Just say “F’ It”

Posted on October 4, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead. Learn how to turn an "F' It" moment into a moment of hope!

Are you willing to vulnerably admit that at times of frustration you just want to say “F’ it”? Yes, I admit that I use the F word on occasion.

For instance, I might say it prior to the third glass of wine, or finishing the cake after the kids went to bed. Does this happen to just me?

“She realized that vulnerability was easier to wear than vanity. So she stripped straight down to nothing. And set herself free.” ~ Cara Alwill Leyba

This week I spent time wondering why the “F’ it” moments happen.

My F’ It Moment

Recently, at a point when my dreams seem to be on the horizon but still so far out of reach, I had a major “F ’it” moment.

I had planned my eating protocol for the day. I knew I’d be meeting friends at my favorite winery, so I planned one glass of wine. (famously naive) At the winery, I had my planned glass of wine and then bought a bottle to take home. When I got home my plans got railroaded, as if I can blame it on the circumstances, and proceeded to drink the bottle too. The moment I opened the bottle I recall saying to myself, “Fuck it!” (not abbreviated)

The real reason I had a “F’ it” moment was not my evening circumstances. Frankly, the real reason I felt the need to “F’ it” was my unrealized dreams weighing heavy on my heart ALL DAY.

The next morning I awoke with the guilt of not honoring my planned protocol, and the familiar shame storm.

I wrote in my journal: I can’t seem to catch a mystic break. God, I’m trusting you. Please lead me to the gold-mine within.

Then I came across another poem…

Surrender

I want to breath in passion like air. I want to fill my lungs with the magic and lust and possibility only passion brings. And the feeling that is only available to you when you finally, fully, fiercely surrender. ~ Cara Alwill Leyba

Faith

The absence of evidence is NOT the evidence of its absence. Surrender to the mystery.

Surrendering is actually saying, “F’ it” in a completely different way. It is breathing in passion like air and saying to yourself, “this just might work!” What do you actually have to loose when you choose to believe notwithstanding the absence of evidence?

Faith is a powerful emotion that helps you believe your dreams are worth pursuing.

It just might work!

The first “F’ it” has no upside. It is just a familiar way to approach discouragement that leads to guilt and an inevitable shame storm. Creative solutions are impossible to discover when your energy is consumed by discouragement.

The second “F’ it” has HUGE upsides. The thought “what if it works” produces a feeling of hope and leads to massive action.

Here is what I’ve learned about hope this week:

Hope is not an accident.

You cultivated hope by allowing the mystery.

The mystery is a little voice that whispers maybe, when the whole world is shouting no.

This hope is an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.

Hope is the charged emotion that elevates your dreams.

Not forced, but ready to see crazy things happen!

What if you gave up entertaining the thoughts that cause fear and discouragement, the thoughts that lead to lack?

Have compassion on your discouraging thoughts, noticing them without guilt or shame, and then simply release them.

Surrender to the idea that it just might work, and to the mystery of uncommon creativity.

This is my life’s work.

Believing in possibilities and abundance is my super power. Even when I suffer discouragement, my will to break through will not allow me to wallow in it. I desire to cultivate a mindset that surrenders to fierce hope.

I am happy to share my journey with you in hopes that it inspires your journey. As your life coach I will help you to reclaim your life, full of dreams and visions for your best years ahead.

I’d love to work with you to develop a proper “F’ it” mindset.

If you regret a recent “F’ it” moment that produced a shame storm, I know I can help you flip it to a “it just might work” mindset. I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.

Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you! It just might work!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

REBOOT & RECLAIM

Posted on September 21, 2020 by tiffany

Reboot & Reclaim Your Life!

Every fall I develop a deep desire to end the year strong. Rebooting near the end of a year eases the stress of the holidays and sets up a new year for success. Rebooting also feels akin to reclaiming my life by refocusing on the dreams I refuse to give up on.

Can we all agree 2020 sucked socks? No matter how you look at it, this year has broken all norms.

This year’s REBOOT has taken on a deeper meaning for me, more than just an adjustment or refocus, but a reclamation.

Reboot

Rebooting is not just for computers, by definition a reboot is starting anew with fresh ideas in a new way.

