Creating My Future in 2020

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Creating my future in 2020 was made possible by an investment in personal growth in 2019.

2020 was the year I tenaciously launched a coaching business during one of the most difficult years in America’s history.  From the beginning I saw the lockdowns and the “Corona Coaster” as a blessing, allowing me time to create my future.  

What led up to 2020 was also a blessing in disguise.

When I closed my antique store Flown The Coop in November 2018, I sold everything, including all the fixtures, not knowing what the future held.  I watched little pieces of my dream go to help build the big dreams of new shop owners.  The whole process was bitter sweet.  

It was pure determination to correct my course in 2019 that influenced me to attend two Tony Robbins events and enroll in the Life Coach School to become a certified life coach. Those brave steps forward healed my broken heart and allowed me to build something new.  

As I look back, 2020 created a solid foundation for my new career as a life coach.  I wrote 44 blog articles, coached several women through the storms of midlife and solidified my commitment to my future self.

Year in review

This week I will share some of my favorite blog articles from 2020.  It was hard, but I narrowed it down to a blog article each day, with a bonus blog I think you need for 2021.  I don’t normally toot my own horn, but I can’t help but be proud of myself as I look over a year of consistently creating content.  I truly hope that I have inspired you this year and helped you believe your best years are ahead.  

Monday – A Future Created From The Future

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of midlife reinvention helps women reinvent midlife

It may appear to be pointing out the obvious, but the future is in the future and not the past.  

Life is just getting started for me.  I’m currently writing the next chapter of my story with a future focus.  

This past weekend my Grandma Maggie would have celebrated her 100th birthday.  She missed the milestone by only 2 years.  I turn 50 years young this March.  By her standard, I have another 50 to live!  {BTW: I turned 50 in March of 2020… that’s a whole other story}

You are either creating from your past or your future…

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Tuesday – Busting Midlife Myths

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Could it be possible that you have accepted common midlife myths as reality? 

It occurred to me the other day that there are some common midlife myths accepted as truth.  What if they were simply not true? 

A few myths worth busting…

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Wednesday – Get To Know Her

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping midlife women reinvent midlife

Do you ever wonder what your future self will look like and feel uncertain what she even wants, but on the other hand… you desperately want to believe the best years are ahead?

In this article I offer four ways to get to know your future self.

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Thursday – What If Your Dream Was Measured In Miles?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

What if your dreams are measured in miles?  At what mile marker do you let the dream die?

I explain the determination of a weed and the grace you need for your dreams, then offer three ways to navigate the extra miles.

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Friday – Reject Ageism

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Have you heard the term ageism?  You may not have experienced anything akin to discrimination, but you might have used it against yourself by buying into stereotypes.  Have you ever limited yourself because of your age?  It is a sneaky thing we do to ourselves when celebrating certain birthdays.  

I prefer ageless.  “To be ageless is to defy the rules of what it supposedly means to be this age or that,”  Dr. Christiane Northrup.  

I offer three ways to reject ageism.  

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Saturday – Four Things I Ditched For An Epic Midlife Pivot

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

A midlife pivot is another way of expressing a need to reboot & reclaim your life.  Midlife women experience this urge to pivot as they face an empty nest, a COVID downsize, a recent divorce or the anticipation of retirement.  Can you relate?

“There is nothing more powerful or radical or stunningly, radiantly beautiful than a woman who chooses to rebuild her life.  Day after day, hour after hour, no matter how many mistakes she must now spin into gold.”  ~ Cara Alwill Leyba

In this article I offer four things you should ditch for an epic midlife pivot.

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Sunday – Unabashedly Love Your Life

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Do you love your life?  I mean unabashedly love life?

Do you want to?

I am a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.  This is NOT my natural state, but one I am cultivating.  I choose to BE.

In this article I share a project that had an impact on falling in love with my life.  I knew this creative project would be easy for me.  I journal everyday and am crystal clear on my dreams.  What I didn’t realize was how my heart would be affected.  

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The Bonus

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Next to my vision video, journaling has had the most impact on my growth from 2018 – 2020.  I think it is so important for your journey too.  I could not do a year in review without including my recent article, Four Journal Prompts That Will Propel You Past Your Resistance.  

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why.  Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. My four favorite journal prompts can help you past any resistance.

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Make 2021 Your Year of Epic Growth

In nearly ever blog I wrote in 2020 I offered a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching. Through coaching sessions, I will encourage you to invest in your personal growth and awaken your dreams by creating an epic midlife reinvention.  

If you hang around me long enough I will convince you that your best years are ahead.  

I hope you don’t wait until 2021 is upon you, schedule a free mini session today by clicking the link below.  Simply pick a date and time on my calendar that works for you.  It really is that simple to get started on your dreams.  

Here’s to 2021 and continued growth!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Is it ever Too Late To Ignite Your Flame?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach reawakening dreams of women in their second half.  Let her help you ignite your flame.

Is it ever too late to ignite your flame?  

It is not too late to ignite the flame of my dreams. My flame ignited this week when I was coached by Janet, a 70 year young certified life coach at The Life Coach School.  It was a real fan girl moment for me, and a sign from the universe that I was on the right path.

Back in June, I had the opportunity to hear Janet teach on becoming future focused.  She encouraged her students to fill in the question, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if…?”  

She used herself as an example.  Always wanting to be a lead singer in a band, Janet started asking herself, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if I were a lead singer in a band?”  Janet casually mention her vision to a guy who was in a local band.  A week after their chat he called and asked if she would be interested in leading a song.  Their band had a song that needed a female voice.  She said, “YES.  And YES!”  At 70 years young, Janet was a lead singer in a band!  

BTW:  Janet also wrote her first book at 65.  What an inspiration!  It is never too late to light your flame.  

When it is not easy  

During the coaching session, Janet posed really good questions that revealed a belief that had blocked my progress.  

I expected my goals to be easy.  After YEARS of struggling, I wanted this one thing to be easy. 

Why do I want it to be easy?  Maybe I think I’ve earned easy or easy would mean that I finally got my shit together.  Most likely it is a fear of an unknown future based on my long history of unmet expectations.  It is difficult to create anything new from defeat. I needed to ignite my passion for the unknown.

Living with the flames of passion

There is no playbook or manual for midlife.  You get to decide what is possible and worthy of your energy.   

It is perfectly normal to look to the past for all the reasons things won’t work.  The mind is really great at protecting you from the flame.  

After serious thought work, I decided that I’d rather be living with a flame of passion and embrace the unknown.  It’s ok if my goals aren’t handed to me, as if age has earned me an easy ticket.   

I can handle obstacles with ease instead of expecting everything to be easy.

Ignite midlife

Midlife is not the time to dim your flame, but ignite a vibrant life full of possibility and adventure.

Envision dancing around a fire at night on a beach with a tribe of midlife souls refusing to be snuffed out by age or any fear of the future.  No matter what ignites this flame, you will intuitively know that you can handle all uncomfortable growth with ease.  You are surrounded by women who know their strength and are flaming a midlife reinvention.  

Reclaim your passion for life by training your brain to ask, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if….?”  

Allow your mind to focus on the possibilities.  Wouldn’t it be amazing if it were easy?  Wouldn’t it be amazing if I handled obstacles with ease?  Either are possible.

As you reinvent midlife, look to the women who have gone before you and are currently living with purpose.  I think of Janet, who is still asking herself the “amazing” question at 70 years young.  She is living proof of the possibilities.  

Dancing around the fire

I am the master of reinvention at any age.  Creating my life is rewarding, but not always easy.  And that’s ok. 

Are you stuck in a midlife funk with a boring empty nest or afraid of an unknown future?  I understand your journey and am passionate about helping you.  

I can lead you through a pivot and ignite your dream life.  If you hang around me long enough I will convince you that your best years are ahead.  

I offer a free consultation.  If you are ready to overcome your fears of the future, schedule a mini session by clicking on my calendar link below.  Simply choose a date and time that works for you.  

Wouldn’t it be amazing to dance around the fire together?

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Just say “F’ It”

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Learn how to turn an "F' It" moment into a moment of hope!

Are you willing to vulnerably admit that at times of frustration you just want to say “F’ it”?  Yes, I admit that I use the F word on occasion.  

For instance, I might say it prior to the third glass of wine, or finishing the cake after the kids went to bed.  Does this happen to just me?  

“She realized that vulnerability was easier to wear than vanity.  So she stripped straight down to nothing. And set herself free.”  ~  Cara Alwill Leyba

This week I spent time wondering why the “F’ it” moments happen.  

My F’ It Moment

Recently, at a point when my dreams seem to be on the horizon but still so far out of reach, I had a major “F ’it” moment.  

I had planned my eating protocol for the day.  I knew I’d be meeting friends at my favorite winery, so I planned one glass of wine.  (famously naive)  At the winery, I had my planned glass of wine and then bought a bottle to take home.  When I got home my plans got railroaded, as if I can blame it on the circumstances, and proceeded to drink the bottle too.  The moment I opened the bottle I recall saying to myself, “Fuck it!” (not abbreviated)

The real reason I had a “F’ it” moment was not my evening circumstances.  Frankly, the real reason I felt the need to “F’ it” was my unrealized dreams weighing heavy on my heart ALL DAY.  

The next morning I awoke with the guilt of not honoring my planned protocol, and the familiar shame storm.    

I wrote in my journal:  I can’t seem to catch a mystic break.  God, I’m trusting you.  Please lead me to the gold-mine within.  

Then I came across another poem…  

Surrender

I want to breath in passion like air.  I want to fill my lungs with the magic and lust and possibility only passion brings.  And the feeling that is only available to you when you finally, fully, fiercely surrender.   ~ Cara Alwill Leyba 

Faith   

The absence of evidence is NOT the evidence of its absence.  Surrender to the mystery.

Surrendering is actually saying, “F’ it” in a completely different way.  It is breathing in passion like air and saying to yourself, “this just might work!”  What do you actually have to loose when you choose to believe notwithstanding the absence of evidence?    

Faith is a powerful emotion that helps you believe your dreams are worth pursuing.

It just might work!

The first “F’ it” has no upside.  It is just a familiar way to approach discouragement that leads to guilt and an inevitable shame storm.  Creative solutions are impossible to discover when your energy is consumed by discouragement.  

The second “F’ it” has HUGE upsides.  The thought “what if it works” produces a feeling of hope and leads to massive action.  

Here is what I’ve learned about hope this week:

Hope is not an accident.

You cultivated hope by allowing the mystery.  

The mystery is a little voice that whispers maybe, when the whole world is shouting no.  

This hope is an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.  

Hope is the charged emotion that elevates your dreams.  

Not forced, but ready to see crazy things happen!

What if you gave up entertaining the thoughts that cause fear and discouragement, the thoughts that lead to lack? 

Have compassion on your discouraging thoughts, noticing them without guilt or shame, and then simply release them.  

Surrender to the idea that it just might work, and to the mystery of uncommon creativity.   

This is my life’s work.  

Believing in possibilities and abundance is my super power.  Even when I suffer discouragement, my will to break through will not allow me to wallow in it.  I desire to cultivate a mindset that surrenders to fierce hope.

I am happy to share my journey with you in hopes that it inspires your journey.  As your life coach I will help you to reclaim your life, full of dreams and visions for your best years ahead.  

I’d love to work with you to develop a proper “F’ it” mindset.   

If you regret a recent “F’ it” moment that produced a shame storm, I know I can help you flip it to a “it just might work” mindset.  I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you!  It just might work!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Schedule a FREE mini session to chat about how she can help you!

Living Vicariously

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women live vicariously through their future self

By definition, living vicariously is imagining life through other people’s experiences.  You may have lived vicariously through your children, pictures of a friend’s vacation, or someone you admire.  

When I went on picking trips for my antique store I frequently had women tell me they were living vicariously through me.  While I was honored they followed my adventures, I always hoped to inspire them to fly free on their own journeys.  

I recently lived vicariously through my friend Michele, who treated herself to a resort vacation at Miraval Resort in Austin, Texas.  I was envious of the royal treatment she received at this luxuriously tranquil retreat.  Michele cast a dream for me that I didn’t realize my soul was longing for.  

Let me cast a dream for you

What if the next fifty years were totally directed by you?  

Well, it is NOT impossible if you step away from life on autopilot and the expectations of others.  

It starts with a little imagination.  Think of your life as the ultimate Pinterest board.  What interesting things do you want to learn?  Where would you live and travel to?  Who would you surround yourself with?  Who do you want to be? 

Can you picture it yet?

Where focus goes, energy flows.  

Most people focus their energy on the past.  They make decisions and predict their future based on what has happened (or did not happen) in the past.  The energy it takes to rehearse the past is very low and familiar.  

“How much creative energy is tied up in guilt, hatred, resentment, lack or fear?  The truth is that you could be using all that energy to re-create a new destiny,”  Dr. Joe Dispenza.

I teach my clients to process their past, but become future focused.  

Your Future self will be proud

What if you lived vicariously through your future self?  

You don’t have to look enviously to others.  Create a vision for yourself in your imagination.

What will she appreciate that you dreamed up for her?

First create your ultimate Pinterest life, then consider how the experience will feel; empowered, fortunate, free, blissful, authentic, carefree, calm, easy, expansive, mindful… 

The more energy you can attach to your future self, the more intimate you become with your future.  

Is your view of reality limited?

The mind is a powerful thing.

As you fill your mind with thoughts and add energy to the ideas, you actually experience the vision as if it were in real time.  The mind simply doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy.   

Have you ever experienced a physical reaction to a thought?  For instance, when I think about meals I had in Italy, my mouth starts watering.

Living Vicariously through your future self.

What happens when you unlock creativity by rehearsing the future you want in your mind?  The skills you need to thrive in the future will become important to develop.  Your future self’s opinion of your current choices suddenly matter.   Unexpected opportunities present themselves in a new awareness.  

Do you need a guide?

Have you caught yourself living vicariously through someone lately?  What is stopping you from living your dream life?  

I work with midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead.  Learning to live with your future self in mind is a big part of creating that life you’ve always wanted.  

I’d love to help you activate your imagination and manage your mind to direct your next fifty years!  

Still unsure if life coaching is for you?  I offer a FREE mini session to chat about how I specifically can help you.  Click the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar that works for you.  

Here’s to living the best years!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

You are not broken

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach for midlife wellness... permission to soar!
Permission to soar

Have you ever wondered if something in your life is not right or perhaps you’re broken… yet you are not willing to give up on your dreams?

You are not broken, you just need permission to break free from your cage and soar.

Milestone birthdays

Milestone birthdays are generally catalyst for serious life evaluation.  Leading up to my milestone birthday, I decided that this next phase of life would be epic.  I’ve reached the age that I officially don’t care what others think of my choices.  

I don’t know about you… but I’d like to see more midlife women defy the rules of what this season is supposed to look like. 

Do you believe your soul is ageless?  

Think about it.  

According to Dr. Northrup, “You can change your future starting today by adopting a new, ageless attitude that will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.”

Agelessness is about chunking society’s ideals of what women of a certain age should focus on, look like, dress, be, do, have, etc.  Lord knows you’ve tried to fit in society’s boxes your whole life.  Their boxes have left you feeling broken or not able to measure up.  

Forget that!  Give yourself permission to break free from that cage and soar.

I say it’s time to unstuck your brain

After you’ve given yourself permission to soar into a vision you create for midlife, you’ll need to unstuck your brain from the old, worn-out story you once believed.  You need to replace it with a well-crafted story that serves you and your dreams.  

Address negative emotions

The worst thing you can do for yourself is hold onto destructive emotions.  

“Negative” emotions are indicators of unmet needs that need to be processed for healing.  Think of emotions as your guidance system, pointing to the areas in your life that need to be addressed.  

Emotions like sadness, despair, and unworthiness have an adverse effect on your wellness and keep you stuck in a life that you don’t want. 

It is helpful to process these emotions and not ignore them.  That is where I can help… as a certified life coach I can help you identify what is causing the “negative” emotions so you can release them. 

Curious about coaching? Check out my article: 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

Focus on “causes of health”

Wellness is my jam.  {Yep, I just said jam.}  I love studying “causes of health.”  It makes more sense to me than always reacting to disease.  

It is society, the medical establishment, big Pharma, etc who support a belief that disease and infirmity are inevitable.  

My personal plan is to be “ninety three and prescription free” as Gladys McGarey, M.D. proclaims.  

You have a choice to focus on wellness.  There are plenty of actions you can take to promote wellness; like eat whole fresh foods, get outside, move your body, feed your mind, get good sleep, remove the toxins from your home, etc.

I’d like to offer that Self-Aware is the first step in Self-Care.  The best place to start a wellness journey is your thoughts about it.  What do you actually believe is possible?  Why is it important to you?

For me, I want to soar into midlife and eventually retirement with the energy of a twenty-something.  I want my obituary to read, “Tiffany Eckhardt was a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.” 

Do you need to unstuck your brain concerning midlife wellness?  

Surround yourself with positive influences

The tribe I hang with vibrates in another reality entirely.”  Gladys McGarey, M.D.

It helps to surround yourself with people that are crazy enough to believe that YOU can create a life.  In fact, your friends can be your biggest cheerleaders for midlife wellness.  

Positive influences can also be found outside your circle of friends by following podcasts, reading books, subscribing to YouTube channels, etc.  Who are your go-to influencers who encourage you to live fully?

Unstuck your brain and give yourself permission to soar.  

If you find yourself stuck and you want to start living the life you know is possible, I’d love to help.  I offer a free mini session for those who are curious about what a life coach can offer.  

I am a master at reinvention and have an abundant belief in possibilities.  But what totally makes a difference is the tools I’ve learned to utilize.  

If you are curious, schedule your free mini session today by clicking the link below and choosing a date on the calendar.  It really is that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.