The cost of NOT restoring your cherished relationships

The cost of NOT restoring cherished relationships can take a toll on you emotionally and financially.    

As I shared in last week’s blog, during 2021 Jeff and I were seriously talking about divorce, but chose to walk through healing and learn to communicate, with the help of a couple’s coach.  

The good news is there is a happy ending to my story!  

As Johnnie Taylor’s 1973 song goes … It’s cheaper to keep her.  

I’d never sit in judgement of anyone who has divorced. It is a very personal choice, that at times may be the only option.  I personally wanted to avoid it.  I believed that what Jeff and I had was worth saving.  

The average cost of a divorce with children in Texas is at $23,500.

The fastest a couple can get a divorce in the state of Texas is 61 days.  

But we all know of couples that drug out their divorces for months, with costs soaring well above the average, not to mention the cost of separating assets and retirement. 

I don’t know about you, but I’ve invested way too much in my cherished relationships to simply walk away.  

Emotional Cost is so high!  

In 2021 Jeff and I had two major grid lock issues.  Every night seemed to be another round of fighting on one of them.  It was miserable.  

Let me remind you, we looked like a cute couple on Instagram.  We hardly ever talked trash about each other to friends and family.  

Although I had no idea how I would support myself, the real cost of divorce for me would be emotional.  I felt disposable and was afraid of being lonely.  All the arguing left me feeling unlovable and hopeless.  

The questions that kept me up at night were…

How will this affect my family?  

How will we spend Christmas and holidays?

Would we both go to the birthday parties and future celebrations?

How long will I carry the sting of rejection?  Would I ever be able to trust another man?

How would I get use to NOT talking to Jeff everyday?  Who would I run my crazy ideas past?

How we restored our relationship

Since March of 2019 I’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars in coaching and personal growth.  I attended two Tony Robins events, got certified in Life Coaching through the Life Coach School and hired business coaches.  

Like they say in the coaching world, I am a product of the product.  I can honestly say that this investment has changed me and gave me the ability to manage my mind. And honestly, I was doing a lot of self coaching during this time!

When divorce was thrown around like a nuclear bomb in our home, I humbly acknowledged we could not resolve this on our own.  

Hiring a couple’s coach was the most logical answer to our grid lock issues.  We learned to listen and communicate what we actually meant.  If we felt flooded in emotions, we simply stopped the conversation until we had time to process the feelings.  Jeff and I finally came to resolutions that turned our relationship around. The cost of coaching? Priceless!  

What we learned saved us from the high cost of divorce. 

This week as I relive some of the hurtful thoughts that I had to work through, I am deeply grateful that Jeff and I did not throw it all away.  I don’t even want to imagine what my life would be like if we had.  

Out of our restoration birthed a new program

I am dedicated to serving YOU in BIG ways in 2022.  I am willing to share what I experienced, in the hopes that YOU can restore your cherished relationships too!  

Monday January 17, 2022 I am launching a personalized program to walk you through restoring your cherished relationships supported by a my new program called Restore Your Cherished Relationships in 90 days.  

This program offers 5 valuable components.

Connection Calls. 

This is a weekly one on one Zoom call with me.  Every week you will have a 45 minutes with me to share your unique relationship issues.  We will work through the emotions you are experiencing and create a path forward.  This is by far the most valuable aspect of the program as you will finally feel heard.  

I have experienced the most amazing a-ha moments in my life with a coach who’s only objective was to listen to me and offer genuinely curious questions.  

Community Connections. 

You no longer need to feel isolated.  It always surprises me how convinced women are that they are alone.

I will create an online community for you to connect with women who are walking a similar journey.  This will be your chance to be encouraged by weekly group Zoom chats.  

Course Connection. 

This is where I put together journal prompts, worksheets, reading lists, podcast suggestions and more.  You will get a weekly email with all these goodies personalized for your journey.

Journaling through my emotions during this difficult time helped me get to know myself in a whole new level.  I have great prompts for you to ask yourself high quality questions.  

Constant Connection. 

You will have 24 hour access to me via email.  When you are in the heat of the moment and don’t want to wait for you connection call, you will be able to email me the issue.  I will respond to you within 24 hours… but most likely it will be sooner.  

The couple coach we hired offered this.  One night when Jeff and I were flooded with emotion she was there to walk me through it.  I will always be grateful for that!

The final component is my six week evaluation.  At this time we will evaluate your progress.  If you aren’t in love with your progress you will be offered a chance to jump ship or Course Correction.  I am confident that you will start to see hope for your relationships at this point in the program.  

Learn more!

Are you raising your hand wanting to know more?

Sweet!  Click the link below to learn more about the program.  If for some reason you still have questions… message me or schedule a chat on my Calendar.  

Due to the personalize nature of this offer I will only be able to work with 10 ladies.  So, don’t procrastinate!  

The FACEBOOK LIVE where Jeff and I shared our journey….

Here’s to restoring YOUR cherished relationships in 2022!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Midlife… the badass ride

Tiffany Eckhardt is crazy enough to believe her best years are ahead and wants YOU to BE crazy too!  Midlife is the badass ride.

Could midlife reflect the feeling of the badass ride captured in the 2011 Harley Davidson commercial?  It’s one of the best ads ever!

The commercial embodies the feeling of riding down the road with the wind in your hair and freedom deep in your soul.  

It could also reflect a midlife woman who no longer buys what the world is selling when it comes to her life.  She’s tired of playing it safe, following the rules and is ready for an adventure.  

This midlife woman believes that life is what she makes of it, and its time to make it one hell of a ride!  

Take a listen to the commercial…. 

So what does this midlife woman believe?

Imagine the sound of rumbling pipes and the feeling of adventure flowing through you as you read the declarations of this badass woman….

She is crazy enough to believe the best years are ahead, and that goddesses never age.

Age is just a number, and if you rest you rust.

As the magic maker for her family and community, she is ready to create some magic for herself.

This gal has FINALLY ditched the box society puts her in.

Understanding her worth, she no longer participates in the popularity contest.    

No longer the wallflower, she is ready to dance!  

Can you believe it?

Could you be this midlife woman?

What does it feel like to BE her?

Does if feel bold?  How about confident?  What about free?  

All of that is possible for you.  Can you believe it?  

This could be your year!

Are you ready to join a growing number of women who are choosing to create a world that embraces the season of midlife and beyond?  

The sky is the limit!  Does your heart race when you think of all that is possible? 

If you long to BE her, but can’t quite ditch all the baggage that you packed over the years? I can help!  

I want you to truly believe midlife is a gift, and that your best years are ahead!  

I’d love to have a chat with you!  Let’s hop on a call and find out where you are, where you want to be and how to get you there!  

It’s time to fly free!  Let’s find out what’s on the other side of the hill. Here’s to one hell of a ride!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Making way for new adventures

Tiffany Eckhardt, helping you make way for new adventures in 2022

Make way for new adventures

At the time of this writing, there are only five weeks left in 2021.  Wow!  I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to put this year behind and make way for new adventures.

I’m the weirdo who delights in dreaming about the future, picking a word or a phrase for the year, creating vision boards and mind movies.  December is the month I usually focus on the next year.  

This year I’m taking a slightly different approach.  

Instead of focusing on the what (material gain or achievement), I’m figuring out the why (that which makes me feel alive).  

Will 2022 be the year you start living with purpose and make way for new adventures?

Think beyond the material 

Do you know what you want for 2022? 

The experts agree, people typically use only ten percent of their potential.  My theory is that most people don’t reach their potential because they are not in touch with what truly makes them feel alive.  

“Most of us can be found flying too close to the ground.  Too often we don’t give ourselves permission to soar.”  ~Price Pritchett

Think beyond what you want materially and dare to declare what you want to be known for.  

For example, I decided a couple years ago that I wanted to be known for uncommon energy.  That declaration paved the way for me to do far more than I once thought possible.  I never thought of myself as a public speaker, until I delivered a Veteran’s Day message in front of hundreds of people.  Turns out that it wasn’t as scary as I built it up to be in my mind.  

In the book YOU2, Price Pritchett suggests it is time to start focusing on possibilities, rather than on limits.    

Clean out

To embark on this new adventure, start by cleaning out what no longer serves you.  

It is easy to identify items that could be discarded or donated, like clothing or junk in a drawer.  So, start there. 

My favorite clothing hack:  I turn all the hangers in my closet backwards at the change of each season.  What I wear goes back into the closet facing the right direction.  What remains hanging backwards is discarded, usually donated to charity.  

The not so obvious place to explore are the habits, thoughts and emotions that no longer server you.  

While cleaning out physical items gives you a clean slate to start the year, cleaning out emotional baggage can set you free to soar beyond your wildest dreams.  

