Skip to the good part
As I walk through my garden bursting with signs of new life, one thing I know for sure is that you can’t rush spring, or skip to the good part.
I want to plant a seed and then skip to harvesting a beautiful array of cutting flowers, fruits and vegetables. I want to feel accomplished and enjoy the rewards of my hard work, without doing the work.
In what areas of your life are you rushing? Have you found yourself wishing, “can we skip to the good part?”
We’ve spent our lives skipping to the good part
In high school you were most likely in a hurry to graduate, then off to college. After high school or college, you might have been in a hurry to get married, and then the house and kids.
Most parents rush their children’s milestones, in a hurry for their precious baby to crawl, walk and talk. And then spend the rest of their lives telling them to sit down and hush.
How many seasons did you rush? In hindsight, every season was the good part!
This song by AJR eloquently explains it all… The Good Part.
Will I know I’ve made it?
Although 20 years of raising a family seems like a long time, in the end it went too fast.
Are you considering these nagging questions…
Have you made it? Was this always the goal? Now what?
Did you skip the good part?
The danger for empty nesters is the temptation to habitually look to the past for your identity.
Can you skip the unwanted feelings?
One of the latest trends for Instagram REELS is using the song by AJR to show how people want to skip to the good part. My favorite one is a husband who is digging a trench. The wife asks, can we skip to the good part? He answers, NO! Jeff and I relate to that REEL as he just trenched our back yard for a water line, a couple months before our son’s wedding that we are hosting.
I’m the screaming wife… Check out the REEL!
Are you the screaming midlife woman with an empty nest, who just wants to skip to feeling certain of the future? Your empty nest feels lonely. You’re not sure where you’ll skip to, but you’d like to skip the heaviness of unwanted feelings.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news. You can’t skip the work involved in cultivating a new life, but it’s work wether you stay stuck or dig in.
It’s natural to avoid the discomfort of new growth, but when you resist it you suffer.
The best part of an empty nest is that you have plenty of time to dig into what makes you tick and cultivate something new. You can grow stronger as you learn to dance with resistance, acceptance, grief and resilience.
As a recent client testified…
“She has helped me, not only course my way through past and ongoing grief, but major life changes. She has directed me and given me hope to dream about a fun future for ME. I can finally feel free to step into the next chapter.”
Suffering is optional. You can be resilient and live a fun life that is full of purpose.
If this is resonating with you, let’s schedule a short chat to learn how I can help you navigate what you’re actually trying to skip and identify where you’d like to skip to.
Here’s to a life you don’t need to skip.
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!