Tribute to all the New Entrepreneurs

Posted on June 30, 2023 by tiffany

A tribute to all the new entrepreneurs and those who haven’t stepped into their dream…

Let me encourage you! Give that business idea a chance by investing in yourself.

“Most of us can be found flying too close to the ground. Too often we don’t give ourselves permission to soar.” Price Pritchett

Trust me when I say I know your story

Clocking in on another’s dream is demoralizing, but I also understand that becoming your own boss can be overwhelming.

If you’re brave enough to step into your business idea, I know it’s scary at the beginning. You may be second guessing every decision, especially if your business has a slow start.

Most likely, there are aspects of your business that are just not in your wheel house. All you want to do is follow your passion and do that thing you are so good at. So, it’s tempting to procrastinate tackling the piles of paperwork and taxes.

Despite the frustration, you still believe in what you have to offer the world enough to press through the red tape.

As if frustration wasn’t enough to discourage you, guilt sets in when you attempt to juggle life and work. Let’s face it your business is always on your mind, but the reason you are building a business is to also create a life.

It would help if you had a network of trusted friends for support and to bounce ideas off of. How do other entrepreneurs build a customer base or use social media? Do others struggle with balancing life and work?

Yep, I get it.

I have over thirty years of experience as an entrepreneur with numerous successes and failures to share.

One thing I’ve learned is the most important investment for your business is an investment in yourself.

In 2019 I became a fire walker at my first Tony Robbins event. In that same year I went onto another Tony Robbins event and signed up for the Life Coach School. I’ve also invested in a library of books written by titans in business who have shaped my foundational mindset.

To be honest, I wish I had invested in my business and personal development thirty years ago.

Let me save you thirty years

I’d like to lead you through typical pitfalls and teach you the skills to overcome obstacles in creating the life you envision.

I am offering a New And Not Yet Entrepreneur Mastermind starting July 20th at Flown The Coop in Burton, Texas.

For the price of a monthly massage or a mani/pedi, let me help you set a strong foundation for your new or not yet business. As a certified life coach, I can help you learn to manage your mind around every aspect of your business.

Sign up for the first Mastermind with the option to register for the full six months, which will meet on the third Thursday of every month.

Topics include:

Your why & why nots (mindset)
Knowing YOUR niche (customers)
Creativity is the key
Pouring from a full cup
Building a network
Everything is figureoutable
Future self

The mastermind will be limited to 12 people, an intimate setting to create a lasting business network.

So are you ready to go all in?

Ready to learn to trust yourself and what you have to offer the world?

Are you ready to give your business a chance?

Here’s to giving yourself permission to soar!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

I want to be as fat as I once thought I was.

Posted on May 4, 2023 by tiffany

I would love to be as fat as I once thought I was. Facebook memories from 2018 – 2019 {which wasn’t even that long ago} reminds me that I once could wear sleeveless dresses and cute bathing suits. My mantra was, “I am the girl who likes to work out.” Even then, I had a tendency to see the flaws and didn’t allow myself to admire my accomplishments.

My daughter in-love reminded me of a Moira Rose quote from the show Shits Creek. This is advice she gave to Stevie,

“Take a thousand naked pictures of yourself now. You may currently think I’m too spooky, or nobody wants to look at these tiny boobies. But one day you will look at those photos with much kinder eyes, and say dear God I was a beautiful thing.”

Hindsight

It’s easy to look with hindsight and see circumstances differently.

That internal critic seems ridiculous looking back. Did I really think I was fat?

Midlife could be a time when you finally have the wisdom to be less critical of yourself, admire all that you’ve accomplished in your lifetime and believe you can create a future that is fulfilling.

However…

How many times recently have you thought I should be able to loose weight?

How many times have you thought if only I could {fill in the blank} I’d be happy.

Sadly, many at midlife still have not outgrown the critic.

Proverbs 3:12

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

Hope deferred feels more like sadness to me. Hoping to lose weight is making me sad, as is hoping for a new truck or for things to be different.

Wisdom is realizing what you’re actually longing for.

What you really want is the way being skinny (or what ever you hope for) will make you feel.

Feeling fulfilled

I have found at the root of what makes midlife women miserable, is the need to feel fulfilled.

So how can you feel fulfilled? First stop looking for something external or an ideal circumstance to be fulfilling.

It won’t come from a scale, or driving down the road in a brand new truck with leather seats.

