The First Day Of Your Life

Posted on November 8, 2020 by tiffany

This is the first day of your life. You hold the power to unfold your future intentionally. Wouldn’t you rather be building a dream life than waiting to win the lottery?

Life in the rear view mirror

You and I have cast ourselves into stories, intentionally or unintentionally. I have spent the past year building my life with purpose. I am learning to define myself from a vision of the future, rather than memories of the past.

My old story was sad, even tragic. I had cast myself as the failure, the girl who never measured up, who quit on my big ideas just short of the vision. I felt like an underdog, the outcast. Ultimately, I had the impression that I was cast into an impossible popularity contest, where the winners were all skinny, pretty, rich and smart.

These beliefs originated internally. It didn’t take much effort to find evidence to support my beliefs. In fact, I spent a lifetime accumulating evidence that became my familiar story.

Let that sink in. You are living a similar story, with beliefs that simply are not true.

Reframe

The key to living a victorious life is to identify the lies and reframe them.

The lies that I internalized were crippling me. I believed that I was unworthy, unloveable and not capable of creating wealth. {YES… I want abundance!}

Can you imagine creating anything of value fighting these feelings?

Thank God I have the tools to systematically bust these lies. This work is so rewarding. I am now fully responsible for my feelings, believe that I am capable and love the woman I am becoming. I have a clear vision of my past, present and future self.

It is possible for you to reframe the lies and fall in love with your life too!

There is a line in my Vision Video that gets me EVERY TIME…

This is the first day of my life
I’m glad I didn’t die before I met you
But now I don’t care, I could go anywhere with you
And I’d probably be happy

Here is my Vision Video that I watch on a daily basis to reframe my past self and create the future I envision.

Believe you are worthy

Do you believe you are worthy? YOU are the only one who can determine your worth.

If you are like me, you probably spent your life looking for evidence of your worth, only to find more evidence of the story you unintentionally cast yourself in.

This is the first day of your life. Take the first step to get to know her, the one who is happy in her own skin. Invest in falling in love with your life. You are worth it!

As the cliche goes, don’t die with the music still in you. If you can’t believe in your worth for yourself, bathe yourself in this Lauren Daigle song, and just BELIEVE.

Create the evidence

Honor your future self with compassion for your past and commitment to the present. Unfold your life intentionally be creating a vision for the future.

What exactly does that mean?

Simply ditch the old story based on your past. When you define yourself by a vision of the future, your mind will work to provide evidence of it’s reality. You will live to make your future self proud and start to see yourself as the hero in control of your story.

I am living proof

I’d love to help you. I am living proof of the possibilities.

I can relate to your journey and understand the lies that cripple your story, and can assure you that an intentional future is within your grasp. It is not only rewarding, but fun to fall in love with your life.

You might be saying to yourself, “Well, sign me up!”

If you want to fall in love with your life and create an intentional future, consider hiring me as your midlife life coach. If your curious, but unsure, simply schedule a free consultation. Click the link below and pick a date and time that works for you.

To offer a little nudge, for those of you who commit to three month coaching package, I will include a Vision Video creation as an added bonus. Check out my video and the blog article I wrote about it. My vision video has made an impact on my daily commitment to the woman I am becoming.

This is the first day of your life. Here’s to falling in love with life! You are worthy. Believe it!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Take Creative Control Of Your Life!

Posted on February 10, 2020 by tiffany

I am a life coach who works with women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.

Future Focused

I’d like to share with you a concept that has revolutionized the lens from which women can choose to create their life.

Have you ever wondered why your life seems to be on repeat? Why you can’t seem to achieve anything more than what you already have? I can relate.

That was my life until I learned about a concept called future focus.

Think of your life as a horizontal straight line. At the beginning of the line mark 0 representing the day you were born. At the end of the line mark 100, the age you hope to live to. The women I coach are facing the midpoint of 50, or so.

At 50 you can either see all the life you lived, and make decisions based on past experience. Or you can look at all the life ahead of you and create from vast possibilities.

So, are you creating with a future focus or are you repeating the past?

My A-ha moment

My a-ha moment was when I discovered I was basing my future success on the failures. I have a box full of business cards from the risks I’ve taken. Regretfully, my identity became associated with failure. Now I see that I can’t create a different life with that limiting belief. I now look at my failures and see all the times I got back up and that failing will not kill me. I am free to create a dream life from future possibilities.

Are you ready to embrace your future self without the limitations of past proof? Reach out to me if you are ready to take creative control of your life.

~Tiffany Eckhardt

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Time will tell

Posted on March 11, 2013 by tiffany

This week’s Folk Magazine’s Journal Agenda Challenge is, “Take a Moment To Reflect on the Meaning of Time.” Well this is timely…

We’ll cross that bridge when we have to.

Picture taken by Kristie Herlong

This past month my husband Jeff and I had to face one of our worst fears. Jeff was diagnosed with plasmacytoma, a cancer in his pelvic bone. We were shocked. A friend who had just survived breast cancer gave us the best advice, “Don’t cross the bridge until you have to.” I remembered that advice each time I was tempted to question the future.

We’ve made it through the test of time

In August Jeff and I will celebrate our twenty-fourth wedding anniversary. We have seen each other through every kind of trial imaginable. We got married young and practically grew up together. For better or worse and richer or poorer, we have managed to build a great life. Lord knows that our marriage has survived huge failures, but together we raised two wonderful children, Emily and Hayden, who represent our biggest achievements.

How do you tell your wife? Wait.

Jeff gets an award of valor! For a whole weekend he kept the news to himself while I was busy setting up Flown The Coop at Urban Market in Houston. He didn’t want to ruin the show for me and our friends at the show. He waited until he was forced to cross a bridge. Sunday evening on the way home, while I was talking about plans for a buying trip in March and an upcoming market, Jeff stopped me in mid sentence to finally let me in on his news. All future planning stopped.

Day by day

X-rays taken to determine if a bulging disc was the reason for pain Jeff had been experiencing in his feet revealed a mass on his pelvic bone. Initially the doctors thought it was something much worse called Chrondrosarcoma and were predicting a surgery to remove part of his pelvic bone and that he possibly could never walk again. Jeff underwent numerous tests and blood work, including a biopsy to determine the route of treatment. We had no idea what the next day would bring.

While we waited for the results we took a “naïveté tour.” We spent a whole weekend just trying to live in the moment, riding the Harley and going to the beach. Honestly, we experienced every possible emotion and had some serious conversations during that time. It’s hard not to. The difference is that we remained naive about the future and refused to cross a bridge until we had to.

We are thankful for today

Jeff is doing great. As far as we know, the cancer has not spread from the pelvic bone. His radiation treatments started and seem to be minor compared to chemo therapy. Jeff and I will have more bridges to cross in the future, but we’re thankful. It could have been so much worse. After radiation treatments he still need to get the bulging disc in his back corrected so that the pain in his feet can be addressed.

Jeff and I are also thankful for our family and friends who have supported us with prayers and encouragement. It is no surprise to me how many people love Jeff.

Time will tell

I wish Jeff didn’t have to face this journey and all the crap that surrounds cancer. It is scary to think about what we might have to face. I can’t control the bridges that we’ll be forced to cross, but I don’t have to waist time crossing them until it’s time.

Jeff and I don’t know what the diagnosis is for our future. Only time will tell. I commit to only focusing on the joys and challenges of today. Who knows, maybe the future will be better than we can imagine now.

Only God knows what our future will bring. Time will tell.

I’ll cross that bridge when I have to!