Three years ago I joined a 90 day challenge to finish the year strong. I created new habits that had a lasting effect on my life. The challenge included getting up an hour earlier, drinking half my body weight in water, committing to move everyday, eat well, and a daily gratitude journal.

Reclaim

That year inspired me to incorporate a yearly reboot into my life. This year I realize that I have learned valuable lessons to successfully navigate life no matter what a chaotic world throws at me.

This year I am incorporating a three step strategy that will reframe 2020, connect with the present and intentionally create a future.

I’d like YOU to join my journey to REBOOT & RECLAIM.

Three steps to reboot

Reframe

Have you ever been told to pull up your big girl panties and get over it? Is that ever helpful?

Resisting your emotions in an attempt to “just get over it” only gives unwanted emotions more power to wreck havoc in your life. I work with clients to process all their emotions to reframe their past. Working through unwanted emotions empowers clients to truly live in the present and create an amazing future.

“We are all rough drafts of the people we’re becoming.” ~ Bob Goff

Reconnect

The second step is to reconnect with life in the present by becoming aware of creative energy.

Have you ever driven home from work and wondered how the heck you got home? Similarly, have you ever reached a certain age and wondered where did all the time go? How is it possible that I have a daughter about to turn thirty years old?

When you are living life on autopilot you miss the mysteries of life. I believe we are more than our bodies, or society’s programming. We are energy, soul, mind and spirit. In a moment of awareness, you notice whispers of creativity longing to be acknowledged.

Render

I believe your best years are ahead! You have the power to create your future, to render your masterpiece.

The key to create your future is to get in touch with your future self. This requires imagination. What does she look like? How does she spend her time? Who is she surrounding herself with?

This is my favorite step of the Three Steps to Reboot. Once you reframe your past (or a crazy year), connect with your present, you are free to reclaim the life you wish to create.

Join me

If you hang out with me for too long, I’ll convince you that your best years are ahead.

I am offering a three month coaching package to help you REBOOT & RECLAIM your life. I want to help you end 2020 strong and create your successful future no matter what a chaotic world throws at you.

As a REBOOTER, you will meet weekly with me to reframe, reconnect and render your life. We will map out your journey to rebooting and reclaiming your life for 2021.

BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE!

As an added bonus, In December I will choose one REBOOTER to win a two night stay at our guest house The Roost. The winner will receive a personalized retreat to celebrate all the work accomplished during REBOOT & RECLAIM. A $1000 value!

But there’s more…

I will choose two REBOOTERS to receive a FREE 6 week session for 2021 ($600 value).

Your Reboot & Reclaim Package

Click the link below to claim your Reboot & Reclaim coaching package. By picking a date and time that works for you on my calendar, you will be purchasing the three month package. That date and time will set you up for your weekly call and enter you in the December drawings.

Self-aware is the first step to Self-care. You owe it to yourself to become everything you were meant to be. I invite you to make an investment in your mind, your health and your future.

Here’s to a strong end of 2020 and an incredible 2021!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Living Vicariously

Posted on September 14, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women live vicariously through their future self

By definition, living vicariously is imagining life through other people’s experiences. You may have lived vicariously through your children, pictures of a friend’s vacation, or someone you admire.

When I went on picking trips for my antique store I frequently had women tell me they were living vicariously through me. While I was honored they followed my adventures, I always hoped to inspire them to fly free on their own journeys.

I recently lived vicariously through my friend Michele, who treated herself to a resort vacation at Miraval Resort in Austin, Texas. I was envious of the royal treatment she received at this luxuriously tranquil retreat. Michele cast a dream for me that I didn’t realize my soul was longing for.

Let me cast a dream for you

What if the next fifty years were totally directed by you?

Well, it is NOT impossible if you step away from life on autopilot and the expectations of others.

It starts with a little imagination. Think of your life as the ultimate Pinterest board. What interesting things do you want to learn? Where would you live and travel to? Who would you surround yourself with? Who do you want to be?

Can you picture it yet?

Where focus goes, energy flows.

Most people focus their energy on the past. They make decisions and predict their future based on what has happened (or did not happen) in the past. The energy it takes to rehearse the past is very low and familiar.

