Far too many people sit on the sidelines of life. Given the chance to spread your wings and soar, would you choose the safety of what you know instead, even when it’s uncomfortable?
Midlife is the chance to create magic for yourself, to even go a completely different direction in the second half of life.
Why on earth would you not seize this season, an opportunity to create the life you’ve always wanted?
What is clipping your wings?
The biggest reason you don’t take flight is a resistance to change. It’s scary.
Almost everyone I’ve worked with has felt as if they were at a crossroads, but are stuck thinking the following…
What will their family and friends say?
They’re thinking, “now what” because they’re not sure of what they want or who they want to be.
The fear of failure keeps them from moving forward with any ideas. To make it worse, some even think they’re too old to try something new.
Many feel lonely and unsupported, while other people seem to have it all together on social media.
Some feel hopeless and depressed as if they can’t see past the hand they’ve been dealt.
What do you have to believe to spread your wings and soar?
You have to believe that your best years are ahead.
Suffering is optional. As a life coach, I help women identify their resistance and think differently about their future.
I’d love to help you stop waisting precious time on the sidelines. You still have a lifetime to create, dreams to discover, hobbies to explore and personal goals to realize. It’s not time to rest in a rocker on the front porch of life. If you rest, you rust.
There is purpose and meaning in this season. I believe YOUR best years are ahead!
If you are ready to spread your wings, schedule a FREE chat with me today by visiting my calendar link. OR if you are local, let’s meet for coffee. Message me if that sounds good!
Here’s to flying free and soaring into the future!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.
This is the first day of your life. You hold the power to unfold your future intentionally. Wouldn’t you rather be building a dream life than waiting to win the lottery?
Life in the rear view mirror
You and I have cast ourselves into stories, intentionally or unintentionally. I have spent the past year building my life with purpose. I am learning to define myself from a vision of the future, rather than memories of the past.
My old story was sad, even tragic. I had cast myself as the failure, the girl who never measured up, who quit on my big ideas just short of the vision. I felt like an underdog, the outcast. Ultimately, I had the impression that I was cast into an impossible popularity contest, where the winners were all skinny, pretty, rich and smart.
These beliefs originated internally. It didn’t take much effort to find evidence to support my beliefs. In fact, I spent a lifetime accumulating evidence that became my familiar story.
Let that sink in. You are living a similar story, with beliefs that simply are not true.
Reframe
The key to living a victorious life is to identify the lies and reframe them.
The lies that I internalized were crippling me. I believed that I was unworthy, unloveable and not capable of creating wealth. {YES… I want abundance!}
Can you imagine creating anything of value fighting these feelings?
Thank God I have the tools to systematically bust these lies. This work is so rewarding. I am now fully responsible for my feelings, believe that I am capable and love the woman I am becoming. I have a clear vision of my past, present and future self.
It is possible for you to reframe the lies and fall in love with your life too!
There is a line in my Vision Video that gets me EVERY TIME…
This is the first day of my life
I’m glad I didn’t die before I met you
But now I don’t care, I could go anywhere with you
And I’d probably be happy
Here is my Vision Video that I watch on a daily basis to reframe my past self and create the future I envision.
Believe you are worthy
Do you believe you are worthy? YOU are the only one who can determine your worth.
If you are like me, you probably spent your life looking for evidence of your worth, only to find more evidence of the story you unintentionally cast yourself in.
This is the first day of your life. Take the first step to get to know her, the one who is happy in her own skin. Invest in falling in love with your life. You are worth it!
As the cliche goes, don’t die with the music still in you. If you can’t believe in your worth for yourself, bathe yourself in this Lauren Daigle song, and just BELIEVE.
Create the evidence
Honor your future self with compassion for your past and commitment to the present. Unfold your life intentionally be creating a vision for the future.
What exactly does that mean?
Simply ditch the old story based on your past. When you define yourself by a vision of the future, your mind will work to provide evidence of it’s reality. You will live to make your future self proud and start to see yourself as the hero in control of your story.
I am living proof
I’d love to help you. I am living proof of the possibilities.
I can relate to your journey and understand the lies that cripple your story, and can assure you that an intentional future is within your grasp. It is not only rewarding, but fun to fall in love with your life.
You might be saying to yourself, “Well, sign me up!”
If you want to fall in love with your life and create an intentional future, consider hiring me as your midlife life coach. If your curious, but unsure, simply schedule a free consultation. Click the link below and pick a date and time that works for you.
To offer a little nudge, for those of you who commit to three month coaching package, I will include a Vision Video creation as an added bonus. Check out my video and the blog article I wrote about it. My vision video has made an impact on my daily commitment to the woman I am becoming.
This is the first day of your life. Here’s to falling in love with life! You are worthy. Believe it!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
I had planned my eating protocol for the day. I knew I’d be meeting friends at my favorite winery, so I planned one glass of wine. (famously naive) At the winery, I had my planned glass of wine and then bought a bottle to take home. When I got home my plans got railroaded, as if I can blame it on the circumstances, and proceeded to drink the bottle too. The moment I opened the bottle I recall saying to myself, “Fuck it!” (not abbreviated)
The real reason I had a “F’ it” moment was not my evening circumstances. Frankly, the real reason I felt the need to “F’ it” was my unrealized dreams weighing heavy on my heart ALL DAY.
The next morning I awoke with the guilt of not honoring my planned protocol, and the familiar shame storm.
I wrote in my journal: I can’t seem to catch a mystic break. God, I’m trusting you. Please lead me to the gold-mine within.
Then I came across another poem…
Surrender
I want to breath in passion like air. I want to fill my lungs with the magic and lust and possibility only passion brings. And the feeling that is only available to you when you finally, fully, fiercely surrender. ~ Cara Alwill Leyba
Faith
The absence of evidence is NOT the evidence of its absence. Surrender to the mystery.
Surrendering is actually saying, “F’ it” in a completely different way. It is breathing in passion like air and saying to yourself, “this just might work!” What do you actually have to loose when you choose to believe notwithstanding the absence of evidence?
Faith is a powerful emotion that helps you believe your dreams are worth pursuing.
It just might work!
The first “F’ it” has no upside. It is just a familiar way to approach discouragement that leads to guilt and an inevitable shame storm. Creative solutions are impossible to discover when your energy is consumed by discouragement.
The second “F’ it” has HUGE upsides. The thought “what if it works” produces a feeling of hope and leads to massive action.
Here is what I’ve learned about hope this week:
Hope is not an accident.
You cultivated hope by allowing the mystery.
The mystery is a little voice that whispers maybe, when the whole world is shouting no.
This hope is an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.
Hope is the charged emotion that elevates your dreams.
Not forced, but ready to see crazy things happen!
What if you gave up entertaining the thoughts that cause fear and discouragement, the thoughts that lead to lack?
Have compassion on your discouraging thoughts, noticing them without guilt or shame, and then simply release them.
Surrender to the idea that it just might work, and to the mystery of uncommon creativity.
This is my life’s work.
Believing in possibilities and abundance is my super power. Even when I suffer discouragement, my will to break through will not allow me to wallow in it. I desire to cultivate a mindset that surrenders to fierce hope.
I am happy to share my journey with you in hopes that it inspires your journey. As your life coach I will help you to reclaim your life, full of dreams and visions for your best years ahead.
I’d love to work with you to develop a proper “F’ it” mindset.
If you regret a recent “F’ it” moment that produced a shame storm, I know I can help you flip it to a “it just might work” mindset. I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.
Simply click the link below and choose a date/time that works for you! It just might work!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
Do you believe other humans are better than you, but you want to believe you are 100% worthy? Who decides your worth anyways?
I shared on a recent Facebook Live my epiphany of my own worth after ruminating about a disagreement I had with someone I had respected. My convictions were mocked. I completely understand not everyone needs to agree with me, but the conversation took a mean tone implying that I was less than.
My coach helped me to clearly see the thoughts causing me to feel unworthy. I had wonder if what this person was implying about me was true.
Am I less than?
Am I more than?
No, I am.
I am enough.
Words do not define you
You do you. Here’s the god’s truth, only you define you. Unfortunately, you may have let words spoken by well meaning people define you.
Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
My mentor, Brooke Castillo, coached a lawyer who let the words of a well meaning colleague determine the law she chose to practice. Someone told this beautiful, well educated woman who immigrated to the United States as a young adult that she should not choose litigation because of her accent. From that moment this woman believed that her accent was a determent to her success. She resisted hearing that Brooke adored her accent. I loved her accent too! Who will she choose to believe now? Why is it easier to continue the old story in her head than to embrace a new belief about her accent?
No matter what parents told you. No matter what the kids at school told you. Your boss, your spouse, your teacher or anyone you respect does not have the right to define you.
Do you wondered how you would define your worth if you were skinnier, prettier or richer?
The biggest lie you can choose to believe is that you have to change yourself to fit a mold to qualify. What if you already qualified? Your feelings help you reverse engineer your thoughts about yourself.
How do you want to feel? Changing your weight will not achieve that feeling. Changing your thoughts will. If your thoughts are like food, what are you feeding your body? Junk food or whole nourishing food?
Give yourself permission
“Your worthiness is already at capacity, and nothing you have done or will do makes you less worthy as a human,” Brooke Castillo.
You are 100% worthy. You deserve the life you dream of.
When you believe you are already worthy, you give yourself permission to live in abundance, confidence and self-love. Your energy for life increases. What you project to others changes.
What have you waited your whole life to give yourself permission to do?
I am
I know what you are thinking. How do I change my thoughts? How do I believe these radical thoughts about myself?
You can tell me all the things as if you are reading the news. I am unlucky, unpopular, have made mistakes, was not born into the right family. I am too old. You don’t know what I’ve been through.
These are the common thoughts that I help my clients work through. I help you see yourself as who you want to be. Who you are. I help you create the life you want by developing thoughts that will energize you with confidence.
If you are ready to give yourself permission to to do what you’ve waited your whole life to do, let me help you. Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar. We can chat about what has always held you back and look at what will help you believe you are worth it.
You are worth it.
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
At jumping off points in your life, do you take the leap?
Jumping off with a resident sting ray
In the midst of planning for our Gadabout Gals trip to Belize, I came across of a picture on Instagram of a young girl jumping with abandon off the pier of our vacation rental. It spoke to me. That girl seemed to embody a fearless abandon that I longed for at the time. I knew I had to recreate that scene for myself. I wasn’t about to let that young thing have all the fun.
It was scarier than I expected on the day of the envisioned jump. I had a cheerleading squad on deck to encourage me that I am that girl. I have a rule… no swimming in water I can’t see clearly what I swimming with. Even though the fear was real, I jumped. I did not look as carefree as that young thing, but it was a rush. I don’t remember how I exactly got out of the water, but I’m sure it was in record time.
Later we learned that there was a resident sting ray living under the dock. I pondered my jump. Would I have jumped if I knew about our pet sting ray we affectionately named Franklin?
Jumping into the crystal blue
When the Gadabout Gals planned our epic trip to Italy, I had no plans of brave adventure. I felt more romantic than fearless. The group planned several boat trips with Blue Star Positano to frolic on the Amalfi coast in crystal blue water. It is gorgeous!
On a day trip to Capris, our captain Massimo anchored us near a cave to go swimming. I was thrilled. Crystal clear water meant that I can see everything! Great! That is until our captain started to throw bread crumbs out for the fish. I freaked out!
This time I could see exactly what I was swimming with. Was I really ready to jump in? Would I be able to swim into the amazing cavern????
Fun fact: Turns out Gadabout Kelly is WAY more fearless than me!
Yes, of course!
Jumping off points
My stories of tested bravery has me thinking about jumping off points in life. How do you respond to the times when you face fear. Do you jump? Or do you wait until you are ready?
Would I have been ready to jump off the pier in Belize if I knew I would be swimming with a resident sting ray? Yes, of course. I jumped in the crystal blue waters of Amalfi, despite the fish I knew I’d be swimming with.
In the new book, Everything is Figure Outable Marie Forleo addresses the idea of starting before you are ready. She uses a technique called future tripping. Most people view future tripping as the tendency to worry about the future at the expense of the present. Marie flips that trip to ask herself, “In ten years, will I regret NOT doing this?”
There are two types of pain you will go through in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, while regret weighs tons. ~ Jim Rohn
In other words, would my 60 year old self regret not taking the leap in Belize or in Italy? I never want to disappoint my future self!
How many times do we miss out on an amazing rush of adventure because our thoughts convince us that the worse case scenario is definitely in our future?
Or worse yet, how many times do we miss out on any opportunity in life because you did not feel ready? The truth that Marie Forleo reveals is, “You are never ready to do the important things you’re meant to do.”
Manage YOUR jumps
It is very simple. Manage your mind, manage your life. The way you think about the opportunities to leap matter.
Thoughts produce feelings, which create action. It’s all the thought, Feel, Act Cycle. After years of wondering if there was something seriously wrong with me, I learned a couple tools that I wish my twenty year old self knew. In my FREE guide to Unlock The Secret To Knowing What You Want In LifeI share how YOU can use the power YOUR thoughts to create the life you really want. I am living proof!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
I am a life coach who works with women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.
Future Focused
I’d like to share with you a concept that has revolutionized the lens from which women can choose to create their life.
Have you ever wondered why your life seems to be on repeat? Why you can’t seem to achieve anything more than what you already have? I can relate.
That was my life until I learned about a concept called future focus.
Think of your life as a horizontal straight line. At the beginning of the line mark 0 representing the day you were born. At the end of the line mark 100, the age you hope to live to. The women I coach are facing the midpoint of 50, or so.
At 50 you can either see all the life you lived, and make decisions based on past experience. Or you can look at all the life ahead of you and create from vast possibilities.
So, are you creating with a future focus or are you repeating the past?
My A-ha moment
My a-ha moment was when I discovered I was basing my future success on the failures. I have a box full of business cards from the risks I’ve taken. Regretfully, my identity became associated with failure. Now I see that I can’t create a different life with that limiting belief. I now look at my failures and see all the times I got back up and that failing will not kill me. I am free to create a dream life from future possibilities.
Are you ready to embrace your future self without the limitations of past proof? Reach out to me if you are ready to take creative control of your life.
~Tiffany Eckhardt
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
Last week in Mid-Life Muse I touched on creating a future. This week I’d like to chat about creating a future from the future.
It may appear to be pointing out the obvious, but the future is in the future and not the past.
Life is just getting started for me. I’m currently writing the next chapter of my story with a future focus.
This past weekend my Grandma Maggie would have celebrated her 100th birthday. She missed the milestone by only 2 years. I turn 50 years young this March. By her standard, I have another 50 to live!
I wonder what occupied her mind when she turned 50 years? I know she was willing to try new things.
Grandma Maggie took up golf in her 50s. She wanted to spend time with my Grandpa, who had just retired. Eventually her golf game was so good that my Grandpa wouldn’t play with her anymore. That didn’t stop her from joining several golf clubs and earning numerous awards!
She was spunky. No grass grew under her feet. She worked on her swing into her late 80s.
Like my Grandma, no grass will grow under my feet. I am capable of learning new things at any age. I might just have to pick up golf.
You are either creating from your past or your future.
How do you experience your future? This isn’t a trick question.
Your future is experienced now in your thoughts. The same is true for experiencing your past. You can believe ANYTHING you want about your future and your past. LET THAT SINK IN!
I am surprised to learn just how many people are viewing their future through past experiences. Even worse, most are totally unaware of the thoughts influencing your future.
Who are you? Where do you go to answer that question? Does past experiences shape your identity?
The first step is to get curious about your thoughts concerning your life. Then notice if the thoughts are based on the past or the future.
Do you notice that you relive past experiences? Is it possible that you allow those stories to dictate your future? Wether or not you are aware, you mind finds evidence to support what ever you choose to believe about your past and future.
You have a choice to create a future based on past experiences, or based on a dream you create into existence. Granted, some past experiences can be built upon. Just be aware what is serving you.
A couple things to keep in mind…
First of all, success does not have an expiration date. Do not use your age as an excuse.
Secondly, your life is not on auto pilot. You are the author of your story.
Choose your thoughts… choose your future identity.
Were you a horrible student? You can choose to believe you are capable of learning something new.
Have you always been overweight? You can choose to believe it’s possible to loose weight and be healthy.
Have you been irresponsible with money? You can choose to respect money and learn how to budget.
Do you think you are too old to run a marathon? Find examples of people who ran a marathon in their 90s.
There are plenty of examples of people who overcame similar circumstances and limiting beliefs!
I have a ton of new beliefs about my future self! In the past I avoided exercise. Now, I am a girl who loves exercise. I was a horrible student. Now, I love learning new skills. Heck, I figured out how to change my website server last week!!! I might have to believe I am techy!!!
Chart new territory
Mid-life is a blank slate to write on!
Now is the time to create. It’s time to decide what you want to believe. The title of your next chapter is yet to be written.
Start writing on your blank slate as if you were embarking on a new adventure. You are going to uncharted territory. As the author, you can also be the editor. Only pack thoughts that are useful for your future. Delete the thoughts that don’t serve you.
On your journey you will experience difficulties and unforeseen challenges. You have lived through enough to know you can handle it. Believe anything can be figured out. 😉
Test your focus
Here’s a little test. Keep a log of all your thoughts throughout the day. What percentage of the thoughts you think are based on the past? What percentage of the thoughts serve you today?
Are you feeling hopeful of the future? If not, what exactly are the thoughts you think about your future?
The power of our thoughts to create our future is mind-blowing. It is literally my favorite subject to talk about. I’d love the opportunity to help you write the next chapter of your story.
I believe you can create a life on your terms by becoming future focused.
Failure is not taught in school. Yet, all the successful people I’ve studied this year have harnessed the power of failing forward.
Recognize YOUR script on failure.
Can YOU agree?
Life is 50/50 good & bad.
Nothing worth having in life is handed to you.
There is a lot you can learn from failure if you are curious.
Failure can be good or bad. You decide.
2. What is failure?
Failure is simply YOUR unmet expectations. No one can define failure for you.
2. How do you view failure?
Do you view it as something that happens to you from outside sources?
Do you view yourself as the failure, somehow broken and not capable?
Either approach to failure will not serve you! YOUR approach to failure becomes a familiar story in your mind that will block any attempt to pursue greatness. You are the captain of your own destiny.
For my recent Fail Friday Facebook Live, I shared Pema Chödrön’s book Fail. Fail Again. Fail Better. Her wisdom can help flip the script on the olé familiar story.
View failures as portals of discovery, a chance to get creative and to learn something new.
Be willing to feel a wide range of feelings when things don’t go the way you want them to. {Rage, upset, sadness, loneliness}.
Notice what you do in this space. Do you blame others? Do you call yourself a failure?
Get curious about your failure thoughts
Don’t believe all the stories that play on repeat in your mind, simply get curious about them. Take time to ask yourself questions.
What is your inner dialog saying?
How does the story impact your feelings?
What actions do you take when you feel that way?
What results are you getting from that space? How is that working for you?
OK… enough talk about failure. Let’s Kick 2020 into gear by celebrating the 2019 successes.
Success is defined as something that works out the way you expected it to. Focus on your 2019 successes and toot your own horn!
Your homework, take a hot second to think good thoughts about yourself. Trust me it is fun!
1. Make a list of ten successes you are proud of from 2019.
Did you loose weight?
Did you read the books you wanted to read?
Did you travel?
Did you buy that thing you’ve always wanted?
Did you learn a language?
Did you repair a relationship?
Did you start a business?
Did you reach a financial goal?
Did you get that raise?
Did you learn a new craft?
Only YOU can determine what can be on that list.
I firmly believe in the power of creating the life you want.
What ever is on your list add the sentence “I created this.” Friend, I promise you did something out of the ordinary to achieve that result.
I lost twenty pounds and can wear that dress. I created this.”
2. Now imagine what you want to report on December 31, 2020.
Take time to imagine yourself on December 31,2020. Can you imagine how you will feel when you make your list of 2020 accomplishments at the end of next year? On the last day of 2020 what do you feel most proud of? What actions did you take? What results are you celebrating?
From this space, make your future list NOW. Blow YOUR own mind in 2020! Become the person of your dreams!
I am a product of the product.
I spent nearly 50 years believing I was a failure, like there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I finally took hold of my thought life and am curious about my beliefs. I am proud of the person I am becoming.
I did the homework, and was blown away by my list of accomplishments in 2019. Yes, I had unmet expectations. I am not a failure. Failure doesn’t happen to me. I decide what it means in my life. I am free to recognize my own script and flip it!
Creating my 2019 list inspired me to create a list for 2020. I’m excited to create the 2020 Tiff! This is going to be the best decade of my life!
Let me help you create the life you want in 2020! I will help you identify exactly where you are, where you want to go and the obstacles that will be in the way. We’ll make a plan to hurdle any failure and celebrate all successes!
I am offering coaching packages for 2020. Purchase a three month package before January 1, 2020 to receive a free copy of Pema Chödrön’s book Fail. Fail Again. Fail Better.
Happy New Year!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!
Yep, we are fancy! Mister Rogers said so. Must be true!
Let me tell you my FANCY story.
Once upon a time, my real estate career came to a premature end. In 2008 the real estate market tanked, along with all my hopes and dreams at the time.
Not long after I quit, my colleague Wes invited me to apply for an inside sales job at a local manufacturing company. I had reservations. I am not corporate or like following rigid rules. Could I sit at a desk all day??? I decided to apply and successfully made it through an interview. I knew I’d get it! Wes knew I was a hard worker and good enough at sales.
Can you imagine my shock when he called to request a second interview? I remember telling Wes, “What the heck? You know me. What on earth could they need to ask me?” Wes assured me it was just the policy of the HR department. UUGH – stupid rules. As I walked out my front door the morning of the second interview, I turned to asked Jeff, “I have no idea what this could be about, do you have any advice for me?” His reply was classic Jeff, “I can’t think of anything but, {insert a long pause} this is your one chance Fancy, don’t let me down.”
I got the job. It lasted six months. Turns out I can’t sit at a desk. I saved all the money from that job for an epic trip to Italy with Jeff. So, I technically did not let him down.
Jeff called me Fancy, it must be true. LOL! Friends have nicknamed me Fancy ever since then. I own it!
Are you FANCY?
If fancy isn’t your thing, what do you want to be known for?
A career can not determine your identity.
Opinions of others can not determine your identity.
ANY outside influence can not determine your identity.
The truth is YOU determine your identity. You tell the story of YOUR future by choosing the words you want to identify YOU. What words would you choose? Use a Thesaurus! Try on words as if you would try on clothes in a dressing room.
Why did you choose certain words to describe yourself?
Don’t prejudge wether you think it is possible right now. Really, the more impossible the goal the better! Then write it down!
2 ask yourself, “who will I need become to accomplish your impossible goal?”
Success leaves clues. Do you know of anyone who has done what you hope to accomplish? Make a list of attributes that person has.
You are worth becoming the person of your dreams! Make a list of 25 ways YOU are Fancy, fabulous, zesty, improbable, beautiful, etc!
What do you want to believe about yourself?
3. Finally, make a list of obstacles that would prevent you from becoming the person of your dreams.
Remember:
Thoughts cause feelings
Feelings cause actions (behavior)
Actions create results.
It is important to understand the 60,000 daily thoughts that are rogue in your subconscious. There is a story line in your mind that limits who you can become or achieve. Take control of the story!
You know yourself. Think about the ways you will most likely let yourself down and sabotage your story?
Make a list of 25 obstacle thoughts. You can compare the Fancy list to the obstacle list.
Out smart your brain by identifying the negative thoughts ahead of time. Your brain will subconsciously use those thoughts against you.
Now build a plan to address road blocks from a place of authority. Decide ahead of time how YOU will respond to obstacle thoughts with planned responses.
You are FANCY!
I hope you take the time to create this one wild and precious life! You are FANCY (if you want to be).
You can accomplish ANY worthwhile goal if you are willing to become the person who makes that goal a reality. Take control of your thoughts, feelings, actions and results.
I have had the honor to work with several people in the last couple months. It is rewarding to help people question their thoughts and develop thoughts that serve the life they want to create.
Every brain needs a coach. I’ve experienced a powerful transformation with coaching and self-coaching. I’d love the honor of working with you! Learn More: Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach
I’m rooting for you! Happy Holidays!!!!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
Sunday night Jeff and I went to see the long awaited movie A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood. I have fond memories of watching Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood as a child and was looking forward to learning more about the man. I took for granted the role Mr. Rogers had in my formative years and his influence on possibilities.
The movie is based on a 1998 Esquire magazine article Can You Say… Hero? Tom Junod had the honor of getting to know the iconic figure personally. In his article Junod talked about how Mister Rogers took an interest in his feelings. The movie portrayed this unlikely friendship.
One of the best lines of the movie is a moment when the journalist shares with his wife his assignment to profile Mr. Rogers. Knowing her husband’s reputation of exposing the worst in people, she says, “Lyod, please don’t ruin my childhood.”
Did Mister Rogers influence your possibilities?
Watching A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood on Sunday made me wonder what I believed was possible as a child? I love looking at a picture of myself as a little girl, full of childlike optimism.
I wonder, What did YOU believe was possible as a child? Do you remember any of the daily lessons from Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood?
I didn’t realize as a child that Mister Rogers was teaching children that they were in control of their thoughts and feelings. How did I not pick that up as a child? I just enjoyed all the characters and the regular segments. I was too busy having fun.
Digging deeper into Mister Rogers’ story I became conscious of why becoming a certified Life Coach is so important to me. I have always believed that I am capable of creating life on my terms. Unfortunately, somewhere along the way I developed a story in my mind that creating life on my terms was selfish. LORD… that story has not served me! I’d love to have the impact Mister Rogers’ had by teaching people the key to unlock their success in life is to understand their thoughts and feelings.
Here’s what I’ve learned from his influence on possibilities
1. Mister Rogers was paving the way with his intentions…
Trying to give the world a way to deal with their feelings
Inspiring the world to kindness
Sometimes we have to ask for help, and that’s ok
Each person is precious
We are not broken
I like you just the way you are
2. Mister Rogers lived an example of what is possible and never gave up.
“It would not be easy, No – for in order to win such a battle, he would have to forbid himself the privilege of stopping, and whatever he did right he would have to repeat, as though were already living in eternity.”
Tom Junod
3. Mister Rogers believed that we are all connected.
“The connections we make in the course of a life—maybe that’s what heaven is, Tom. We make so many connections here on earth. Look at us—I’ve just met you, but I’m investing in who you are and who you will be, and I can’t help it.”
Mister Rogers quote to Tom Junod in an interview
In accepting a Lifetime Achievement Award at the 24th Annual Daytime Emmy Awards, Mister Rogers stuns the audience with a moment no one expected. He asked the audience to take 10 seconds to think about all the special people who have loved them into being. There wasn’t a dry eye in the place after his 10 second pause. It was his humble way of reminding us we are all connected.
A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood reminded me of my “why”
I want to remind people it is possible to become whoever they want to be. It’s never too late to create the life of your dreams. You just need the tools!
I’d love to help YOU create the life of your dreams with self awareness and intention. Read 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach Schedule a coaching session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want. You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams. Your first session is FREE!
Oh, and don’t miss a chance to see A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood! It is as heartwarming as you’d expect!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky
