Be unrealistic about age and get what you want

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead.  Be unrealistic and get what you want.
“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.” C.S. Lewis

Now that you’ve entered the season labeled midlife, do you fear it’s unrealistic to create something new at your age?  

Many clients of mine share a fear that age limits their ability to create something new.  I believe the opposite.  Your best years are ahead.  Finding yourself at the end of one season is an exciting opportunity to make decisions about life in the next season.   

Of course you are capable of learning new things and creating your life as you would like it to be.  

According to Marie Forleo, “Everything is figure-outable.”  

What if being unrealistic IS the answer to creating something new?  

What is the first thing your mind offers when you decide to create something new?  All the reasons it can’t work, all the reasons it isn’t a good idea and all the reasons it isn’t reasonable.  Yep, your mind is very clever in keeping you safe and secure. 

When you spend your time considering all that your brain offers, you fail ahead of time.  You stop yourself before you even get started.

So, trick you brain.  Agree with it.  Don’t give it anything to argue with.  

Agree with your brain that your new idea might not work, there will be obstacles and it could be completely unrealistic.  Decide to appreciate all the lessons and proceed anyways.    

Remind your brain the only way to create anything new is through trail and error.  

The fail factor

Should we fail on purpose?  Of course not!   

Brooke Castillo teaches in her eight week Business Course there are two different types of failures, escape failures and worthy failures.  

Escape failures 

Are you curios about why you don’t keep your word or follow through with your decisions?  Escape failures are a form of avoiding what is needed to realize your new creation and choosing to fail ahead of time.  

Examples:

  • Making excuses for not following through with a commitment
  • Indulging in confusion about the next step
  • Changing your mind
  • Not planning ahead of time, protecting your calendar
  • Any form of perfection is an escape failure
  • Waiting until your ready or have learned every aspect  

Worthy failures

Worthy failures are not caused by inaction, but by taking a step forward.

“We were never taught to fail.  We are taught that F’s are bad growing up.  This programming has contributed to steering away from starting things and changing,”  Brooke Castillo.  

For example, this past week I conducted my first FREE workshop on Self Appreciation.  I spent hours deciding what to teach, gathering information, putting it into an understandable form, etc.  I enthusiastically marketed the workshop, but only had a couple people show up to the live event.  Was that a failure?  NO!  No, it was not a failure.  I learned better ways to approach the next workshop and will continue to market the replay, which will reach untold amount of women.  

You can check our my Self Appreciation Workshop by clicking here: SELF APPRECIATION WORKSHOP

Never tried.

Ever failed.

No matter.

Try again.

Fail again.

Fail better.

Samuel Beckett

Get crystal clear

There will never be an age limit to creating something meaningful, but take time to get crystal clear about what you wish to create.  

  • Define: What does it feel like once you create it?  Who will benefit from your creation?  
  • Objections: What makes it unrealistic?  Go ahead and let your mind offer you the objections.  
  • Solutions:  Then answer the objections with, “That objection is true, but…”  What skills will you need to create it?  

Basically, allow your mind to define what you want to create, the obstacles in your way, and strategies to solve them ahead of time.  

BE unrealistic, a challenge

Let’s be honest, being a little unrealistic sounds like a fun challenge.   

I’d like to challenge you to a worthy fail.  Well, not just one.  I’d like to challenge you to write out 25 worthy failures you are willing to take action on.  First brainstorm all the ways you could take action that will likely fail.  From the brainstorm, pick 25 that you will commit to and then put the 25 worthy fails on your calendar.    

Taking this challenge will inspire you to take the first step.  By simply taking action, you will learn everything is figure-outable!  

Let me help you!

I love working with midlife women who are ready to believe their best years are ahead.  It is not a time to avoid the hard things, it is a time to embrace them with the self confidence earned at this age.

This past week I had the privilege to coach a beautiful spunky woman in her sixties who was was considering a new idea.  We worked through her thoughts, feelings and actions around the idea.  Afterwards I asked her what she thought she would be creating as a result.  She lit up and said, “a new career!”  