Some thoughts to break free from:  I’m too old to loose weight.  I hate hangovers, but have no power to stop my nightly habit of winding down after a long day.  The life I want is out of my league.  It is selfish to invest in myself.  Any of these thoughts ring a bell? 

Most of the thoughts I helped my clients discard in 2021 had them feeling broken, lonely and defeated for years.  

What if you could leave all that behind in 2021?

Questions are the answers

Researches have found that when posed a question, your brain automatically searches for the answer to the question.  

Interestingly, most people are programmed to think of all the reasons something won’t work.  So, dismiss those reasons and explore your inner longings for 2022 by asking yourself really good questions.  

Here are a few questions to activate your brain. 

What new things will I say yes to this year?  What am I drawn to?

Will I schedule fun into my daily life?  What do I consider fun?  

When do I feel most alive?  How do I incorporate that in my life in 2022?  

Can I identify five silly things I would like to try once?

Now try coming up with a few of your own questions.

Life is the greatest adventure 

“There is the risk you cannot afford to take, {and} there is the risk you cannot afford not to take.”  ~ Peter Drucker

What is tugging at your heart as you start to think beyond 2021?  

The best gift you can give yourself this holiday season is permission to soar.  

If you want to make room for adventures, but afraid to take the risk, I can help.  I’ve been in your shoes and would love to share what I’ve learned.  I’m a great listener and can help you find what keeps you stuck.  

I invite you to schedule a chat with me.  Simply reach out and I will send you a link to my calendar.  

Here’s to starting 2022 with a clean slate and ready to embark on new adventures!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” In the sky!

Saying NO to notions

Midlife is a good time to reevaluate what you have thought is true about life, and possibly say no to your notions.

What is something you believed in your 30’s that you no longer believe? 

Asking for a friend

I had fun asking my friends on Facebook to share beliefs they once had in our 30’s

Here are a few that I love:

60 is old.

My jeans had to be a certain size.

It’s not possible to train for a marathon at my age.

I had to be the peace maker.

People who had a lot of money had no problems.

What are yours?

I’m convinced that we all have notions that we might be ready to ditch.

Midlife is the perfect time to break free and truly live!

What are notions that you no longer believe?

OH… and while we are asking… where the heck did these notions come from?  Who makes up the rules anyway?  

It’s so fascinating to think about, but maybe it never occurred to you to reevaluate what you believe. 

Let me encourage you to get curious about some of your notions that may need to be ditched.  

Question everything

I think everything is up for questioning. 

Do you have to be a certain size to be happy?  

What age is too old?  

Why not train to run a marathon at 50?  

Your answers could be a clue to how your second half of life will go.  

Are you ready to ditch the notions you once believed?  If you can, life has endless possibilities!  

Need help?

Some notions you no longer believe could be due to hardships and unexpected twists in the road.  Even when life does not go as planned, I’ve seen resiliency that truly inspires me.  

It is never too late to create new notions, see life with new possibilities.  

You might recognize some notions, but are not convinced you could move past them.  

I am confident that I can help you say yes to life.  It is time to discover what your notion of fun is, what matters most to you and to fall in love with life.  

Most of all I’d love to help you define life on your terms.  

I invite you to take the first step by scheduling a chat with me.  I can send you my calendar link.  It is simple to pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to embracing new notions!

~Tiffany Eckhardt

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Sober October

Tiffany Eckhardt shares her experience with Sober October, a journey of self discovery.

No one challenged me to Sober October.  

I thought I made it up, until my son told me that comedians do Sober October every year to prove they aren’t alcoholics.  

I really enjoy a good glass of wine, especially at my favorite winery Busted Oaks Cellars, and love mixing an old fashion as much as I love making my morning pour over coffee.  

For me, Sober October isn’t about giving up these simple pleasures in life permanently.

Why Sober October?

I am not an alcoholic.  I don’t wake up in the morning thinking about getting drunk, but I habitually have a couple glasses of wine or an old fashion at the end of each day.  

If it’s not a problem, why would I do this? 

The past few months I’ve wondered if my alcohol consumption had something to do with my weight fluctuations and saw Sober October as a journey of self discovery.  

What could learn about myself if I was sober for a month? 

It was a big experiment for me.

What did I learn?

After a few awkward social situations, I decided I was not required to explain myself.  When asked why I was committed to Sober October, I just replied that I wanted to see what I was capable of.  

Turns out I can have fun without being tipsy.  

Most importantly, I learned that I can handle very uncomfortable emotions without the crutch of alcohol.  I don’t need to reach for a cocktail to relax, forget the day or cover up loneliness and sadness.  

I don’t give up.  Trust me, I had a very difficult past two weeks.  I could have easily given up.  

Best part… I lost 7 pounds and an inch from my waist and hips.  Yes, alcohol has some affect on my weight fluctuations.  

What now?

The point of Sober October was not to eliminate alcohol.  Let’s be honest.  It was never about the alcohol.  

This month gave me evidence that I am capable of way more than I give myself credit for.  

I am disciplined and now have the confidence that I can do anything I set my mind to do.  

I am so proud of myself.  THAT IS PRICELESS!!!

What would you like to learn about yourself?  

You may not have a desire to take a break with alcohol, but I’m willing to bet that you have one area of your life you would like to get a handle on.  

Do you want to go on a journey of self discovery to learn what you are capable of? 

What would life be like if you didn’t struggle with that one thing?

I invite you to schedule a chat with me.  I am confident that I can help you stop wasting time with habitual struggles and help you see that you are capable of more than you imagine.  

When you are ready, let’s chat!

Here’s to learning what you are capable of!

~Tiffany

And the birds flutter around her writing “YES” in the sky

Who are you if you ditch the titles?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention helping woman rise above their midlife BS

Ditch the titles

When asked to introduce yourself, do you feel the need to recite an well rehearsed elevator speach?  Midlife seems to be the perfect season to ditch the titles.  However, deciding on an introduction that really captures who you’ve become is not that easy.  

Here’s how I’d like to introduce myself:

Hi I’m Tiffany.  I like to think I have a sparkle and a great smile, and am most found of my indomitable spirit and fierce independence.  My heart swells when my grandkids giggle, reminding me to lighten up and enjoy life.  I have a gift of hospitality and enjoy creating beautiful spaces, both in my home and garden.  Preferring a natural lifestyle, I am curious about how nature provides for us.  Currently I am creating journals for women to rise above the BS, navigate change and live extraordinary lives.  

I haven’t muster the courage to use a lengthy explanation of who I am.  People expect to hear what I DO, not an explanation of WHO I am, especially when it sounds like bragging about all the qualities I like about myself.  

The Titles

It’s so much easier to use titles that are commonly recognized in introductions, which reasonably define you, until they don’t.  

What actually defines you when you’ve retired your well rehearsed elevator speech?  It sucks to feel unsure of your identity as you enter an uncharted season of life.  

Instead of seeing it as a predicament, you could view it as a great opportunity to create the title you want and really learn who you are.  

What’s your essence?

Society loves labels and titles to categorize people.  Have you noticed?  

Many of my clients are just getting to know themselves after a lifetime of service to others. They are tapping into buried interests and passions, and discovering their essence as they  redefine their life.  

Wouldn’t it feel radical to ditch the titles and lead with what makes you unique?  Try it. I am…

Ask the right questions!

You may be wondering who am I now that I am free from my titles?  

Well, start by identifying what you believe about yourself.  What are you proud of?  Would you change anything?  If so, forgive yourself and let it go.  Are there features of yourself you love?  What are your gifts?  What makes you feel alive?  

Are there new skills you’d like to develop or natural talents you could explore? What do you consider fun?  

I don’t pretend to have the answers

I’m a work in progress.  {Maybe that could be how I introduce myself}

I believe this work is vital and necessary to break free from attachments to the past.  It liberates you to blossom into the woman you long to BE.  

This is your season to sparkle.  Only you can answer the question of who you are and who you will become.

I can help

I’d love to help you sort through all the questions that will lead you to discovering your perfect introduction.  

I offer a FREE guide, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS.  This guide will help you ask the right questions, identify who you want to be and stop sabotaging your best made goals for the future.

My Four Stages  Of Reinvention Journal is available on Amazon.  It sucks that change never gets easier.  Journaling is a powerful tool in connecting to your thoughts and creating a map forward.  Learning the Four Stages Of Reinvention will help you discover what phase of change your are in and build a road map for your future.  Once you’ve mastered the four stages, you’ll never waste time fighting change again.

If you are in any stage of reinvention or change, I invite you to take advantage of a free consult call by simply visiting my calendar and picking a date/time that works for you.  This will give you an opportunity to discover what midlife coaching is all about and if it’s a good fit for you.  

Ditch the titles challenge

I’d love to get to know you, not your titles.  I challenge you to craft an introduction free of common titles and send me what you come up with.  It will be fun to see how creative y’all are!  

