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What if your dream is measured in miles?

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Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead. Learn how to go the extra miles for your dreams
Will you go the extra mile????

What if your dreams are measured in miles?  At what mile marker do you let the dream die?

You set out to achieve a dream, thinking it will be achieved at the mile one marker. 

What if the dream couldn’t actually be realized until you reached mile 4?  

In your minds eye, did you stop at mile one? Or did you continue?  

What if it took 20 miles?  Would the dream be worth it to you?

Determination of a weed

Last week we chatted about resiliency.  I am convinced resiliency is the secret to achieving abundant dreams.  I believe in your capacity!  

Your best years are ahead when you are willing to go the extra mile.  

Getting older has it’s benefits.  Life experience has taught me the importance of perseverance. 

My motto is “fall seven times, stand up eight.”

I had an a-ha moment in my garden this week.  

Y’all, the weeds took control while we were out of town.  This is not the first time I faced a major clean up in my garden.  In fact, pulling weeds is a daily chore.  As I was cleaning out rogue grass and weeds I thought to myself, “these damn plants refuse to die.” 

In that moment, I wondered if I am as determined as a weed?  

Am I willing to go the extra mile?  

GRACE for your dream

I believe the life you desire will present you with opportunities to be persistent.  So, I offer you grace.  

You will skip through miles of pure joy and adventure!  But when adversity hits, you will need to be determined, learn new skills and develop resiliency to reach your dreams.  

How do you navigate the extra miles?

  1. Universal law of construction

Jeff and I have remodeled and restored seven homes in the course of our thirty years of marriage.  One thing we can tell you for sure is that it ALWAYS takes longer and cost more money than expected.  

Is that a failure?  No, it is wise to allow for the unexpected.  

Failure is a stepping stone on the path towards your dreams.  Decide on how you will define failures, and do not let them define you. 

“If you want success, you need to double your rate of failure,” Thomas J. Watson.  

2. Instant results verses hard work.

It is like winning the universal lottery when a dream comes quickly without much effort.  You may think that you are destine or chosen.  You definitely feel excited.    

On the flip side, what does it mean when it takes a long time to realize a dream?  Could sticking with a dream create perseverance?  Going the extra mile gives you something to be proud of.  It shows what you are made of.  You learn so much more from the stepping stones of failure than you do from instant gratification.  

Sometimes it is simply good for your soul to really “earn” the dream.  

“When we suddenly shift toward both focusing on and finding joy in the process of achieving instead of having the goal, we have gained a new skill,”  Tom Sterner.  

3. Curiosity is always the answer to a road block!

Yep, questions are the answer!  Asking your brain questions forces it to focus on solving problems.  It can’t help but answer the question.  Isn’t that cool?  

How will this make me stronger?

What can I learn from this experience?

How can I use this?

What do I want to create from this?

How many miles will you travel for your dream?

You know that failure does not define you, that you are capable of hard work and are curious, but maybe you just need a little push from someone who believes your best years are ahead.  

When you live your life in an intentional way, you create the life you desire!  

I’d love to help you navigate the miles ahead.  If this resonates with you, schedule a FREE mini session. 

Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It is really that simple.  

I hope our paths cross on your journey.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

You are not broken

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Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach for midlife wellness... permission to soar!
Permission to soar

Have you ever wondered if something in your life is not right or perhaps you’re broken… yet you are not willing to give up on your dreams?

You are not broken, you just need permission to break free from your cage and soar.

Milestone birthdays

Milestone birthdays are generally catalyst for serious life evaluation.  Leading up to my milestone birthday, I decided that this next phase of life would be epic.  I’ve reached the age that I officially don’t care what others think of my choices.  

I don’t know about you… but I’d like to see more midlife women defy the rules of what this season is supposed to look like. 

Do you believe your soul is ageless?  

Think about it.  

According to Dr. Northrup, “You can change your future starting today by adopting a new, ageless attitude that will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.”

Agelessness is about chunking society’s ideals of what women of a certain age should focus on, look like, dress, be, do, have, etc.  Lord knows you’ve tried to fit in society’s boxes your whole life.  Their boxes have left you feeling broken or not able to measure up.  

Forget that!  Give yourself permission to break free from that cage and soar.

I say it’s time to unstuck your brain

After you’ve given yourself permission to soar into a vision you create for midlife, you’ll need to unstuck your brain from the old, worn-out story you once believed.  You need to replace it with a well-crafted story that serves you and your dreams.  

Address negative emotions

The worst thing you can do for yourself is hold onto destructive emotions.  

“Negative” emotions are indicators of unmet needs that need to be processed for healing.  Think of emotions as your guidance system, pointing to the areas in your life that need to be addressed.  

Emotions like sadness, despair, and unworthiness have an adverse effect on your wellness and keep you stuck in a life that you don’t want. 

It is helpful to process these emotions and not ignore them.  That is where I can help… as a certified life coach I can help you identify what is causing the “negative” emotions so you can release them. 

Curious about coaching? Check out my article: 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

Focus on “causes of health”

Wellness is my jam.  {Yep, I just said jam.}  I love studying “causes of health.”  It makes more sense to me than always reacting to disease.  

It is society, the medical establishment, big Pharma, etc who support a belief that disease and infirmity are inevitable.  

My personal plan is to be “ninety three and prescription free” as Gladys McGarey, M.D. proclaims.  

You have a choice to focus on wellness.  There are plenty of actions you can take to promote wellness; like eat whole fresh foods, get outside, move your body, feed your mind, get good sleep, remove the toxins from your home, etc.

I’d like to offer that Self-Aware is the first step in Self-Care.  The best place to start a wellness journey is your thoughts about it.  What do you actually believe is possible?  Why is it important to you?

For me, I want to soar into midlife and eventually retirement with the energy of a twenty-something.  I want my obituary to read, “Tiffany Eckhardt was a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.” 

Do you need to unstuck your brain concerning midlife wellness?  

Surround yourself with positive influences

“The tribe I hang with vibrates in another reality entirely.”  Gladys McGarey, M.D.

It helps to surround yourself with people that are crazy enough to believe that YOU can create a life.  In fact, your friends can be your biggest cheerleaders for midlife wellness.  

Positive influences can also be found outside your circle of friends by following podcasts, reading books, subscribing to YouTube channels, etc.  Who are your go-to influencers who encourage you to live fully?

Unstuck your brain and give yourself permission to soar.  

If you find yourself stuck and you want to start living the life you know is possible, I’d love to help.  I offer a free mini session for those who are curious about what a life coach can offer.  

I am a master at reinvention and have an abundant belief in possibilities.  But what totally makes a difference is the tools I’ve learned to utilize.  

If you are curious, schedule your free mini session today by clicking the link below and choosing a date on the calendar.  It really is that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky. 

Do you have swagger?

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Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women create swagger

You may be good at beating yourself up for eating the third piece of pizza or forgetting an important zoom call, but hardly ever give yourself credit for the twenty years you spent raising competent children who are now making their way in the world.  So, learning to possess swagger will take some practice.  

Fail Friday

I brought up bragging during my Fail Friday on May 7th.  I shared a three-step daily practice that includes bragging, gratitude and desire.  Focusing on the “trinity” thoughts daily will drastically improve your midlife wellness awakening.

First of all, I believe failure has an important place in your growth.  My weekly Facebook Live called Fail Friday is designed to highlight failure and give examples of people who use their failure as stepping stones to success.   

Sara Blakely is a great example of the importance of acknowledging failure.  Her Dad set her up to embrace failure by insisting on a nightly tradition of sharing failures at the dinner table.  

When it comes to failure, I definitely have swagger.  Unfortunately, it is rare that I’ll boast about a success.  Why is that? 

Focus

What ever your mind focuses on you will attract in your life.  It is easier to focus on problems to be solved than to celebrate a success.  So how do we switch our focus to swagger?

To redirect focus, stop yourself with the statement, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

For example, you notice that you really don’t like feeling out of control when you’ve had the third glass of wine.  The next morning you get up not feeling yourself and start beating yourself up for that third glass.  Stop beating yourself up and proclaim, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

The Swagger Practice

You may have more of what you don’t want stored in your subconscious.  You simply need to deposit more swagger into the story you rehearse in your mind.  

Dr. Northrup shares in her book Goddesses Never Age a daily practice of bragging, gratitude and desire  “I think it is fantastic for bringing perspective to your daily experiences and remembering how challenges set you up to more deeply appreciate blessings.  Doing this exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of getting through a To Do list.’

So SWAGGER!

  1. Think of something to brag about.  It doesn’t have to be earth shattering, just a thought you can be proud of.  You don’t have to share it publicly, but definitely record it in a journal to look back on.  
  2. Identify something you can be grateful for.  This is different from a brag.  What blessing in your life fills your heart with joy?
  3. What do you desire?  This should be out of reach.  If money or time were not an object, what would you want? 

I LOVE the idea off doing this daily activity with your wingwomen.  It will uplift your tribe and encourage swagger.

Swagger takes practice

You can attain a life your proud of and enjoy getting out of bed for.  If the idea of creating daily swagger is resonating with you, I’d love to help.  I can help you sort through the thoughts that are keeping you stuck.

I help midlife women figure out where they are and where they want to be.  

I am offering a FREE mini session for you to test drive a coaching session.  It’s a pain free way to see if coaching is for you!  

Click the link below and choose a date on the calendar!  It is that easy.  

~Tiffany

And the bird fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach