Four things I ditched for an epic MIDLIFE PIVOT!
A midlife pivot is another way of expressing a need to reboot & reclaim your life. Midlife women experience this urge to pivot as they face an empty nest, COVID downsize, a recent divorce or the anticipation of retirement. Can you relate?
“There is nothing more powerful or radical or stunningly, radiantly beautiful than a woman who chooses to rebuild her life. Day after day, hour after hour, no matter how many mistakes she must now spin into gold.” ~ Cara Alwill Leyba
I’m in the throws of a radical reboot, and love sharing my journey in the hopes that it will inspire more midlife women to choose to reboot, reclaim and rebuild. In this article I will share four things I recently ditched to lighten my load for the long haul.
1. Fear Porn
A common obstacle for midlife women is fear or worry, even when the scenario rarely turns out as bad as imagined. Fear is a misuse of our imagination, usually based on past experiences.
Why would you obsess about potential bad? Could you be addicted to a state of being that drives worry? Do you honestly believe the emotion of fear or worry has the power to manipulate outcomes?
Protect your energy by projecting what you actually want in the future. When you feel the emotion of fear or worry, declare to yourself, “I now know what I don’t want. What I want is…” Your life will pivot when you reframe worry and even eliminate fear.
I made the decision to eliminate fear porn in March as the world shut down for COVID. I just knew that a constant barrage of news would not support wellness. I allowed myself to stay informed, but balanced it with equal amounts of information that encouraged my personal growth. As a result, I believe I made better use of the past six months, stayed in great health and helped my clients in the process.
2. Smack Talk
Who is your worst enemy? I hope you answered you.
The chatter continually “talking smack” about you is inside your head. Wonder how many of the 60,000 thoughts you think on a daily basis are kind thoughts about yourself? If 90% of your daily thoughts are the same as the day before, it is safe to say that you beat yourself up worse than your worst enemy.
I recently came to terms with the smack talk in my head and moved forward with two actions.
First, I forgave my past self. I literally journaled an apology to my past self and released her from all guilt and shame concerning parts of my personality I did not appreciate.
Second, I decided to learn the lesson that was being offered. A pastor once told me a long that lessons not learned will repeat themselves until they are finally learned. There is so much wisdom in this! Instead of beating myself up for a failure, mistake or habit, I seek the lesson. I thank the lesson and love the opportunity for growth, and then release it.
Your life will pivot when you manage the smack talk. This will give you so much compassion for your past self. I encourage you to spend time thanking her for both the good and bad decisions.
3. Approval of others
What other people think about you is none of your business.
What if you could reduce the amount of energy you spent on the approval of others by developing a relationship with your past, present and future self? My REBOOT & RECLAIM coaching package uses a three step process that allows you to truly love who you are. You learn that you are worthy and lovable, because you decide to believe it.
Look, I spent my whole life looking for the approval of others. Oh the mind games we play! I was left thinking life was a popularity contest I could never win.
Even though it has taken me fifty years, I am grateful that I have learned to honor my past decisions, live in the present and create a future. I love the woman I am becoming.
Your life will pivot when you believe your best years are ahead and decide the approval of others is unnecessary.
4. The How
“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” ~Albert Einstein
I know you like to have all your ducks in a row before you pursue your dream. What if knowing how to get from A to B limits your ability to achieve your dream?
The blessings in life unfold as a mystery when you focus your energy on visualization. What does the dream look like and how will you feel when you achieve it. Experts agree that when you add charged emotions to your desires, you open yourself up to uncommon creativity. The easiest way to create the future you want is to become the kind of person who creates the result.
Your life will pivot when you focus on who you need to become to create the life you want. The how takes care of itself and makes you unstoppable.
Do you have a desire to pivot? What in your life are you willing to ditch?
As your life coach, I can help you reboot & reclaim your life. Instead of focusing on things that no longer serve you, you can create the future you’ve always wanted. If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead.
If the idea of living in your full potential excites you, join my REBOOT & RECLAIM.
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Here’s to an epic midlife pivot!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!