Could you be missing the sign?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helps you see the signs you are missing.  Helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Could it be that you are missing a good sign?

I love a good sign!  

During my time as an antique dealer, I had an affinity for old rusty signs with unusual stories. 

In the fall of 2012, a really fun guy past through my booth at Texas Antiques Week.  He was on the hunt for cool stuff for his new bar on East 6th St., which at the time was an up-and-coming area of Austin.  He liked an old rusty sign with the word Whislers on it, but didn’t commit as he walked off into the fields.  At the end of the day he showed back up to purchase the sign that would become the name his new bar, Whislers.  

I like to think about stories like this when I feel uncertain. The right sign will eventually appear. Or in this case, the right buyer will take the sign home.

Take a drive

Instead of getting frustrated when I experienced writer’s block this week, I put it aside for the day on Saturday.  

Jeff and I drove to Austin to visit our son.  As usual, we were early and had time to kill.  Fortunately, I saw a sign. The Rising Sun Vineyard directional signs led us down a long dirt road that seemed a little iffy at first.  Curious, we continued until it opened up to one of the prettiest drives.  

Following the signs to this beautiful winery was pure serendipity. 

Move towards fun

Fun is often overlooked when feeling uncertain or frustrated.  Stepping away from what is on your mind allows answers to present themselves.  

Roller skate, call a friend, take a drive, get out in nature, watch a funny movie, etc.  

From a relaxed space, you can surrender to the mystery that allows opportunities to appear.  

Discover Enchantment

Getting away by taking a drive or finding fun is the first step.  The second step is to believe that something magical can happen.  

Enchantment is a kin to serendipity, and comes from a willingness to be touched or moved by something magical.

“To all of you who would like more excitement, pleasure, and satisfaction in your lives, please take note:  Enchantment is self-serve.  Opportunities abound, if you are available,”  Victoria Castle.    

If you were more available to the signs, what new possibilities might open up for you?  

Signs are not woo-woo

Looking for magical signs to appear can seem a little too woo-woo for some.  I get that!  

Consider the opposite of enchantment is control.  Needing to feel in control often feels graspy, and is an illusion anyways.  

In my experience, the mystery of life unfolds when I choose to believe in possibilities.  

Remove the fog to see the sign

If your mind-fog is too dense to step towards enchantment or fun, I can help you get clarity.  

Don’t miss the signs.

It often helps to have a listening ear, one who can help you get curious about what’s blocking you.  

I invite you to schedule a consultation with me.  I can lead you to find more excitement and satisfaction in your life.

If you hang out with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of midlife reinvention and certified life coach.  Tiffany is dedicated to those who are ready to rise above their BS. And  helping you see the signs!

Loving yourself

Loving yourself

Beauty has so many forms, and I think the most beautiful thing is confidence and loving yourself.  ~ Kiesza

The ugly truth is that I have spent a lifetime self loathing and looking for my worth in the eyes of others. 

A beautiful illustration came to me in meditation.  

I was standing on a shore hesitant to join the fun at a swimming hole, watching friends splashing around out in the deep.  As much as I wanted to join the fun, I had reasons for staying on the shore.  The water was too cold.  I don’t like swimming in a lake, and not being able to see what I’m swimming with.  With just enough courage, I dipped my toe in the water.  I thought, Well, that wasn’t so bad.  Eventually I inched into the water waste deep.  Stepping forward was actually refreshing.  All of the sudden I felt empowered to join the laughter and the silliness of friends splashing around in the deep.  

The swimming hole represented a life full of joy, but my beliefs held me on shore.  A few daily affirmations allowed me to dip my toes into belief.  Once I felt comfortable, I was able to develop new beliefs about myself.  And now I have the confidence to shake off the opinions of others and join the fun!  

Beautiful, do you love yourself?

Loving yourself makes you irresistible.  

Cultivating love for yourself is not selfish or egotistical, and is the opposite of self preservation and being needy.

Reversing the negative chatter takes some work.  

It is liberating to reach deep within to meet your needs when you’re alone and bored, at times when relationships are difficult or when you are reaching for a huge goal.  You can have your own back!

What do you believe? 

If we don’t believe we can have what we want, we unconsciously create lifestyles that assure we can’t possibly be fulfilled.   ~Victoria Castel from The Trance of Scarcity

You are the only one who can create the confidence within.  Developing confidence doesn’t have to be a big scary leap at first.  Simply start by having a chat with your image in the mirror.  Tell her where you see value, purpose and beauty.  It might feel weird, but can be a powerful tool into seeing into your soul.  

I do this!  I tell myself regularly that I have the grit and resolve to stand up for what is important to me and to try things that are a bit scary.  These thoughts create a feeling of moxie {just love this word!}.  And that feeling moves me to create the lifestyle that is uniquely me.  

What do you want to believe about yourself?  Your current lifestyle can give you a clue into what you actually believe. 

Block the blockers

You might be blocking what you want.

In my free workbook, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS, I offer a worksheet that helps you call out your BS with a simple question, is it true?

Others might be blocking you. 

I’m not sure which is harder, blocking your own BS or blocking what you think others are thinking.  A good question to ask yourself, is their opinion relevant?  

Spoiler alert:  the answer is NO.  It is usually BS.  

Need a little help dipping your toe in the water? 

Is this is resonating with you, but seems a bit too hard to imagine genuinely loving yourself?

Let’s get you on the calendar!  

Picking a date on my calendar is a simple step forward, like dipping your toe in the water.  Before long you will be joyfully splashing in the deep. 

Here’s to falling in love with life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Acquiescence

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~A reminder for me to surrender to the journey and trust.

Sentimental

While most people are busy dashing from one holiday event to another, I find myself curled up in our “empty” nest decorated for two and thinking about the journey.  This year had unexpected bends in the road.  I wonder what 2014 will bring?  It feels good to be still, enjoying our first Christmas tree at FTC headquarters and establishing new traditions for the two of us.

I am excited that Flown The Coop has settled into a nice routine of quality shows and feel blessed beyond measure with customers who have become friends this year!

Even though Jeff and I have “flown the coop”, we are grounded by our expanding family!  We are having fun planning our daughter’s wedding in 2014 and getting to know our son’s girlfriend and her son.

“If you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back in pain and regret.”  Jim Carrey

I am determined to not allow the mountains Jeff and I had to climb this year wear me out.  Cancer, a stolen trailer and other various disappointments slowed me down a little.
Cherishing the relationships in my life and enjoying rest in December will rejuvenate me.

If I live the life I’m given, I won’t be afraid to die.  ~Avett Brothers

There is no way to predict which way the road will bend in 2014, the uncertainty is both scary and thrilling.  Life is a journey.

I’ve spent time researching trends, dreaming of projects to undertake and looking at what worked in 2013.  When it comes down to it, I know this journey is best traveled simply pursuing what I love.  I envision “Road Work Ahead” signs along the way.  And that’s ok.

I love being the author of my job description and pursuing new ways to connect with junque and the lovers of junque.  I love deep roots in family and strong friendships.

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I hope to be known as a person surrendered to LIVE the journey given me, despite the unexpected bends in the road.  I will reread this post mid year and see where I stand.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Hope your December is filled with the warmth of your relationships and traditions.  I also hope that 2014 will be the beginning of an excellent adventure!  Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love.  Fly free!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!