The fulfillment you are longing for isn’t in the past either… wanting to be as fat as you once thought you were.

What if I told you that being fulfilled is within your grasp?

I enjoy working with women who are tired of being hard on themselves, find themselves stuck in the past and want to start enjoying life.

So, don’t waist another day hoping for things to be different.

Being fulfilled is within. I can help you ditch the internal critic to discover what your heart is really longing for.

Schedule a chat with me by visiting my calendar link to pick a date/time that works for you.

Here’s to the best years ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her wiring “YES” in the sky!

Won’t ask for help, but need to be heard and understood

Posted on April 25, 2023 by tiffany

I have a theory. Women aren’t necessarily going to ask for help, but need to be heard and understood.

My husband often gets frustrated with me when I share whatever I’m upset about. He feels like he should fix it. And honestly, unloading grievances often sounds like a cry for help. So I avoid using him as a sound board.

I have found that many women are accustomed to keeping their emotions bottled up and less likely to ask for help.

So, I posed this question on Instagram.

“Women, do you want help or do you just want to be heard?”

I thought I knew the answer, but was surprised to learn that women want both.

Lots of women want to be heard and understood, but also want help. My friend Vicki, who is a giver, wondered if she was actually taking an opportunity to give away from someone by not asking for help. My friend Leslie thoughtfully added that she needs to be heard for true connection, but likes physical help. And there are times when a spiritual or mental issue is done alone, after being heard.

When was the last time you asked for help?

I’m sure you know to ask for help if you need a tree cut down, or help moving furniture.

You might hire a coach if you need to get in shape, or want to start a new business.

But when was the last time you asked for help facing all the changes that happen in midlife.. a heartbreaking downsize, explaining your new role in social situations, etc. You might need a push to pursue a dream, but have never talked through the obstacles that are preventing you from moving forward.

A midlife crisis doesn’t always show up driving a red sports car. From what I see a “midlife crisis” shows up quietly in an empty nest or an empty calendar that was once overbooked.

You may have never considered asking for help for what you are experiencing. It is hard to put a finger on the problem, and can even feel silly. You finally have free time and a little financial freedom, but you can’t seem to explain why you’re so lonely and dread the future.

Finding help

Obviously it is not healthy to keep feelings bottled in.

You don’t need to be fixed, you just need someone to listen to you and help you clarify your thoughts.

I understand and want to provide a trusted sound board for you. I believe you can move from dreading each day to believing your best years are ahead.

I’d love to help you create a vision for your future. Visit my calendar link and schedule a free consultation.

I am also considering a weekly gathering at The Coop for those who want to support each other through midlife changes. It could be an opportunity to share weekly highs and lows in a group setting. Let me know what you think… a coffee hour, a happy hour… I am open to suggestions.

Here’s to believing our best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Buy The Weird Stuff

Posted on February 28, 2023 by tiffany

“Yep, buy the weird stuff. Buy the stuff that makes people go, “What is that?” Buy the stuff that makes your home the best estate sale when you die” ~ Author unknown.

Jeff and I recently took a quick trip to San Diego. I love travel!

I dipped my toes in the ocean, visited family, ate great food, etc. Even though the weather was weirdly cold and rainy, it was good to experience another part of the country!

Even so, I am surprisingly happy to BE home.

Your own brand of weird

It makes my heart happy to be surrounded by the weird stuff that tells my plucky story.

Midlife has afforded me the gift of truly appreciating my story. I finally invested time into getting to know what makes me thrive… creating spaces, offering hospitality and inspiring others.

Coming to terms with who I am has fueled a desire to help you discover your own brand of weird. I want to to give you permission to invest in your story.

Flown The Coop

Flown The Coop exists to create spaces, offer hospitality and inspire others.

Shopping with Flown The Coop will help you create spaces that tell your story. I am working hard to source items that can’t be found on Amazon, including the vintage and antique items you would expect, as well as handmade and small brands.

Flown The Coop will also be a creative space for connecting with kindred spirits! There will be classes on a variety of topics and skills you might not have tried before, including ways you can share your story through offering hospitality.

As a certified life coach, I will continue to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead with coaching sessions. The store will also feature items that inspire you to discover what makes you thrive.

Coming soon!

This vision will come together on March 25th for a Grand Reopening.

Hope to see you then. I’d love to learn about your story!

Here’s to buying the weird stuff and being your own brand of weird!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

This song hit a cord

Posted on January 30, 2023 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach. Helping women believe their best years are ahead. — You can buy yourself flowers.

You can’t scroll through Instagram without hearing Miley Cyrus’s new song Flowers in all the latest REELS. This song has hit a cord for me, not in an angry man-hating way, but in an empowered healthy way.

It definitely runs on repeat in my head. I’m singing it in the shower, while I’m doing dishes and humming it at random times.

I don’t want Jeff to get the wrong idea, but I love singing it.

I went down a rabbit hole reading tabloid articles about why Miley wrote the song. Many say it was in response to her failed marriage or a comeback to Bruno Mar’s song When I Was Your Man.

Either way, it doesn’t explain why it hit a cord with me.

What’s wrong with me?

I hate to admit this, but I used to make Jeff responsible for my emotions. I constantly needed to feel connected, to be entertained and affirmed. At the root, I had a gut feeling that I was not lovable. Wow! That’s a heavy load for Jeff to carry.

Yeah, I love it when sweet Jeff brings me flowers. But if he doesn’t show up with the flowers, I don’t make it mean that there is something wrong with me.

Of course we need relationships

Love and connection are two of the six basic human needs.

However, you may feel miserable if you’re thinking…

If only my husband would (fill in the blank)

My children don’t (fill in the blank)

No one sees what I do for them.

You might not want to hear this, but we never really show up in ways that are easy to be around when we have thoughts that make us feel sad, lonely or miserable,

Maybe you just want a hug, but it’s hard to hug a prickly cactus.

The relationship that changed

Miley’s song is a celebration for me.

My relationship with myself changed, and has made my relationship with Jeff incredible.

For the first time in my life I am comfortable in my own skin, know at a deep level that my life has meaning and understand what’s going on internally when I’m upset.

Jeff’s no longer responsible for that heavy load.

Now, I can buy myself flowers just because it makes me smile. I have dance parties in my kitchen when no ones looking and spend hours journaling in an attempt to understand myself. I actually love my own company now.

That shift is SO empowering!

Buy yourself flowers

So, how do you shift?

I work with clients all the time who are not even aware of the beliefs that are dictating how they show up in relationships.

If you are tired of feeling lonely, unappreciated, unlovable (or any combination of emotions), I would love to help you.

Once you shift from feeling like a victim to becoming empowered, Miley’s song will hit a new cord for you too.

You will want to buy yourself flowers! Write your name in the sand…talk to yourself for hours…

You will take yourself dancing because YOU can love YOU better…. And you should.

Here’s to celebrating YOU!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Spread your wings and soar

Posted on November 21, 2022 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helps women believe their best years are ahead.

Far too many people sit on the sidelines of life. Given the chance to spread your wings and soar, would you choose the safety of what you know instead, even when it’s uncomfortable?

Midlife is the chance to create magic for yourself, to even go a completely different direction in the second half of life.

Why on earth would you not seize this season, an opportunity to create the life you’ve always wanted?

What is clipping your wings?

The biggest reason you don’t take flight is a resistance to change. It’s scary.

Almost everyone I’ve worked with has felt as if they were at a crossroads, but are stuck thinking the following…

What will their family and friends say?

They’re thinking, “now what” because they’re not sure of what they want or who they want to be.

The fear of failure keeps them from moving forward with any ideas. To make it worse, some even think they’re too old to try something new.

Many feel lonely and unsupported, while other people seem to have it all together on social media.

Some feel hopeless and depressed as if they can’t see past the hand they’ve been dealt.

What do you have to believe to spread your wings and soar?

You have to believe that your best years are ahead.

Suffering is optional. As a life coach, I help women identify their resistance and think differently about their future.

I’d love to help you stop waisting precious time on the sidelines. You still have a lifetime to create, dreams to discover, hobbies to explore and personal goals to realize. It’s not time to rest in a rocker on the front porch of life. If you rest, you rust.

There is purpose and meaning in this season. I believe YOUR best years are ahead!

If you are ready to spread your wings, schedule a FREE chat with me today by visiting my calendar link. OR if you are local, let’s meet for coffee. Message me if that sounds good!

Here’s to flying free and soaring into the future!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Another Freakin Diet

Posted on November 14, 2022 by tiffany

Another freakin diet

How many diets have you tried in your lifetime? How many times have you started over?

I started a fitness journey in March 2019. At my best shape, when I felt great in my own skin, I had lost twenty pounds and major inches in all the key areas. Three years later, I am two pounds heavier than when I started in 2019.

There are lots of reasons that I let myself slide into unhealthy habits. I can almost pinpoint when my attitude shifted and it became harder to get back to the routine that delivered great results.

The underlying belief that sabotages my best intentions is that I want it to be easy. I was told in my early teens that I will battle my weight the rest of my life, so I better get used to diets and exercise.

There are two ways I could have internalized those words. I developed a belief that healthy habits was something to dread, but I could have developed habits that became lifestyle I enjoyed.

Success in creating the life you want is determined by how you choose to think about it.

This morning I woke up with dread. It’s the first day of another freakin diet.

Instead of letting that thought fester, I journaled.

Yes, I am starting over where I started three years ago. I have lots of regrets.

However, I am capable of sticking with a lifestyle that includes exercise and making good choices. I’ve done it before. Time to flip the script!

The reason I am starting this journey AGAIN is that I want to experience wellness and feel great in the second half of my life. Right now I am feeling the affects of my bad choices.

I am not starting another diet. I am creating a wellness lifestyle to avoid endless doctor appointments and the inevitable decline in health that most people accept with aging. It actually feels rebellious, which gets my butt off the couch to do the HIIT workout I had planned to do today.

What is your reason?

It is important for you to become aware of your beliefs that sabotage your best intentions.

It is equally important to know the reason you want to start something new.

After talking through her thoughts about weight loss, one of my clients realized that she feared missing out on fun and that after the newness wore off she would get bored with her diet. She decided that her intention moving forward would simply be, “I am healthy. A healthy me is a happy me, and I choose happy me.”

Another client was very close to hitting her goal weight and just wanted to be done. She reframed her thoughts and chose to think, “I’m just getting started.” It was not the end of her journey as a healthy fit woman. Actually, she is just getting started.

Are you ready to get started?

I help women stop wasting precious time upset about midlife, and start believing their best years are ahead. My clients conquer self sabotage in numerous areas of life.

You may know what you want, but something is holding you back.

If you feel stuck getting started, I can help you move past your resistance with confidence.

You can create your life, but you have to get started. Are you ready?

I’d love to chat with you about your new beginning. Schedule a free consultation with me today. Simply click on my calendar link and pick a time/date that works for you.

Here’s to new beginnings AGAIN! And believing the best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Hiding in plain sight

Posted on June 8, 2022 by tiffany

Are you hiding your gifts in plain sight? Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helps women find the reasons they are hiding and inspires them to explore what makes them feel alive.

Scrolling through Facebook the other day, I was drawn to a story of a violinist playing in the New York subway. Turns out he was the famous Joshua Belle. No one who passed him by knew or appreciated his gift of music. Although he played at a sold out theater in Boston two days before, this performance only earned him $30 in the subway. The violinist was hiding in plain sight.

I had a client this week tell me she had been hiding in plain sight. She struggled with spelling as a child. Instead of getting help, she found ways to accommodate and hide it. She has a brilliant mind, but allowed this one area to hold her back.

She was not the only one to make that statement. My business coach pointed out to me that I had been hiding in plain sight. I do the things that I’m good at, but not the things that actually move the needle in my coaching business. OUCH! I thoroughly enjoy writing and sharing my life on social media… but God forbid if I actually talk to women about midlife.

Talking to Jeff about this idea of hiding in plain sight, he reminded me of his desire to play the cello. There is a physical therapist at his hospital who also teaches Cello lessons. He has never met her, just knows about her. This mystery woman makes him wonder what gifts his coworkers have that he’d never know about.

Well, what does hiding in plain sight really mean?

Maybe you just feel that your gifts are not appreciated, so you’d rather not share them.

Do you have beliefs about your abilities that prevent you from stepping into things you’ve always wanted to do?

Are you only doing what comes easy and avoiding what is challenging?

Do your coworkers or friends know that you play the cello or create works of art in your spare time?

The good news

Midlife is the perfect time to share your gifts with a world that desperately needs people who choose vitality.

The gift of midlife is having time to roam, and to be surprised to learn something new about yourself in the process.

What could you get lost for hours doing?

Are you hiding in plain sight?

I’m not just hiding behind my writing. I’d actually love to chat with you about the areas of your life that you’re hiding in plain sight.

I’d love to help you first find the reasons you’re hiding, and then inspire you to explore what makes you feel alive.

If this is you, I have made it easy! Either reach out to me on any of my social media platforms or use my calendar link to schedule a time that works for you.

Here’s to the gift of midlife and allowing our gifts to shine!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Dancing with your dreams

Posted on May 30, 2022 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, helping women make it through midlife without a crisis. — Revival Mercantile, Brenham, Texas

After closing my store four years ago, I never thought I’d get back on the dance floor with my antique dream. Yet, here I am dancing with my dreams.

Coaching women who are struggling to see their next step has taught me the importance of following your bliss. It is not a cliché, clients really do come alive when they discover who they are and what makes them feel alive.

My bliss is found in creating spaces, offering hospitality and inspiring others. I especially feel alive when I am hunting for unique pieces, and then working them into a beautiful space for others to enjoy.

Revival Mercantile

My unique finds have found a home at Revival Mercantile in Brenham, Texas. Stacy, the store owner, hosts a community of creators on the second floor of her historic building that once bottled soda. The brick walls and hardwood floors are the perfect backdrop.

I love Revival’s mission statement… Our carefully curated collections tell your story and honor your journey.

“It’s not what I do, it’s who I am.” Maverick

Creating spaces isn’t what I do, it’s who I am. It’s more than a soul sucking job, but a chance to offer my spark of creativity.

There is a danger in confusing what you do with your identity. I follow retirement groups that regularly discuss the fear of retiring and loosing the identity they’ve held for decades. That fear sadly implies that retirement is a dead end and not an opportunity to dance with dormant dreams.

I believe it’s important to get to know yourself, to follow your bliss until you land in a beautiful spot that sets your soul on fire! It’s really about offering the world what only you can offer.

Can you feel the difference?

It’s your chance to dance

I invite you to join me on the dance floor of life. You are not a wallflower.

This is your season to follow your bliss, to discover who you are when you are dancing with your dreams.

What are the things you’ve put off trying? If making money was not the priority, what would you pursue?

It is not the season to live vicariously through others. If you need a little nudge out on the dance floor, I can help.

I invite you to schedule a consultation… a chat to see if working with me is a good fit for your journey. Simply reach out to me or use my calendar link to pick a time/date that works for you.

Here’s to following your bliss on the dance floor! It’s a revival! 🙂

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

What is keeping you stuck

Posted on May 23, 2022 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach, helping women make it through midlife without a crisis. In this blog, she talks about not being a pansy, but a dandelion.

I’ve been journaling about my inability to get in shape. Well, you can’t actually get in shape if you are avoiding exercise and having too many cocktails. What is keeping me stuck?

I vacillate between dreading the workouts and loathing myself for not doing the workouts, two sides of the same coin… shame.

Thoughts are self-fulling prophesies. Somewhere along the way I had a thought that this should be easy.

When it is not easy, it becomes easier to to avoid, to retreat from my goals and to give up.

I’m not a pansy. I’m a dandelion.

The thought that I am not a pansy… I am a dandelion will kick my butt back in shape.

Feel free to use the thought too, especially if you feel stuck.

You have done hard things, so have I.

Pansies represent loving feelings, but as a delicate flower has a reputation for weakness.

Dandelions are determined and can grow anywhere in any condition. Although this flower is considered a weed, it has been used to symbolize light, hope, and healing for centuries. Blowing on dandelion puffs feels playful, offering a hint of longevity as the seeds of hope are spread on the wind.

Can you see yourself as a dandelion?

Do you feel determined to become the woman you can admire, or are you avoiding the desires of your heart because you think it should be easier?

I am going on record. I’m officially ditching the narrative that it should be easier and embracing the discomfort of getting back in shape. I value longevity and wellness, standing strong and being proud of how I show up for life. I am worth the effort… and so are you!

Let’s cheer each other on!

You are not a delicate flower and can do hard things too!

You’re a dandelion, the underdog of humble strength that offers abundant hope.

If this resonates with you, let’s cheer each other on. I’d love to hear about your journey.

However, if you are vacillating between dread and loathing yourself, I can help you! My clients are experiencing success in becoming the hero of their own story. It helps to have someone listen to your story and help you see where you are stuck, and then get you on the road to creating the life YOU really want.

I invite you to schedule a consultation… a chat to see if working with me is a good fit for your journey. Simply reach out to me or use my calendar link to pick a time/date that works for you.

Here’s to becoming a strong, determined dandelion.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky