Can you teach an old dog new tricks?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Her husband Jeff, teaching an old dog new tricks.

Can you teach an old dog new tricks? In fact, the inter-webs says yes…. “adult dogs are often easier to train than their younger canine friends specifically because they aren’t as active… ability to concentrate helps them learn new routines more easily.”

Granted, I know your life can’t be compared to a canine’s. 

Can’t teach an old dog new tricks is a saying applied to a person who is unwilling to learn something new.  They might be stuck in their ways, or overwhelmed by change.  

The person this applies to is doggedly determined in their inability…. But that’s not you.  Right?

Learning the Cello at 50

I asked Mr. Flown The Coop if he thought you could teach an old dog new tricks?  Y’all, Jeff just bought himself a cello to learn at 50 years young.  He quickly replied, “Well, it depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it.”  I hope he continues to put effort in learning the cello, cuz that trick is so HOT!  

Can you remember when you learned to walk?  Yeah, me neither.  It is incredible what we are able to learn in a lifetime, most of which is likely now taken for granted.  

When you say you are too old for something new, are you actually thinking, I missed my window of opportunity? Are dreams and new tricks only for the youth?

No time like the present

I’m just full of cliches this week!  What would you start today if you didn’t allow age to hold you back? 

In the bestseller The Last Lecture, Randy Pausch shares his childhood dreams that he was able to realize later in life.  His innate curiosity and determination allowed to him to experience zero gravity in Nasa’s Weightless Wonder, meet Captain Kirk and spend a sabbatical as a Disney Imagineer… just to name a few. 

I thought to myself after reading Randy’s stories from a life cut short, “I don’t want to waist time.” There’s no time like the present to live an interesting life… age really has nothing to do with it.  

Would you like to make new friends, there’s no time like the present.

Want to reach your ideal weight, there’s no time like the present.  

Thinking about a new career or business, there’s no time like the present.

Dreaming about a destination, book the flight!

Get past your BS

“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting sick of their own bullshit.”  Elizabeth Gilbert.

You might be thinking, Tiff you don’t understand, I am too old to learn {fill in the blank}.  By the way, age is one of a million possible bullshit excuses that can prevent you from trying.

I’ve been in your shoes, but have pivoted. I am learning that creating something new in life is possible when you learn to think new thoughts.  

The tricks

Are you feeling convicted?  It isn’t my plan to make you feel lousy, but to push you to think.  

Is it unrealistic to learn new skills, create new habits or try something new in midlife?  

What would you attempt today if you believed you were not too old?

Is crappy thinking in your way?

These are areas that I can help you with.  I know what it is like to admit a limitation and to be overwhelmed by the prospect of learning a new skill, but also have felt the yearning to explore possibilities. I choose to explore!

Midlife is a gift.  There is so much freedom (financial, time, patience, wisdom, etc) in this season of our life.

Even though I am no spring chicken {couldn’t resist another cliche},  I’m here to tell you anything is possible!  Let’s chat about YOUR possibilities!  I offer a FREE mini session for midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date and time on my calendar that works for you.  It really is that simple.

Here’s to new tricks!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky! 

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

I can’t wait to meet ya!

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  In this blog she discusses being future focused. Ever wonder about her, Can't wait to meet ya!

Dear Tiff (because that is what I call myself), I can’t wait to meet ya!  

Can you remember what was important to you last year?  Are you a little unsure of what you want to create for your life in 2021? Let me share with you a future focused practice that will help you stay in touch with where you’ve been and who you want to become.

In 2019, at a Tony Robbins event, I wrote a letter to myself at the end of a few intense days.  I was full of powerful optimism.  It felt great!  

When I wrote the letter, I sealed it up and handed it to a staff member at the event, who promised to send the letter to me at a random date.  I can’t tell you how fun it was to open the letter from myself.

In that letter I promised myself a few things.  I’m proud to say that I actually followed through with becoming a certified life coach with The Life Coach School.  I pressed the “enroll” button on their website while sitting in my hotel room late at night after committing to my future during the event.  The final line of that letter was, “Above all – keep fucking going.”  And I did.  

A tradition is born…. can’t wait to meet ya!

On January 15, 2020 I decided to write another letter to my future self.  Again, I was full of optimism with big dreams.  That’s the way I like it!  

I give myself a HUGE pass for 2020.  There was no way to predict how our world would implode.    One of my favorite lines of the 2020 letter is, “No more leading a life of quiet desperation.  You are a solution seeker.”  And I was.  

This year I wrote another letter with the thought, can’t wait to meet ya!

Building a relationship with yourself

Do you have a relationship with your past, present and future self?  Building this relationship is a wonderful way to create the life you’ve always wanted.  

I am extremely compassionate with who I was January 15, 2020.  Poor girl had no idea what fresh hell she would have to endure on a daily basis.  One thing I can say about her is that she plugged into growth and embraced the journey.  What can you say about your January 2020 self?  Be kind to your past self.  Despite all the failures, I bet you learned valuable lessons along the way.  

Living in the now is an extremely helpful skill to learn.  The Bible says to not worry about tomorrow, it will take care of itself.  Your future self is encouraging you to build the skills today that she will need in the future. So, get busy creating!

What will your future self think about you a year from now?  Will she be proud of what you attempted or how you grew?  I guarantee if you start thinking about her, you will show up differently today.  What is important to her?  What do you need to learn today to set her up for success?  

Write the letter

Writing a letter to your future self each January is a pivotal way to learn about yourself from year to year.  

I had forgotten what was important to me in 2019 and then at the beginning of 2020.  I realigned with some of my past ambitions and pivoted from some that no longer serve me. 

Writing a letter to your future self is a valuable tradition.  It’s a chance to write from the heart to the person you know yourself to BE.  Here are a few ideas to get you started:

Offer compassion to your past self

High five your accomplishments

Explain what is important to you today (in the now).

Share your goals with her

Tell her how you will work on for her behalf

What do you enjoy and hope to add to your life during the year?  Any adventures you hope to take her on?  

What relationships will you foster?

Your future self will thank you!

I can speak from the receiving side of a letter, and am grateful to my past self for caring about me.  

I hope my letter tradition will inspire you to write your own letters to the woman you will be in January 2022.  This practice can inspire you to act on her behalf today.  It can become a tradition you look forward to each year as a marker of your personal evolution.  

Becoming future minded allows you to aim for possibilities.  Your future self will thank you!  

I concluded my January 2022 letter with, “I hope you will be proud of me. Can’t wait to meet ya.” XOXO Tiff

On a side note:  It was magical when I received a letter from myself after the Tony Robbins event in 2019.  I am offering to hold your letters until the end of December 2021.  If you send me your letter sealed in a self addressed stamped envelope, I will drop it in the mail in late December.  

Send to:  Tiffany Eckhardt, P.O. Box 174, Burton, Texas 77835

I can help

It is my goal to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Writing a letter to your future self is just one of the tools I use to help women get in touch with who they are and how they want to show up in the world.  

Are you a little unsure of what you want to create in your life?  

I’d love to chat with you about creating a future from the future with exciting growth.  

I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious how a life coach can help build a bridge to the life you want.  Click on the link below to view my calendar, then click a date and time that works for you.  It really is as simple as that!  

Here’s to a year of working towards who we know we can be!  I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to meet her!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Discarded Places

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life coach and master of reinvention helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Discarded places

I have an affinity for discarded places.  Abandoned homes offer scope for the imagination.  I often wonder what story they could tell?  

Jeff and I have restored numerous homes in the past thirty years.  My favorite two homes started out as irredeemable projects.  The first house sheltered numerous dogs no one knew existed until the family moved out.  The second house we affectionally named the cat house.  The former owner was a recluse who let cats overrun the home.  Imagine how these two houses smelled when we purchased them.  Our friends and family thought we had lost our minds, believing the homes were tearer downers instead of a fixer uppers.  

Restoring homes often cost more and took more time than expected.  We never worked from a plan, the creative process kept us going.  

In hindsight, would we have took on these discarded places?  Yes.  The hard work and the cost was always worth it.  Our first home won an award for the most improved property in 1998.  The second home I mentioned was on the Champaign County Preservation Alliance 2007 Home & Garden Tour. 

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life coach and master of reinvention helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Discarded dreams

Discarded homes reminds me of abandoned dreams.  

Do suffer grief from ignoring dreams that once whispered to your heart?  What stories do your discarded dreams tell?  

Are you ready to tell a different story?  As Dr. Christiane Northrup explains in her book Goddesses Never Age, midlife women begin to “realize they’re no longer willing to put their dreams on hold and live according to what everyone around them wants.”  

Restoration

I learned restoration is always possible with our irredeemable projects.  

Trust your intuition.  Your dream won’t scream for attention.  It is often a knowing, a yearning.  Pay attention to the yearnings and allow your creative juices to flow.   

Can you allow your imagination to explore the possibilities?  I recommend giving your dreams a voice by journaling them.

Don’t dwell

Jeff and I never dwell on the what ifs or the hows.  Oh, the stories I could tell!  Throwing caution to the wind has created a few doozy mistakes, but also allowed us to experience a few fairy book stories like how we landed in Burton, Texas in 2014.

Worry is a misuse of the imagination and kills dreams.  If you find yourself dwelling on a dream instead of pursuing it, get curious.  Could you be indulging in worry?  Mathew 6:27 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

Hope brings restoration.  If it is on your heart, move toward the dream.  Don’t worry about the “how”.  As Marie Forleo famously says, “Everything is figure-outable.”  

Master of reinvention

My life is built on renovated places.  I am the master of reinvention.  I’ve had the heart ache of walking away from a dream when it came to it’s natural end, but rarely a heart ache from a dream not pursued. 

It is my goal to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  

If you have a whisper tugging at your heart, I can help!

Does your life resemble the abandoned home with scope for the imagination? Let’s restore your discarded dreams or create new ones. I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious how I can help. Check out my calendar link below to pick a date and time that works for you!

Here’s to renovating those discarded places! Let’s find out what is possible.

~Tiffany Eckhardt

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

How do you flush a shitty year with a broken crapper?

How do you flush a shitty year with a. broken crapper?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach teaches how...

It’s hard to flush a shitty year with a broken crapper.  True story!  The year 2020 was not easy for the easily offended and neither is my first blog article of 2021.  

This is probably TMI, but my New Years Eve ordeal is too ironic and funny not to share.  As a result of Jeff and I switching to a primarily plant based diet, I broke the toilet on New Years Eve.  It wouldn’t flush.    

Bless my heart, I tried to fix the crapper before Jeff got home from work, but it was not budging.  Just so you know, dish soap and baking soda only creates a sudsy mess.

So, before we could go to dinner at the fancy restaurant we had a reservation, Jeff had to to put on rubber gloves and fix the toilet.  

How could we start the year hoarding toilet paper and end it with a broken crapper?  I actually saw the humor in it.  You just can’t make this shit up.  

How do you flush a shitty year?

Make a list of highlights.  

First of all, I don’t think the year 2020 was completely awful.  I am willing to bet you can remember a few highlights.  I journaled a few of mine and was pleasantly surprised to have quite a list.  

Write a letter to your past self.  

One thing I learned in 2020 was to have compassion for myself when I was in despair or lonely.  I have learned to forgive myself when I know I messed up.  On the flip side I am truly grateful to my past self for showing up for growth.  I am proud of how I learned to manage my mind during the ups and downs.  

Make a list of lessons you learned.  

Tony Robbins often says life isn’t happening to you, but for you.  You never really fail when you learn in the process.  So, what did you learn in 2020? 

What if your best years are ahead?

It is my mission to help more women, especially midlife women, believe their best years are ahead.  One of my 2021 goals is to help 21 women a month create their best lives.  

Now that 2020 is officially down the drain, put the past in perspective.  Once you are able to reframe your past, you are able to create from the future.

It is so important to learn to live in the now and honor your future self.  What can you do today that your future self will be proud of? 

Will she quit or self sabotage?  

Can you chose HER, the woman you know yourself to BE?  

Deadline is January 5th to join Choose Her Community Goal Challenge

There is still time to join my community goal challenge for 2021.  This is an 6 weeks online program that will set you up for a winning 2021 with exciting clear goals, new friends to keep you on track, an understanding what success means to you and who you have to become to achieve the possibilities.  

Don’t ignore your potential.  Invest in HER, the woman you know yourself to BE!  

Follow the link below to get ALL the details.  

Happy New Year Ageless Goddess! 

Here’s to you, the kindred spirit who believe in big dreams, an unstoppable creative and lover of life, giver of hope.  Let’s spend 2021 talking about free thinking ideals and pursue wellness of mind, body and spirit.  

You’re the kind of woman who wouldn’t let a broken crapper get you down… no, you are indomitable.  

I will remain dedicated to those who can’t be caged in 2021.  If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

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Do you love choosing her?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife.  She helps women believe their best years are ahead.

Do you love choosing her, the woman you know yourself to BE?

Last year I chose a mantra that served me well, “I love the woman I am becoming in 2020,”  which turned out to be a year of tremendous growth.  Each obstacle that tempted me to quit, I remembered my commitment to my future self, and continued on the journey.  I can honestly say that I love who I am today because I fought hard to become her.  

I want to see what happens if I don’t give up in 2021. So, I choose a mantra that will inspire me to keep going in the face of any obstacle.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife.  She helps women believe her best years are ahead.
I love choosing her!

The inspiration to choose her

Janet, one of my favorite teachers at the Life Coach School, taught a workshop this month called: Turning Obstacles Into Results.  This timely workshop focused on an important part of a goal setting process, identifying obstacles ahead of time. 

The key to achieving your heart’s desire is to acknowledge that your feelings will wax and wane in the process.  Identifying obstacles ahead of time gives you the chance to not only strategize, but understand what you will make that obstacle mean.  

Will you make the obstacle mean you are a failure or your dream is impossible?  Janet decided that overcoming an obstacle meant that she loved choosing her, the woman who is willing to do hard things to create the life she wants.

Janet inspired me to adopt the mantra “I love choosing her” for 2021.  Every time I do something that stretches me, I will proclaim, “I love choosing her,” the woman I know myself to BE!  

Keep choosing her

I have used various tools to effectively stay the course; vision boards, Pinterest boards for the word of the year, vision video, affirmations and mantras like my new one for 2021.  

Developing a future focus has revolutionized goal setting for me.  Don’t get me wrong, I love creating tools like the ones I listed.  They just never moved the needle until I learned to create a future from my future.  

I understood that 2020 would be a tremendous year of growth as I continually focused on my future self.  Moving forward in 2021 I have a strong relationship with my future self and want her to be proud that I stayed the course.  I understand that obstacles are not in my path, they are the path.  I will choose her on a daily basis.  

Setting goals

Will you choose her today, the woman you know yourself to BE?  Set her up for success by setting goals.

Wouldn’t it be great if you had clear goals, understood what separated you from your goals and developed strategies that will help you stay the course?  Yes!  And wouldn’t it be nice if the process was actually fun?

I can help!  I’d love to walk you through a goal setting process that I used to achieve my goals for 2020.  During one of the most trying years in our history, I became a certified life coach, read fiction books for fun, lost weight, improved key relationships, opened an Airbnb and started a coaching business.  One of my clients who went though the goal setting process landed a new job this year.  

Schedule a FREE mini session to get all your questions answered.  Simply click on the link provided and choose a date and time that works for you. 

Don’t ignore your own potential… go for it!  

Cheers to choosing HER!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Do you trust your intuition?

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach, helping women reinvent midlife.  Do you trust your intuition?  Read more...
You will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way, walk in it.”

Do you trust your intuition? 

Many of my clients are experiencing anxiety about the new year.  It seems that something new is brewing, but fear of the unknown in an unpredictable world is paralyzing growth.  

Intuition is defined as the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.  It’s your knowing.  It’s the little voice that you most likely ignore.  

Even ancient scriptures encourage you to listen to the voice:

Isaiah 30:21

Wether you turn to your right or to your left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way, walk in it.”

Why don’t you listen to your intuition?

It’s a fair question worth being curious about.  

Have you ever experienced a time when you knew what to do, but chose a familiar path to be safe, only to later wish you had listened to that nudge from inside?  

Are you afraid of making a mistake or a wrong decision?  

Does trusting your inner voice seem dangerous?  

Are you afraid of being singled out or standing alone?

Become aware

You and I are conditioned to become the victim of outside influences.  It is easier to blame people or circumstances for your inability to create the life you want. It is time to become aware of the familiar thoughts and feelings keeping you from embracing the unknown.

“You are continuously keeping your life the same because you are keeping your attention (thoughts) and your energy (feelings) the same.”  Dr. Joe Dispenza 

You can take steps away from being the victim of life by becoming aware of your thoughts and feelings.    

Practice listening

How much room do you make in your life for the unpredictable, the unknown?  

Have you had the urge to journal and meditate?  Maybe this is the first bit of intuition you should listen to.  These two practices are the best ways to become aware of the thoughts and feelings actually guiding your life.  

Journal

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why.  Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. Last month I shared my four favorite journal prompts to help you past any resistance.  Choosing one of these prompts will help you discover what keeps you victimized to a thinking/feeling loop.  

Meditate/Prayer

The best way to turn off the noise of the world is meditation.  Slowing down to breath and listen is key.

Start with five minutes of breathing and quiet.  Notice when your mind wanders and gently bring it back to the present moment.  Don’t judge your inability to sit still.  This is totally natural.    Slowing down your mind is not only good for your creative juices, but aides in wellness.  The more you allow yourself to be still, the easier it gets to rest.  

There are so many resources for meditation practices.  I use the Insight Timer app to explore different meditation techniques.  YouTube offers numerous videos. Sometimes I listen to Pandora’s 528 Hz Miracle Radio for soft background music.

Explore your wisdom

It’s important to protect your ability to listen to your own wisdom.  I urge you to turn off your tv.  At least limit your exposure to the fear based programing.  

It is possible that during these chaotic times you have become addicted to information, which keeps you paralyzed. I confess that at times I have been glued to the information highway, but can tell a huge difference in my life when I listen to my own wisdom.

I realized a shift the other day when I was journaling.  I’ve noticed that in the past I looked for a something to deliver my dreams to me, to take care of me.  At some point during 2020 I turned inward for the answers.  I learned to take responsibility for my own thoughts and feelings.  This can be lonely work, but totally freeing.  

I believe God created you with an amazing mind.  You and I only use a fraction of the mind’s power.  God blessed you with unique gifts and talents as well.

Your voice, or intuition, is worth exploring.  Can you trust your ability to hear your own voice, your answers within? What is possible in your life is within the unknown!

Unlock the unknown

If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you your best years are ahead.  

Navigating these chaotic times is not easy.  You may be experiencing anxiety about the new year.  I can help!

You do not have to be a victim of your life.  You can learn to trust your dreams and discover a new way of thinking, that will allow you to create your life.  It is possible to not only embrace the unknown, but to welcome it with enthusiasm.  

If you want to walk in creative freedom, schedule a free mini session today.  Simply click on the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar.  

Here’s to discovering the unknown in your life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Is it ever Too Late To Ignite Your Flame?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach reawakening dreams of women in their second half.  Let her help you ignite your flame.

Is it ever too late to ignite your flame?  

It is not too late to ignite the flame of my dreams. My flame ignited this week when I was coached by Janet, a 70 year young certified life coach at The Life Coach School.  It was a real fan girl moment for me, and a sign from the universe that I was on the right path.

Back in June, I had the opportunity to hear Janet teach on becoming future focused.  She encouraged her students to fill in the question, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if…?”  

She used herself as an example.  Always wanting to be a lead singer in a band, Janet started asking herself, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if I were a lead singer in a band?”  Janet casually mention her vision to a guy who was in a local band.  A week after their chat he called and asked if she would be interested in leading a song.  Their band had a song that needed a female voice.  She said, “YES.  And YES!”  At 70 years young, Janet was a lead singer in a band!  

BTW:  Janet also wrote her first book at 65.  What an inspiration!  It is never too late to light your flame.  

When it is not easy  

During the coaching session, Janet posed really good questions that revealed a belief that had blocked my progress.  

I expected my goals to be easy.  After YEARS of struggling, I wanted this one thing to be easy. 

Why do I want it to be easy?  Maybe I think I’ve earned easy or easy would mean that I finally got my shit together.  Most likely it is a fear of an unknown future based on my long history of unmet expectations.  It is difficult to create anything new from defeat. I needed to ignite my passion for the unknown.

Living with the flames of passion

There is no playbook or manual for midlife.  You get to decide what is possible and worthy of your energy.   

It is perfectly normal to look to the past for all the reasons things won’t work.  The mind is really great at protecting you from the flame.  

After serious thought work, I decided that I’d rather be living with a flame of passion and embrace the unknown.  It’s ok if my goals aren’t handed to me, as if age has earned me an easy ticket.   

I can handle obstacles with ease instead of expecting everything to be easy.

Ignite midlife

Midlife is not the time to dim your flame, but ignite a vibrant life full of possibility and adventure.

Envision dancing around a fire at night on a beach with a tribe of midlife souls refusing to be snuffed out by age or any fear of the future.  No matter what ignites this flame, you will intuitively know that you can handle all uncomfortable growth with ease.  You are surrounded by women who know their strength and are flaming a midlife reinvention.  

Reclaim your passion for life by training your brain to ask, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if….?”  

Allow your mind to focus on the possibilities.  Wouldn’t it be amazing if it were easy?  Wouldn’t it be amazing if I handled obstacles with ease?  Either are possible.

As you reinvent midlife, look to the women who have gone before you and are currently living with purpose.  I think of Janet, who is still asking herself the “amazing” question at 70 years young.  She is living proof of the possibilities.  

Dancing around the fire

I am the master of reinvention at any age.  Creating my life is rewarding, but not always easy.  And that’s ok. 

Are you stuck in a midlife funk with a boring empty nest or afraid of an unknown future?  I understand your journey and am passionate about helping you.  

I can lead you through a pivot and ignite your dream life.  If you hang around me long enough I will convince you that your best years are ahead.  

I offer a free consultation.  If you are ready to overcome your fears of the future, schedule a mini session by clicking on my calendar link below.  Simply choose a date and time that works for you.  

Wouldn’t it be amazing to dance around the fire together?

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Four Journal Prompts That Will Propel You Past Your Resistance

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Discover her 4 favorite journal prompts and how a daily journal habit can help you create the life you desire.

Four journal prompts that will propel you past your resistance

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why.  Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. My four favorite journal prompts can help you past any resistance.

I have personally journaled since I was a teenager, accumulating storage tubs full of my life on pages.  There are so many incredible reasons to journal beyond getting clarity.  I love expressing gratitude, recording all my dreams and struggles, documenting family history, etc.  

I believe the most important reasons for journaling are learning to manage your mind and uncovering beliefs that hold you back.  

Let’s be honest

There are reasons that might hold you back from journaling.  I polled my family and friends for this article and found a few common reasons for resisting a daily journal habit.  

  1. Consistency, time management, and distractions
  2. Afraid of experiencing raw feelings.
  3. My personal favorite… someone might find my journal.  Honestly, this fear has crossed my mind more than once.  

These three reasons for resisting a daily journal habit are all immensely valid.  I know you are busy and feelings can be intimidating.  Let me assure you that setting time aside to become aware of your thoughts, which cause your feelings, is worth the effort.  Simply throw the journals away if you fear someone might read them once you’ve worked through your thoughts and feelings.  

Journal Prompts

I hope I’ve persuaded you of the benefits of a daily journal habit, and have overcome your objections.  Now let me encourage you to get started with four of my favorite prompts.

1. The trinity thoughts

I’ll start with my favorite prompt borrowed from Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age.  The trinity thoughts are positive memories from a day well spent and a dream for the future.  Record something to brag about yourself, something to be grateful for, and something you desire.  I use this tool to help my clients honor their past and future selfs, while living in the present.  

2.   Questions are the answers

Get good at asking yourself really good questions.  As soon as you ask yourself a question, your brain will go to work to solve it.  Test this out for yourself!  I’m sure you can come up with some quality questions for yourself, but here are a few of my favorites:

What can I make better today than yesterday?

What do I love about myself?

How can I honor my body today?

How can I live my best life?

3.   Thought download

I believe journaling is the best way to manage your mind.  All my clients are encouraged to download thoughts from their mind onto a page, then step back from the pages and ask important questions like, “is that thought true?”  

The key to a thought download is to not care about grammar and spelling.  It is a dump of what is circulating in your mind.  It will be messy.  

Notice what you are thinking.  How does that thought make you feel?  How often do you think that thought?  Do you like these thoughts and the feelings they cause?  

Wow.  Words can not explain how impactful thought downloads have become in my life.  I’ve unpacked a few limiting beliefs and thoughts that did not serve me.  

4.   Write the script

Create your future self by casting her in your story and living the story through your imagination.   

Use your journal to write the script. What do you want her to look like, how will she show up for life, and who will she surround herself with?  Will she bravely overcome something?  What skills does she need to cultivate?  

Consider yourself studying for a part in a play.  Be her today.  Practice her role in your story.  Memorize her lines.  

The brain does not know if something is “real” or not.  If you practice believing something enough, you’ll feel it before it even happens.  

This is not reciting affirmations, but rather the ultimate visualization.  You will write the script in your mind and propel yourself into that story with very real feelings.   

Practice a prompt

It is my hope that I have busted some of your resistance with my four favorite journal prompts. 

As I always say, Self-Aware is the first step in self-care.  Pick one of the prompts and get started!  

Have I given you a nudge to try this powerful practice, but you are still not confident that you will be consistent?  I can help you identify the reasons you are unable to create space for journaling.  

If you are still fearful of the feelings you might uncover, consider hiring me as your life coach.  I will help you identify the thoughts that are wreaking havoc in your life.  Talking to a life coach helps you understand your human feelings in a safe space.

Free Consultation

I offer a free mini session as a consultation.  This gives you the opportunity to meet with me to discuss your situation and discover if hiring a life coach is a good fit for your life.  

My mission is help you believe your best years are ahead!  I have many tools that will help you fall in love with your life.  

Click my calendar link below to schedule your FREE mini session today!  Simply choose the date and time that works best for you.  You will then receive an invitation to a zoom call.  It’s really that simple!  

If you hang out with me long enough I will convince you that you best years are ahead.  Here’s to creating the life you always wanted!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Reclaim Your Life 2021

Reclaim your life with Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Reclaim your life for 2021! Every fall I develop a deep desire to end the year strong.  Rebooting near the end of a year eases the stress of the holidays and sets up a new year for success.  Rebooting also feels akin to reclaiming my life by refocusing on the dreams I refuse to give up on.  

It is not too late to create a plan for your reboot & reclaim 2021!  

Reboot

Rebooting is not just for computers, by definition a reboot is starting anew with fresh ideas in a new way.  

Three years ago I joined a 90 day challenge to finish the year strong.  I created new habits that  had a lasting effect on my life.  The challenge included getting up an hour earlier, drinking half my body weight in water, committing to move everyday, eat well, and a daily gratitude journal.  

Reclaim

This year I am incorporating a three step strategy that will reframe 2020, connect with the present and intentionally create a future.  

I’d like YOU to join my journey to REBOOT & RECLAIM.  

Three steps to reboot

Reframe

Have you ever been told to pull up your big girl panties and get over it?  Is that ever helpful? 

Resisting your emotions in an attempt to “just get over it” only gives unwanted emotions more power to wreck havoc in your life.  I work with clients to process all their emotions to reframe their past.  Working through unwanted emotions empowers clients to truly live in the present and create an amazing future.   

“We are all rough drafts of the people we’re becoming.” ~ Bob Goff

Reconnect

The second step is to reconnect with life in the present by becoming aware of creative energy.

Have you ever driven home from work and wondered how the heck you got home?  Similarly, have you ever reached a certain age and wondered where did all the time go? 

When you are living life on autopilot you miss the mysteries of life.   I believe we are more than our bodies, or society’s programming.  We are energy, soul, mind and spirit.  In a moment of awareness, you notice whispers of creativity longing to be acknowledged.  

Render

I believe your best years are ahead!  You have the power to create your future, to render your masterpiece.  

The key to create your future is to get in touch with your future self.  This requires imagination.  What does she look like?  How does she spend her time?  Who is she surrounding herself with?  

This is my favorite step of the Three Steps to Reboot.  I love helping my clients envision who they can become. 

Join me

If you hang out with me for too long, I’ll convince you that your best years are ahead.  It is always fun to kick off a new year with kindred spirits.  

First step is to schedule a FREE mini session.  We’ll discuss what you’d like to create for 2021 and how I can help you get there.  

Your Reboot & Reclaim 

Click the link below to get started. Simply pick a date/time that works for you.  

Self-aware is the first step to Self-care.  

You owe it to yourself to become everything you were meant to be.  I invite you to make an investment in your mind, your health and your future.  

Here’s to an incredible 2021!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

A 98.8% happier life

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women lead 98.8% happier lives.  Believe your best years are ahead!

Live a 98.8% happier life!

You can live a 98.8% happier life by busting three midlife myths.

Have you accepted that at a certain age you begin to fight a loosing battle with age?  What if you were actually entering into the best season of your life?  

I am a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.  

Without subscribing to rainbows or unicorns, but have learned tools that allow me to fully function through life’s good and bad.  

You can create a life that includes abundant wellness and realize dreams at any age.  

Have you accepted midlife myths?

It occurred to me that there are some common midlife myths accepted as truth.  What if they were simply not true? 

First, what thoughts do you actually have about midlife and aging?  Gathering your thoughts in a journal by jotting down all the thoughts that you have about midlife.     

Next, take a look at the thoughts.  Do you like the thoughts? Are they true?  Where have these thought and ideas come from?  

It is widely believed that our bodies are not separated from our thoughts or emotions.  This is why I preach Self-Aware is the first step to Self-Care.  It is time to let go of toxic beliefs.  Then frame, or reframe, what your idea of midlife is and create it!  

Three myths to bust in order to believe your best years are ahead

1.  Midlife means the beginning of a loosing battle with well being.

In her book Goddesses Never Age, Christiane Northrup, M.D. confirms, “physical deterioration occurs in large part because of the accumulation of toxins, which results in cellular deterioration and damage along with tissue and organ breakdown.”  

Yet, she also offers that the body is in a constant state of reinvention.  “You do not have to have the same physical body you had just a few years ago.  Every cell has been replaced.”

I am living proof of this!  In 2017 I decided to question the idea that our bodies have to fall apart in midlife.  I spent three years removing toxins from my diet and home.  In 2019 I learned to manage my mind. Thanks to this work, I am not the same person I was back then.  

You can achieve wellness at any age.  Your best years are ahead.

2.  An empty nest is boring and lonely

An empty nest isn’t lonely because I am there.

Typically women spend there lives between 20 and 40 tending to their families.  Without giving it a second thought, their schedule is dictated by work and family.  When their little birdies fly the coop, there is naturally a void to fill.  

Although change is rarely popular, a new routine emerges from the quiet house.  At this point in life, you are ready to make decisions about what your future will look like?  

Unfortunately, “we believe that if something great was going to happen, it would have happened when we were 20 or 30, right? It would have happened when we were in college or when we were going to school or whatever. That’s when all the amazing things happen. But what if we’re totally wrong about that?”  ~Brooke Castillo

There are several ways to look at an empty nest.  What if you decide to enjoy your own company and believe your best years are ahead?

3.  Time is running out with little options

Why focus on what can’t be done?  

I intend to bust this myth wide open!!!!  There have been too many examples of successful people who achieved greatness after the age of 40.  Success leaves clues.  Studying their stories encourages me to explore my own.  

Time will run out if you indulge in self depravation.  Midlife is the time to invest in childhood dreams, ideas that have took a back seat to the demands of family and what your soul longs to teach you.

What if you made each day count and believe the best years are ahead?    

The Crossroads

I am sure you’ve created a few midlife myths of your own. 

Are you at the crossroads, at a point in life when you are ready to make decisions about what your future will look like?  

I want to help you believe your best years are ahead!  Not only have I mastered the fine art of reinvention, I am a certified life coach that can help you bust the midlife myths.  

Self-aware is the first step to self-care. 

Schedule a FREE mini session today!  It is my life’s work to inspire midlife women to love their lives 98.8% more!

What midlife myths do you wish to bust?  Click the link below to schedule your FREE mini session!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach