Finally, ditch the audition of other people’s opinion

Posted on February 8, 2021 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of midlife reinvention and certified life coach, encouraging YOU to ditch the audition and define the role YOU want to play in the universal story.

Have you spent your whole life trying to measure up? Finally, midlife is the perfect time to ditch the audition of other people’s opinion and decide YOUR role in the universal story.

Far too many midlife women I speak to are stuck thinking do I belong or struggling with the idea that they are either not enough or too much. These fears keep you on the sideline of life, or worse allow others to define your life.

“If your aim is to prove I am ‘enough,’ the project goes on to infinity because the battle was already lost on the day I conceded the issue was debatable.” ~ Nathaniel Brandon

Decide you are in, and definitely not put yourself out!

The audition

According to Victoria Castle in her book The Trance of Scarcity,

“The trouble is, most of us are convinced that we didn’t make the cut, that we don’t belong, so we spend all our time either auditioning for other’s approval, hoping we’ll be included, or pretending not to care wether we’re in or out.

I spent my whole life auditioning for the parts that I felt would make me feel significant. The audition has shown up in my life in a variety of ways. Maybe you can relate.

In high school I was friends with everyone, but never really fit in a specific group. I was in the background feeling that I didn’t quite belong. After high school I decided that I could start over as a confident outgoing person.

Funny story, while in technical school for the Air Force, I showed up to a community room and boldly announced that I was going to the movies, inviting all who wanted to join me. Jeff took me up on the offer and we’ve been together ever since.

Over time, I allowed the feeling of not belonging to sneak back into my social life. It took me nearly fifty years to ditch the audition of other people’s opinions and define the role I wanted to play in the universal story.

Popularity Contest

Social media artificially creates roles for us to audition. Not many people display their crazy on their social media platforms, but curate their life as to win a popularity contest. If you are not careful, you’ll measure your worth in followers, friends, likes, emojis, etc.

The popularity contest showed up in nearly every business I attempted. Believing business is some kind of popularity contest that I had no chance winning, I took myself out of the game on numerous occasions. I now appreciate the valuable contribution I have to offer and see how I can serve others instead of win their approval.

You may not be business minded, but I bet you can think of ways this sneaky contest shows up in midlife if you let it.

Other People’s Opinions

As I explained in my blog article: The Gift That Keeps On Giving, midlife is a gift. Not only is it be a season of financial, time and failure freedom; it could be the season you start living for your own opinion.

If you are living in fear of other people’s opinion, you are assuming to know what they think.

First of all honey, they aren’t thinking of you. Studies have shown that most people are really only thinking of their own life. They are spending more time judging themselves than they judge you.

When you are worried what other people think, it is because you assume and fear the opinion they are thinking is true.

Society expectations

I am dedicated to those who can’t be caged, living a life of a Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit.

I’ve never fit in a box. It used to bother me, but now I embrace it.

There are numerous was society might have boxed you in. Pressures to get married, not to get married; have kids, not to have kids; homeschool versus public education; go to college or the school of hard knocks; retire or stay in a soul sucking job…. Get the picture?

Midlife is the season you can finally defy the cage and define who you want to be.

End the audition in three steps

1. Life is not a popularity contest when you genuinely love who you are. I am proof that when you show up as your true self, you attract the people who are meant to be in your life. Ask Jeff.

2. Create, and recreate, the role you want to play in the universal story. There are no society rules or opinions that matter, but your own. Define your life from within.

3. Simply get past your own bullshit story by listening to the stirring of your soul.

Will you accept YOUR part?

If your soul is stirring, I want to encourage you to end the audition!

So many women I work with are at the precipice of change and need to pivot, but worry about what other people think of them or fear they won’t belong. I can help!

Schedule a FREE session to chat with me about rising above your midlife bullshit, including the opinion of others. I can help you identify where you are, the lies you are believing and how to navigate forward.

