Could you be missing the sign?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helps you see the signs you are missing.  Helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Could it be that you are missing a good sign?

I love a good sign!  

During my time as an antique dealer, I had an affinity for old rusty signs with unusual stories. 

In the fall of 2012, a really fun guy past through my booth at Texas Antiques Week.  He was on the hunt for cool stuff for his new bar on East 6th St., which at the time was an up-and-coming area of Austin.  He liked an old rusty sign with the word Whislers on it, but didn’t commit as he walked off into the fields.  At the end of the day he showed back up to purchase the sign that would become the name his new bar, Whislers.  

I like to think about stories like this when I feel uncertain. The right sign will eventually appear. Or in this case, the right buyer will take the sign home.

Take a drive

Instead of getting frustrated when I experienced writer’s block this week, I put it aside for the day on Saturday.  

Jeff and I drove to Austin to visit our son.  As usual, we were early and had time to kill.  Fortunately, I saw a sign. The Rising Sun Vineyard directional signs led us down a long dirt road that seemed a little iffy at first.  Curious, we continued until it opened up to one of the prettiest drives.  

Following the signs to this beautiful winery was pure serendipity. 

Move towards fun

Fun is often overlooked when feeling uncertain or frustrated.  Stepping away from what is on your mind allows answers to present themselves.  

Roller skate, call a friend, take a drive, get out in nature, watch a funny movie, etc.  

From a relaxed space, you can surrender to the mystery that allows opportunities to appear.  

Discover Enchantment

Getting away by taking a drive or finding fun is the first step.  The second step is to believe that something magical can happen.  

Enchantment is a kin to serendipity, and comes from a willingness to be touched or moved by something magical.

“To all of you who would like more excitement, pleasure, and satisfaction in your lives, please take note:  Enchantment is self-serve.  Opportunities abound, if you are available,”  Victoria Castle.    

If you were more available to the signs, what new possibilities might open up for you?  

Signs are not woo-woo

Looking for magical signs to appear can seem a little too woo-woo for some.  I get that!  

Consider the opposite of enchantment is control.  Needing to feel in control often feels graspy, and is an illusion anyways.  

In my experience, the mystery of life unfolds when I choose to believe in possibilities.  

Remove the fog to see the sign

If your mind-fog is too dense to step towards enchantment or fun, I can help you get clarity.  

Don’t miss the signs.

It often helps to have a listening ear, one who can help you get curious about what’s blocking you.  

I invite you to schedule a consultation with me.  I can lead you to find more excitement and satisfaction in your life.

If you hang out with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of midlife reinvention and certified life coach.  Tiffany is dedicated to those who are ready to rise above their BS. And  helping you see the signs!

Loving yourself

Loving yourself

Beauty has so many forms, and I think the most beautiful thing is confidence and loving yourself.  ~ Kiesza

The ugly truth is that I have spent a lifetime self loathing and looking for my worth in the eyes of others. 

A beautiful illustration came to me in meditation.  

I was standing on a shore hesitant to join the fun at a swimming hole, watching friends splashing around out in the deep.  As much as I wanted to join the fun, I had reasons for staying on the shore.  The water was too cold.  I don’t like swimming in a lake, and not being able to see what I’m swimming with.  With just enough courage, I dipped my toe in the water.  I thought, Well, that wasn’t so bad.  Eventually I inched into the water waste deep.  Stepping forward was actually refreshing.  All of the sudden I felt empowered to join the laughter and the silliness of friends splashing around in the deep.  

The swimming hole represented a life full of joy, but my beliefs held me on shore.  A few daily affirmations allowed me to dip my toes into belief.  Once I felt comfortable, I was able to develop new beliefs about myself.  And now I have the confidence to shake off the opinions of others and join the fun!  

Beautiful, do you love yourself?

Loving yourself makes you irresistible.  

Cultivating love for yourself is not selfish or egotistical, and is the opposite of self preservation and being needy.

Reversing the negative chatter takes some work.  

It is liberating to reach deep within to meet your needs when you’re alone and bored, at times when relationships are difficult or when you are reaching for a huge goal.  You can have your own back!

What do you believe? 

If we don’t believe we can have what we want, we unconsciously create lifestyles that assure we can’t possibly be fulfilled.   ~Victoria Castel from The Trance of Scarcity

You are the only one who can create the confidence within.  Developing confidence doesn’t have to be a big scary leap at first.  Simply start by having a chat with your image in the mirror.  Tell her where you see value, purpose and beauty.  It might feel weird, but can be a powerful tool into seeing into your soul.  

I do this!  I tell myself regularly that I have the grit and resolve to stand up for what is important to me and to try things that are a bit scary.  These thoughts create a feeling of moxie {just love this word!}.  And that feeling moves me to create the lifestyle that is uniquely me.  

What do you want to believe about yourself?  Your current lifestyle can give you a clue into what you actually believe. 

Block the blockers

You might be blocking what you want.

In my free workbook, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS, I offer a worksheet that helps you call out your BS with a simple question, is it true?

Others might be blocking you. 

I’m not sure which is harder, blocking your own BS or blocking what you think others are thinking.  A good question to ask yourself, is their opinion relevant?  

Spoiler alert:  the answer is NO.  It is usually BS.  

Need a little help dipping your toe in the water? 

Is this is resonating with you, but seems a bit too hard to imagine genuinely loving yourself?

Let’s get you on the calendar!  

Picking a date on my calendar is a simple step forward, like dipping your toe in the water.  Before long you will be joyfully splashing in the deep. 

Here’s to falling in love with life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Four Journal Prompts That Will Propel You Past Your Resistance

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Discover her 4 favorite journal prompts and how a daily journal habit can help you create the life you desire.

Four journal prompts that will propel you past your resistance

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why.  Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. My four favorite journal prompts can help you past any resistance.

I have personally journaled since I was a teenager, accumulating storage tubs full of my life on pages.  There are so many incredible reasons to journal beyond getting clarity.  I love expressing gratitude, recording all my dreams and struggles, documenting family history, etc.  

I believe the most important reasons for journaling are learning to manage your mind and uncovering beliefs that hold you back.  

Let’s be honest

There are reasons that might hold you back from journaling.  I polled my family and friends for this article and found a few common reasons for resisting a daily journal habit.  

  1. Consistency, time management, and distractions
  2. Afraid of experiencing raw feelings.
  3. My personal favorite… someone might find my journal.  Honestly, this fear has crossed my mind more than once.  

These three reasons for resisting a daily journal habit are all immensely valid.  I know you are busy and feelings can be intimidating.  Let me assure you that setting time aside to become aware of your thoughts, which cause your feelings, is worth the effort.  Simply throw the journals away if you fear someone might read them once you’ve worked through your thoughts and feelings.  

Journal Prompts

I hope I’ve persuaded you of the benefits of a daily journal habit, and have overcome your objections.  Now let me encourage you to get started with four of my favorite prompts.

1. The trinity thoughts

I’ll start with my favorite prompt borrowed from Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age.  The trinity thoughts are positive memories from a day well spent and a dream for the future.  Record something to brag about yourself, something to be grateful for, and something you desire.  I use this tool to help my clients honor their past and future selfs, while living in the present.  

2.   Questions are the answers

Get good at asking yourself really good questions.  As soon as you ask yourself a question, your brain will go to work to solve it.  Test this out for yourself!  I’m sure you can come up with some quality questions for yourself, but here are a few of my favorites:

What can I make better today than yesterday?

What do I love about myself?

How can I honor my body today?

How can I live my best life?

3.   Thought download

I believe journaling is the best way to manage your mind.  All my clients are encouraged to download thoughts from their mind onto a page, then step back from the pages and ask important questions like, “is that thought true?”  

The key to a thought download is to not care about grammar and spelling.  It is a dump of what is circulating in your mind.  It will be messy.  

Notice what you are thinking.  How does that thought make you feel?  How often do you think that thought?  Do you like these thoughts and the feelings they cause?  

Wow.  Words can not explain how impactful thought downloads have become in my life.  I’ve unpacked a few limiting beliefs and thoughts that did not serve me.  

4.   Write the script

Create your future self by casting her in your story and living the story through your imagination.   

Use your journal to write the script. What do you want her to look like, how will she show up for life, and who will she surround herself with?  Will she bravely overcome something?  What skills does she need to cultivate?  

Consider yourself studying for a part in a play.  Be her today.  Practice her role in your story.  Memorize her lines.  

The brain does not know if something is “real” or not.  If you practice believing something enough, you’ll feel it before it even happens.  

This is not reciting affirmations, but rather the ultimate visualization.  You will write the script in your mind and propel yourself into that story with very real feelings.   

Practice a prompt

It is my hope that I have busted some of your resistance with my four favorite journal prompts. 

As I always say, Self-Aware is the first step in self-care.  Pick one of the prompts and get started!  

Have I given you a nudge to try this powerful practice, but you are still not confident that you will be consistent?  I can help you identify the reasons you are unable to create space for journaling.  

If you are still fearful of the feelings you might uncover, consider hiring me as your life coach.  I will help you identify the thoughts that are wreaking havoc in your life.  Talking to a life coach helps you understand your human feelings in a safe space.

Free Consultation

I offer a free mini session as a consultation.  This gives you the opportunity to meet with me to discuss your situation and discover if hiring a life coach is a good fit for your life.  

My mission is help you believe your best years are ahead!  I have many tools that will help you fall in love with your life.  

Click my calendar link below to schedule your FREE mini session today!  Simply choose the date and time that works best for you.  You will then receive an invitation to a zoom call.  It’s really that simple!  

If you hang out with me long enough I will convince you that you best years are ahead.  Here’s to creating the life you always wanted!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach