Creating My Future in 2020

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Creating my future in 2020 was made possible by an investment in personal growth in 2019.

2020 was the year I tenaciously launched a coaching business during one of the most difficult years in America’s history.  From the beginning I saw the lockdowns and the “Corona Coaster” as a blessing, allowing me time to create my future.  

What led up to 2020 was also a blessing in disguise.

When I closed my antique store Flown The Coop in November 2018, I sold everything, including all the fixtures, not knowing what the future held.  I watched little pieces of my dream go to help build the big dreams of new shop owners.  The whole process was bitter sweet.  

It was pure determination to correct my course in 2019 that influenced me to attend two Tony Robbins events and enroll in the Life Coach School to become a certified life coach. Those brave steps forward healed my broken heart and allowed me to build something new.  

As I look back, 2020 created a solid foundation for my new career as a life coach.  I wrote 44 blog articles, coached several women through the storms of midlife and solidified my commitment to my future self.

Year in review

This week I will share some of my favorite blog articles from 2020.  It was hard, but I narrowed it down to a blog article each day, with a bonus blog I think you need for 2021.  I don’t normally toot my own horn, but I can’t help but be proud of myself as I look over a year of consistently creating content.  I truly hope that I have inspired you this year and helped you believe your best years are ahead.  

Monday – A Future Created From The Future

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of midlife reinvention helps women reinvent midlife

It may appear to be pointing out the obvious, but the future is in the future and not the past.  

Life is just getting started for me.  I’m currently writing the next chapter of my story with a future focus.  

This past weekend my Grandma Maggie would have celebrated her 100th birthday.  She missed the milestone by only 2 years.  I turn 50 years young this March.  By her standard, I have another 50 to live!  {BTW: I turned 50 in March of 2020… that’s a whole other story}

You are either creating from your past or your future…

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Tuesday – Busting Midlife Myths

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Could it be possible that you have accepted common midlife myths as reality? 

It occurred to me the other day that there are some common midlife myths accepted as truth.  What if they were simply not true? 

A few myths worth busting…

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Wednesday – Get To Know Her

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping midlife women reinvent midlife

Do you ever wonder what your future self will look like and feel uncertain what she even wants, but on the other hand… you desperately want to believe the best years are ahead?

In this article I offer four ways to get to know your future self.

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Thursday – What If Your Dream Was Measured In Miles?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

What if your dreams are measured in miles?  At what mile marker do you let the dream die?

I explain the determination of a weed and the grace you need for your dreams, then offer three ways to navigate the extra miles.

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Friday – Reject Ageism

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Have you heard the term ageism?  You may not have experienced anything akin to discrimination, but you might have used it against yourself by buying into stereotypes.  Have you ever limited yourself because of your age?  It is a sneaky thing we do to ourselves when celebrating certain birthdays.  

I prefer ageless.  “To be ageless is to defy the rules of what it supposedly means to be this age or that,”  Dr. Christiane Northrup.  

I offer three ways to reject ageism.  

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Saturday – Four Things I Ditched For An Epic Midlife Pivot

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

A midlife pivot is another way of expressing a need to reboot & reclaim your life.  Midlife women experience this urge to pivot as they face an empty nest, a COVID downsize, a recent divorce or the anticipation of retirement.  Can you relate?

“There is nothing more powerful or radical or stunningly, radiantly beautiful than a woman who chooses to rebuild her life.  Day after day, hour after hour, no matter how many mistakes she must now spin into gold.”  ~ Cara Alwill Leyba

In this article I offer four things you should ditch for an epic midlife pivot.

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Sunday – Unabashedly Love Your Life

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Do you love your life?  I mean unabashedly love life?

Do you want to?

I am a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.  This is NOT my natural state, but one I am cultivating.  I choose to BE.

In this article I share a project that had an impact on falling in love with my life.  I knew this creative project would be easy for me.  I journal everyday and am crystal clear on my dreams.  What I didn’t realize was how my heart would be affected.  

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The Bonus

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women reinvent midlife

Next to my vision video, journaling has had the most impact on my growth from 2018 – 2020.  I think it is so important for your journey too.  I could not do a year in review without including my recent article, Four Journal Prompts That Will Propel You Past Your Resistance.  

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why.  Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. My four favorite journal prompts can help you past any resistance.

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Make 2021 Your Year of Epic Growth

In nearly ever blog I wrote in 2020 I offered a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching. Through coaching sessions, I will encourage you to invest in your personal growth and awaken your dreams by creating an epic midlife reinvention.  

If you hang around me long enough I will convince you that your best years are ahead.  

