landed a new job this year.

Schedule a FREE mini session to get all your questions answered. Simply click on the link provided and choose a date and time that works for you.

Don’t ignore your own potential… go for it!

Cheers to choosing HER!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you trust your intuition?

Posted on December 7, 2020 by tiffany

Do you trust your intuition?

Many of my clients are experiencing anxiety about the new year. It seems that something new is brewing, but fear of the unknown in an unpredictable world is paralyzing growth.

Intuition is defined as the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. It’s your knowing. It’s the little voice that you most likely ignore.

Even ancient scriptures encourage you to listen to the voice:

Isaiah 30:21

Wether you turn to your right or to your left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way, walk in it.”

Why don’t you listen to your intuition?

It’s a fair question worth being curious about.

Have you ever experienced a time when you knew what to do, but chose a familiar path to be safe, only to later wish you had listened to that nudge from inside?

Are you afraid of making a mistake or a wrong decision?

Does trusting your inner voice seem dangerous?

Are you afraid of being singled out or standing alone?

Become aware

You and I are conditioned to become the victim of outside influences. It is easier to blame people or circumstances for your inability to create the life you want. It is time to become aware of the familiar thoughts and feelings keeping you from embracing the unknown.

“You are continuously keeping your life the same because you are keeping your attention (thoughts) and your energy (feelings) the same.” Dr. Joe Dispenza

You can take steps away from being the victim of life by becoming aware of your thoughts and feelings.

Practice listening

How much room do you make in your life for the unpredictable, the unknown?

Have you had the urge to journal and meditate? Maybe this is the first bit of intuition you should listen to. These two practices are the best ways to become aware of the thoughts and feelings actually guiding your life.

Journal

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why. Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. Last month I shared my four favorite journal prompts to help you past any resistance. Choosing one of these prompts will help you discover what keeps you victimized to a thinking/feeling loop.

Meditate/Prayer

The best way to turn off the noise of the world is meditation. Slowing down to breath and listen is key.

Start with five minutes of breathing and quiet. Notice when your mind wanders and gently bring it back to the present moment. Don’t judge your inability to sit still. This is totally natural. Slowing down your mind is not only good for your creative juices, but aides in wellness. The more you allow yourself to be still, the easier it gets to rest.

There are so many resources for meditation practices. I use the Insight Timer app to explore different meditation techniques. YouTube offers numerous videos. Sometimes I listen to Pandora’s 528 Hz Miracle Radio for soft background music.

Explore your wisdom

It’s important to protect your ability to listen to your own wisdom. I urge you to turn off your tv. At least limit your exposure to the fear based programing.

It is possible that during these chaotic times you have become addicted to information, which keeps you paralyzed. I confess that at times I have been glued to the information highway, but can tell a huge difference in my life when I listen to my own wisdom.

I realized a shift the other day when I was journaling. I’ve noticed that in the past I looked for a something to deliver my dreams to me, to take care of me. At some point during 2020 I turned inward for the answers. I learned to take responsibility for my own thoughts and feelings. This can be lonely work, but totally freeing.

I believe God created you with an amazing mind. You and I only use a fraction of the mind’s power. God blessed you with unique gifts and talents as well.

Your voice, or intuition, is worth exploring. Can you trust your ability to hear your own voice, your answers within? What is possible in your life is within the unknown!

Unlock the unknown

If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you your best years are ahead.

Navigating these chaotic times is not easy. You may be experiencing anxiety about the new year. I can help!

You do not have to be a victim of your life. You can learn to trust your dreams and discover a new way of thinking, that will allow you to create your life. It is possible to not only embrace the unknown, but to welcome it with enthusiasm.

If you want to walk in creative freedom, schedule a free mini session today. Simply click on the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar.

Here’s to discovering the unknown in your life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!