Sometimes you just need to be able to work through all the thoughts, feelings and obstacles to believe in the possibility.    

If you are ready to break some of your own limitations, let me help you!  Schedule a FREE mini session.  It’s a 45 minute chat with someone who truly believes in your possibilities.  It is also a great way to see if life coaching is for you.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Rejecting Ageism

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Today she chats about rejecting ageism.

Have you heard the term ageism?  You may not have experienced anything akin to discrimination, but you might have used it against yourself by buying into stereotypes.  Have you ever limited yourself because of your age?  It is a sneaky thing we do to ourselves when celebrate certain birthdays.  

“You are not a mistake.  You are not a problem to be solved.  But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming, caging, and fearing yourself,”  Geneen Roth.  

Don’t bang your head against your age either. 

I prefer ageless to ageism

“To be ageless is to defy the rules of what it supposedly means to be this age or that,”  Dr. Christiane Northrup.  

After reading Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age I was inspired to forge my own path and make my own rules for the next few decades.  Lucky for me I have wonderful role models.  My parents are both health conscious and lead interesting lives.  My Mom loves to say, “You rest, you rust.”  Adopting an ageless attitude will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.   

How to reject ageism for agelessness

1. Find examples

You will find countless examples of midlife success by doing a simple Google search.  I’ve studied well known people like Martha Stewart and Julia child.  But, I love the stories of women who blazed their own trail without the fanfare of fame.

The documentary Fabulous Fashionistas highlights six spunky 80’ish women who refuse to stop living.  These women wear Doc Martens and mini-skirts, and “don’t give a toss” about what people think of them.  Jean Woods, 75 years young, runs several times a week on her new knee and got a job as the oldest employee of GAP.  In their pursuit of life they all stay fit, aren’t afraid of hard work and have a steely determination.  Their indomitable spirits are inspiring.  

Betty White at age 95 remarked, “Don’t try to be young.  Just open your mind.  Stay interested in stuff.  There are so many things I won’t live long enough to find out about.  But I’m still curious about them.”  She is definitely an inspiration.  

2. Be aware

Who determines when your value diminishes?  Do you feel invisible (a common complaint of age conscious people)?  Do you have a shelf life?  

Well, society and stereotypes will attempt to turn you to anti-aging agents, creams or surgeries to make you feel younger.  Because you are “worth it.”  I believe this propaganda is robbing you of who you really are, of your sense of self, wisdom, sense of usefulness.  

Only you can determine your worth.  You can allow the messages that younger is better, or you can reject the message as an outright lie.  Once you become aware of what you truly believe about midlife, you can address these thoughts.  

So, what sneaky thoughts have you noticed depleting your midlife mojo?  Are you aware?

3. Breakthrough

“Our obsession with image is tiring, it’s never ending.  Where as if our emphasis turns inward more, what really our life is about, what turns us on, what makes us feel electric, then that starts to glow outside.”  Scilla Elworthy

At this point in life you can either think there is no time or energy for your dreams, or you no longer want to put your dreams on hold.  One thought is energy depleting and the other creates energy.

A breakthrough demands a radical departure from some of your habitual thoughts.  How would you show up to midlife if you could believe anything is possible?  You are worth exploring this question.  You just as you are.    

Your best years are ahead

I truly believe your best years are ahead.  This is the belief I’m building my coaching practice upon.  I am passionate about sharing tools that will help you realize your best life, at any age.

If you can believe, life is ready to to give you a breakthrough.  This belief is energy creating.  

I’d love to help you create YOUR vision for midlife.  So, I’ve made it easy for you to get started.  I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.  Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


What if life is NOT a problem to be solved?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead.  What if life was not a problem to be solved?

What if life is NOT a problem to be solved, but is actually a mystery to be lived? 

I have talked to so many midlife women who feel there is a big question mark over their future.  

Society, community and family traditions influence women in their journey.  Women tend to neglect themselves in the service of family and career.  After decades of doing for others, wether you stayed home or had a career, the end of that defining chapter is near.   

There is no owner’s manual for this next season. This is what I call the midlife conundrum.  The big question mark of “what do you do now?”  

I think a better feeling question is, “who do you want to BE now?”  

This new season is an opportunity for you to discover your truest self, to embrace the mystery.  

Self-Aware is the first step in Self-Care  

Getting to know yourself is the most transformative work you can do and will solve the midlife conundrum.  

I am a personal growth junkie.  Given the choice, I will read a book that dives deep into the human psyche over a juicy romance novel. 

It is no wonder why I chose to become a certified life coach. If you are willing to do the work, I truly believe your best years are ahead.  

What is your unique framework?

In my pursuit of personal growth, I’ve taken several personality tests.  I am a RED/BLUE or an A/B depending on the chart.  I scored an 8/7 on the Enneagram test.   

So, I’m a challenger that shows enthusiasm, which is frustrating because I don’t particularly like being naturally driven with a direct personality.  I enjoy parties, but hate being the center of attention, partly because I’m afraid of what might come out of my mouth with no filter.  

Personality tests are interesting, but I never really knew how to apply the results to life.  

It read my mail

I finally found a profile that gave me clear applications to my life and unpacked the mystery.  

My friend and colleague, Lisa Scoffield recently introduced me to Human Design.  It is a new service she is offering in her coaching practice.  Human Design is a science that gives insight into your personality traits, your health, your personal psychology, your talents, your wisdom, and your vulnerabilities.  When Lisa offered to run my chart, I responded with an instant YES!  

Again, I geek out over these kind of things, but I never expected it to read my mail. 

Pure Generator

I am a Pure Generator.  My strengths are energetic, master of their work, sustainable energy and self-aware.  My weaknesses are often frustrated, quits too soon, can’t make it happen and can feel stuck. 

Lisa explained my profile with an in-depth thirty page report.  As I read through it I started to have a-ha moments, and at times felt sad.  I felt sad because I never fully understood the patterns in my life until I read this.  I spent nearly 50 years believing I was broken and there is something seriously wrong with me.    

Yes, I have a tendency of challenging everything from the school system, the medical system, society’s conditioning, etc.  Weirdly enough, I have a sense of duty too.  I am a work horse who will work until exhaustion.  I am direct to a fault and a social butterfly, until I suddenly feel that I’ve had enough.      

The most impactful revelation in the report is understanding how I am designed to make decisions.  I’ve been conditioned to think I need to hustle and make things happen.  My best approach for making decisions is to pause, listen to my gut and wait for a strong YES or a strong NO.  My biggest fear is that I will wait and it will never come. 

I now understand how I’m wired and how I can best show up in the world with my gifts.  How I can be aware of my weakness, but shine through my strengths. 

If you are curious about your Human Design Chart, I encourage you to reach out to Lisa.  

Lisa is lovely and deeply committed to helping people live their truest self.  Simply click this link and pick a date on her calendar:  LISA SCOFFIELD

Deny your own wisdom?   

Self-Aware is the first step in Self-Care.  If you are willing to do the work, you will discover your truest self. 

Coaching allows you to get in touch with what you already know.  Don’t deny your wisdom.  

My biggest joy in life is helping women believe their best years are ahead. Life is a wonderful mystery.

When you get in the habit of knowing yourself, there is no fear or limitation that could ever hold you back.  

If this resonates with you, I’d love to help you!  Take advantage of my FREE mini session.  It is your opportunity to chat with someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  

Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple!

Tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Questions are the answers

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach with Flown The Coop.  Let her help you create a life YOU are excited to get out of bed for.

What if curious people understood questions are the answer?  

Do you long to wake up excited to get out of bed and be the person you know you can be, but just not sure how to get connected with that life?  What if questions are the answers and curiosity is the key?

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?

Successful people know questions are the answer

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.  

Jeff Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what her son enjoyed.  She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.   

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  Walt Disney 

Questions are the answers

Curious folks just learned to ask good questions.  

Are you known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow?

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,”  Jeff Bezos.    

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?  

How curious are you?  Don’t let yourself off the hook.  This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.  

Here are a few questions to spark your curiosity….

Are you doing what you truly want to do?

How many promises have you kept to yourself?

If you could clone yourself, which of your characteristics you wouldn’t want to be cloned?

Who do you admire and why?

Is there anyone who inspired your life today?

What are you most proud of?

If happiness was a currency, how rich would you be?  

If today was the end of the world, what would you do?  

I hope you came up with some of your own questions!  

Does creating a life resonate with you?   

I’d love to offer a FREE mini coaching session.  The mini session is simply a chat with someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  

Click on the link below and pick a date on my calendar.  It is really that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her wiring “YES” in the sky.  

You are not broken

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach for midlife wellness... permission to soar!
Permission to soar

Have you ever wondered if something in your life is not right or perhaps you’re broken… yet you are not willing to give up on your dreams?

You are not broken, you just need permission to break free from your cage and soar.

Milestone birthdays

Milestone birthdays are generally catalyst for serious life evaluation.  Leading up to my milestone birthday, I decided that this next phase of life would be epic.  I’ve reached the age that I officially don’t care what others think of my choices.  

I don’t know about you… but I’d like to see more midlife women defy the rules of what this season is supposed to look like. 

Do you believe your soul is ageless?  

Think about it.  

According to Dr. Northrup, “You can change your future starting today by adopting a new, ageless attitude that will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.”

Agelessness is about chunking society’s ideals of what women of a certain age should focus on, look like, dress, be, do, have, etc.  Lord knows you’ve tried to fit in society’s boxes your whole life.  Their boxes have left you feeling broken or not able to measure up.  

Forget that!  Give yourself permission to break free from that cage and soar.

I say it’s time to unstuck your brain

After you’ve given yourself permission to soar into a vision you create for midlife, you’ll need to unstuck your brain from the old, worn-out story you once believed.  You need to replace it with a well-crafted story that serves you and your dreams.  

Address negative emotions

The worst thing you can do for yourself is hold onto destructive emotions.  

“Negative” emotions are indicators of unmet needs that need to be processed for healing.  Think of emotions as your guidance system, pointing to the areas in your life that need to be addressed.  

Emotions like sadness, despair, and unworthiness have an adverse effect on your wellness and keep you stuck in a life that you don’t want. 

It is helpful to process these emotions and not ignore them.  That is where I can help… as a certified life coach I can help you identify what is causing the “negative” emotions so you can release them. 

Curious about coaching? Check out my article: 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

Focus on “causes of health”

Wellness is my jam.  {Yep, I just said jam.}  I love studying “causes of health.”  It makes more sense to me than always reacting to disease.  

It is society, the medical establishment, big Pharma, etc who support a belief that disease and infirmity are inevitable.  

My personal plan is to be “ninety three and prescription free” as Gladys McGarey, M.D. proclaims.  

You have a choice to focus on wellness.  There are plenty of actions you can take to promote wellness; like eat whole fresh foods, get outside, move your body, feed your mind, get good sleep, remove the toxins from your home, etc.

I’d like to offer that Self-Aware is the first step in Self-Care.  The best place to start a wellness journey is your thoughts about it.  What do you actually believe is possible?  Why is it important to you?

For me, I want to soar into midlife and eventually retirement with the energy of a twenty-something.  I want my obituary to read, “Tiffany Eckhardt was a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.” 

Do you need to unstuck your brain concerning midlife wellness?  

Surround yourself with positive influences

The tribe I hang with vibrates in another reality entirely.”  Gladys McGarey, M.D.

It helps to surround yourself with people that are crazy enough to believe that YOU can create a life.  In fact, your friends can be your biggest cheerleaders for midlife wellness.  

Positive influences can also be found outside your circle of friends by following podcasts, reading books, subscribing to YouTube channels, etc.  Who are your go-to influencers who encourage you to live fully?

Unstuck your brain and give yourself permission to soar.  

If you find yourself stuck and you want to start living the life you know is possible, I’d love to help.  I offer a free mini session for those who are curious about what a life coach can offer.  

I am a master at reinvention and have an abundant belief in possibilities.  But what totally makes a difference is the tools I’ve learned to utilize.  

If you are curious, schedule your free mini session today by clicking the link below and choosing a date on the calendar.  It really is that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky. 

Do you have swagger?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women create swagger

You may be good at beating yourself up for eating the third piece of pizza or forgetting an important zoom call, but hardly ever give yourself credit for the twenty years you spent raising competent children who are now making their way in the world.  So, learning to possess swagger will take some practice.  

Fail Friday

I brought up bragging during my Fail Friday on May 7th.  I shared a three-step daily practice that includes bragging, gratitude and desire.  Focusing on the “trinity” thoughts daily will drastically improve your midlife wellness awakening.

First of all, I believe failure has an important place in your growth.  My weekly Facebook Live called Fail Friday is designed to highlight failure and give examples of people who use their failure as stepping stones to success.   

Sara Blakely is a great example of the importance of acknowledging failure.  Her Dad set her up to embrace failure by insisting on a nightly tradition of sharing failures at the dinner table.  

When it comes to failure, I definitely have swagger.  Unfortunately, it is rare that I’ll boast about a success.  Why is that? 

Focus

What ever your mind focuses on you will attract in your life.  It is easier to focus on problems to be solved than to celebrate a success.  So how do we switch our focus to swagger?

To redirect focus, stop yourself with the statement, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

For example, you notice that you really don’t like feeling out of control when you’ve had the third glass of wine.  The next morning you get up not feeling yourself and start beating yourself up for that third glass.  Stop beating yourself up and proclaim, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

The Swagger Practice

You may have more of what you don’t want stored in your subconscious.  You simply need to deposit more swagger into the story you rehearse in your mind.  

Dr. Northrup shares in her book Goddesses Never Age a daily practice of bragging, gratitude and desire  “I think it is fantastic for bringing perspective to your daily experiences and remembering how challenges set you up to more deeply appreciate blessings.  Doing this exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of getting through a To Do list.’

So SWAGGER!

  1. Think of something to brag about.  It doesn’t have to be earth shattering, just a thought you can be proud of.  You don’t have to share it publicly, but definitely record it in a journal to look back on.  
  2. Identify something you can be grateful for.  This is different from a brag.  What blessing in your life fills your heart with joy?
  3. What do you desire?  This should be out of reach.  If money or time were not an object, what would you want? 

I LOVE the idea off doing this daily activity with your wingwomen.  It will uplift your tribe and encourage swagger.

Swagger takes practice

You can attain a life your proud of and enjoy getting out of bed for.  If the idea of creating daily swagger is resonating with you, I’d love to help.  I can help you sort through the thoughts that are keeping you stuck.

I help midlife women figure out where they are and where they want to be.  

I am offering a FREE mini session for you to test drive a coaching session.  It’s a pain free way to see if coaching is for you!  

Click the link below and choose a date on the calendar!  It is that easy.  

~Tiffany

And the bird fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

A Wellness Awakening

My Wellness Awakening

I experienced a Wellness Awakening in January 2017, after a horrible hysterectomy that haunts me to this day.  It was a wake up call.  I began researching how to create my own wellness practices.

For three years I explored natural remedies, the power of the mind, and learning how to move my body to stay well.  I don’t live in fear of illness because I am proactive with wellness!  

Grateful for my personal wellness journey, I went from a total lack of hope in 2017 to empowered freedom that has served me well during the 2020 lockdown.

Have you experienced an awakening during lockdown?  

Have you taken inventory on what you hold as essential during this time of isolation?  What is on your list?  Here are a few of mine….

Hugging loved ones is at the top of my list!  Funny, because I’ve never been a touchy-feely type person, at least not in public. 

Freedom to go about a “normal” life!  Movies, restaurants, coffee shops, trips to the beach, having a party, going to hear live music, etc.  

Spreading the truth about wellness!  It is essential that I share the freedom of a managed mind, eating well and a body in motion with everyone. 

We only control a few things….

The truth is we control very few circumstances.  Lockdown has driven this truth home to me.  

A friend of mine shared an article with me that rocked my lockdown world.  Patience during a pandemic: What we can learn from a POW and a Roman slave-turned-philosopher

This article reminded me that the human spirit has the power to overcome the darkest, worst side of humanity.  And that people really do have the ability to write their own story, even when freedom is stripped.  

A tug of war between what is inside and outside of control

In the article, Sara Israelsen-Hartley describes The Stockdale Paradox. James Stockdale, a Vietnam vet, survived 7.5 years as a prisoner in Hanoi Hilton.  “Stockdale’s approach was to come up with a way of actually functioning in the circumstances in which he found himself so he could deal with that day in, day out, for as long as it went on.”  Israelsen-Hartley goes on to explain how Stockdale survived using the Stoic philosophy of compartmentalizing what can be controlled and what can not be controlled.

“In the 30 seconds before he landed and was pounced on by more than a dozen waiting Vietnamese soldiers, Stockdale accepted that soon nearly everything would be outside of his control — even his own body.

But his opinions, judgments and attitude, his grief and joy? Those feelings and emotions were entirely within his control.”

There is hope in an Awakening 

So, what can you control?  Your mind.  Your wellness.

I want you to be empowered by this!  Your mind is in your control, therefore wellness is within your control.  Simply put, you can be proactive instead of reactive.

While freedoms have been surgically removed by a mysterious virus, people all over the globe are awakening to the importance of health and wellbeing.  

“Your thoughts and beliefs are the single most important indicator of your state of health.”  Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D.  (From her book Goddesses Never Age)

It is science!  “Studies by researchers such as Richard Davidson of the University of Wisconsin show that mindfulness practices rewire the brain, resulting in greater immunity and improved ability to manage stress and emotions.”  Dr. Chistiane Northrup, M.D. (Goddess Never Age)

Has the COVID-19 been a wake up call for you?

Self-aware is the first step in self-care.  Let self awareness empower you to create an audacious wellness practice!

Instead of waiting for a health crisis, why not live a lifestyle that prevents it in the first place?  Awaken to the idea that you can control your state of wellbeing.  You have choices.  You can decide to be well.   

Maybe you have never took time to think about your wellbeing.  Time is definitely a commodity that is abundant during lockdown.  Lockdown is giving you time to awaken to the idea of audacious wellness! 

Now is the perfect time to create daily wellness practices and strategies to get through the pandemic for however long as it lasts.  A life of Awakened Wellness can be yours!

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Self-awareness is investing in thought work that can uncover limiting beliefs concerning wellness.  

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Here’s to the Wellness Awakening!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Will you shut down during lockdown?

ALWAYS BEEN A BIT OF A DREAMER! This was taken before my hair went grey 🙂

Last week I notice a shift from a feisty “get’er done” attitude about the COVID-19 lockdown, to a lethargic F’It attitude.  

We are so close to the end, let’s finish strong!  

With a little effort, it is possible to live well during quarantine.  We were born to create and are naturally innovative, not vegetative.  

Be YOUR hero of YOUR health!

Self-aware is the first step to self-care

First, I would like to offer a huge dose of grace.  Don’t shut down your emotions.  A good cry is therapeutic.  Feelings are an indication of your thoughts, which are totally in your control once you understand how to manage your mind.  

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.  I had a complete melt down when I had to cancel my 50th backyard birthday bash.  I have a good cry every time I think that I could have seen my new grandson, who would have been at my party.  Thankfully, my life coach helped me reframe my thoughts to remember that I can still be connected to them even if it’s not in person.  

A good laugh is medicine too.  That one takes a little effort, but so worth it.  I found Leslie Jordan on Instagram www.instagram.com/thelesliejordan (You’re welcome)

Our mental health is under siege.  

I totally understand getting lost in the last season of Shits Creek or scrolling through social media to get your mind off the lock down.  Just don’t completely shut down your gorgeous mind, shut off the tv and social media!  

This is actually an awesome opportunity to learn something new, create something amazing, or discover something about yourself.  Y’all can’t say you don’t have time!  You simply need to manage your mind!

Innovate.  Create.  Be amazing! 

Your future self will thank you!  

Don’t shut down your imagination!  

Look into your future.  How do you see yourself in a year?

In retrospect, how does your future self feel about lock down?  Will she be glad you watched the Tiger drama, or proud of the victory garden you planted?  Is she ready for her first 5k run, or worried about loosing the Corona 15 she gained (weight gained during the lock down)?  

I don’t know what is important to you, but you won’t achieve it by shutting down your imagination.  

You don’t have to spend all your time productive to be proactive.  Just pick one goal you would like to accomplish in April.  Is your future self worth it?  

Human needs

It is safe to say that COVID-19 has sabotaged our six basic human needs, unless you hold uncertainty as a priority.  The six basic human needs are certainty, uncertainty, love/connection, significance, growth and contribution.  Meeting the need for love and connection, certainty or significance may seem hard during lockdown, but growth and contribution are totally within your control.  

Seriously, don’t let the lockdown shut down your basic human need for growth and contribution!  Finish the lockdown strong!  

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As always, I am rooting for you!  Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you have the luck of the Irish?

Lucky?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women take creative control of their lives.
Lucky Me… don’t pinch me!

Do you have the luck of the Irish on your side this week?  I wear green on St. Patty’s day in honor of my Celtic friends and to avoid being pinched!  

I looked up the term “luck of the Irish” and learned it was coined during the gold rush years.  The most famous and successful miners were Irish.  Their success was attributed to sheer luck. 

I may be “lucky enough” to have a small percentage of Irish ancestry, but I don’t attribute luck to success, or feel unlucky with lack of success.  Of course I will always welcome luck!  My heart flutters at the idea of luck choosing me, but I understand my role in the husbandry of my future. 

“You’ve got to do your own growing no matter how tall your father was.”  Irish proverb

So let’s play with creation.  How do you create a life you want, with or without the magic of luck?

A managed mind creates opportunities for luck.  

Information continually bombards us on a daily basis.  Our brilliant minds funnel the information to avoid overload.  “They” call it confirmation bias.  

Here is a simple example how my mind funneled information:  I want to retire Miss Dixie, my truck. She served me well as an antique dealer, hauling a trailer of goodies for years.  Now that I have a new “hat” I long to drive something sporty and definitely not owned by the masses.  I made the decision that an off-white Mini Cooper Countryman would be fun.  Literally the moment I chose that car I saw them everywhere!  Weird, until then I hardly noticed them.  

How does confirmation bias affect our opportunities?  An unattended mind will offer only what is programed in a belief system.  Do you believe in lack, you will see lack everywhere.  Do you believe in abundance, you will see abundance everywhere.  In other words, your mind will present evidence to only what you believe. It might be time for a pivot!

The good news is that you get to choose your thoughts and create from any belief system you cultivate.  In fact, a managed mind can create opportunities.  

Give your creative juices room to breathe!  I believe inspiration comes when your mind is at rest.  Occasionally unplugging from information overload allows ideas to flow and the mind to dream.  Daily journalling has helped me to get crystal clear on what I want and choose thoughts that serve the life I want to create.  

Success leaves clues. 

I first learned the concept of success leaving clues from Tony Robbins.  He teaches that instead of reinventing the wheel, look to the ones who paved the way.  There are teachers everywhere!

Sure, life is a great classroom.  I’ve learned many lessons from the school of hard knocks.  Now that I’m entering my 50’s I’m getting wiser.  I prefer to invest time and money into podcasts, books and seminars to learn from other people’s hard knocks.  

A word about hard knocks:  don’t let them surprise you or derail your dream.  I love what Elizabeth Gilbert shares about enduring disappointment in her book Big Magic.  It’s part of the job of any creative.  She quotes Mark Manson, “the secret to finding your purpose in life is to answer this question in total honesty:  Whats your favorite flavor of shit sandwich?”  Because if you love something enough then you don’t mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.  Fail forward my friend!  

Everything is figure-outable.  

I can’t stop talking about Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figure-outable.  If you train your mind to believe that one statement, there is NOTHING you can’t do!  

“Almost everything needed to make your dream a reality requires new skills, experiences, and understanding.  You must do things you’ve never done before.”  Marie Forleo.  

Create your own luck by training your mind and being a student of success.  In doing so you’ll be an inspiration and possibly attract the luck of the Irish!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Are You Living A Life Of Creative Abundance?

Is your goal to live a life of creative abundance?  Do you want to take creative control of your life?  I believe it’s worth taking the leap!

I admire people who ooze creativity.  It always appears to be effortless, natural, like they just ARE creative.  I’m learning that is not exactly the case. 

In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic, she refers to ideas and creativity as mystics that come to you and offer the idea.  It is your job to say yes or no to the idea, understanding there will be a few “shit sandwiches” on the menu. In fact, according to Gilbert the reason we don’t move creatively ahead is always and only fear.

“Creative living is living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than fear.” ~Liz

A poet that Gilbert became intrigued with, once told a literature student, “Do you have the courage?  Do you have the courage to bring forth this work?  The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

Do YOU invest for abundance?

I wholeheartedly support Elizabeth Gilbert’s theory that creativity is an energy that chooses us to co-create with.  Cuz it’s the TRUTH!  It is a gift from God.  

I’ve been mulling over a familiar Bible story in the book of Mathew.  As the story goes, a boss man (my words not the Bible’s) went out of town and left his servants in charge.  He gave “talents” to each according to their ability.  The first servant he gave five talents to invest, to the second servant he gave two talents to invest and to the third servant he gave one talent to invest. When the boss returned he found the first two servants had double their talents.  The third servant buried his talents because he feared loosing the one talent he had. 

Impressed, the boss commended the first two servants with, “Well done, good and faithful servant!  You have been faithful with few things; I will put you in charge of many things.  Come and share in my happiness!”  The boss reprimanded the third servant with, “You wicked, lazy servant… you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.”

The good and faithful servants will be given more talents to work with, while the third servant will be passed over next time the talents are divvied out.  

A verse on abundance: Mathew 25: 29

For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have abundance.  

I am not a Bible scholar.  I simply love that Jesus encourages people to invest their talents. He fully understands the fear and risks involved, as well as the abundance rewarded to the courageous.

It appears that the story is about a dude with a lot of money, entrusting his wealth to his servants.  I view this familiar parable as an example of our benevolent creator continually entrusting gifts and talents to humanity, taking delight in what is created with the gifts.  

When we are willing to invest, share and ship our talents, the talents multiple.  I wholeheartedly believe in abundance.  It is up to all of us to get curious about what we have to offer, develop our talents and be willing to share them. 

Sign me up for abundance!

I am pursuing a creative life.  Abundance is directly related to my willingness to invest in my gifts. I hope the gifts I share inspire and encourage you as well, but most importantly are a gift back to my creator.

The creative life isn’t effortless.  A meaningful, creative life that gives back requires courage.  The courageous receive abundance.

Fear is lazy.  I refuse to bury my talents or play small and will have the courage to continue to grow, and to keep moving towards becoming the best version of myself, feeling the vibration of fear, knowing it will pass.  

Are you curious?

I invite you to get curious about your talents.  Have you given into fear and succumbed to living a small life?  Or are you looking for ideas to invest your talents? 

As Jack Gilbert put it, “The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

I would love to connect with all you badass women who are ready to take creative control of your life!  Let’s shake up this world with our abundant talents!!!!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!