I hope you don’t wait until 2021 is upon you, schedule a free mini session today by clicking the link below.  Simply pick a date and time on my calendar that works for you.  It really is that simple to get started on your dreams.  

Here’s to 2021 and continued growth!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Is it ever Too Late To Ignite Your Flame?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach reawakening dreams of women in their second half.  Let her help you ignite your flame.

Is it ever too late to ignite your flame?  

It is not too late to ignite the flame of my dreams. My flame ignited this week when I was coached by Janet, a 70 year young certified life coach at The Life Coach School.  It was a real fan girl moment for me, and a sign from the universe that I was on the right path.

Back in June, I had the opportunity to hear Janet teach on becoming future focused.  She encouraged her students to fill in the question, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if…?”  

She used herself as an example.  Always wanting to be a lead singer in a band, Janet started asking herself, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if I were a lead singer in a band?”  Janet casually mention her vision to a guy who was in a local band.  A week after their chat he called and asked if she would be interested in leading a song.  Their band had a song that needed a female voice.  She said, “YES.  And YES!”  At 70 years young, Janet was a lead singer in a band!  

BTW:  Janet also wrote her first book at 65.  What an inspiration!  It is never too late to light your flame.  

When it is not easy  

During the coaching session, Janet posed really good questions that revealed a belief that had blocked my progress.  

I expected my goals to be easy.  After YEARS of struggling, I wanted this one thing to be easy. 

Why do I want it to be easy?  Maybe I think I’ve earned easy or easy would mean that I finally got my shit together.  Most likely it is a fear of an unknown future based on my long history of unmet expectations.  It is difficult to create anything new from defeat. I needed to ignite my passion for the unknown.

Living with the flames of passion

There is no playbook or manual for midlife.  You get to decide what is possible and worthy of your energy.   

It is perfectly normal to look to the past for all the reasons things won’t work.  The mind is really great at protecting you from the flame.  

After serious thought work, I decided that I’d rather be living with a flame of passion and embrace the unknown.  It’s ok if my goals aren’t handed to me, as if age has earned me an easy ticket.   

I can handle obstacles with ease instead of expecting everything to be easy.

Ignite midlife

Midlife is not the time to dim your flame, but ignite a vibrant life full of possibility and adventure.

Envision dancing around a fire at night on a beach with a tribe of midlife souls refusing to be snuffed out by age or any fear of the future.  No matter what ignites this flame, you will intuitively know that you can handle all uncomfortable growth with ease.  You are surrounded by women who know their strength and are flaming a midlife reinvention.  

Reclaim your passion for life by training your brain to ask, “Wouldn’t it be amazing if….?”  

Allow your mind to focus on the possibilities.  Wouldn’t it be amazing if it were easy?  Wouldn’t it be amazing if I handled obstacles with ease?  Either are possible.

As you reinvent midlife, look to the women who have gone before you and are currently living with purpose.  I think of Janet, who is still asking herself the “amazing” question at 70 years young.  She is living proof of the possibilities.  

Dancing around the fire

I am the master of reinvention at any age.  Creating my life is rewarding, but not always easy.  And that’s ok. 

Are you stuck in a midlife funk with a boring empty nest or afraid of an unknown future?  I understand your journey and am passionate about helping you.  

I can lead you through a pivot and ignite your dream life.  If you hang around me long enough I will convince you that your best years are ahead.  

I offer a free consultation.  If you are ready to overcome your fears of the future, schedule a mini session by clicking on my calendar link below.  Simply choose a date and time that works for you.  

Wouldn’t it be amazing to dance around the fire together?

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

4 Things You Need To Know About Rejection

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping  midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  How do you deal with rejection?

Dealing with rejection can sting!  No matter your season in life; you will deal with the preverbal high school lunch room.  Let me share 4 things you need to know about rejection to finally kick it to the curb.

1. They don’t like peaches

“You can be the juiciest peach in the world, but there’s always going to be someone who doesn’t link peaches.”  Dita Von Teese

Jeff doesn’t like peaches.  He doesn’t like watermelon either.  I know, WHAT?  No matter how much I try to convince him of their juicy goodness, he insists he hates them. 

So, if you can’t control people’s choice of fruit or their opinion of you, why do you keep trying?

2. You believe you can control another person’s opinion  

What other people think about you is none of your business.  

You could spend your time trying to control what people believe about you, but let me offer you a little secret.  They really aren’t thinking about you.  Their opinion of you says more about their opinion of themselves.

It’s true.  Other people are busy trying to control what other people think of them, so they can feel better about themselves.  It never works.  

Don’t you wish you could have learned this truth during your high school lunchroom days?  

3. You don’t accept yourself  

I know what you are thinking.  How do I recognize rejection and not take it personally? 

A better question to ask yourself is why don’t you feel accepted? 

Trust me, I know what it feels like to want the approval of others, only to feel rejected.  I am a rebel.  I was born to buck the system.  I’ve taken several personality tests.  I am a RED/BLUE or an A/B depending on the chart.  I scored an 8/7 on the Enneagram test, the challenger.  Not many people know how to take a strong personality.  It took me nearly fifty years to finally love that I am fiery, with deep convictions.  That is who I am.  I feel accepted now, because I decided to accept myself.  Yeah, I may not be a cup of tea because I prefer being a shot of tequila.

When you rely on other people to make you feel accepted, they will always fail.  It isn’t possible for someone to create a feeling within you. 

Your thoughts about yourself is what create feelings of acceptance within.    

4. The things we appreciate will appreciate 

What if you developed your own opinion of yourself and recognize your full worth.   

Homework:  Make a list of twenty five things you appreciate about yourself.  Create this list in less than five minutes.  Don’t give yourself a chance to analyze the list as you go.  Step back and appreciate all that you have going for you!  

*Remember:  Self-Appreciation is not arrogance.  Arrogance is believing you are better than another person.  When you show up with self-appreciation you are offering all your gifts and talents.

Take creative control

Most women who reach midlife are sick of the drama of fitting into a mold.  The proverbial high school lunchroom has shown up more times than you care to admit.  Fitting into perceived molds is frankly exhausting.  

Midlife women conversely know that they are capable of hard things.  You can recall all the times you survived life’s trails.  So, why not ask yourself, “what do I want to create?”

Will you let the fear of rejection get in your way?

If you’re still resistant about the opinions of others, you know you have work to do.

I’d love to help you take creative control of your life.  It is my mission to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead of them.  

Schedule a FREE mini session with me.  It is a 45 minute chat to discover what is holding you back.  You may or many not be dealing with rejection, but I guarantee you it is a sneaky little thought or well rehearsed story that objects to your dreams.  

Simply click the link below and pick a date on my calendar that works for you.  

Let’s take the sting out of rejection!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Be unrealistic about age and get what you want

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead.  Be unrealistic and get what you want.
“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.” C.S. Lewis

Now that you’ve entered the season labeled midlife, do you fear it’s unrealistic to create something new at your age?  

Many clients of mine share a fear that age limits their ability to create something new.  I believe the opposite.  Your best years are ahead.  Finding yourself at the end of one season is an exciting opportunity to make decisions about life in the next season.   

Of course you are capable of learning new things and creating your life as you would like it to be.  

According to Marie Forleo, “Everything is figure-outable.”  

What if being unrealistic IS the answer to creating something new?  

What is the first thing your mind offers when you decide to create something new?  All the reasons it can’t work, all the reasons it isn’t a good idea and all the reasons it isn’t reasonable.  Yep, your mind is very clever in keeping you safe and secure. 

When you spend your time considering all that your brain offers, you fail ahead of time.  You stop yourself before you even get started.

So, trick you brain.  Agree with it.  Don’t give it anything to argue with.  

Agree with your brain that your new idea might not work, there will be obstacles and it could be completely unrealistic.  Decide to appreciate all the lessons and proceed anyways.    

Remind your brain the only way to create anything new is through trail and error.  

The fail factor

Should we fail on purpose?  Of course not!   

Brooke Castillo teaches in her eight week Business Course there are two different types of failures, escape failures and worthy failures.  

Escape failures 

Are you curios about why you don’t keep your word or follow through with your decisions?  Escape failures are a form of avoiding what is needed to realize your new creation and choosing to fail ahead of time.  

Examples:

  • Making excuses for not following through with a commitment
  • Indulging in confusion about the next step
  • Changing your mind
  • Not planning ahead of time, protecting your calendar
  • Any form of perfection is an escape failure
  • Waiting until your ready or have learned every aspect  

Worthy failures

Worthy failures are not caused by inaction, but by taking a step forward.

“We were never taught to fail.  We are taught that F’s are bad growing up.  This programming has contributed to steering away from starting things and changing,”  Brooke Castillo.  

For example, this past week I conducted my first FREE workshop on Self Appreciation.  I spent hours deciding what to teach, gathering information, putting it into an understandable form, etc.  I enthusiastically marketed the workshop, but only had a couple people show up to the live event.  Was that a failure?  NO!  No, it was not a failure.  I learned better ways to approach the next workshop and will continue to market the replay, which will reach untold amount of women.  

You can check our my Self Appreciation Workshop by clicking here: SELF APPRECIATION WORKSHOP

Never tried.

Ever failed.

No matter.

Try again.

Fail again.

Fail better.

Samuel Beckett

Get crystal clear

There will never be an age limit to creating something meaningful, but take time to get crystal clear about what you wish to create.  

  • Define: What does it feel like once you create it?  Who will benefit from your creation?  
  • Objections: What makes it unrealistic?  Go ahead and let your mind offer you the objections.  
  • Solutions:  Then answer the objections with, “That objection is true, but…”  What skills will you need to create it?  

Basically, allow your mind to define what you want to create, the obstacles in your way, and strategies to solve them ahead of time.  

BE unrealistic, a challenge

Let’s be honest, being a little unrealistic sounds like a fun challenge.   

I’d like to challenge you to a worthy fail.  Well, not just one.  I’d like to challenge you to write out 25 worthy failures you are willing to take action on.  First brainstorm all the ways you could take action that will likely fail.  From the brainstorm, pick 25 that you will commit to and then put the 25 worthy fails on your calendar.    

Taking this challenge will inspire you to take the first step.  By simply taking action, you will learn everything is figure-outable!  

Let me help you!

I love working with midlife women who are ready to believe their best years are ahead.  It is not a time to avoid the hard things, it is a time to embrace them with the self confidence earned at this age.

This past week I had the privilege to coach a beautiful spunky woman in her sixties who was was considering a new idea.  We worked through her thoughts, feelings and actions around the idea.  Afterwards I asked her what she thought she would be creating as a result.  She lit up and said, “a new career!”  

Sometimes you just need to be able to work through all the thoughts, feelings and obstacles to believe in the possibility.    

If you are ready to break some of your own limitations, let me help you!  Schedule a FREE mini session.  It’s a 45 minute chat with someone who truly believes in your possibilities.  It is also a great way to see if life coaching is for you.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

I am

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
My nickname is Fancy for a reason. 🙂

Fill in the blank to the statement: I am….

Do you believe other humans are better than you, but you want to believe you are 100% worthy?  Who decides your worth anyways? 

I shared on a recent Facebook Live my epiphany of my own worth after ruminating about a disagreement I had with someone I had respected.  My convictions were mocked. I completely understand not everyone needs to agree with me, but the conversation took a mean tone implying that I was less than.  

My coach helped me to clearly see the thoughts causing me to feel unworthy.  I had wonder if what this person was implying about me was true.  

Am I less than?  

Am I more than?

No, I am.

I am enough.  

Words do not define you

You do you.  Here’s the god’s truth, only you define you.  Unfortunately, you may have let words spoken by well meaning people define you.  

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

My mentor, Brooke Castillo, coached a lawyer who let the words of a well meaning colleague determine the law she chose to practice.  Someone told this beautiful, well educated woman who immigrated to the United States as a young adult that she should not choose litigation because of her accent.  From that moment this woman believed that her accent was a determent to her success.  She resisted hearing that Brooke adored her accent.  I loved her accent too!  Who will she choose to believe now?  Why is it easier to continue the old story in her head than to embrace a new belief about her accent?

No matter what parents told you.  No matter what the kids at school told you.  Your boss, your spouse, your teacher or anyone you respect does not have the right to define you.  

Thoughts you have about yourself define you.  

I am enough

“Feelings are a shadow of your thoughts.”  jewel

Do you wondered how you would define your worth if you were skinnier, prettier or richer?  

The biggest lie you can choose to believe is that you have to change yourself to fit a mold to qualify.  What if you already qualified?  Your feelings help you reverse engineer your thoughts about yourself.  

How do you want to feel?  Changing your weight will not achieve that feeling.  Changing your thoughts will.  If your thoughts are like food, what are you feeding your body?  Junk food or whole nourishing food?

Give yourself permission

“Your worthiness is already at capacity, and nothing you have done or will do makes you less worthy as a human,”  Brooke Castillo.

You are 100% worthy.  You deserve the life you dream of.  

When you believe you are already worthy, you give yourself permission to live in abundance, confidence and self-love.  Your energy for life increases.  What you project to others changes. 

What have you waited your whole life to give yourself permission to do?  

I am

I know what you are thinking.  How do I change my thoughts?  How do I believe these radical thoughts about myself?   

You can tell me all the things as if you are reading the news.  I am unlucky, unpopular, have made mistakes, was not born into the right family.  I am too old.  You don’t know what I’ve been through.

These are the common thoughts that I help my clients work through.  I help you see yourself as who you want to be.  Who you are.  I help you create the life you want by developing thoughts that will energize you with confidence.

If you are ready to give yourself permission to to do what you’ve waited your whole life to do, let me help you.  Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  We can chat about what has always held you back and look at what will help you believe you are worth it.  

You are worth it.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky! 

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Rejecting Ageism

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Today she chats about rejecting ageism.

Have you heard the term ageism?  You may not have experienced anything akin to discrimination, but you might have used it against yourself by buying into stereotypes.  Have you ever limited yourself because of your age?  It is a sneaky thing we do to ourselves when celebrate certain birthdays.  

“You are not a mistake.  You are not a problem to be solved.  But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming, caging, and fearing yourself,”  Geneen Roth.  

Don’t bang your head against your age either. 

I prefer ageless to ageism

“To be ageless is to defy the rules of what it supposedly means to be this age or that,”  Dr. Christiane Northrup.  

After reading Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age I was inspired to forge my own path and make my own rules for the next few decades.  Lucky for me I have wonderful role models.  My parents are both health conscious and lead interesting lives.  My Mom loves to say, “You rest, you rust.”  Adopting an ageless attitude will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.   

How to reject ageism for agelessness

1. Find examples

You will find countless examples of midlife success by doing a simple Google search.  I’ve studied well known people like Martha Stewart and Julia child.  But, I love the stories of women who blazed their own trail without the fanfare of fame.

The documentary Fabulous Fashionistas highlights six spunky 80’ish women who refuse to stop living.  These women wear Doc Martens and mini-skirts, and “don’t give a toss” about what people think of them.  Jean Woods, 75 years young, runs several times a week on her new knee and got a job as the oldest employee of GAP.  In their pursuit of life they all stay fit, aren’t afraid of hard work and have a steely determination.  Their indomitable spirits are inspiring.  

Betty White at age 95 remarked, “Don’t try to be young.  Just open your mind.  Stay interested in stuff.  There are so many things I won’t live long enough to find out about.  But I’m still curious about them.”  She is definitely an inspiration.  

2. Be aware

Who determines when your value diminishes?  Do you feel invisible (a common complaint of age conscious people)?  Do you have a shelf life?  

Well, society and stereotypes will attempt to turn you to anti-aging agents, creams or surgeries to make you feel younger.  Because you are “worth it.”  I believe this propaganda is robbing you of who you really are, of your sense of self, wisdom, sense of usefulness.  

Only you can determine your worth.  You can allow the messages that younger is better, or you can reject the message as an outright lie.  Once you become aware of what you truly believe about midlife, you can address these thoughts.  

So, what sneaky thoughts have you noticed depleting your midlife mojo?  Are you aware?

3. Breakthrough

“Our obsession with image is tiring, it’s never ending.  Where as if our emphasis turns inward more, what really our life is about, what turns us on, what makes us feel electric, then that starts to glow outside.”  Scilla Elworthy

At this point in life you can either think there is no time or energy for your dreams, or you no longer want to put your dreams on hold.  One thought is energy depleting and the other creates energy.

A breakthrough demands a radical departure from some of your habitual thoughts.  How would you show up to midlife if you could believe anything is possible?  You are worth exploring this question.  You just as you are.    

Your best years are ahead

I truly believe your best years are ahead.  This is the belief I’m building my coaching practice upon.  I am passionate about sharing tools that will help you realize your best life, at any age.

If you can believe, life is ready to to give you a breakthrough.  This belief is energy creating.  

I’d love to help you create YOUR vision for midlife.  So, I’ve made it easy for you to get started.  I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.  Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


The amazing resiliency of the mind, body and spirit

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach for midlife women who want to believe the best years are ahead.  Today we are talking about resiliency.
We take on the world… one house at a time.

The amazing resiliency of the mind, body and spirit

Can you remember a time when you blew your own damn mind by your sheer will power to accomplish a goal?  At the end you were exhausted, yet proud of the energy you pulled from a mysterious source called resiliency.

How quickly did you recover from the struggle of that experience? 

“No one escapes pain, fear, and suffering.  Yet from pain can come wisdom, from fear can come courage, from suffering can come strength – if we have the virtue of resilience.”  Eric Greitens

Resilience in action

This past week Jeff and I were preoccupied with the exhausting task of completing a month’s worth of work on our home in Ohio in less than a week.

Most of the empty nesters I know mourn the day their kids fly the coop.  A house once filled with unending activity and the laughter of teenagers becomes piercingly quiet and still.  Jeff and I took an unorthodox approach to this season.  WE flew the coop and left the house to the kids.  I love my kids dearly, but leaving a house to college students who had friends and animals move in and out of it for eight years created a massive project for us.  

So, Jeff and I drove to Ohio (a two day trip), spent six straight days emptying the house of left behind junk, cleaning every nook and cranny, fixing broken things, and painting nearly every room and baseboard.  The house looked brand new when we were done.  Thank God my father in-law flew up to help us and did an awesome job keeping up with the work frenzy.  In between working, I got to play with my grandson who brightened every single day and managed to see my family (if for only a short time).  

Needless to say, every night I went to bed wondering how I would do it agin the next day.  Every day I woke up and worked from a mysterious energy that can only be described as sheer will power.  

It hit me as Jeff and I was driving back to Texas that what I experienced and continue to see in my life is the amazing resiliency of the human mind, body and spirit.  

I’m confident in your resiliency

I know you have your own stories… mind, body and spirit.

Can you remember a time you couldn’t imagine ever recovering from?  {A hurtful word said, a failure that seemed final, etc.}. Your capacity to forgive yourself and others, and to choose to reframe any circumstance is an amazing function of a well managed mind.  

If you ever broken a bone, cut yourself or got stung by a bee, you know the amazing ability of the body to heal.

The best example of resiliency is a mamma who gives birth and is willing to experience it again. 

Have you ever survived a tornado, hurricane or flood?  It is heartwarming to witness the human spirit rally behind communities in the clean up efforts.

There are so many examples!  

At times we have no choice but to be resilient, but we are and that is amazing.

Can you believe?

Resilience is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.  It’s a noun, a thing.  

Once you realize your capacity, resiliency is impelling.  There is nothing you won’t take on with the mysterious energy that comes from wisdom, courage and strength. ~ Tiffany

So, let me encourage you to get curious.  

In unavoidable circumstances, do you believe you are resilient?  

What difficult task would you undertake if you believed you had the ability to recover quickly?  

Looking back, have you ever blown your own damn mind?  

What keeps you from having resilience?  

Who determines your resiliency?  

I’m crazy enough to believe 

Failing forward is essential to your success in any endeavor and resiliency is the key.  I am confident in your capacity.  You can imagine the life you desire and work through any obstacle with wisdom, courage and strength.

Maybe you just need a little push. 

I want you to help you realize your capacity to process the obstacles and take creative control of your life.  

If this resonates with you, please take the time to schedule a FREE mini session with me, someone who truly believes in YOUR possibilities.  Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  

It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


The life you desire is only a thought away

Dreaming of a life I create!

What is the secret sauce to making your dreams come true? 

Do people who realize their dreams have a secret sauce?  What if I told you that the life you desire is only a thought away?

Indulge in an exercises to stretch your dream muscle.  

I want to encourage you to take a break from marinating in “what is.”  Take a hot second to fully embody YOUR dream life!  Transport yourself into that life.  Build that dream with all the thoughts that excite you.  

What does it look like?  How does it feel?  What new skills did you learn?  How do you behave differently?  Where do you shop?  What car do you drive?  Who do you hang around with?  What fills your calendar?  What does a person who has your dream life think about on a daily basis? 

Embodying the dream is creating the future from the future

What are you willing to do to achieve the dream?  

I’m not talking about being willing to do something immoral or illegal.  I’m talking about addressing the thoughts that oppose your dream.  Although not as sexy as flexing your dream muscle, it is equally important to address all or your obstacle thoughts upfront.  

Would you be willing to risk embarrassment? Would you be willing to stick to a protocol or a calendar?  Can you think of possible attitudes that would creep in?  All these obstacles are currently just thoughts.  What if you created a strategy to nip those thoughts in the bud and replace them with thoughts that served you?

Identifying obstacles and creating a strategy ahead of time is creating the future from the future.

My dream is to create a 100k coaching business the first year as a coach.  

Wow.  I said it.  That is scary.  You might judge me.  Well, so what?

100K means different things to different people.  

  • Some might think, “who does she think she is with that outrageous goal?”
  • While others dismiss the goal as chunk change.  You might already have a million dollar business.

All those thoughts (good or bad) don’t matter when I am working towards my dream.  Both views are simply thoughts, beliefs of what is possible.  I could choose to think it’s impossible or easy.   

The only thing that matters in creating YOUR dream life is what YOU think!  

I’m a product of the product

I coached myself through this exercise by imagining what life will be like when I see 100k on my tax return.  Let me share my example so you can start applying it to your example.

First I flexed my dream muscle.  Honestly, at first I couldn’t begin to imagine how life will be different.  The exercise was harder for me than I thought it would be.  I meditated on it.  Nothing popped in my head. 

Then a brilliant idea came to me… What would you do if 100k landed in my lap today?  It all came to me as I began to journal.  I know exactly what I’d do with a 100k today.  I’d buy a Mini Cooper (because I’d look cute driving one), pay off Jeff’s car and pay off the random credit card debt we have.  Then I’d reinvest the rest of the money into developing a kick ass business.  I’d hire a web designer, enroll in Stacey Boehman’s 2k for 2k mastermind, and buy the equipment I need to create videos, podcasts and online seminars.  

The dream is worth it!  What am I willing to do to achieve it?

So, what is exactly standing in my way?  In addition to fear of rejection and the fear of failure, I have all the mind drama associated with a start-up. Creating systems for finances and time management will require a lot of planning.  Learning to create a website, funnels, creating videos and classes will stretch me. Hiring people to help me. It all sounds hard!  

I actually found myself thinking the second 100k would be so much more fun because it would be easy.  

WAIT>>>> why can’t I think it is easy NOW?????  

A light bulb moment!  I can think anything I want.  From now on, I will choose to think creating a 100k business is easy.  I will face each obstacle with the thought that it can be figured out.  My future self will be so grateful I chose to create from the future.  She will know it’s easy because it’s done.  I’ll trust her.    

Change your thoughts, change your life”  Wayne Dyer

Dreaming becomes realistic when you do thought work around the accomplishing the dream.  Realizing your dream is truly a matter of acknowledging your desires and identifying the obstacle thoughts you will need to strategically address.    

What thoughts are preventing you from stepping towards your dream life?  How does the thought make you feel?  How do you behave when you feel that way?  Are your results confirming your belief?  Do you want to change that?

I’d love to help you sort through your thoughts to create life on your terms.  Working with me will give you the clarity you need to move forward with confidence.  It truly is my passion to help women choose to think they can be, do or have anything they set their minds on!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

He was right the whole time. An epiphany about habits

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This is a common occurrence in the Eckhardt home.  Jeff will communicate a thought he thinks will help me.  He is dumbfounded when I share the same thought as an epiphany I learned from a podcast or a book.  Why did I have to hear it from someone else?  He was right the whole time.

Today I had a similar moment with God

Tiffany Eckhardt, owner of Flown The Coop, discovers a paradigm shift reading Atomic Habits, by James Clear

I am a journaler.  I write out all my feelings to determine what I think about them.  God has been whispering the word “BE”  to me for a long time.  It didn’t register until today.

Road to an epiphany

I have created a wonderful habit of listening to podcasts as I get ready for the day.  If you haven’t already, check out my 5 Podcasts To Finish 2018 Strong article.

My habit has introduced me to wonderful Influencers.   I am currently enjoying the #Last90Days challenge with Dave and Rachel Hollis.  I tune into their daily FB live for inspiration.  Their Five To Thrive has really propelled me into some great foundational habits.

I’m seeing a reoccurring topic arise throughout the podcast world.  Everyone seems to be talking about habits.

I am currently listening to The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do on Audible.  This is a book Rachel Hollis recommended the first week of the #Last90Days challenge.  Wow! The study of habits is fascinating.  The same week I started to listen The Power of Habit I heard an interview on Lewis Howes’ podcast with James Clear. James just wrote the book Atomic Habits.  Blew. My. Mind.  I highly recommend listening to this podcast!

The road to an epiphany led me to a Habits.

I am a reader

My copy of Atomic Habits arrived in the mail yesterday.  Ironically, I am creating a new reading habit at night.  (I am a reader)  I devoured the first three chapters, underlining and wiring comments on several key ideas.  Here are a few of my favorites:

  • A habit is a routine or behavior that is performed regularly – and, in many cases, automatically.
  • the quality of our lives depend on the quality of our habits
  • Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement
  • Success is the product of daily habits – not once-in-a-lifetime transformations
  • You don’t rise to the level of your goals.  You fall to the level of your systems
  • an atomic habit refers to a tiny change, a marginal gain, a 1 percent improvement
  • atomic habits are the building blocks of remarkable results
  • there is a difference between outcome based habits and identity habits
  • It’s hard to change your habits if you never change the underlying beliefs that led you to your past behavior
  • The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity… when your behavior and your identity are fully aligned, you are no longer pursuing a behavior change.  You are simply acting like the person you already believe yourself to be.
  • The focus should always be on becoming that type of person, not getting a particular outcome

Wow!  A paradigm shift!  I had to let all of these ideas sink in.  What stood out to me is that I didn’t truly believe I could be the person who accomplished dreams.  I didn’t believe I could BE successful or healthy (skinny).  I didn’t even believe I could BE a nice person.  UUGH!

He was right the whole time

This morning God whispered to me again, “Be.”  Turns out he was right the whole time.  God was leading me to focus on who I wanted to BE.  He is interested in leading me to my true identity.  Why didn’t I hear him from the beginning?  I was focused on outcomes. I didn’t have faith in the journey!

Now what?

I will focus on small changes over time.  My goal is to become the best version of myself.

The question becomes, “Who do I want to BE?”

  • I am a christian (true identity). I am loving and loyal to my family and friends.
  • I am a healthy person who is committed to daily exercise, drinking water, and eating well (I am skinny). 😉
  • I am a natural networker.  I love connecting people and helping them realize their dreams!
  • I am a leader who uplifts her team to the best version of themselves.
  • I am a reader… love to learn!
  • I am patient… becoming the best version of myself takes time.  🙂

This epiphany might only be for my benefit.

He was right the whole time.  I don’t think God is upset that I didn’t hear “BE” the first time.  I think he knew I needed to take this road to an epiphany.  Tiny habits over time compounds into the person I want to become!  I am thankful for this lesson.

I am humbly grateful if this resinates with you!  Let me encourage you!  Decide the person you want to BE and create habits that serve that person.

I’d love to hear from you!  Get a copy of the book Atomic Habits.  Let’s share what we learn with each other!  Let’s believe in who we can BE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

The Practice Life!

The practice life is rich in opportunity!

The Practice Life is taking action on an idea, and an exercise repeated regularly in order to improve or maintain one’s proficiency.

Tiffany Eckhardt, owner of Flown The Coop takes a look at life as a practice.

People practice patience, hospitality, yoga, wellness, gratitude and their business.  Here are a few practices I’m currently working on.

Patience

Let’s just say that I am cultivating patience in tandem with all the other fruits of the spirit (Galations 5:22-23). This is a necessary gift from God!  I don’t come by it naturally.  Our guest house project is testing my patience.  The struggle is real.  I’ve been dreaming of this project for three years.  I do not claim to be long suffering.  It takes practice to accept the things I can not control.

Hospitality

I love to practice hospitality.  I was fortunate to hear a speaker on hospitality as a young mother.  The speaker set me free from imperfect entertaining.  Entertaining is preforming to impress your guest.  Hospitality is welcoming friends in your home with the intention of blessing them.  The focus is on the guests, not on me.

One of my biggest joys is to have fun events and classes at Creative At The Coop.  It is a gift to be able to offer what I’ve learned from years of practice.  I enjoy learning new skills for my practice!  Recently I discovered the ease of creating a charcuterie board.  Charcuterie boards have been a fun creative outlet for my Scout & Cellar wine tastings.

Yoga

My wellness practice began over a year ago.  Jeff and I first embraced a paleo diet and Young Living essential oils!  My home and health became less toxic as I transferred my buying habits to plant based items.  Most importantly, I learned how to listen to my body for clues on what it needs.

I’ve noticed a need to be more active.  Jeff and I joined ​​gen·e·sis yog​a​​​ in Brenham.  Yoga is a patience patient practice, supporting mobility and mindfulness.  I discovered a love for restorative yoga!  It feels like a yoga massage!  I love the challenge of the strength building poses.  I need a lot of practice at this stage of the game!

Business

I am not a doctor or a lawyer.  I am a serial entrepreneur that has spent my life practicing business.  This is one area of my life that feels like an endless climb upward.  I had to learn to embrace the mystery and create a pro mindset.

Podcasts have become a staple in my development this past year.  Some of my favorite podcasters feel like friends.  Truly, at this point in my life I need mentors.  I long to surround myself with people who are in spaces I want to occupy.  Check out my latest blog to learn about 5 podcasts to finish 2018 strong!

Grace

Flown The Coop Guest HouseFinally, I’d like to offer a bit of grace by imagining all areas of life is a practice.  I am grateful to God for grace!  It is an open gate to excepting life in it’s fullest.  I will repeatedly, on a regular basis, move toward my goals allowing myself to makes mistakes along the way.  No one is perfect right out of the gate.  The important thing to remember is keep on practicing.  Right?

Are you giving yourself grace to view life as a practice?  Let’s encourage each other to finish 2018 strong!  Please feel free to share your stories in the comments below!

 

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!