Here’s to becoming who we are, not what we do!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

What about the box?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and a certified life coach... helps you rise above your midlife BS.

Are you an outside the box thinker, or do you play it safe?  Either way, my question is what about the box?

What about the box?

If you have small children in your life, you already know that birthday gifts are great, but it’s the box that excites the child.  

I heard an excellent analogy this week that could be aptly applied to midlife.  

As a child, your parents may have purchased a new appliance that arrived in a huge box.  You know… the kind of box that was transformed once the parents tossed it out.  There was no limits to the scope of imagination for that box.  It could be a rocket ship, a castle or a boat.  Hours, no weeks, were spent creating and recreating that one box.     

The gift of midlife is similar, life just handed you a brand new refrigerator box to play with.  With childlike curiosity and wonder, the box could be anything!

The crisis

I’ve heard numerous reasons to think midlife as a crisis.  Questions haunt you once you’re aware that you’ve entered midlife.  

What will you do now that all the kids have flown the coop?  

Who are you after retirement?  

You question if you can really connect with the person you raised a family with.  

Is it too late to go back to school or learn a new skill?  

The most important question in my book is what do you like to do for FUN?

The Gift

This whole new chapter of your life is a pivot from one season to another, and a chance to really get to know yourself.  With an inquiring mind, allow yourself to playfully explore abundant possibilities.  

Finally, you have the time and finances to explore dreams and interests buried the past few decades.  It’s not too late!  Believe it or not, there are inspiring women advanced in years still going strong. 

Moxie movement

I’m on a roll, literally.  As you read last week, I got my moxie moving by roller skating!  It feels so retro!  

In addition, I’ve focused on the word liberate and shared how you can step into your power.  

If you haven’t yet noticed, I wholeheartedly believe in rising above the midlife BS.  

My goal is to create a #metoomoxie movement!

What about your box?  

This new season doesn’t need to be an identity crisis or lonely. The beauty of midlife is that you can indeed approach midlife as a child with a refrigerator box and invite friends to join you!

Not sure where to start?  I can help!

If this hits close to home, let’s get you on the calendar!  Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you.  

Cheers to embracing the gift of midlife with a Moxie Movement!

Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

3 steps to get your moxie moving

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach, helping women get the midlife moxie moving!
Ready. Set. Go!

Do you embody a moxie midlife or do you need help getting your moxie moving?  

I recently had the nerve to take up roller skating.  Inspired by roller skating women of all ages on Instagram REELS attempting to learn tricks, I started to feel a pull to this retro sport.  Y’all know… I have the guts to try anything.  

So, here we are.  I’m creating Instagram REELS documenting my #365skatechallenge and loving every minute.  {Check out my Instagram for the latest goofy REEL}

A moxie movement

I think the word is badass!

Here’s what some of my friends say about moxie:

“Strong willed, driven, grit.” Lisa 

“Power in determination and resolve,” Emily

“Girl power or the power to stand up for yourself,” Sherry

I hope you are saying heck yeah, I’m moxie!

The time has come for a “Me Too” movement for midlife women who want to live with moxie!  You ready? 

#metoomoxie

How do you get your moxie moving?

1. Make shit up 

It is time to stop sleep walking through life.  Start by asking yourself what do I want to do that scares me, but scares me even more not to do?

My guess is that you don’t have to dig deep to find what stirs your soul.  There is something right under the surface you’ve always wanted to do.  

Ok, I get it.  Not everyone will pick up roller skating.  {Although I’d love for you to join the fun}. Maybe learning salsa dancing is more your speed.  Sipping a great cup of coffee with a good book might be your idea of indulgence.

You do you, but do it with great courage.  Your moxie is ready to move!

2.  Massive action

Well, at least think about what action would look like.

Ladies, now that you have spent time thinking about what turns you on, it is time to step into the life you have always wanted.  Get your moxie moving {or step into your power}.

What could you put on the calendar that will get you moving?  Schedule the class, book the flight, find out when the skating rink is open {LOL}, etc.

3. Switch off the shame game

Midlife women with moxie don’t seek permission.   

Have the courage to try the things you’ve always wanted without regard for the opinions of others.  Don’t for a minute feel guilty for wanting something for yourself or worry that you will look ridiculous.  Say to yourself, “I have the guts to try this.”

Master of reinvention

It could be that you feel stuck.  Here is the good news!  I can help.

I earned my self proclaimed title, Master Of Reinvention, by having the moxie to try new things, be willing to think outside the box and believe in possibilities.  

It is my life’s passion to help women move from living vicariously through others.

Are you stirred?  Great!  Let’s get you on the calendar by clicking my calendar link below.  We can chat about how you can tap into your moxie!  

If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead.

Here’s to a moxie midlife!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Step into your power

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
STEPPING INTO MY POWER

Life is waiting for you to simply step into your power.

Last week I focused on the word liberate.  As usual, life presented me with an opportunity to grow in liberation.  Fortunately, I was able to take my circumstances to my life coach, who encouraged me to step into my power.  

BTW: Yes, I have a life coach too. 🙋🏼‍♀️

What the heck did she mean by that?

She went on to remind me that our brain’s job is to create the worst case scenario.  Of course, focusing on the tragic side of my circumstances seems familiar, and weirdly safer.

After allowing my brain to do it’s job, I journaled the worse case scenario. 

That was easy, now what?

It’s only fair to give the best case scenario equal time by journaling what I wanted to happen. 

My coach recommended creating my success story.  LOVE THIS!  I thought about all of the successes I’ve accumulated in my 51 years, and then included current goals and my commitment to my future self.

In journaling both best and worse case scenarios, I discovered all of my options and realized that either way I’ll be ok. 

In that a-ha moment, I stepped into my power

What the heck are you waiting for?

This is your life.  Are you who you want to be?  Are you showing up and getting the results you want?  

I will always advocate journaling, but let me offer another resource.  Check out my workbook, Rise Above Your Midlife BS.  This is a free workbook that helps you clarify what you believe, who you are and what you are willing to do to create your life.  Click the link below to get your copy!  

I believe every brain needs a coach.  There is no shame in sharing your thoughts with another person trained to listen.  I appreciate my life coach encouraging me to consider both the worse and the best case scenarios. Once I saw I’d be ok either way, I was able to step into my power.

I love helping midlife women get past their midlife BS and believe their best years are ahead.  

If the idea of stepping into your power excites you, schedule a free session.  This is your chance to see how a life coach can help you improve your relationships, get that job, find love after a midlife divorce, decide what to do with an empty nest, discover what you have in common with your husband, etc.  

Simply click my calendar link below.  

Here’s to stepping into your power!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky. 

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach.  Get your copy of her free workbook Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS
Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Liberated

This week I turned 51 years young, and feel LIBERATED.

lib.er.a.ted

Refusing to live with limitations & expectations.

Tiffany’s definition

The season of birthing children for me is complete, but a life force continues to express itself through my ideas, dreams and inspiration.  

In order to have that freedom, I am liberating myself from expectations and limitations.  

Liberation is not easy

I hope to inspire liberation! But trust me, I am in the arena fighting hard with you.

I never want to give the wrong impression by pretending I don’t have challenges.

I struggle with the opinions of others. I’m not at my ideal weight, or as fit as I want to be.

But, I’m evolving into someone I finally like and respect, and recognize room for more growth.

It only took me 51 years to have my own back. I’ve learned to forgive my inadequacies and appreciate resiliency.

Here’s what I’ve learned after a week journaling about liberation.

1. The first step to becoming liberated in midlife is to truly get to know yourself and decide how you want to show up in this messy world. Forgive yourself, even when others can’t. Learn what makes you come alive.

2. The second step is to come to terms with the expectations of others, understanding how your thoughts effect the relationship. Often times we don’t realize the impact of our own expectations on others. If you struggle with this step, go back to step one.

Liberation comes when you like yourself.

I regularly hear from midlife clients, “what’s the point?” 

God forbid you feel stuck by the limitations of age and wonder if getting older means you had your chance. What can you do to become liberated TOWARDS a future with abundant creativity and independent thought?

Journal to get to know yourself. Check out my Four Journal Prompts article for more ways to explore who you want to become.

What do you like to do for fun? This is a question I started asking myself. Start by making a “fun” list and schedule it into your week. Invite a friend to lunch.  Download the Babble app to learn a new language.  Join a yoga studio.  You do you.  

Are you curious why midlife women need a life coach? 

Fair question.

My clients are restoring relationships, getting new jobs, embracing technology for their businesses, planning dream trips, finding their dream man, and attaining their ideal weight.

Most importantly, they are working towards becoming the women they truly like with an exciting future.

In this season, you deserve to be liberated towards a life that you create. You are worth the hard work.  If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead.

If this is you, schedule a free session to chat about your liberation towards the life you long for.

Here’s to all you ageless goddesses!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach