The First Day Of Your Life

This is the first day of your life... hire Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach.  Tiffany helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

This is the first day of your life.  You hold the power to unfold your future intentionally.  Wouldn’t you rather be building a dream life than waiting to win the lottery?      

Life in the rear view mirror

You and I have cast ourselves into stories, intentionally or unintentionally.  I have spent the past year building my life with purpose.  I am learning to define myself from a vision of the future, rather than memories of the past.    

My old story was sad, even tragic.  I had cast myself as the failure, the girl who never measured up, who quit on my big ideas just short of the vision.  I felt like an underdog, the outcast.  Ultimately, I had the impression that I was cast into an impossible popularity contest, where the winners were all skinny, pretty, rich and smart.  

These beliefs originated internally.  It didn’t take much effort to find evidence to support my beliefs.  In fact, I spent a lifetime accumulating evidence that became my familiar story. 

Let that sink in.  You are living a similar story, with beliefs that simply are not true.  

Reframe

The key to living a victorious life is to identify the lies and reframe them. 

The lies that I internalized were crippling me.  I believed that I was unworthy, unloveable and not capable of creating wealth.  {YES… I want abundance!}

Can you imagine creating anything of value fighting these feelings?

Thank God I have the tools to systematically bust these lies.  This work is so rewarding.  I am now fully responsible for my feelings, believe that I am capable and love the woman I am becoming.  I have a clear vision of my past, present and future self.  

It is possible for you to reframe the lies and fall in love with your life too!

There is a line in my Vision Video that gets me EVERY TIME…

This is the first day of my life

I’m glad I didn’t die before I met you

But now I don’t care, I could go anywhere with you

And I’d probably be happy

Here is my Vision Video that I watch on a daily basis to reframe my past self and create the future I envision.

Believe you are worthy

Do you believe you are worthy?  YOU are the only one who can determine your worth.

If you are like me, you probably spent your life looking for evidence of your worth, only to find more evidence of the story you unintentionally cast yourself in.  

This is the first day of your life.  Take the first step to get to know her, the one who is happy in her own skin.  Invest in falling in love with your life.  You are worth it!  

As the cliche goes, don’t die with the music still in you.  If you can’t believe in your worth for yourself, bathe yourself in this Lauren Daigle song, and just BELIEVE.  

Create the evidence

Honor your future self with compassion for your past and commitment to the present.  Unfold your life intentionally be creating a vision for the future.  

What exactly does that mean?  

Simply ditch the old story based on your past.  When you define yourself by a vision of the future, your mind will work to provide evidence of it’s reality.  You will live to make your future self proud and start to see yourself as the hero in control of your story.   

I am living proof

I’d love to help you.  I am living proof of the possibilities.  

I can relate to your journey and understand the lies that cripple your story, and can assure you that an intentional future is within your grasp.  It is not only rewarding, but fun to fall in love with your life.  

You might be saying to yourself, “Well, sign me up!”

If you want to fall in love with your life and create an intentional future, consider hiring me as your midlife life coach.  If your curious, but unsure, simply schedule a free consultation.  Click the link below and pick a date and time that works for you.  

To offer a little nudge, for those of you who commit to three month coaching package, I will include a Vision Video creation as an added bonus.  Check out my video and the blog article I wrote about it.  My vision video has made an impact on my daily commitment to the woman I am becoming.  

This is the first day of your life.  Here’s to falling in love with life!  You are worthy.  Believe it!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Four Journal Prompts That Will Propel You Past Your Resistance

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Discover her 4 favorite journal prompts and how a daily journal habit can help you create the life you desire.

Four journal prompts that will propel you past your resistance

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why.  Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. My four favorite journal prompts can help you past any resistance.

I have personally journaled since I was a teenager, accumulating storage tubs full of my life on pages.  There are so many incredible reasons to journal beyond getting clarity.  I love expressing gratitude, recording all my dreams and struggles, documenting family history, etc.  

I believe the most important reasons for journaling are learning to manage your mind and uncovering beliefs that hold you back.  

Let’s be honest

There are reasons that might hold you back from journaling.  I polled my family and friends for this article and found a few common reasons for resisting a daily journal habit.  

  1. Consistency, time management, and distractions
  2. Afraid of experiencing raw feelings.
  3. My personal favorite… someone might find my journal.  Honestly, this fear has crossed my mind more than once.  

These three reasons for resisting a daily journal habit are all immensely valid.  I know you are busy and feelings can be intimidating.  Let me assure you that setting time aside to become aware of your thoughts, which cause your feelings, is worth the effort.  Simply throw the journals away if you fear someone might read them once you’ve worked through your thoughts and feelings.  

Journal Prompts

I hope I’ve persuaded you of the benefits of a daily journal habit, and have overcome your objections.  Now let me encourage you to get started with four of my favorite prompts.

1. The trinity thoughts

I’ll start with my favorite prompt borrowed from Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age.  The trinity thoughts are positive memories from a day well spent and a dream for the future.  Record something to brag about yourself, something to be grateful for, and something you desire.  I use this tool to help my clients honor their past and future selfs, while living in the present.  

2.   Questions are the answers

Get good at asking yourself really good questions.  As soon as you ask yourself a question, your brain will go to work to solve it.  Test this out for yourself!  I’m sure you can come up with some quality questions for yourself, but here are a few of my favorites:

What can I make better today than yesterday?

What do I love about myself?

How can I honor my body today?

How can I live my best life?

3.   Thought download

I believe journaling is the best way to manage your mind.  All my clients are encouraged to download thoughts from their mind onto a page, then step back from the pages and ask important questions like, “is that thought true?”  

The key to a thought download is to not care about grammar and spelling.  It is a dump of what is circulating in your mind.  It will be messy.  

Notice what you are thinking.  How does that thought make you feel?  How often do you think that thought?  Do you like these thoughts and the feelings they cause?  

Wow.  Words can not explain how impactful thought downloads have become in my life.  I’ve unpacked a few limiting beliefs and thoughts that did not serve me.  

4.   Write the script

Create your future self by casting her in your story and living the story through your imagination.   

Use your journal to write the script. What do you want her to look like, how will she show up for life, and who will she surround herself with?  Will she bravely overcome something?  What skills does she need to cultivate?  

Consider yourself studying for a part in a play.  Be her today.  Practice her role in your story.  Memorize her lines.  

The brain does not know if something is “real” or not.  If you practice believing something enough, you’ll feel it before it even happens.  

This is not reciting affirmations, but rather the ultimate visualization.  You will write the script in your mind and propel yourself into that story with very real feelings.   

Practice a prompt

It is my hope that I have busted some of your resistance with my four favorite journal prompts. 

As I always say, Self-Aware is the first step in self-care.  Pick one of the prompts and get started!  

Have I given you a nudge to try this powerful practice, but you are still not confident that you will be consistent?  I can help you identify the reasons you are unable to create space for journaling.  

If you are still fearful of the feelings you might uncover, consider hiring me as your life coach.  I will help you identify the thoughts that are wreaking havoc in your life.  Talking to a life coach helps you understand your human feelings in a safe space.

Free Consultation

I offer a free mini session as a consultation.  This gives you the opportunity to meet with me to discuss your situation and discover if hiring a life coach is a good fit for your life.  

My mission is help you believe your best years are ahead!  I have many tools that will help you fall in love with your life.  

Click my calendar link below to schedule your FREE mini session today!  Simply choose the date and time that works best for you.  You will then receive an invitation to a zoom call.  It’s really that simple!  

If you hang out with me long enough I will convince you that you best years are ahead.  Here’s to creating the life you always wanted!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Unabashedly Love Your Life

Do you unabashedly love your life?  Do you want to?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helps midlife women fall in love with their lives and believe their best years are ahead.

Do you love your life?  I mean truly, deeply, unabashedly LOVE your life?

Do you want to?

Reality

No doubt you grew up with a certain amount of programing.  

Never before in history has society been so overwhelmed with messages.  Clever commercials convince you to buy products for problems you didn’t realize you had.  

Scrolling through picture perfect lives portrayed on social media often leaves you feeling like you’re in an impossible popularity contest.  

School teaches students there is only one answer, the correct one.  

Family members unintentionally project their expectations on you.  

From all that, you probably have scripted yourself in a story that does not serve your soul, who you were created to be.  Keeping up a façade might even create a sense of lack and feelings of sadness, loneliness or despair.  

I sure don’t want to add to that “reality.”

How I fell deeply in love with my life

I am a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.  This is NOT my natural state, but one I am cultivating.  I choose to BE.

I came across some vision boards I created years ago.  It was so fun to see what dreams I was able to realize.  Jeff and I have traveled to dreamy places, renovated historic homes and lived a somewhat intentional life.  

In recent years I switched my vision boards to Pinterest.  I started to pick a word for the year and pin images that helped me focus on the attribute I was cultivating.  I love scrolling through the boards from past years where I focused on living with joy, living wholeheartedly, being fierce and resilient.  

For some reason I didn’t choose a word for 2020.  I decided to be future focused and start loving the woman I am becoming.  Wow!  I had no idea where this journey would take me.  

The most impactful creative project 

Yes, I am a personal growth junkie.  I devour books on the subject and chose a profession that helps others with their personal development.  It’s my life’s work.

So when I discover an incredibly impactful exercise, I just had to share it with you!

The idea came from Dr. Joe Dispenza’s book Becoming Supernatural.  He teaches that you can use the same suggestive messaging that marketers use to actually program your subconscious to believe in a future that is created by you.  You create a commercial for your future self that you’ll watch in the morning and in the evening before you go to bed, the times of the day you are the most suggestible. 

I highly recommend reading the book to learn and understand the science behind this concept!  He also adds a Kaleidoscope Meditation to the daily practice.  It’s worth learning about!   

Dr. Joe Dispenza promotes a couple who came up with the idea for a visualizing video and their business Mind Movies.  You can download their app and create your own, or create one from a computer program like iMovie.  

Your movie is a focus board on steroids, combining images with affirmations and heart moving music!  I call mine a Vision Video.  

How to create your Vision Video

First you need to make a list of what you’d like to create in the future.  This might take a couple days.  Really put some thought in it.  This is NOT a time to think small!  Dream big.  

Then you will need to think about who you need to BE in order to create your future self.  You will turn this list into affirmations that you will add to the images in your video.  

And finally you’ll need to pick the music.  Dr. Dispenza calls this the soundtrack of your life.  Remember, you will be watching this video twice a day.  Make sure you love the music!  

I can help you through the process if it feels overwhelming.  Reach out to me for a FREE mini session {link below}

What I learned about my future

I knew this creative project would be easy for me.  I journal everyday and am crystal clear on my dreams.  What I didn’t realize was how my heart would be affected.  

It was fun to gather pictures from my past, Pinterest boards and search for ones that would fit.  As I was going through my pictures I realized that above any achievement or material gain, my family and relationships were most important to me.  

I have to admit that I cried after I finished editing my video and can honestly say that I am in love with my life.  I love who I’ve been, who I am and my future self… all at the same time.  

I can see how my heart, mind and soul will be more connected to my life intentionally the more I watch this video.  I also see that over time I will need to edit the video, and that’s ok too.  

Here’s my current Vision Video:

My Vision Video

Do you love your life?

Do you want to fall in love with your life?  If you don’t know where to start, I can help!

It is my desire to spread my cockeyed optimism!  I have tools in my tool chest that will help you finally, fully, fiercely love your life.  

Schedule a FREE mini session with me.  It’s a 45 minute zoom call where you can see if life coaching is for you.  I’m also willing to discuss ideas for your Vision Video.  

You will love your life 98.8% more! I KNOW I love my life 100% more!

Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to the love of life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Just say “F’ It”

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Learn how to turn an "F' It" moment into a moment of hope!

Are you willing to vulnerably admit that at times of frustration you just want to say “F’ it”?  Yes, I admit that I use the F word on occasion.  

For instance, I might say it prior to the third glass of wine, or finishing the cake after the kids went to bed.  Does this happen to just me?  

“She realized that vulnerability was easier to wear than vanity.  So she stripped straight down to nothing. And set herself free.”  ~  Cara Alwill Leyba

This week I spent time wondering why the “F’ it” moments happen.  

My F’ It Moment

Recently, at a point when my dreams seem to be on the horizon but still so far out of reach, I had a major “F ’it” moment.  

I had planned my eating protocol for the day.  I knew I’d be meeting friends at my favorite winery, so I planned one glass of wine.  (famously naive)  At the winery, I had my planned glass of wine and then bought a bottle to take home.  When I got home my plans got railroaded, as if I can blame it on the circumstances, and proceeded to drink the bottle too.  The moment I opened the bottle I recall saying to myself, “Fuck it!” (not abbreviated)

The real reason I had a “F’ it” moment was not my evening circumstances.  Frankly, the real reason I felt the need to “F’ it” was my unrealized dreams weighing heavy on my heart ALL DAY.  

The next morning I awoke with the guilt of not honoring my planned protocol, and the familiar shame storm.    

I wrote in my journal:  I can’t seem to catch a mystic break.  God, I’m trusting you.  Please lead me to the gold-mine within.  

Then I came across another poem…  

Surrender

I want to breath in passion like air.  I want to fill my lungs with the magic and lust and possibility only passion brings.  And the feeling that is only available to you when you finally, fully, fiercely surrender.   ~ Cara Alwill Leyba 

Faith   

The absence of evidence is NOT the evidence of its absence.  Surrender to the mystery.

Surrendering is actually saying, “F’ it” in a completely different way.  It is breathing in passion like air and saying to yourself, “this just might work!”  What do you actually have to loose when you choose to believe notwithstanding the absence of evidence?    

Faith is a powerful emotion that helps you believe your dreams are worth pursuing.

It just might work!

The first “F’ it” has no upside.  It is just a familiar way to approach discouragement that leads to guilt and an inevitable shame storm.  Creative solutions are impossible to discover when your energy is consumed by discouragement.  

The second “F’ it” has HUGE upsides.  The thought “what if it works” produces a feeling of hope and leads to massive action.  

Here is what I’ve learned about hope this week:

Hope is not an accident.

You cultivated hope by allowing the mystery.  

The mystery is a little voice that whispers maybe, when the whole world is shouting no.  

This hope is an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.  

Hope is the charged emotion that elevates your dreams.  

Not forced, but ready to see crazy things happen!

What if you gave up entertaining the thoughts that cause fear and discouragement, the thoughts that lead to lack? 

Have compassion on your discouraging thoughts, noticing them without guilt or shame, and then simply release them.  

Surrender to the idea that it just might work, and to the mystery of uncommon creativity.   

This is my life’s work.  

Believing in possibilities and abundance is my super power.  Even when I suffer discouragement, my will to break through will not allow me to wallow in it.  I desire to cultivate a mindset that surrenders to fierce hope.

I am happy to share my journey with you in hopes that it inspires your journey.  As your life coach I will help you to reclaim your life, full of dreams and visions for your best years ahead.  

I’d love to work with you to develop a proper “F’ it” mindset.   

If you regret a recent “F’ it” moment that produced a shame storm, I know I can help you flip it to a “it just might work” mindset.  I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you!  It just might work!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Schedule a FREE mini session to chat about how she can help you!

REBOOT & RECLAIM

REBOOT & RECLAIM WITH TIFFANY ECKHARDT, CERTIFIED LIFE COACH.  Tiffany helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Reboot & Reclaim Your Life!

Every fall I develop a deep desire to end the year strong.  Rebooting near the end of a year eases the stress of the holidays and sets up a new year for success.  Rebooting also feels akin to reclaiming my life by refocusing on the dreams I refuse to give up on.  

Can we all agree 2020 sucked socks?  No matter how you look at it, this year has broken all norms.  

This year’s REBOOT has taken on a deeper meaning for me, more than just an adjustment or refocus, but a reclamation. 

Reboot

Rebooting is not just for computers, by definition a reboot is starting anew with fresh ideas in a new way.  

Three years ago I joined a 90 day challenge to finish the year strong.  I created new habits that  had a lasting effect on my life.  The challenge included getting up an hour earlier, drinking half my body weight in water, committing to move everyday, eat well, and a daily gratitude journal.  

Reclaim

That year inspired me to incorporate a yearly reboot into my life.  This year I realize that I have learned valuable lessons to successfully navigate life no matter what a chaotic world throws at me. 

This year I am incorporating a three step strategy that will reframe 2020, connect with the present and intentionally create a future.  

I’d like YOU to join my journey to REBOOT & RECLAIM.  

Three steps to reboot

Reframe

Have you ever been told to pull up your big girl panties and get over it?  Is that ever helpful? 

Resisting your emotions in an attempt to “just get over it” only gives unwanted emotions more power to wreck havoc in your life.  I work with clients to process all their emotions to reframe their past.  Working through unwanted emotions empowers clients to truly live in the present and create an amazing future.   

“We are all rough drafts of the people we’re becoming.” ~ Bob Goff

Reconnect

The second step is to reconnect with life in the present by becoming aware of creative energy.

Have you ever driven home from work and wondered how the heck you got home?  Similarly, have you ever reached a certain age and wondered where did all the time go?  How is it possible that I have a daughter about to turn thirty years old? 

When you are living life on autopilot you miss the mysteries of life.   I believe we are more than our bodies, or society’s programming.  We are energy, soul, mind and spirit.  In a moment of awareness, you notice whispers of creativity longing to be acknowledged.  

Render

I believe your best years are ahead!  You have the power to create your future, to render your masterpiece.  

The key to create your future is to get in touch with your future self.  This requires imagination.  What does she look like?  How does she spend her time?  Who is she surrounding herself with?  

This is my favorite step of the Three Steps to Reboot.  Once you reframe your past (or a crazy year), connect with your present, you are free to reclaim the life you wish to create.  

Join me

If you hang out with me for too long, I’ll convince you that your best years are ahead.

I am offering a three month coaching package to help you REBOOT & RECLAIM your life.  I want to help you end 2020 strong and create your successful future no matter what a chaotic world throws at you.

As a REBOOTER, you will meet weekly with me to reframe, reconnect and render your life.  We will map out your journey to rebooting and reclaiming your life for 2021.  

BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE!

As an added bonus, In December I will choose one REBOOTER to win a two night stay at our guest house The Roost.  The winner will receive a personalized retreat to celebrate all the work accomplished during REBOOT & RECLAIM.  A $1000 value!

But there’s more… 

I will choose two REBOOTERS to receive a FREE 6 week session for 2021 ($600 value).  

Your Reboot & Reclaim Package

Click the link below to claim your Reboot & Reclaim coaching package.  By picking a date and time that works for you on my calendar, you will be purchasing the three month package.  That date and time will set you up for your weekly call and enter you in the December drawings.  

Self-aware is the first step to Self-care.  You owe it to yourself to become everything you were meant to be.  I invite you to make an investment in your mind, your health and your future.  

Here’s to a strong end of 2020 and an incredible 2021!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

REBOOT & RECLAIM WITH TIFFANY ECKAHRDT, CERTIFIED LIFE COACH.  Tiffany helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
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Living Vicariously

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women live vicariously through their future self

By definition, living vicariously is imagining life through other people’s experiences.  You may have lived vicariously through your children, pictures of a friend’s vacation, or someone you admire.  

When I went on picking trips for my antique store I frequently had women tell me they were living vicariously through me.  While I was honored they followed my adventures, I always hoped to inspire them to fly free on their own journeys.  

I recently lived vicariously through my friend Michele, who treated herself to a resort vacation at Miraval Resort in Austin, Texas.  I was envious of the royal treatment she received at this luxuriously tranquil retreat.  Michele cast a dream for me that I didn’t realize my soul was longing for.  

Let me cast a dream for you

What if the next fifty years were totally directed by you?  

Well, it is NOT impossible if you step away from life on autopilot and the expectations of others.  

It starts with a little imagination.  Think of your life as the ultimate Pinterest board.  What interesting things do you want to learn?  Where would you live and travel to?  Who would you surround yourself with?  Who do you want to be? 

Can you picture it yet?

Where focus goes, energy flows.  

Most people focus their energy on the past.  They make decisions and predict their future based on what has happened (or did not happen) in the past.  The energy it takes to rehearse the past is very low and familiar.  

“How much creative energy is tied up in guilt, hatred, resentment, lack or fear?  The truth is that you could be using all that energy to re-create a new destiny,”  Dr. Joe Dispenza.

I teach my clients to process their past, but become future focused.  

Your Future self will be proud

What if you lived vicariously through your future self?  

You don’t have to look enviously to others.  Create a vision for yourself in your imagination.

What will she appreciate that you dreamed up for her?

First create your ultimate Pinterest life, then consider how the experience will feel; empowered, fortunate, free, blissful, authentic, carefree, calm, easy, expansive, mindful… 

The more energy you can attach to your future self, the more intimate you become with your future.  

Is your view of reality limited?

The mind is a powerful thing.

As you fill your mind with thoughts and add energy to the ideas, you actually experience the vision as if it were in real time.  The mind simply doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy.   

Have you ever experienced a physical reaction to a thought?  For instance, when I think about meals I had in Italy, my mouth starts watering.

Living Vicariously through your future self.

What happens when you unlock creativity by rehearsing the future you want in your mind?  The skills you need to thrive in the future will become important to develop.  Your future self’s opinion of your current choices suddenly matter.   Unexpected opportunities present themselves in a new awareness.  

Do you need a guide?

Have you caught yourself living vicariously through someone lately?  What is stopping you from living your dream life?  

I work with midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead.  Learning to live with your future self in mind is a big part of creating that life you’ve always wanted.  

I’d love to help you activate your imagination and manage your mind to direct your next fifty years!  

Still unsure if life coaching is for you?  I offer a FREE mini session to chat about how I specifically can help you.  Click the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar that works for you.  

Here’s to living the best years!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Creating a “YES” mindset

I have learned the secret to failing forward by creating a “YES” mindset.  

How do you feel about failure?  Is it an event or has it become an identity? 

I am very proud of my failures!  My combined failures prove that I have followed my passions, thought outside the box, attempted greatness and forged my own path.  I decided to make each of my failed attempts mean that I am tenacious, persistent, stout hearted, and most importantly willing to fail. 

I have an impressive collection of business cards to prove it. Even though I enthusiastically approached each business attempt with an attitude of, “What the hell, this might work,” the lessons I earned was worth every heart ache when it didn’t work.  

Failure is simply of mental constraint

One person’s failure is another person’s success.  A student given the grade of C could consider the grade a failure or a complete victory, depending on the student.  Yearly earnings of $100,000 is a failure to one small business owner, and a unimaginable success to another small business owner. 

Many of my clients have unfortunately allowed well meaning family members or friends to define failure for them, which inevitably robs them of a “YES mentality.  I have heard stories of women spending nearly 50 years believing what was said about them in the past.  These women are finally liberated when they drop the old story for one they create.  

You get to decide what failure means.  

A “YES” mindset

“I no longer remember what the question is.  I do know the answer is yes.”  Seth Godin

If you refuse to accept failure as a part of the journey, you will not likely succeed. 

Once you learn to anticipate obstacles, you will face disappointing outcomes prepared and will have the awareness to look for the lessons.  You’ll no longer be afraid of failure, but will say, “Bring it on!” 

You will have the fortitude to fail forward with a “YES” mindset.

Strategizing

Hire a life coach to help you create a “YES” mindset.  

As your life coach, I will help you identify what is hijacking you and create a failure plan that will lead to your inevitable success.  We’ll discuss where you are and where you’d like to be, then determine your obstacles.  

Schedule a FREE mini session, a chat with someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  Simply click on the link below and pick a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Do you have a zesty future?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Do you have a zesty future?

I always love to have something zesty to look forward to.

This is a big year for me!  I became a certified life coach, opened our first guest house and turned 50 years young.  I’m actually very excited about my big milestone year.  I truly believe this will be the best decade of my life. So many zesty things ahead!

Does your dreams and success have a deadline?

Honestly, it did bother me a little that it took 50 years to hit my stride.  I found myself thinking, “I should be successful by now.”  The word “should” is a red flag!  Should we be anything?  

I changed my thought to, “this is my season!” 

Say these two thoughts to yourself.

“I should be successful by now”

“This is my season!”

When spoken, does each thought feel completely different?

The thought, “This is my season” creates a different energy and compels me to explore what I’m truly capable of. 

AND SERIOUSLY…. Does success have a deadline?  

It’s time to be zesty!

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

There are so many examples of women who launched successful businesses later in life.  Martha Stewart, Julia Childs, Vera Wang, Estée Lauder, etc.  Even if you aren’t interested in starting a business in this season, these women are reminders that it is never too late to create the life of your dreams.  

A seasoned woman is definitely not a rookie.  She has experienced life and knows how to turn obstacles into possibilities.  She has learned to be ok with her authentic self and has the confidence to BE zesty in every season of life!

What are YOU going to do?

The Pulitzer Prize winning poet, Mary Oliver once posed the question,

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?” 

This decade of my life will be zesty!  I have learned the art of failing forward and am ready to create the life of my dreams through intentional thought management.  I will be gritty, seasoned with both passion and perseverance.  

I’d love to help YOU create a zesty life.  Schedule a FREE mini session with me, someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.

Here’s to living a ZESTY LIFE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Be unrealistic about age and get what you want

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“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.” C.S. Lewis

Now that you’ve entered the season labeled midlife, do you fear it’s unrealistic to create something new at your age?  

Many clients of mine share a fear that age limits their ability to create something new.  I believe the opposite.  Your best years are ahead.  Finding yourself at the end of one season is an exciting opportunity to make decisions about life in the next season.   

Of course you are capable of learning new things and creating your life as you would like it to be.  

According to Marie Forleo, “Everything is figure-outable.”  

What if being unrealistic IS the answer to creating something new?  

What is the first thing your mind offers when you decide to create something new?  All the reasons it can’t work, all the reasons it isn’t a good idea and all the reasons it isn’t reasonable.  Yep, your mind is very clever in keeping you safe and secure. 

When you spend your time considering all that your brain offers, you fail ahead of time.  You stop yourself before you even get started.

So, trick you brain.  Agree with it.  Don’t give it anything to argue with.  

Agree with your brain that your new idea might not work, there will be obstacles and it could be completely unrealistic.  Decide to appreciate all the lessons and proceed anyways.    

Remind your brain the only way to create anything new is through trail and error.  

The fail factor

Should we fail on purpose?  Of course not!   

Brooke Castillo teaches in her eight week Business Course there are two different types of failures, escape failures and worthy failures.  

Escape failures 

Are you curios about why you don’t keep your word or follow through with your decisions?  Escape failures are a form of avoiding what is needed to realize your new creation and choosing to fail ahead of time.  

Examples:

  • Making excuses for not following through with a commitment
  • Indulging in confusion about the next step
  • Changing your mind
  • Not planning ahead of time, protecting your calendar
  • Any form of perfection is an escape failure
  • Waiting until your ready or have learned every aspect  

Worthy failures

Worthy failures are not caused by inaction, but by taking a step forward.

“We were never taught to fail.  We are taught that F’s are bad growing up.  This programming has contributed to steering away from starting things and changing,”  Brooke Castillo.  

For example, this past week I conducted my first FREE workshop on Self Appreciation.  I spent hours deciding what to teach, gathering information, putting it into an understandable form, etc.  I enthusiastically marketed the workshop, but only had a couple people show up to the live event.  Was that a failure?  NO!  No, it was not a failure.  I learned better ways to approach the next workshop and will continue to market the replay, which will reach untold amount of women.  

You can check our my Self Appreciation Workshop by clicking here: SELF APPRECIATION WORKSHOP

Never tried.

Ever failed.

No matter.

Try again.

Fail again.

Fail better.

Samuel Beckett

Get crystal clear

There will never be an age limit to creating something meaningful, but take time to get crystal clear about what you wish to create.  

  • Define: What does it feel like once you create it?  Who will benefit from your creation?  
  • Objections: What makes it unrealistic?  Go ahead and let your mind offer you the objections.  
  • Solutions:  Then answer the objections with, “That objection is true, but…”  What skills will you need to create it?  

Basically, allow your mind to define what you want to create, the obstacles in your way, and strategies to solve them ahead of time.  

BE unrealistic, a challenge

Let’s be honest, being a little unrealistic sounds like a fun challenge.   

I’d like to challenge you to a worthy fail.  Well, not just one.  I’d like to challenge you to write out 25 worthy failures you are willing to take action on.  First brainstorm all the ways you could take action that will likely fail.  From the brainstorm, pick 25 that you will commit to and then put the 25 worthy fails on your calendar.    

Taking this challenge will inspire you to take the first step.  By simply taking action, you will learn everything is figure-outable!  

Let me help you!

I love working with midlife women who are ready to believe their best years are ahead.  It is not a time to avoid the hard things, it is a time to embrace them with the self confidence earned at this age.

This past week I had the privilege to coach a beautiful spunky woman in her sixties who was was considering a new idea.  We worked through her thoughts, feelings and actions around the idea.  Afterwards I asked her what she thought she would be creating as a result.  She lit up and said, “a new career!”  

Sometimes you just need to be able to work through all the thoughts, feelings and obstacles to believe in the possibility.    

If you are ready to break some of your own limitations, let me help you!  Schedule a FREE mini session.  It’s a 45 minute chat with someone who truly believes in your possibilities.  It is also a great way to see if life coaching is for you.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Questions are the answers

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What if curious people understood questions are the answer?  

Do you long to wake up excited to get out of bed and be the person you know you can be, but just not sure how to get connected with that life?  What if questions are the answers and curiosity is the key?

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?

Successful people know questions are the answer

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.  

Jeff Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what her son enjoyed.  She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.   

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  Walt Disney 

Questions are the answers

Curious folks just learned to ask good questions.  

Are you known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow?

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,”  Jeff Bezos.    

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?  

How curious are you?  Don’t let yourself off the hook.  This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.  

Here are a few questions to spark your curiosity….

Are you doing what you truly want to do?

How many promises have you kept to yourself?

If you could clone yourself, which of your characteristics you wouldn’t want to be cloned?

Who do you admire and why?

Is there anyone who inspired your life today?

What are you most proud of?

If happiness was a currency, how rich would you be?  

If today was the end of the world, what would you do?  

I hope you came up with some of your own questions!  

Does creating a life resonate with you?   

I’d love to offer a FREE mini coaching session.  The mini session is simply a chat with someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  

Click on the link below and pick a date on my calendar.  It is really that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her wiring “YES” in the sky.