Restless?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping midlife women answer the question, what's next.

Do you feel restless?

The season of midlife is often an unchartered territory.  Many of my clients are experiencing a lack of structure and/or purpose for the first time in their life.  Thoughts of uncertainty often causes you to feel restless.  

You might be restless if…..

You’ve downsized your home or retired from a career.  

The calendar is open and nothing seems predictable, when it once was overbooked.  

Restlessness may even be a form of boredom and loneliness.  

Are you restless from a major life event; such as a wellness awakening or late life divorce?  

Of course you will feel a bit unsettled when you wondering to yourself, what’s next.

Take heart!  Restless feelings are not necessarily a bad thing!  

Don’t fight restless feelings

Argue for your limitations and they are yours.  ~Richard Bach

Restlessness is an indication of change.  Instead of indulging in confusion, answer the questions your restless feelings are begging you to answer.

Do you have a gift to explore?

What dreams did you dream as a child?

What do you love about yourself?

How can you live your best life?

The big questions

My dream had always been to open an antique store.  I remember cutting out articles of Better Homes and Gardens.  I can clearly see in my mind’s eye an article with a happy shop owner sweeping the sidewalk outside her store that I cut out about twenty years ago.  

My vision became a reality in March of 2015, on a beautiful spring day.  I opened my little store in Burton, with all my favorite people surrounding me for a ribbon cutting ceremony.  It was a dream come true. 

I closed that story book chapter of my life in November of 2018.  As that season ended, I had to accept the ending and allowed myself to grieve the loss of my dream.  

This wasn’t my first rodeo.  I’ve experienced drastic changes several times in my life.  I knew it was another opportunity to embrace change.  Eventually, I was reminded how resilient I truly am.   

To move past the restless feelings associated with change, you need to answer the big questions.

What’s now?  

What’s next?  

Stop and ask yourself these two questions and notice where your mind goes?  

Surf the shift

This requires imagination.  If you don’t have it, borrow the imagination of someone you admire.  What do they believe about change?  How do they feel about this season?  How have they show up for life?

Think of imagination as a surfboard, just hop on the board and ride wave of possibilities.  

When you surf the shift, you’ll discover how resilient you are!

Find you future

In the course of reinventing my life numerous times, I have identified four stages of change that can help you navigate uncharted territory.  

What you believe you embody.  I help my clients redefine what’s possible in this season.  

I can help you rise above any BS regarding your possibilities, so you can stop wasting precious time.  

Find your future!

What are you waiting for?  Schedule a consultation today by clicking my calendar link below.  I can help you answer the big questions, what’s now and what’s next?

Here’s to shifting past restless to resilient!  Ride the wave of possibilities!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Of course you feel

Of course your sad!

I had a fun-filled week with my daughter and grand babies, creating amazing memories!  When they boarded the airplane to return to Michigan, I couldn’t hold back the tears. Of course I was sad.

Yep, it was an ugly cry.  I didn’t fight it because I thought to myself, “of course your sad.”  Once I got into my car, I allow all the sadness to wash over me like a wave in the ocean.  It came from a place of love.  And once I let it out, I was ok to drive home.  

Do you allow your emotions or stuff them, or even worse, beat yourself up for having them?

I teach my clients to observe their emotions and respond with, “of course I feel…”

A time for every emotion

Ecclesiastes teaches us that there is a time for everything, a season for every activity under the sun.  A time to weep and a time to laugh.  A time to mourn and a time to dance.  

When we loose a loved one, we actually want to feel sad.  Of course you grieve.  

Of course you feel unimaginable joy when you spend time with grand children.  

How do you know joy without sorrow? 

Have you ever just sat with an emotion?  

Unwanted emotions are apart of your journey.   In fact, you are supposed to have them.  

So, instead of freaking out and resisting the emotion, simply allow it (sit with it).  

When you are curious, you will begin to realize that they exist to teach you something.  

Conversely, when you resist emotions you create suffering.

Next time you are angry, take a pause.  Where do you feel the emotion in your body? 

Sit with your anger without judgement and you’ll notice it’s vibration in your body eventually pass. 

One day at the park, Arthur was having so much fun swinging that he wasn’t ready to move onto something else when we were.  In upset he literally threw himself on the ground.  My daughter and I walked a safe distance away and just watched.  After the initial anger left, he joined us.  Within a short time, he was laughing and enjoying himself again.  It didn’t ruin his day!

Of course you feel!

The next time you experience an unwanted emotion, say to yourself of course I feel (sad, mad, jealous, frustrated…).  Then ask yourself what’s going on?

Negative emotion highlights what you don’t want, and help you become aware of what you do want.   

Observing my grand kiddos for a week, I notice they didn’t have a problem with emotions.  In fact, they were in touch with exactly how they felt at all times.  

I can help!

I’m not suggesting that you wallow in misery.

I teach my clients how to process unwanted emotions.  

When you are willing to feel any emotion, there is nothing you can’t conquer in your life.  

In fact, you can even build new pathways to embrace discomfort and decide what you want to feel on purpose.

Often when we find ourselves wallowing, buffering with food or alcohol, worrying or procrastinating it is a sign that we are not dealing with unwanted emotions.  

Hiring me as your life coach will help you process the unwanted emotions faster and empower you to no longer dread or beat yourself up for being human.  

If this resonates with you, simply click my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you.   This will schedule a consultation for you to discuss how coaching can help you and if I’m a right fit for you.  

Here’s to the occasional ugly cry… because it’s ok to feel sad.  

~Tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"
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Fresh Starts

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women answer the question "What's next?"

Fresh start

How many times have you had a fresh start in your life?  

What was the catalyst?  Marriage?  Starting a family?  A job relocation? A new business idea?

If the catalyst was associate with a measure of pain, like a bankruptcy or divorce, you probably spend a great deal of time resisting it or trying to manage it.

Midlife is a season in life that offers a fresh start, depending how you look at it.

Fresh start or fear?

When you think of starting something new do you feel excited, optimistic, adventurous? 

Or do you experience fear, worrying about what might or might not happen?  

Feelings are an indication of how you actually think about it. 

What are you willing to risk?

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more powerful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

I’m experienced at fresh starts.  I’ve moved across country four times in thirty years, renovating six homes (three historic).  After homeschooling and devoting my young adult life to raising our family, the kids moved on and are living their great adventures.  I’ve also had numerous business ventures, short lived careers, heartbreaks and health issues.  

Y’all we got midlife too!  

It is our season to blossom! 

Don’t let the fear of what could happen, make nothing happen.  

I can help

I coach women who are asking the question, “What’s next?”

According to a Harvard Business Review article, the number one reason people don’t reach their potential is that they don’t know themselves.  

Your life experiences, wether a natural part of life or crisis, may have chartered your course up until now, but midlife is the season you can finally get to know yourself.  

What ever is next can be created.  I can help you identify the BS that keeps you stuck in fear and blossom into the woman you know you can be.  

This is your season to bloom!

I offer a free course, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS. This is a great place to start your fresh start.

Coaching is an excellent way to move past your BS faster. Schedule a consultation by clicking on my calendar link below and pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to fresh starts!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"