If you are like me, you have way too much invested in your family and cherished relationships to walk away in defeat, but you also don’t want to waste another day feeling frustrated or unimportant.
You’re not sure how to restore what is broken, but something has to give!
Jeff and I found ourselves in a great divide in 2021, where something had to give. On the outside we were a cute couple, never really talking shit about each other to our friends and family. Unfortunately, there were two very important issues that had us in complete grid lock. We spent the majority of our time together fighting and very close to the dreaded D word, divorce.
Without going into details, I can tell you that I know what it is like to feel disposable, unheard, sad, lonely and in despair. Jeff felt unappreciated, blamed as the source of all issues and frustrated because he couldn’t fix them.
Could it really be over, or was there a chance we could find real solutions to our grid lock? Honestly, it didn’t look good for months.
Help in restoring
Not so much a turning point, but a last ditch effort. We agreed to hire a couple’s coach.
Thank God for Jill who spent 3 months helping us communicate, solving grid lock and giving us hope for the future. Most of all, we learned to listen to each other without defensiveness.
Another profound shift in me happened during this time. I began to restore my relationship with myself.
When you are upset about what is being said (or implied) about you in the heat of an argument, good chance you’ll fear it is true.
After 3 decades together, Jeff and I knew how to push each other’s buttons. He knew exactly what to say to shut me down. We learned to pause when we felt flooded from a heated conversation. For me, that gave me time to think about what I believed. Was what he was saying really true? Did I believe that about myself?
Once you establish what you believe about yourself, it really doesn’t matter what the opinions of others are. You take back your power.
If I could go back in time with what I know now, I would spend everyday reinforcing what I believe about myself and truly enjoying my own company.
Life giving or life sucking relationships?
Many of my clients are stuck in life sucking relationships, but are in fear of being rejected if they ask for what they really want. Or even worse, many women don’t even know what they want.
Jeff and I are proof that you can break the patterns that keep you in grid lock.
You are not alone. So, please break free from the isolation of shame and guilt.
You can truly understand your relationships and be understood.
It is possible to restore your cherished relationships from life sucking to life giving.
What I learned from spending months restoring my cherished relationship with Jeff was so profound that I want to share it with YOU!
Coming soon: Restore your cherished relationships in 90 days!
I will be launching this program in a few weeks. This 90 day program will be FULL VALUE and personalized to your unique relationship grid lock. Due to the nature of this personalized program, space will be limited to only ten women.
If you want first dibs on this upcoming program, simply email me that you are interested with the subject line: Restoring Relationships.
Here’s to vibrant relationships and enjoying life! Your best years are ahead!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!