The cost of NOT restoring your cherished relationships

The cost of NOT restoring cherished relationships can take a toll on you emotionally and financially.    

As I shared in last week’s blog, during 2021 Jeff and I were seriously talking about divorce, but chose to walk through healing and learn to communicate, with the help of a couple’s coach.  

The good news is there is a happy ending to my story!  

As Johnnie Taylor’s 1973 song goes … It’s cheaper to keep her.  

I’d never sit in judgement of anyone who has divorced. It is a very personal choice, that at times may be the only option.  I personally wanted to avoid it.  I believed that what Jeff and I had was worth saving.  

The average cost of a divorce with children in Texas is at $23,500.

The fastest a couple can get a divorce in the state of Texas is 61 days.  

But we all know of couples that drug out their divorces for months, with costs soaring well above the average, not to mention the cost of separating assets and retirement. 

I don’t know about you, but I’ve invested way too much in my cherished relationships to simply walk away.  

Emotional Cost is so high!  

In 2021 Jeff and I had two major grid lock issues.  Every night seemed to be another round of fighting on one of them.  It was miserable.  

Let me remind you, we looked like a cute couple on Instagram.  We hardly ever talked trash about each other to friends and family.  

Although I had no idea how I would support myself, the real cost of divorce for me would be emotional.  I felt disposable and was afraid of being lonely.  All the arguing left me feeling unlovable and hopeless.  

The questions that kept me up at night were…

How will this affect my family?  

How will we spend Christmas and holidays?

Would we both go to the birthday parties and future celebrations?

How long will I carry the sting of rejection?  Would I ever be able to trust another man?

How would I get use to NOT talking to Jeff everyday?  Who would I run my crazy ideas past?

How we restored our relationship

Since March of 2019 I’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars in coaching and personal growth.  I attended two Tony Robins events, got certified in Life Coaching through the Life Coach School and hired business coaches.  

Like they say in the coaching world, I am a product of the product.  I can honestly say that this investment has changed me and gave me the ability to manage my mind. And honestly, I was doing a lot of self coaching during this time!

When divorce was thrown around like a nuclear bomb in our home, I humbly acknowledged we could not resolve this on our own.  

Hiring a couple’s coach was the most logical answer to our grid lock issues.  We learned to listen and communicate what we actually meant.  If we felt flooded in emotions, we simply stopped the conversation until we had time to process the feelings.  Jeff and I finally came to resolutions that turned our relationship around. The cost of coaching? Priceless!  

What we learned saved us from the high cost of divorce. 

This week as I relive some of the hurtful thoughts that I had to work through, I am deeply grateful that Jeff and I did not throw it all away.  I don’t even want to imagine what my life would be like if we had.  

Out of our restoration birthed a new program

I am dedicated to serving YOU in BIG ways in 2022.  I am willing to share what I experienced, in the hopes that YOU can restore your cherished relationships too!  

Monday January 17, 2022 I am launching a personalized program to walk you through restoring your cherished relationships supported by a my new program called Restore Your Cherished Relationships in 90 days.  

This program offers 5 valuable components.

Connection Calls. 

This is a weekly one on one Zoom call with me.  Every week you will have a 45 minutes with me to share your unique relationship issues.  We will work through the emotions you are experiencing and create a path forward.  This is by far the most valuable aspect of the program as you will finally feel heard.  

I have experienced the most amazing a-ha moments in my life with a coach who’s only objective was to listen to me and offer genuinely curious questions.  

Community Connections. 

You no longer need to feel isolated.  It always surprises me how convinced women are that they are alone.

I will create an online community for you to connect with women who are walking a similar journey.  This will be your chance to be encouraged by weekly group Zoom chats.  

Course Connection. 

This is where I put together journal prompts, worksheets, reading lists, podcast suggestions and more.  You will get a weekly email with all these goodies personalized for your journey.

Journaling through my emotions during this difficult time helped me get to know myself in a whole new level.  I have great prompts for you to ask yourself high quality questions.  

Constant Connection. 

You will have 24 hour access to me via email.  When you are in the heat of the moment and don’t want to wait for you connection call, you will be able to email me the issue.  I will respond to you within 24 hours… but most likely it will be sooner.  

The couple coach we hired offered this.  One night when Jeff and I were flooded with emotion she was there to walk me through it.  I will always be grateful for that!