“How much creative energy is tied up in guilt, hatred, resentment, lack or fear? The truth is that you could be using all that energy to re-create a new destiny,” Dr. Joe Dispenza.

I teach my clients to process their past, but become future focused.

Your Future self will be proud

What if you lived vicariously through your future self?

You don’t have to look enviously to others. Create a vision for yourself in your imagination.

What will she appreciate that you dreamed up for her?

First create your ultimate Pinterest life, then consider how the experience will feel; empowered, fortunate, free, blissful, authentic, carefree, calm, easy, expansive, mindful…

The more energy you can attach to your future self, the more intimate you become with your future.

Is your view of reality limited?

The mind is a powerful thing.

As you fill your mind with thoughts and add energy to the ideas, you actually experience the vision as if it were in real time. The mind simply doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy.

Have you ever experienced a physical reaction to a thought? For instance, when I think about meals I had in Italy, my mouth starts watering.

Living Vicariously through your future self.

What happens when you unlock creativity by rehearsing the future you want in your mind? The skills you need to thrive in the future will become important to develop. Your future self’s opinion of your current choices suddenly matter. Unexpected opportunities present themselves in a new awareness.

Do you need a guide?

Have you caught yourself living vicariously through someone lately? What is stopping you from living your dream life?

I work with midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead. Learning to live with your future self in mind is a big part of creating that life you’ve always wanted.

I’d love to help you activate your imagination and manage your mind to direct your next fifty years!

Still unsure if life coaching is for you? I offer a FREE mini session to chat about how I specifically can help you. Click the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar that works for you.

Here’s to living the best years!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Uncommon Energy Source

Posted on July 5, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead.

The park memorial stated, “A man of uncommon energy.”

That park memorial sparked my own epitaph, or at least what I want to be known for. Tiffany Eckhardt, a cockeye optimist who’s death found her living with uncommon energy.

What is uncommon energy?

The memorial also sparked my curiosity. What is uncommon energy?

Uncommon energy is actually a feeling. Much like any other energy-producing feeling, such as motivated, fascinated, inspired, vigorous, dynamic, energetic, etc.

Uncommon energy propels you to take massive action, embrace life with enthusiasm, contribute to your family and community with passion, and do what it takes to realize your dreams.

Uncommon energy creates singular people who are willing to work against the grain.

I know what your thinking, “sign me up!” Just kidding.

You may not aspire to uncommon energy, but have ever considered the idea that your feelings propel you or keep you stuck?

Generate feelings

There are two types of feelings; feelings that are energy-creating or feelings that are energy-depleting.

As a certified life coach, I teach thoughts generate feelings.

Here is an example from my own life….

I was recently coached on thoughts that will help me build my business. I often indulge in distractions; like surfing social media, projects around my house, etc. My coach helped me identify the thought that was actually causing my procrastination.

My opposing thoughts:

“I’m not doing enough”
“I’m willing to do what ever it takes.”

Can you feel the difference between those two thoughts?

Thinking that I was not doing enough was defeating and depleted my energy. The other thought creates a feeling of determination and fuels massive action.

What thoughts would you need to think to generate energy-creating feelings?

Try on some of these thoughts….

I am capable
I am in the best shape of my life
Doing what I love energizes me
I am making a tremendous contribution

How do you access feelings to create a life?

Take a moment to think about what you truly want to achieve in life.

How do you believe you will feel when you achieve it? The truth is you can actually feel that way right now. What thoughts would support your desire?

If this concept blows your mind, you are not alone.

It took me a while to wrap my head around the power of my thoughts. When I made the decision to be known as a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy, I knew that managing my mind is key to creating that outcome. Death will find my living!

This is my life’s work. I love helping women discover thoughts that are creating the life they have, and develop thoughts that will better serve them. It sounds simple enough, but what I’ve learned is that most people have no idea why they are feeling stuck, frustrated, or unhappy. They just need a little push to generate energy-creating thoughts.

If this is you, schedule a FREE mini session with me, someone who truly believes your best years are ahead. Click on the link below and choose a date on my calendar. It really is that simple.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Flip The Script

Posted on June 21, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead. Today she is chatting about Flipping the Script. — Embracing my grey hair! What parts of midlife are you embracing????

Your Script

Do you feel that you were handed a script to live by when you were young, but at midlife feel ready to birth something new? As the master of reinvention, let me offer you ideas to get your creative juices flowing and allow you to flip that script.

Here’s a fun exercise to stir those creative juices. If your life played out on the big screen, what would the title of your movie be?

Sex In The City

The Housewife of {your town}

Real Women Have Curves

Last Woman Standing

Unfortunately, the titles I typically hear sound like these instead…

Do I Deserve It?

Why do I Always Attract The Wrong Partner

They Just Don’t Like Me

I’m Too Old For This

All too often, women can not identify what they truly want. Has society conditioned women to assume what they should want? If you do know what you want, do you tend to believe you don’t deserve it?

Dear friend, please know you were born worthy. You deserve the desires of your heart, have purpose and are capable of far more than you can possibly imagine.

In fact, you are not doing anyone favors by staying stuck. You just need to flip the script.

How do you flip the script?

Ditch the old worn out story

The past does not equal your future, unless you live there.

Look, I am a self professed master of reinvention, with a stack of business cards to prove it. I could choose the title of failure, allowing the failures to prevent me from pursuing something new, or create a different future.

I prefer to be future focused. My future self will be so proud of the work I am doing today to flip the script.

Recognize your story

The daily “trinity thoughts” are useful prompts for journaling. I learned this exercise from Dr. Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age.

“This exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of just getting through your To Do list.” ~ Dr. Northrup.

1. Something to brag about – wow! I had a hard time with this one at first. What are you really proud of? Can you imagine how good you will feel celebrating daily successes?

2. Something to appreciate – gratitude is a an attitude everyone could agree on. Look for something you appreciate about your life, your body and/or your tribe on a daily basis.

3. Something you desire – OK this is a muscle that needs to be flexed! I have gotten very clear on what I want in life by answering this daily. It might be easier to answer what you don’t want, but can you name one thing you desire right now?

Know the what and why, ditch the how

A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul. Proverbs 13:19

I long for the day Jeff can retire from his full-time job. {Some say be careful of what you wish for LOL} We both want to stay active with outdoors sports and activities. We will pursue projects that will support our retirement goals. I desire to spend more time with family and friends who live across the United States. So, travel is an important component. Although I am crystal clear on the what and why, I don’t stress over the “HOW”.

“When you know your WHY, you can endure any HOW.” ~ Viktor Frankl

A longing fulfilled is sweet for the soul.

Your heart is engaged by the WHY.

Dr. Martin Luther King had a “I have a dream” speech, not a “I have a plan” speech.

Tap into your imagination. Ask yourself, “wouldn’t it be amazing if…”

What comes up for you when you allow your heart to dream?

Can you get creative with a title for this dream?

Do you know WHY you chose that title?

Please, just don’t let the HOW choke out your dream.

Do you need a guide?

I have come to realize that I no longer fear death. I fear a life not fully lived, a purpose not fulfilled.

Do you feel stuck in an old script and fear you may not be fully living?

I’d love to help you flip the script. As a certified life coach I am trained in helping you identify the old worn out story that is holding you back.

Schedule a FREE mini session with someone who truly believes YOUR best years are ahead.

We can discuss where you are and where you would like to be, and then identify strategies for overcoming the obstacles.

Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar. It really is that simple!

Cheers,

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Questions are the answers

Posted on June 1, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach with Flown The Coop. Let her help you create a life YOU are excited to get out of bed for.

What if curious people understood questions are the answer?

Do you long to wake up excited to get out of bed and be the person you know you can be, but just not sure how to get connected with that life? What if questions are the answers and curiosity is the key?

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?

Successful people know questions are the answer

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.

Jeff Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what her son enjoyed. She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” Walt Disney

Questions are the answers

Curious folks just learned to ask good questions.

Are you known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow?

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,” Jeff Bezos.

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?

How curious are you? Don’t let yourself off the hook. This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.

Here are a few questions to spark your curiosity….

Are you doing what you truly want to do?

How many promises have you kept to yourself?

If you could clone yourself, which of your characteristics you wouldn’t want to be cloned?

Who do you admire and why?

Is there anyone who inspired your life today?

What are you most proud of?

If happiness was a currency, how rich would you be?

If today was the end of the world, what would you do?

I hope you came up with some of your own questions!

Does creating a life resonate with you?

I’d love to offer a FREE mini coaching session. The mini session is simply a chat with someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.

Click on the link below and pick a date on my calendar. It is really that simple.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her wiring “YES” in the sky.

You are not broken

Posted on May 17, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach for midlife wellness... permission to soar! — Permission to soar

Have you ever wondered if something in your life is not right or perhaps you’re broken… yet you are not willing to give up on your dreams?

You are not broken, you just need permission to break free from your cage and soar.

Milestone birthdays

Milestone birthdays are generally catalyst for serious life evaluation. Leading up to my milestone birthday, I decided that this next phase of life would be epic. I’ve reached the age that I officially don’t care what others think of my choices.

I don’t know about you… but I’d like to see more midlife women defy the rules of what this season is supposed to look like.

Do you believe your soul is ageless?

Think about it.

According to Dr. Northrup, “You can change your future starting today by adopting a new, ageless attitude that will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.”

Agelessness is about chunking society’s ideals of what women of a certain age should focus on, look like, dress, be, do, have, etc. Lord knows you’ve tried to fit in society’s boxes your whole life. Their boxes have left you feeling broken or not able to measure up.

Forget that! Give yourself permission to break free from that cage and soar.

I say it’s time to unstuck your brain

After you’ve given yourself permission to soar into a vision you create for midlife, you’ll need to unstuck your brain from the old, worn-out story you once believed. You need to replace it with a well-crafted story that serves you and your dreams.

Address negative emotions

The worst thing you can do for yourself is hold onto destructive emotions.

“Negative” emotions are indicators of unmet needs that need to be processed for healing. Think of emotions as your guidance system, pointing to the areas in your life that need to be addressed.

Emotions like sadness, despair, and unworthiness have an adverse effect on your wellness and keep you stuck in a life that you don’t want.

It is helpful to process these emotions and not ignore them. That is where I can help… as a certified life coach I can help you identify what is causing the “negative” emotions so you can release them.

Curious about coaching? Check out my article: 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

Focus on “causes of health”

Wellness is my jam. {Yep, I just said jam.} I love studying “causes of health.” It makes more sense to me than always reacting to disease.

It is society, the medical establishment, big Pharma, etc who support a belief that disease and infirmity are inevitable.

My personal plan is to be “ninety three and prescription free” as Gladys McGarey, M.D. proclaims.

You have a choice to focus on wellness. There are plenty of actions you can take to promote wellness; like eat whole fresh foods, get outside, move your body, feed your mind, get good sleep, remove the toxins from your home, etc.

I’d like to offer that Self-Aware is the first step in Self-Care. The best place to start a wellness journey is your thoughts about it. What do you actually believe is possible? Why is it important to you?

For me, I want to soar into midlife and eventually retirement with the energy of a twenty-something. I want my obituary to read, “Tiffany Eckhardt was a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.”

Do you need to unstuck your brain concerning midlife wellness?

Surround yourself with positive influences

“The tribe I hang with vibrates in another reality entirely.” Gladys McGarey, M.D.

It helps to surround yourself with people that are crazy enough to believe that YOU can create a life. In fact, your friends can be your biggest cheerleaders for midlife wellness.

Positive influences can also be found outside your circle of friends by following podcasts, reading books, subscribing to YouTube channels, etc. Who are your go-to influencers who encourage you to live fully?

Unstuck your brain and give yourself permission to soar.

If you find yourself stuck and you want to start living the life you know is possible, I’d love to help. I offer a free mini session for those who are curious about what a life coach can offer.

I am a master at reinvention and have an abundant belief in possibilities. But what totally makes a difference is the tools I’ve learned to utilize.

If you are curious, schedule your free mini session today by clicking the link below and choosing a date on the calendar. It really is that simple.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Do you have swagger?

Posted on May 11, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women create swagger

You may be good at beating yourself up for eating the third piece of pizza or forgetting an important zoom call, but hardly ever give yourself credit for the twenty years you spent raising competent children who are now making their way in the world. So, learning to possess swagger will take some practice.

Fail Friday

I brought up bragging during my Fail Friday on May 7th. I shared a three-step daily practice that includes bragging, gratitude and desire. Focusing on the “trinity” thoughts daily will drastically improve your midlife wellness awakening.

First of all, I believe failure has an important place in your growth. My weekly Facebook Live called Fail Friday is designed to highlight failure and give examples of people who use their failure as stepping stones to success.

Sara Blakely is a great example of the importance of acknowledging failure. Her Dad set her up to embrace failure by insisting on a nightly tradition of sharing failures at the dinner table.

When it comes to failure, I definitely have swagger. Unfortunately, it is rare that I’ll boast about a success. Why is that?

Focus

What ever your mind focuses on you will attract in your life. It is easier to focus on problems to be solved than to celebrate a success. So how do we switch our focus to swagger?

To redirect focus, stop yourself with the statement, “NOW I know what I don’t want.” Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”

For example, you notice that you really don’t like feeling out of control when you’ve had the third glass of wine. The next morning you get up not feeling yourself and start beating yourself up for that third glass. Stop beating yourself up and proclaim, “NOW I know what I don’t want.” Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”

The Swagger Practice

You may have more of what you don’t want stored in your subconscious. You simply need to deposit more swagger into the story you rehearse in your mind.

Dr. Northrup shares in her book Goddesses Never Age a daily practice of bragging, gratitude and desire “I think it is fantastic for bringing perspective to your daily experiences and remembering how challenges set you up to more deeply appreciate blessings. Doing this exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of getting through a To Do list.’

So SWAGGER!

Think of something to brag about. It doesn’t have to be earth shattering, just a thought you can be proud of. You don’t have to share it publicly, but definitely record it in a journal to look back on.
Identify something you can be grateful for. This is different from a brag. What blessing in your life fills your heart with joy?
What do you desire? This should be out of reach. If money or time were not an object, what would you want?

I LOVE the idea off doing this daily activity with your wingwomen. It will uplift your tribe and encourage swagger.

Swagger takes practice

You can attain a life your proud of and enjoy getting out of bed for. If the idea of creating daily swagger is resonating with you, I’d love to help. I can help you sort through the thoughts that are keeping you stuck.

I help midlife women figure out where they are and where they want to be.

I am offering a FREE mini session for you to test drive a coaching session. It’s a pain free way to see if coaching is for you!

Click the link below and choose a date on the calendar! It is that easy.

~Tiffany

And the bird fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

A Wellness Awakening

Posted on April 18, 2020 by tiffany

My Wellness Awakening

I experienced a Wellness Awakening in January 2017, after a horrible hysterectomy that haunts me to this day. It was a wake up call. I began researching how to create my own wellness practices.

For three years I explored natural remedies, the power of the mind, and learning how to move my body to stay well. I don’t live in fear of illness because I am proactive with wellness!

Grateful for my personal wellness journey, I went from a total lack of hope in 2017 to empowered freedom that has served me well during the 2020 lockdown.

Have you experienced an awakening during lockdown?

Have you taken inventory on what you hold as essential during this time of isolation? What is on your list? Here are a few of mine….

Hugging loved ones is at the top of my list! Funny, because I’ve never been a touchy-feely type person, at least not in public.

Freedom to go about a “normal” life! Movies, restaurants, coffee shops, trips to the beach, having a party, going to hear live music, etc.

Spreading the truth about wellness! It is essential that I share the freedom of a managed mind, eating well and a body in motion with everyone.

We only control a few things….

The truth is we control very few circumstances. Lockdown has driven this truth home to me.

A friend of mine shared an article with me that rocked my lockdown world. Patience during a pandemic: What we can learn from a POW and a Roman slave-turned-philosopher

This article reminded me that the human spirit has the power to overcome the darkest, worst side of humanity. And that people really do have the ability to write their own story, even when freedom is stripped.

A tug of war between what is inside and outside of control

In the article, Sara Israelsen-Hartley describes The Stockdale Paradox. James Stockdale, a Vietnam vet, survived 7.5 years as a prisoner in Hanoi Hilton. “Stockdale’s approach was to come up with a way of actually functioning in the circumstances in which he found himself so he could deal with that day in, day out, for as long as it went on.” Israelsen-Hartley goes on to explain how Stockdale survived using the Stoic philosophy of compartmentalizing what can be controlled and what can not be controlled.

“In the 30 seconds before he landed and was pounced on by more than a dozen waiting Vietnamese soldiers, Stockdale accepted that soon nearly everything would be outside of his control — even his own body.
But his opinions, judgments and attitude, his grief and joy? Those feelings and emotions were entirely within his control.”

There is hope in an Awakening

So, what can you control? Your mind. Your wellness.

I want you to be empowered by this! Your mind is in your control, therefore wellness is within your control. Simply put, you can be proactive instead of reactive.

While freedoms have been surgically removed by a mysterious virus, people all over the globe are awakening to the importance of health and wellbeing.

“Your thoughts and beliefs are the single most important indicator of your state of health.” Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D. (From her book Goddesses Never Age)

It is science! “Studies by researchers such as Richard Davidson of the University of Wisconsin show that mindfulness practices rewire the brain, resulting in greater immunity and improved ability to manage stress and emotions.” Dr. Chistiane Northrup, M.D. (Goddess Never Age)

Has the COVID-19 been a wake up call for you?

Self-aware is the first step in self-care. Let self awareness empower you to create an audacious wellness practice!

Instead of waiting for a health crisis, why not live a lifestyle that prevents it in the first place? Awaken to the idea that you can control your state of wellbeing. You have choices. You can decide to be well.

Maybe you have never took time to think about your wellbeing. Time is definitely a commodity that is abundant during lockdown. Lockdown is giving you time to awaken to the idea of audacious wellness!

Now is the perfect time to create daily wellness practices and strategies to get through the pandemic for however long as it lasts. A life of Awakened Wellness can be yours!

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Here’s to the Wellness Awakening!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Will you shut down during lockdown?

Posted on April 13, 2020 by tiffany

ALWAYS BEEN A BIT OF A DREAMER! This was taken before my hair went grey 🙂

Last week I notice a shift from a feisty “get’er done” attitude about the COVID-19 lockdown, to a lethargic F’It attitude.

We are so close to the end, let’s finish strong!

With a little effort, it is possible to live well during quarantine. We were born to create and are naturally innovative, not vegetative.

Be YOUR hero of YOUR health!

Self-aware is the first step to self-care

First, I would like to offer a huge dose of grace. Don’t shut down your emotions. A good cry is therapeutic. Feelings are an indication of your thoughts, which are totally in your control once you understand how to manage your mind.

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama. I had a complete melt down when I had to cancel my 50th backyard birthday bash. I have a good cry every time I think that I could have seen my new grandson, who would have been at my party. Thankfully, my life coach helped me reframe my thoughts to remember that I can still be connected to them even if it’s not in person.

A good laugh is medicine too. That one takes a little effort, but so worth it. I found Leslie Jordan on Instagram www.instagram.com/thelesliejordan (You’re welcome)

Our mental health is under siege.

I totally understand getting lost in the last season of Shits Creek or scrolling through social media to get your mind off the lock down. Just don’t completely shut down your gorgeous mind, shut off the tv and social media!

This is actually an awesome opportunity to learn something new, create something amazing, or discover something about yourself. Y’all can’t say you don’t have time! You simply need to manage your mind!

Innovate. Create. Be amazing!

Your future self will thank you!

Don’t shut down your imagination!

Look into your future. How do you see yourself in a year?

In retrospect, how does your future self feel about lock down? Will she be glad you watched the Tiger drama, or proud of the victory garden you planted? Is she ready for her first 5k run, or worried about loosing the Corona 15 she gained (weight gained during the lock down)?

I don’t know what is important to you, but you won’t achieve it by shutting down your imagination.

You don’t have to spend all your time productive to be proactive. Just pick one goal you would like to accomplish in April. Is your future self worth it?

Human needs

It is safe to say that COVID-19 has sabotaged our six basic human needs, unless you hold uncertainty as a priority. The six basic human needs are certainty, uncertainty, love/connection, significance, growth and contribution. Meeting the need for love and connection, certainty or significance may seem hard during lockdown, but growth and contribution are totally within your control.

Seriously, don’t let the lockdown shut down your basic human need for growth and contribution! Finish the lockdown strong!

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As always, I am rooting for you! Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!