It is time you defined midlife and the role you play in the universal story. If you hang with me long enough I will convince you that your best days are ahead.

Here’s to a life defined within!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

The Gift That Keeps On Giving

Posted on January 31, 2021 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women get past their midlife BS to create an amazing 2nd half. — CIRCA 2008 – biker babe season

The gift that keeps on giving. No, I’m not talking about a STD, but a life season that first appears as a quandary, but is actually a gift.

Let me explain…

When you think of midlife do you first think of crisis? These days a midlife crisis is not reserved for men in their 40’s and 50’s, but women are also throwing all caution to the wind for what makes them feel young and carefree. Not to be outdone, the millennials are now claiming a quarter life crisis for different reasons. GEESH.

So, what is this really all about? According to John Mayer, it might just be a stirring of the soul. The quandary seems to be, am I living it right?

Ditching responsibility for fun seems to be the answer to the stirring of the soul at midlife, at least for those souls who misunderstand the gift.

Biker Babe

Ditching responsibility certainly felt right while on the back of Jeff’s Harley Davidson riding through the Blue Ridge Mountains with the wind blowing through my hair.

Ok I’ll admit, I had my own melt down in my early 40’s. Jeff and I were dealing with the housing crash of 2008. Real estate investing was yet another business I tried and failed at. It was a very stressful time for both of us.

Thankfully, we were able to ride out the stress together, on the back of Jeff’s Harley. I loved escaping life on his Harley! I felt like a badass biker babe in all my leather gear.

Harley Davidson has some of the best commercials. And just like this commercial, Jeff and I were going where the wind took us, believing in going our own way. It was a time to buck the system that was built to smash individuals like bugs on a windshield. And God knows I wanted to stick it to the MAN! OH, FREEDOM! {Jeff might come home to a new Harley… forgot how much I loved it}

The problem was that when we returned home from trips to the Blue Ridge Mountains, we still had major problems to solve.

The Gift

This biker babe believes that midlife is what you make it, and it can be one hell of a ride! It is THE gift that keeps on giving if you choose to believe your best years are ahead.

If life expectancy is around 100, you may have approximately 50 years of life ahead, with the invaluable advantage of life experience behind you. Think about it.

What are the gifts of midlife?

1. Financial Freedom

Generally speaking, midlife is a season with more disposable income than ever before.

I can remember balancing the checkbook after Jeff got paid as a young airmen in the Air Force. We often had $15 to our name for the next two weeks, of which we’d go get pizza. Thank God, thirty years later we don’t have the pressure of lack. Jeff and I make more money than we could have imagined in our twenties.

On top of earning more than we once thought was possible; Jeff and I have learned from our epic financial failures. Don’t get me wrong, I am still uncovering faulty money beliefs, but I have the time and resources to work through them!

The gift of midlife is that you can afford to relax the fear of lack, using your well earned financial maturity to fully live. So, there is money to travel or invest in hobbies, or take off on a Harley!

2. Time Freedom

Even though the house is eerily quiet, you’ll notice this season offers autonomy.

The kids have flown the coop {or you did – see my story}. You are retired, or close to it. Although, I found that I am getting up earlier than I did when I was forced to follow a schedule, there really is no need for an alarm clock.

Once you get past the shock of an empty nest, you start to fill your time with things you’ve always wanted to do. There is now freedom to develop your own circadian rhythm and to explore what sets your heart free.

God forbid the kiddos move back home, then move out, then move back home, and finally move out again. You LOVE them, but you start to thoroughly enjoy freedom of time!

3. Failure Freedom {aka wisdom}

We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. ~Marcel Proust

Hopefully, you have figured out by midlife that a failure is just a stepping stone, a lesson learned. You aren’t a failure because you have a set back. It is an event.

Ok, I know you don’t get a mystic pass from failures at midlife. It is naive to think you can avoid them, but failure do not paralyze you any longer.

In addition to midlife wisdom, the opinions of others simply don’t factor into our choices as much as they once did. What other people think of your decisions is none of your business. In fact, some of us badass midlife women relish in giving “them” something to talk about! {ok… maybe that’s just me}

You get it, but can’t quite embrace it

You may want an interesting life, just without the midlife crisis. Me too! Although, I am scheming ways to get Jeff a new Harley, so we can escape into the sunset. 🤔

Viewing midlife as a gift might make sense, but are you still unsure that you can embrace it? Is there still a sneaky feeling that you missed the window of opportunity, as if dreams are reserved for the youth?

This is where I can help! As a master of reinvention, I can help you get past your own bullshit to believe it is possible to create your life. If you hang out with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!

I offer a FREE session to those of you who have a stirring in your soul. I’d love to chat with you about where you are currently and where you’d like your life to be. I can help you rise about your own BS to start creating!

As always, I am dedicated to those who can’t be caged. Here’s to midlife freedom, the gift that keeps on giving!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Can you teach an old dog new tricks?

Posted on January 24, 2021 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead. Her husband Jeff, teaching an old dog new tricks.

Can you teach an old dog new tricks? In fact, the inter-webs says yes…. “adult dogs are often easier to train than their younger canine friends specifically because they aren’t as active… ability to concentrate helps them learn new routines more easily.”

Granted, I know your life can’t be compared to a canine’s.

Can’t teach an old dog new tricks is a saying applied to a person who is unwilling to learn something new. They might be stuck in their ways, or overwhelmed by change.

The person this applies to is doggedly determined in their inability…. But that’s not you. Right?

Learning the Cello at 50

I asked Mr. Flown The Coop if he thought you could teach an old dog new tricks? Y’all, Jeff just bought himself a cello to learn at 50 years young. He quickly replied, “Well, it depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it.” I hope he continues to put effort in learning the cello, cuz that trick is so HOT!

Can you remember when you learned to walk? Yeah, me neither. It is incredible what we are able to learn in a lifetime, most of which is likely now taken for granted.

When you say you are too old for something new, are you actually thinking, I missed my window of opportunity? Are dreams and new tricks only for the youth?

No time like the present

I’m just full of cliches this week! What would you start today if you didn’t allow age to hold you back?

In the bestseller The Last Lecture, Randy Pausch shares his childhood dreams that he was able to realize later in life. His innate curiosity and determination allowed to him to experience zero gravity in Nasa’s Weightless Wonder, meet Captain Kirk and spend a sabbatical as a Disney Imagineer… just to name a few.

I thought to myself after reading Randy’s stories from a life cut short, “I don’t want to waist time.” There’s no time like the present to live an interesting life… age really has nothing to do with it.

Would you like to make new friends, there’s no time like the present.

Want to reach your ideal weight, there’s no time like the present.

Thinking about a new career or business, there’s no time like the present.

Dreaming about a destination, book the flight!

Get past your BS

“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting sick of their own bullshit.” Elizabeth Gilbert.

You might be thinking, Tiff you don’t understand, I am too old to learn {fill in the blank}. By the way, age is one of a million possible bullshit excuses that can prevent you from trying.

I’ve been in your shoes, but have pivoted. I am learning that creating something new in life is possible when you learn to think new thoughts.

The tricks

Are you feeling convicted? It isn’t my plan to make you feel lousy, but to push you to think.

Is it unrealistic to learn new skills, create new habits or try something new in midlife?

What would you attempt today if you believed you were not too old?

Is crappy thinking in your way?

These are areas that I can help you with. I know what it is like to admit a limitation and to be overwhelmed by the prospect of learning a new skill, but also have felt the yearning to explore possibilities. I choose to explore!

Midlife is a gift. There is so much freedom (financial, time, patience, wisdom, etc) in this season of our life.

Even though I am no spring chicken {couldn’t resist another cliche}, I’m here to tell you anything is possible! Let’s chat about YOUR possibilities! I offer a FREE mini session for midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead.

Simply click the link below and choose a date and time on my calendar that works for you. It really is that simple.

Here’s to new tricks!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

I can’t wait to meet ya!

Posted on January 18, 2021 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead. In this blog she discusses being future focused. Ever wonder about her, Can't wait to meet ya!

Dear Tiff (because that is what I call myself), I can’t wait to meet ya!

Can you remember what was important to you last year? Are you a little unsure of what you want to create for your life in 2021? Let me share with you a future focused practice that will help you stay in touch with where you’ve been and who you want to become.

In 2019, at a Tony Robbins event, I wrote a letter to myself at the end of a few intense days. I was full of powerful optimism. It felt great!

When I wrote the letter, I sealed it up and handed it to a staff member at the event, who promised to send the letter to me at a random date. I can’t tell you how fun it was to open the letter from myself.

In that letter I promised myself a few things. I’m proud to say that I actually followed through with becoming a certified life coach with The Life Coach School. I pressed the “enroll” button on their website while sitting in my hotel room late at night after committing to my future during the event. The final line of that letter was, “Above all – keep fucking going.” And I did.

A tradition is born…. can’t wait to meet ya!

On January 15, 2020 I decided to write another letter to my future self. Again, I was full of optimism with big dreams. That’s the way I like it!

I give myself a HUGE pass for 2020. There was no way to predict how our world would implode. One of my favorite lines of the 2020 letter is, “No more leading a life of quiet desperation. You are a solution seeker.” And I was.

This year I wrote another letter with the thought, can’t wait to meet ya!

Building a relationship with yourself

Do you have a relationship with your past, present and future self? Building this relationship is a wonderful way to create the life you’ve always wanted.

I am extremely compassionate with who I was January 15, 2020. Poor girl had no idea what fresh hell she would have to endure on a daily basis. One thing I can say about her is that she plugged into growth and embraced the journey. What can you say about your January 2020 self? Be kind to your past self. Despite all the failures, I bet you learned valuable lessons along the way.

Living in the now is an extremely helpful skill to learn. The Bible says to not worry about tomorrow, it will take care of itself. Your future self is encouraging you to build the skills today that she will need in the future. So, get busy creating!

What will your future self think about you a year from now? Will she be proud of what you attempted or how you grew? I guarantee if you start thinking about her, you will show up differently today. What is important to her? What do you need to learn today to set her up for success?

Write the letter

Writing a letter to your future self each January is a pivotal way to learn about yourself from year to year.

I had forgotten what was important to me in 2019 and then at the beginning of 2020. I realigned with some of my past ambitions and pivoted from some that no longer serve me.

Writing a letter to your future self is a valuable tradition. It’s a chance to write from the heart to the person you know yourself to BE. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

Offer compassion to your past self

High five your accomplishments

Explain what is important to you today (in the now).

Share your goals with her

Tell her how you will work on for her behalf

What do you enjoy and hope to add to your life during the year? Any adventures you hope to take her on?

What relationships will you foster?

Your future self will thank you!

I can speak from the receiving side of a letter, and am grateful to my past self for caring about me.

I hope my letter tradition will inspire you to write your own letters to the woman you will be in January 2022. This practice can inspire you to act on her behalf today. It can become a tradition you look forward to each year as a marker of your personal evolution.

Becoming future minded allows you to aim for possibilities. Your future self will thank you!

I concluded my January 2022 letter with, “I hope you will be proud of me. Can’t wait to meet ya.” XOXO Tiff

On a side note: It was magical when I received a letter from myself after the Tony Robbins event in 2019. I am offering to hold your letters until the end of December 2021. If you send me your letter sealed in a self addressed stamped envelope, I will drop it in the mail in late December.

Send to: Tiffany Eckhardt, P.O. Box 174, Burton, Texas 77835

I can help

It is my goal to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead. Writing a letter to your future self is just one of the tools I use to help women get in touch with who they are and how they want to show up in the world.

Are you a little unsure of what you want to create in your life?

I’d love to chat with you about creating a future from the future with exciting growth.

I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious how a life coach can help build a bridge to the life you want. Click on the link below to view my calendar, then click a date and time that works for you. It really is as simple as that!

Here’s to a year of working towards who we know we can be! I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to meet her!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Discarded Places

Posted on January 11, 2021 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life coach and master of reinvention helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Discarded places

I have an affinity for discarded places. Abandoned homes offer scope for the imagination. I often wonder what story they could tell?

Jeff and I have restored numerous homes in the past thirty years. My favorite two homes started out as irredeemable projects. The first house sheltered numerous dogs no one knew existed until the family moved out. The second house we affectionally named the cat house. The former owner was a recluse who let cats overrun the home. Imagine how these two houses smelled when we purchased them. Our friends and family thought we had lost our minds, believing the homes were tearer downers instead of a fixer uppers.

Restoring homes often cost more and took more time than expected. We never worked from a plan, the creative process kept us going.

In hindsight, would we have took on these discarded places? Yes. The hard work and the cost was always worth it. Our first home won an award for the most improved property in 1998. The second home I mentioned was on the Champaign County Preservation Alliance 2007 Home & Garden Tour.

Discarded dreams

Discarded homes reminds me of abandoned dreams.

Do suffer grief from ignoring dreams that once whispered to your heart? What stories do your discarded dreams tell?

Are you ready to tell a different story? As Dr. Christiane Northrup explains in her book Goddesses Never Age, midlife women begin to “realize they’re no longer willing to put their dreams on hold and live according to what everyone around them wants.”

Restoration

I learned restoration is always possible with our irredeemable projects.

Trust your intuition. Your dream won’t scream for attention. It is often a knowing, a yearning. Pay attention to the yearnings and allow your creative juices to flow.

Can you allow your imagination to explore the possibilities? I recommend giving your dreams a voice by journaling them.

Don’t dwell

Jeff and I never dwell on the what ifs or the hows. Oh, the stories I could tell! Throwing caution to the wind has created a few doozy mistakes, but also allowed us to experience a few fairy book stories like how we landed in Burton, Texas in 2014.

Worry is a misuse of the imagination and kills dreams. If you find yourself dwelling on a dream instead of pursuing it, get curious. Could you be indulging in worry? Mathew 6:27 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

Hope brings restoration. If it is on your heart, move toward the dream. Don’t worry about the “how”. As Marie Forleo famously says, “Everything is figure-outable.”

Master of reinvention

My life is built on renovated places. I am the master of reinvention. I’ve had the heart ache of walking away from a dream when it came to it’s natural end, but rarely a heart ache from a dream not pursued.

It is my goal to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

If you have a whisper tugging at your heart, I can help!

Does your life resemble the abandoned home with scope for the imagination? Let’s restore your discarded dreams or create new ones. I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious how I can help. Check out my calendar link below to pick a date and time that works for you!

Here’s to renovating those discarded places! Let’s find out what is possible.

~Tiffany Eckhardt

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

How do you flush a shitty year with a broken crapper?

Posted on January 2, 2021 by tiffany

It’s hard to flush a shitty year with a broken crapper. True story! The year 2020 was not easy for the easily offended and neither is my first blog article of 2021.

This is probably TMI, but my New Years Eve ordeal is too ironic and funny not to share. As a result of Jeff and I switching to a primarily plant based diet, I broke the toilet on New Years Eve. It wouldn’t flush.

Bless my heart, I tried to fix the crapper before Jeff got home from work, but it was not budging. Just so you know, dish soap and baking soda only creates a sudsy mess.

So, before we could go to dinner at the fancy restaurant we had a reservation, Jeff had to to put on rubber gloves and fix the toilet.

How could we start the year hoarding toilet paper and end it with a broken crapper? I actually saw the humor in it. You just can’t make this shit up.

How do you flush a shitty year?

Make a list of highlights.

First of all, I don’t think the year 2020 was completely awful. I am willing to bet you can remember a few highlights. I journaled a few of mine and was pleasantly surprised to have quite a list.

Write a letter to your past self.

One thing I learned in 2020 was to have compassion for myself when I was in despair or lonely. I have learned to forgive myself when I know I messed up. On the flip side I am truly grateful to my past self for showing up for growth. I am proud of how I learned to manage my mind during the ups and downs.

Make a list of lessons you learned.

Tony Robbins often says life isn’t happening to you, but for you. You never really fail when you learn in the process. So, what did you learn in 2020?

What if your best years are ahead?

It is my mission to help more women, especially midlife women, believe their best years are ahead. One of my 2021 goals is to help 21 women a month create their best lives.

Now that 2020 is officially down the drain, put the past in perspective. Once you are able to reframe your past, you are able to create from the future.

It is so important to learn to live in the now and honor your future self. What can you do today that your future self will be proud of?

Will she quit or self sabotage?

Can you chose HER, the woman you know yourself to BE?

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Happy New Year Ageless Goddess!

Here’s to you, the kindred spirit who believe in big dreams, an unstoppable creative and lover of life, giver of hope. Let’s spend 2021 talking about free thinking ideals and pursue wellness of mind, body and spirit.

You’re the kind of woman who wouldn’t let a broken crapper get you down… no, you are indomitable.

I will remain dedicated to those who can’t be caged in 2021. If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

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Do you love choosing her?

Posted on December 13, 2020 by tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife. She helps women believe their best years are ahead.

Do you love choosing her, the woman you know yourself to BE?

Last year I chose a mantra that served me well, “I love the woman I am becoming in 2020,” which turned out to be a year of tremendous growth. Each obstacle that tempted me to quit, I remembered my commitment to my future self, and continued on the journey. I can honestly say that I love who I am today because I fought hard to become her.

I want to see what happens if I don’t give up in 2021. So, I choose a mantra that will inspire me to keep going in the face of any obstacle.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife. She helps women believe her best years are ahead. — I love choosing her!

The inspiration to choose her

Janet, one of my favorite teachers at the Life Coach School, taught a workshop this month called: Turning Obstacles Into Results. This timely workshop focused on an important part of a goal setting process, identifying obstacles ahead of time.

The key to achieving your heart’s desire is to acknowledge that your feelings will wax and wane in the process. Identifying obstacles ahead of time gives you the chance to not only strategize, but understand what you will make that obstacle mean.

Will you make the obstacle mean you are a failure or your dream is impossible? Janet decided that overcoming an obstacle meant that she loved choosing her, the woman who is willing to do hard things to create the life she wants.

Janet inspired me to adopt the mantra “I love choosing her” for 2021. Every time I do something that stretches me, I will proclaim, “I love choosing her,” the woman I know myself to BE!

Keep choosing her

I have used various tools to effectively stay the course; vision boards, Pinterest boards for the word of the year, vision video, affirmations and mantras like my new one for 2021.

Developing a future focus has revolutionized goal setting for me. Don’t get me wrong, I love creating tools like the ones I listed. They just never moved the needle until I learned to create a future from my future.

I understood that 2020 would be a tremendous year of growth as I continually focused on my future self. Moving forward in 2021 I have a strong relationship with my future self and want her to be proud that I stayed the course. I understand that obstacles are not in my path, they are the path. I will choose her on a daily basis.

Setting goals

Will you choose her today, the woman you know yourself to BE? Set her up for success by setting goals.

Wouldn’t it be great if you had clear goals, understood what separated you from your goals and developed strategies that will help you stay the course? Yes! And wouldn’t it be nice if the process was actually fun?

I can help! I’d love to walk you through a goal setting process that I used to achieve my goals for 2020. During one of the most trying years in our history, I became a certified life coach, read fiction books for fun, lost weight, improved key relationships, opened an Airbnb and started a coaching business. One of my clients who went though the goal setting process landed a new job this year.

Schedule a FREE mini session to get all your questions answered. Simply click on the link provided and choose a date and time that works for you.

Don’t ignore your own potential… go for it!

Cheers to choosing HER!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you trust your intuition?

Posted on December 7, 2020 by tiffany

Do you trust your intuition?

Many of my clients are experiencing anxiety about the new year. It seems that something new is brewing, but fear of the unknown in an unpredictable world is paralyzing growth.

Intuition is defined as the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. It’s your knowing. It’s the little voice that you most likely ignore.

Even ancient scriptures encourage you to listen to the voice:

Isaiah 30:21

Wether you turn to your right or to your left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way, walk in it.”

Why don’t you listen to your intuition?

It’s a fair question worth being curious about.

Have you ever experienced a time when you knew what to do, but chose a familiar path to be safe, only to later wish you had listened to that nudge from inside?

Are you afraid of making a mistake or a wrong decision?

Does trusting your inner voice seem dangerous?

Are you afraid of being singled out or standing alone?

Become aware

You and I are conditioned to become the victim of outside influences. It is easier to blame people or circumstances for your inability to create the life you want. It is time to become aware of the familiar thoughts and feelings keeping you from embracing the unknown.

“You are continuously keeping your life the same because you are keeping your attention (thoughts) and your energy (feelings) the same.” Dr. Joe Dispenza

You can take steps away from being the victim of life by becoming aware of your thoughts and feelings.

Practice listening

How much room do you make in your life for the unpredictable, the unknown?

Have you had the urge to journal and meditate? Maybe this is the first bit of intuition you should listen to. These two practices are the best ways to become aware of the thoughts and feelings actually guiding your life.

Journal

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why. Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. Last month I shared my four favorite journal prompts to help you past any resistance. Choosing one of these prompts will help you discover what keeps you victimized to a thinking/feeling loop.

Meditate/Prayer

The best way to turn off the noise of the world is meditation. Slowing down to breath and listen is key.

Start with five minutes of breathing and quiet. Notice when your mind wanders and gently bring it back to the present moment. Don’t judge your inability to sit still. This is totally natural. Slowing down your mind is not only good for your creative juices, but aides in wellness. The more you allow yourself to be still, the easier it gets to rest.

There are so many resources for meditation practices. I use the Insight Timer app to explore different meditation techniques. YouTube offers numerous videos. Sometimes I listen to Pandora’s 528 Hz Miracle Radio for soft background music.

Explore your wisdom

It’s important to protect your ability to listen to your own wisdom. I urge you to turn off your tv. At least limit your exposure to the fear based programing.

It is possible that during these chaotic times you have become addicted to information, which keeps you paralyzed. I confess that at times I have been glued to the information highway, but can tell a huge difference in my life when I listen to my own wisdom.

I realized a shift the other day when I was journaling. I’ve noticed that in the past I looked for a something to deliver my dreams to me, to take care of me. At some point during 2020 I turned inward for the answers. I learned to take responsibility for my own thoughts and feelings. This can be lonely work, but totally freeing.

I believe God created you with an amazing mind. You and I only use a fraction of the mind’s power. God blessed you with unique gifts and talents as well.

Your voice, or intuition, is worth exploring. Can you trust your ability to hear your own voice, your answers within? What is possible in your life is within the unknown!

Unlock the unknown

If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you your best years are ahead.

Navigating these chaotic times is not easy. You may be experiencing anxiety about the new year. I can help!

You do not have to be a victim of your life. You can learn to trust your dreams and discover a new way of thinking, that will allow you to create your life. It is possible to not only embrace the unknown, but to welcome it with enthusiasm.

If you want to walk in creative freedom, schedule a free mini session today. Simply click on the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar.

Here’s to discovering the unknown in your life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!