The final component is my six week evaluation.  At this time we will evaluate your progress.  If you aren’t in love with your progress you will be offered a chance to jump ship or Course Correction.  I am confident that you will start to see hope for your relationships at this point in the program.  

Learn more!

Are you raising your hand wanting to know more?

Sweet!  Click the link below to learn more about the program.  If for some reason you still have questions… message me or schedule a chat on my Calendar.  

Due to the personalize nature of this offer I will only be able to work with 10 ladies.  So, don’t procrastinate!  

The FACEBOOK LIVE where Jeff and I shared our journey….

Here’s to restoring YOUR cherished relationships in 2022!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

A time to gather

A time to gather!  Americans are barreling into the holiday season with Thanksgiving, a special day to gather the family around the dinner table to give thanks.  

Holidays can be a lot of fun with adult children, but can also be tricky as siblings scatter in pursuit of their dreams.  

It’s not always possible to gather everyone around the table each year, which can be heavy on the hearts of midlife moms.  

A smaller gathering

You may think that the holidays will never be the same after the kids have flown the coop. 

That thought probably makes you a little sad and lonely. Me too!

When your heart feels sad, you’re less likely to put effort into the holiday.  You don’t feel like cooking a big dinner.  The decorations don’t come out.  Traditions are ditched.  

Of course the holidays won’t be the same, especially if you don’t have the same energy for them.  

Gratitude

This year I will celebrate Thanksgiving without my extended family.  We will see my family and our daughter’s family between Christmas and New Years.  

Of course I’ll be sad without my family around the table.   

After I allow myself a good cry, I will remember that I can create just as much magic for myself as I once did for my kids.  I am worth the effort.  

Giving yourself permission to create the magic for yourself is empowering and fills the season with meaning again.  

Although the holidays are definitely different, you can truly be grateful for the gift of midlife by acknowledging the time you now have to pursue what makes you feel alive.   

Enchanting 

What if you had another way to look at the holidays?  

It took me a long time to fall in love with the holidays again.

After years of trying to navigate the holidays with an aching heart, I’ve put together five tips to help you recapture the Christmas magic!

My free Midlife Mom’s Guide to Recapturing Christmas Magic will help you believe the holidays can be enchanting in any season of life.   

You don’t need to spend too much time feeling sad or lonely.  I’d love to send you a copy today.  Simply message me or email me a request.  I will forward you the pdf version of the guide.  eckhardt.tiffany@gmail.com 

As always, I invite you to schedule a chat with me. I can help you create magic for your holiday season!

Happy Thanksgiving!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.   

Are you hard wired?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping women go for their dreams... at any age!

A trip down memory lane

I am hard wired for the “junk” business and live in the heart of the infamous Texas Antiques Week, a biannual pilgrimage for junkers of all types!  

My husband and I have enjoyed the “show” as dealers, store owners and now hosts of an Airbnb.

I experienced Texas Antiques Week as a dealer in Round Top for the first time in the fall of 2011, with my original business partner and friend Kristie Herlong. After setting up at the Springfield Extravaganza in Ohio, we packed up our trailers and headed to Texas, not really knowing what we were getting into.  

TEN YEARS AGO! Time flies!

That same year, Jeff relocated us from Ohio to Texas… empty nesters who literally flew the coop.  

Once I was full time in Texas, I grew my business to participate in seven shows a year.  Over time, the road wore me out and I longed to have something permanent.

The opportunity to purchase our property in Burton, Texas was a dream come true the fall of 2014.  I celebrated the grand opening of Flown The Coop Antique Store during the “spring show” of 2015. 

Today I’m still smitten with the “Junk” business

Ten years after my first show and three years after closing the store, the antique bug struck again.  

TxJunkR opened shop this week in Burton.  I couldn’t pass up a chance to set up a booth.  The night before, I lost sleep wondering if I had enough stuff.  The answer… YES!  I had more than enough stuff to fill my little nook.  

I forgot how much fun it was.  

My good friend and once business partner Kristie responded to posts about the big event, “You can’t get it out of your system once you have it.” 

So true!

Do you have a passion in your “system”, hard wired?  

Maybe you haven’t spent that much time exploring what really sparks your interest.  

The first step in identifying what you’re hard wired for is to look for what always circle back to your life.  

