The First Day Of Your Life

This is the first day of your life... hire Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach.  Tiffany helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

This is the first day of your life.  You hold the power to unfold your future intentionally.  Wouldn’t you rather be building a dream life than waiting to win the lottery?      

Life in the rear view mirror

You and I have cast ourselves into stories, intentionally or unintentionally.  I have spent the past year building my life with purpose.  I am learning to define myself from a vision of the future, rather than memories of the past.    

My old story was sad, even tragic.  I had cast myself as the failure, the girl who never measured up, who quit on my big ideas just short of the vision.  I felt like an underdog, the outcast.  Ultimately, I had the impression that I was cast into an impossible popularity contest, where the winners were all skinny, pretty, rich and smart.  

These beliefs originated internally.  It didn’t take much effort to find evidence to support my beliefs.  In fact, I spent a lifetime accumulating evidence that became my familiar story. 

Let that sink in.  You are living a similar story, with beliefs that simply are not true.  

Reframe

The key to living a victorious life is to identify the lies and reframe them. 

The lies that I internalized were crippling me.  I believed that I was unworthy, unloveable and not capable of creating wealth.  {YES… I want abundance!}

Can you imagine creating anything of value fighting these feelings?

Thank God I have the tools to systematically bust these lies.  This work is so rewarding.  I am now fully responsible for my feelings, believe that I am capable and love the woman I am becoming.  I have a clear vision of my past, present and future self.  

It is possible for you to reframe the lies and fall in love with your life too!

There is a line in my Vision Video that gets me EVERY TIME…

This is the first day of my life

I’m glad I didn’t die before I met you

But now I don’t care, I could go anywhere with you

And I’d probably be happy

Here is my Vision Video that I watch on a daily basis to reframe my past self and create the future I envision.

Believe you are worthy

Do you believe you are worthy?  YOU are the only one who can determine your worth.

If you are like me, you probably spent your life looking for evidence of your worth, only to find more evidence of the story you unintentionally cast yourself in.  

This is the first day of your life.  Take the first step to get to know her, the one who is happy in her own skin.  Invest in falling in love with your life.  You are worth it!  

As the cliche goes, don’t die with the music still in you.  If you can’t believe in your worth for yourself, bathe yourself in this Lauren Daigle song, and just BELIEVE.  

Create the evidence

Honor your future self with compassion for your past and commitment to the present.  Unfold your life intentionally be creating a vision for the future.  

What exactly does that mean?  

Simply ditch the old story based on your past.  When you define yourself by a vision of the future, your mind will work to provide evidence of it’s reality.  You will live to make your future self proud and start to see yourself as the hero in control of your story.   

I am living proof

I’d love to help you.  I am living proof of the possibilities.  

I can relate to your journey and understand the lies that cripple your story, and can assure you that an intentional future is within your grasp.  It is not only rewarding, but fun to fall in love with your life.  

You might be saying to yourself, “Well, sign me up!”

If you want to fall in love with your life and create an intentional future, consider hiring me as your midlife life coach.  If your curious, but unsure, simply schedule a free consultation.  Click the link below and pick a date and time that works for you.  

To offer a little nudge, for those of you who commit to three month coaching package, I will include a Vision Video creation as an added bonus.  Check out my video and the blog article I wrote about it.  My vision video has made an impact on my daily commitment to the woman I am becoming.  

This is the first day of your life.  Here’s to falling in love with life!  You are worthy.  Believe it!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Just say “F’ It”

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Learn how to turn an "F' It" moment into a moment of hope!

Are you willing to vulnerably admit that at times of frustration you just want to say “F’ it”?  Yes, I admit that I use the F word on occasion.  

For instance, I might say it prior to the third glass of wine, or finishing the cake after the kids went to bed.  Does this happen to just me?  

“She realized that vulnerability was easier to wear than vanity.  So she stripped straight down to nothing. And set herself free.”  ~  Cara Alwill Leyba

This week I spent time wondering why the “F’ it” moments happen.  

My F’ It Moment

Recently, at a point when my dreams seem to be on the horizon but still so far out of reach, I had a major “F ’it” moment.  

I had planned my eating protocol for the day.  I knew I’d be meeting friends at my favorite winery, so I planned one glass of wine.  (famously naive)  At the winery, I had my planned glass of wine and then bought a bottle to take home.  When I got home my plans got railroaded, as if I can blame it on the circumstances, and proceeded to drink the bottle too.  The moment I opened the bottle I recall saying to myself, “Fuck it!” (not abbreviated)

The real reason I had a “F’ it” moment was not my evening circumstances.  Frankly, the real reason I felt the need to “F’ it” was my unrealized dreams weighing heavy on my heart ALL DAY.  

The next morning I awoke with the guilt of not honoring my planned protocol, and the familiar shame storm.    

I wrote in my journal:  I can’t seem to catch a mystic break.  God, I’m trusting you.  Please lead me to the gold-mine within.  

Then I came across another poem…  

Surrender

I want to breath in passion like air.  I want to fill my lungs with the magic and lust and possibility only passion brings.  And the feeling that is only available to you when you finally, fully, fiercely surrender.   ~ Cara Alwill Leyba 

Faith   

The absence of evidence is NOT the evidence of its absence.  Surrender to the mystery.

Surrendering is actually saying, “F’ it” in a completely different way.  It is breathing in passion like air and saying to yourself, “this just might work!”  What do you actually have to loose when you choose to believe notwithstanding the absence of evidence?    

Faith is a powerful emotion that helps you believe your dreams are worth pursuing.

It just might work!

The first “F’ it” has no upside.  It is just a familiar way to approach discouragement that leads to guilt and an inevitable shame storm.  Creative solutions are impossible to discover when your energy is consumed by discouragement.  

The second “F’ it” has HUGE upsides.  The thought “what if it works” produces a feeling of hope and leads to massive action.  

Here is what I’ve learned about hope this week:

Hope is not an accident.

You cultivated hope by allowing the mystery.  

The mystery is a little voice that whispers maybe, when the whole world is shouting no.  

This hope is an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.  

Hope is the charged emotion that elevates your dreams.  

Not forced, but ready to see crazy things happen!

What if you gave up entertaining the thoughts that cause fear and discouragement, the thoughts that lead to lack? 

Have compassion on your discouraging thoughts, noticing them without guilt or shame, and then simply release them.  

Surrender to the idea that it just might work, and to the mystery of uncommon creativity.   

This is my life’s work.  

Believing in possibilities and abundance is my super power.  Even when I suffer discouragement, my will to break through will not allow me to wallow in it.  I desire to cultivate a mindset that surrenders to fierce hope.

I am happy to share my journey with you in hopes that it inspires your journey.  As your life coach I will help you to reclaim your life, full of dreams and visions for your best years ahead.  

I’d love to work with you to develop a proper “F’ it” mindset.   

If you regret a recent “F’ it” moment that produced a shame storm, I know I can help you flip it to a “it just might work” mindset.  I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you!  It just might work!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Schedule a FREE mini session to chat about how she can help you!