Most of my hard wiring falls under the category of creating spaces.  I love to garden, renovating homes and offering hospitality.  

Understandably, my heart is always drawn to the antique business.  

I want to encourage you!

Don’t waist time putting off your passion.  Find a way to express what makes your heart throb!  

The world needs more people who live with purpose and aren’t afraid to go for it!

I hope by reuniting with my passion, I inspire you to explore yours.

Do you need help with this? I can definitely offer help! Schedule a chat with me by clicking on my calendar link. Simply pick a date/time that works for you.

~Here’s to igniting your spark!

Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

The Daily “Fresh Hell”

Fresh hell

After a month of chatting about FUN, I want to go out on a limb with a conversation about the “fresh hell” we’ve been living through.

Yep, let’s get real.  

The past few years have felt like a roller coaster ride of emotions, leaving most clinging to hopium {that is hope-ium – a new term}. 

Are you wondering, will life will ever have a sense of normalcy?  When will this ride be over?   

Your life on hold

If you are anything like me, you love to dream and to invest in the future, but you’re so distracted by the daily dose of “fresh hell” coming from the powers that be {whoever that is}.  

There are tasks on your to-do list, but scrolling through social media for the latest news halts progress.  

Are you tip-toeing the balance between the need to be informed and the desire to bury your head in the sand?  

It’s exhausting!  Are we ok with all of this????

The daily barrage of “fresh hell” grates on the nerves, is frustrating and feels out of control.

Are you putting your dreams on hold, and at times even think why bother?

It’s hell

I see so much suffering, including my own version of misery.  Since March 2020 I have lost friends, dealt with the possibility of a lost job, and find it difficult to talk to my family about real concerns, etc. 

There hasn’t been an authentic conversation around some people since the “fresh hell” became taboo, even criminal.

The women I know just want the opportunity to talk about this bizarre time in history, to share their “fresh hell” of the day.  

Lucky for me I have learned skills to work through the chaos and have support when I find myself going in circles.  

I want to offer hope…

There is a way forward to not only cope, but to thrive in this messy world.

I’ve managed it!  

No, you won’t be able to change the polarizing landscape of today’s world, but you can create a pathway forward.  

How can I serve you?

I don’t assume to know what you need.  

Maybe you just need someone to talk to, or could use a comforting recipe, an essential oil or herbal remedy.  I have developed a million journal prompts that could be helpful.    

It’s possible that all you need is a break from the “fresh hell” and add more spice to your life.

It would definitely help to connect with kindreds!   

I’m here to serve!  

Let me know what you are struggling with!  Comment on the blog, on my social media posts, DM me or even schedule a chat with me.  

I have set up a special calendar link for this topic, Thriving Through The Daily Fresh Hell.  Simply pick a date/time that works for you.  

The beginning

It is human nature to want to live with purpose and meaning. 

This could be the beginning of a beautiful conversation and a point of discovery.  Let’s answer the daily dose of “fresh hell” with resiliency.  

Want to link arms?

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

The song hit a chord

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping you find meaning and purpose to midlife.

The other day I was riding down the road in my pick-up truck Miss Dixie, with windows wide open {cuz it’s fall ya’ll}, blasting Gavin Degraw on the radio.  Dang!  The song I Don’t Want To Be hit a chord.  

“I don’t have to be anyone other than the birth of two souls in one.  Part of where I’m going is knowing where I’m coming from.”  

Now what?

The need for purpose isn’t necessarily a crisis, but probably feels more like a nagging. Now what?

There were times when I was raising my children that I thought, oh my God… when will I ever have time for myself? 

Now that I have all the time in the world, I often miss my kids. BTW: Adult kiddos are so much fun!

Wether you’re an empty nester, newly retired or recently divorced, the question of now what can tug at your heart.  

Not superficial, but profound!  

One of my clients commented to me that she was tired of being superficial.  Me too!

If you embrace the typical midlife crisis, you might fill the void with a brand new sporty car… anything to feel young with an exciting future ahead of you.

Instead acting superficial, what if you had a profound shift in how you view all this free time? Could this time be a gift?

The birth of two souls

It’s easy to look to the past for identity. It’s clear where you’ve been, but do you know where you want to go or who you want to BE?

What if getting to know yourself is more exciting than a brand new sporty car?  

Maybe you just need to crank up Gavin Degraw for inspiration!

“I don’t want to be anything other than me.”

It is fun!

Creating a profound shift could feel heavy… but I promise it is fun!  

I like to say my empty nest is not boring, because I am in it!

You are NOT boring!

Find out what you like. 

Discover what excites you. 

Decide what really matters to you.

Is this hitting a cord?  

Last month I focused on fun… finding your inner artist, taking yourself on a date, getting on the dance floor, and being zesty.  

I hope it all hit a chord.  

These articles were designed to help you live midlife with meaning and purpose, and see this season as a gift to get to know yourself… what you like to do for fun.  

If loneliness or boredom is nagging at you, I can help.   

I invite you to schedule a chat with me.  This is an opportunity for you to share what is nagging at you and preventing you from living a life of purpose.     

Simply click my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to riding down the road, windows wide open and blasting a song that hits all the right cords!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Got zest?

Zest adds flavor to life!  

Are you zesty?  

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

This isn’t the first time I’ve written about zest.  I have always promoted the need to have something zesty to look forward to.

The past few weeks I’ve focused on your creativity, taking yourself on a date and getting on the dance floor.  

I hope you saw yourself in these posts and are ready to add zest to your life!

Something zesty to look forward to.  

“The quality of life is in proportion, always, to the capacity for delight.”  Julia Cameron

It is difficult to have capacity for delight when you live in the land of regret.  If you are always looking to the past, it’s hard to see a zesty future.    

To stop dwelling in the past, first learn to delight in the present by taking time to be grateful for all the good that you’ve created in your life.  

And then look to an exciting future by intentionally planning something zesty to look forward to. This excercise creates more of what you love.  

Our need for zest

Midlife is the perfect opportunity to be intentional about your need for zest.  

As a midlife woman, it’s time to unleash your spice.  It’s time to defy the rules and expectations you’ve followed and start doing more of what delights you.  

Working towards a dream or goal, planning a vacation or even planning a garden gives meaning to your life and creates excitement.  

Stay open to opportunities for zest

Do you have a list of zesty things to look forward to?   

Here’s a great place to start…  

Create a list 20 things you like to do.  Don’t overthink it or worry if you can’t come up with 20.  Once you are open to what delights you, more ideas will flow.  

Pick one item and describe how you will feel when you are planning it and doing it.  

Does it feel zesty and add spice to your life???  

The key is to stay open to opportunities for zest.  

Zest zappers

There are bound to be zest zappers in your life.  

You may not even be aware of how you are zapping your zest.  

Do you worry that it’s too late? Does focusing on yourself seem selfish?

Maybe you just need help believing you are capable of creating a zesty life.  

I’d love to help you tackle the blocks preventing you from moving forward toward a life that excites you.  

I invite you to schedule a free consultation.  Let’s chat about what seems to be in the way of you experiencing the freedom and fullness of midlife.  I am confident that I can help you add zest to your life!

Simply click HERE to pick a date/time that works for you.

Here’s to becoming a seasoned women with something zesty to look forward to!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Get on the dance floor!

Does life sometimes feel similar to attending a high school dance as the wallflower watching your friends enjoying the dance floor?  

I’m not trying to be dramatic, but it has taken me fifty years to realize that life is not a popularity contest.  

You can choose to get off the wall and dance.  In fact, enjoying life is a priceless gift you owe yourself.  

My proverbial dance floor

Recently I was invited to share my expertise as a speaker for the Empowered Woman’s Summit hosted by Jillian McGill.  

This was my chance to get off the wall and dance.  

At one time, I might have turned down the invitation because I was scared to speak in front of strangers or didn’t feel ready.  

This time I accepted the invitation, choosing to believe it would be fun.  The whole experience turned out to be SO fun!!!

Your invitation to dance!

Thanks to Jillian’s generosity, I am able to share my session of the Empowered Woman’s Summit with you. 

Enjoy your personal invitation to get your booty on the dance floor!  

In this video I teach from the Four Stages of Reinvention Journal I recently published on Amazon.  You can get your copy of it by clicking HERE.

It is my intention to help you dance through what ever stage of change you find yourself, and and empower you to step into what ever you’ve always wanted to do.  

Enjoy! ⤵️

Dig deeper

It sucks that trying something new hasn’t gotten easier since high school!  

Midlife is the perfect time for you to stop being the wall flower and dance!  

I’d like to invite you to dig deeper into reinvention.  

In addition to The Four Stages Of Reinvention, I also offer a free guide mentioned in the video. Click here to get your Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS.

Let’s fill the dance floor

Can you see yourself on the dance floor?  

If you long to get out where the disco ball is spinning, but you just can’t seem to get past the fear, I’d love to help!

I invite you to schedule a free consultation by simply clicking on my calendar link and picking a date and time that works for you.  

Together we can get you to step onto the dance floor!

Here’s to being the Belle of the Ball! 

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Riding solo?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping women rise above their midlife BS.

My empty nest is NOT boring, because I am in it.  Although, there are times when I just need to get out of the nest and explore. And I don’t mind riding solo!  

Inspired by The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, I took myself on a date this week.  The idea is take time to nurture the creative spirit within and to allow playful inflow.

“As artists {I’ll add midlife women} we must learn to be self-nourishing.  We must become alert enough to consciously replenish our creative resources as we draw on them – to restock the trout pond, so to speak.  I call this process filling the well.”  Julia Cameron

My date

For me, replenishing my creativity requires a drive in the country to The Antique Rose Emporium.  As I drove the pastoral countryside, I had to remind myself it was time to shut down the thoughts about the chaotic world and get caught up in the moment.  So, I cranked up the radio and sang at the top of my lungs.  I can only get away with that volume riding solo.  

Even if I visit the Antique Rose Emporium’s magic gardens a hundred times and see something that I’ve never seen before.  I walk around shooting pictures and wondering how the gardeners created the spaces.  I always leave with a renewed enthusiasm for my garden and a sense of peace with the world…. And on this trip $100 worth of new plants!

How does the idea sit with you?

The idea of going on a date alone is somewhat intimidating.  

Being alone, or lonely, is a very scary thing for midlife women experiencing an empty nest and trying to figure out their purpose in this season.  

On the flip side… 

What if having the ability to sit alone at a restaurant and enjoy a meal is actually empowering?

How does the idea sit with you?

Community 

I’m not suggesting that you don’t need family and friends.

There is plenty of evidence that community is basic to our happiness.  Out of the six basic human needs; Significance, Love/Connection and Contribution require community.  

What I am offering is the benefit of being able to entertain, nurture and restore yourself.  Once you learn this skill, boredom and loneliness loose their power over you.  

Could it be fun? 

Coming up with ideas for weekly dates can be just as creative as the date itself.  Here are a few of mine….  A trip to a junk store, drive in the country, try out the new coffee shop, roller skating, a bike ride, etc.  

Are you waiting for your partner to have the time to get out of dodge? What about taking a solo trip somewhere on your bucket list?  

What have you been putting off because you don’t want to do it alone?  Maybe you are the perfect date for the occasion?  

Need a little nudge out of the nest?

You might agree that taking yourself on a date could be empowering, but your mind is working overtime to warn you of all the reasons it’s a horrible idea.  

Being lonely sucks, but at least it is familiar.  

I’d love to help you discover your inner shenanigans and the wings to rise above the resistance.  

You might just discover that you enjoy your own company just as much as you enjoy your family and friends.  

Schedule a free consultation by clicking on my calendar link and choosing a date/time that works for you.  This is an opportunity for you to ask me all the questions you have about hiring a life coach and a chance for you to talk through an issue that you are struggling with.  

Here’s to getting behind the wheel, blasting the music, singing at the top of your lungs… or whatever you need to do to fill the well!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

A midlife artist?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women rise above midlife BS.

“Every child is an artist.  The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.”  Pablo Picasso

Jeff and I were grocery shopping when I found myself in the office supplies isle looking at art supplies.  Jeff wondered what the heck I was doing buying paints and brushes.  I am not usually the arts and crafts type.  

A few days prior I was listening to Tonia Jenny teach on the Circle Of Now and was inspired to try my hand at water colors.  Watching beauty emerge from her page looked fun.

I literally have no idea what I am doing.  It feels playful.  The goal isn’t to become an artist, but to connect with something inside that obviously has been neglected.  

Taking the artist on a date  

You are going to think I’m making shit up.  Art seems to be wooing me.  

I happened to be looking at books at The Good Will store {always looking for herbal and gardening books}, when I came across the book The Artists Way by Julia Cameron.  

It is a book that has been repeatedly recommended to me.  So, I bought it for 99 cents.  

The Artist Way hooked me in the first two chapters.  First of all the author recommends journaling, which she calls the morning pages, and then suggests taking your art for a date.  

Brilliant!  

I love the idea of scheduling fun!  

Boredom

Is it time to stop taking life so serious?

This might be the reason you feel stuck, unable to move forward.

Many of my clients think there is something seriously wrong, when the real issue is boredom.  

Somewhere along the way have you lost touch with creativity.

When the student is ready…  

I want to encourage you to get curious.  

As I wandered through Goodwill, the book appeared to me.  This could be your journey too!  

Be open to what moves you.  

Answers to life appear when you try something new just for the fun of it.

One of my clients signed up for banjo lessons.  BTW:  I am super jealous.  I love the banjo!  

Who wants to sign up for art lessons with me????

Let’s connect

Seriously, let’s not be so serious.  

I’d love to learn how you are connecting with creativity by leaving a comment!

What have you always wanted to try just for you?   

Will you take your art for a date????

If this is resonating with you, but you still feel stuck, I invite you to schedule a consultation. Simply click on my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you!

Here’s to the emerging artists in us all!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Does beating myself up work?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping midlife women rise about their BS.

Does beating myself up work?  

Here I go again, beating myself up about a recent weight gain.  

I am disappointed, but the way I treat myself is ridiculous.  

It hit me that I subconsciously think feeling horrible about myself is the solution.  

As if a good scolding will put a fire under my butt.  

This mindset is similar to thinking hangovers will stop me from drinking wine again.  

Has it ever worked?

It sucks that creating positive change never get easier.   

Beating myself up with regret 

Copious amount of regret or remorse will not produce the energy needed to change course.

First, let me remind you to NOT beat yourself up for having lower energy thoughts and feelings.

They are there to teach you something.  Take a moment to acknowledge them and notice what the feelings produce.  

For me, regret feels heavy and defeated.  The feeling causes me to avoid exercise, wear big flowing dresses to hide, increase self depredating trash talk, and/or buffer with a bottle of wine, which creates even more regret.    

If feeling horrible about yourself won’t motivate you, then what will?  

Only a strong reason will motivate you to walk through any discomfort for change.  

Why do you dream of any accomplishment or destination?

You long for a feeling that you don’t currently have.  

Your “why” is linked to a feeling you desire.    

Radiant

How do you want to feel?  

There’s a symphony of emotions available to you at any given time.  I’d be happy to email you a two page list of emotions.  

So, I asked myself how will I feel when I reach my ideal weight?

Beautiful.  Worthy.  Strong.  Confident.  Capable.  Smart.  Blissful.  Carefree.  Ecstatic.  Energetic.  Energized.  Exhilarated.  Focused.  Free.  Gleeful.  Healthy.  Jubilant.  Liberated.  Natural.  Playful.  Radiant.  Rapturous.  Relaxed.  Self-affirming.  Tenacious.  Vigorous.  Youthful.

Is it possible to experience that feeling now?  YES!  

Today as I walked to the post office I practiced thinking I am radiant, which made me walk a little taller and put a smile on my face.  There is a big energetic difference between regret and radiant.  I felt it.  

Journal it

Do you want to know what you really think about yourself?  Carry a notebook for twenty four hours to jot down every thought you have about yourself.  

Before you start estimate a ratio of bad thoughts.  Do you think it will be twenty percent or eighty?  

At the end of your experiment, take a hard look at how you are treating yourself.  

Is this how you want to think and feel?  

If not, make a list of how you want to feel.  What will you need to believe?

I can help

It sucks to discover how ridiculous you are treating yourself and realize that beating yourself up never works.

My free guide Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS is a great start.  There are excellent journal prompts and practices to get you to question your BS beliefs and create ones that better serve you.  

I also offer a free consultation.  Ever wondered why midlife women hire a life coach?  Is it a good fit for you?  I invite you to hop onto a call with me to get your questions answered.

I know I can help!  I’m seeing results in my own life and the lives of my clients.  

Simply click on my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you!  

Here’s to feeling radiant and ditching regret!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky