The Daily “Fresh Hell”

Fresh hell

After a month of chatting about FUN, I want to go out on a limb with a conversation about the “fresh hell” we’ve been living through.

Yep, let’s get real.  

The past few years have felt like a roller coaster ride of emotions, leaving most clinging to hopium {that is hope-ium – a new term}. 

Are you wondering, will life will ever have a sense of normalcy?  When will this ride be over?   

Your life on hold

If you are anything like me, you love to dream and to invest in the future, but you’re so distracted by the daily dose of “fresh hell” coming from the powers that be {whoever that is}.  

There are tasks on your to-do list, but scrolling through social media for the latest news halts progress.  

Are you tip-toeing the balance between the need to be informed and the desire to bury your head in the sand?  

It’s exhausting!  Are we ok with all of this????

The daily barrage of “fresh hell” grates on the nerves, is frustrating and feels out of control.

Are you putting your dreams on hold, and at times even think why bother?

It’s hell

I see so much suffering, including my own version of misery.  Since March 2020 I have lost friends, dealt with the possibility of a lost job, and find it difficult to talk to my family about real concerns, etc. 

There hasn’t been an authentic conversation around some people since the “fresh hell” became taboo, even criminal.

The women I know just want the opportunity to talk about this bizarre time in history, to share their “fresh hell” of the day.  

Lucky for me I have learned skills to work through the chaos and have support when I find myself going in circles.  

I want to offer hope…

There is a way forward to not only cope, but to thrive in this messy world.

I’ve managed it!  

No, you won’t be able to change the polarizing landscape of today’s world, but you can create a pathway forward.  

How can I serve you?

I don’t assume to know what you need.  

Maybe you just need someone to talk to, or could use a comforting recipe, an essential oil or herbal remedy.  I have developed a million journal prompts that could be helpful.    

It’s possible that all you need is a break from the “fresh hell” and add more spice to your life.

It would definitely help to connect with kindreds!   

I’m here to serve!  

Let me know what you are struggling with!  Comment on the blog, on my social media posts, DM me or even schedule a chat with me.  

I have set up a special calendar link for this topic, Thriving Through The Daily Fresh Hell.  Simply pick a date/time that works for you.  

The beginning

It is human nature to want to live with purpose and meaning. 

This could be the beginning of a beautiful conversation and a point of discovery.  Let’s answer the daily dose of “fresh hell” with resiliency.  

Want to link arms?

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

The song hit a chord

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping you find meaning and purpose to midlife.

The other day I was riding down the road in my pick-up truck Miss Dixie, with windows wide open {cuz it’s fall ya’ll}, blasting Gavin Degraw on the radio.  Dang!  The song I Don’t Want To Be hit a chord.  

“I don’t have to be anyone other than the birth of two souls in one.  Part of where I’m going is knowing where I’m coming from.”  

Now what?

The need for purpose isn’t necessarily a crisis, but probably feels more like a nagging. Now what?

There were times when I was raising my children that I thought, oh my God… when will I ever have time for myself? 

Now that I have all the time in the world, I often miss my kids. BTW: Adult kiddos are so much fun!

Wether you’re an empty nester, newly retired or recently divorced, the question of now what can tug at your heart.  

Not superficial, but profound!  

One of my clients commented to me that she was tired of being superficial.  Me too!

If you embrace the typical midlife crisis, you might fill the void with a brand new sporty car… anything to feel young with an exciting future ahead of you.

Instead acting superficial, what if you had a profound shift in how you view all this free time? Could this time be a gift?

The birth of two souls

It’s easy to look to the past for identity. It’s clear where you’ve been, but do you know where you want to go or who you want to BE?

What if getting to know yourself is more exciting than a brand new sporty car?  

Maybe you just need to crank up Gavin Degraw for inspiration!

“I don’t want to be anything other than me.”

It is fun!

Creating a profound shift could feel heavy… but I promise it is fun!  

I like to say my empty nest is not boring, because I am in it!

You are NOT boring!

Find out what you like. 

Discover what excites you. 

Decide what really matters to you.

Is this hitting a cord?  

Last month I focused on fun… finding your inner artist, taking yourself on a date, getting on the dance floor, and being zesty.  

I hope it all hit a chord.  

These articles were designed to help you live midlife with meaning and purpose, and see this season as a gift to get to know yourself… what you like to do for fun.  

If loneliness or boredom is nagging at you, I can help.   

I invite you to schedule a chat with me.  This is an opportunity for you to share what is nagging at you and preventing you from living a life of purpose.     

Simply click my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to riding down the road, windows wide open and blasting a song that hits all the right cords!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Got zest?

Zest adds flavor to life!  

Are you zesty?  

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

This isn’t the first time I’ve written about zest.  I have always promoted the need to have something zesty to look forward to.

The past few weeks I’ve focused on your creativity, taking yourself on a date and getting on the dance floor.  

I hope you saw yourself in these posts and are ready to add zest to your life!

Something zesty to look forward to.  

“The quality of life is in proportion, always, to the capacity for delight.”  Julia Cameron

It is difficult to have capacity for delight when you live in the land of regret.  If you are always looking to the past, it’s hard to see a zesty future.    

To stop dwelling in the past, first learn to delight in the present by taking time to be grateful for all the good that you’ve created in your life.  

And then look to an exciting future by intentionally planning something zesty to look forward to. This excercise creates more of what you love.  

Our need for zest

Midlife is the perfect opportunity to be intentional about your need for zest.  

As a midlife woman, it’s time to unleash your spice.  It’s time to defy the rules and expectations you’ve followed and start doing more of what delights you.  

Working towards a dream or goal, planning a vacation or even planning a garden gives meaning to your life and creates excitement.  

Stay open to opportunities for zest

Do you have a list of zesty things to look forward to?   

Here’s a great place to start…  

Create a list 20 things you like to do.  Don’t overthink it or worry if you can’t come up with 20.  Once you are open to what delights you, more ideas will flow.  

Pick one item and describe how you will feel when you are planning it and doing it.  

Does it feel zesty and add spice to your life???  

The key is to stay open to opportunities for zest.  

Zest zappers

There are bound to be zest zappers in your life.  

You may not even be aware of how you are zapping your zest.  

Do you worry that it’s too late? Does focusing on yourself seem selfish?

Maybe you just need help believing you are capable of creating a zesty life.  

I’d love to help you tackle the blocks preventing you from moving forward toward a life that excites you.  

I invite you to schedule a free consultation.  Let’s chat about what seems to be in the way of you experiencing the freedom and fullness of midlife.  I am confident that I can help you add zest to your life!

Simply click HERE to pick a date/time that works for you.

Here’s to becoming a seasoned women with something zesty to look forward to!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Get on the dance floor!

Does life sometimes feel similar to attending a high school dance as the wallflower watching your friends enjoying the dance floor?  

I’m not trying to be dramatic, but it has taken me fifty years to realize that life is not a popularity contest.  

You can choose to get off the wall and dance.  In fact, enjoying life is a priceless gift you owe yourself.  

My proverbial dance floor

Recently I was invited to share my expertise as a speaker for the Empowered Woman’s Summit hosted by Jillian McGill.  

This was my chance to get off the wall and dance.  

At one time, I might have turned down the invitation because I was scared to speak in front of strangers or didn’t feel ready.  

This time I accepted the invitation, choosing to believe it would be fun.  The whole experience turned out to be SO fun!!!

Your invitation to dance!

Thanks to Jillian’s generosity, I am able to share my session of the Empowered Woman’s Summit with you. 

Enjoy your personal invitation to get your booty on the dance floor!  

In this video I teach from the Four Stages of Reinvention Journal I recently published on Amazon.  You can get your copy of it by clicking HERE.

It is my intention to help you dance through what ever stage of change you find yourself, and and empower you to step into what ever you’ve always wanted to do.  

Enjoy! ⤵️

Dig deeper

It sucks that trying something new hasn’t gotten easier since high school!  

Midlife is the perfect time for you to stop being the wall flower and dance!  

I’d like to invite you to dig deeper into reinvention.  

In addition to The Four Stages Of Reinvention, I also offer a free guide mentioned in the video. Click here to get your Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS.

Let’s fill the dance floor

Can you see yourself on the dance floor?  

If you long to get out where the disco ball is spinning, but you just can’t seem to get past the fear, I’d love to help!

I invite you to schedule a free consultation by simply clicking on my calendar link and picking a date and time that works for you.  

Together we can get you to step onto the dance floor!

Here’s to being the Belle of the Ball! 

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Riding solo?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping women rise above their midlife BS.

My empty nest is NOT boring, because I am in it.  Although, there are times when I just need to get out of the nest and explore. And I don’t mind riding solo!  

Inspired by The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, I took myself on a date this week.  The idea is take time to nurture the creative spirit within and to allow playful inflow.

“As artists {I’ll add midlife women} we must learn to be self-nourishing.  We must become alert enough to consciously replenish our creative resources as we draw on them – to restock the trout pond, so to speak.  I call this process filling the well.”  Julia Cameron

My date

For me, replenishing my creativity requires a drive in the country to The Antique Rose Emporium.  As I drove the pastoral countryside, I had to remind myself it was time to shut down the thoughts about the chaotic world and get caught up in the moment.  So, I cranked up the radio and sang at the top of my lungs.  I can only get away with that volume riding solo.  

Even if I visit the Antique Rose Emporium’s magic gardens a hundred times and see something that I’ve never seen before.  I walk around shooting pictures and wondering how the gardeners created the spaces.  I always leave with a renewed enthusiasm for my garden and a sense of peace with the world…. And on this trip $100 worth of new plants!

How does the idea sit with you?

The idea of going on a date alone is somewhat intimidating.  

Being alone, or lonely, is a very scary thing for midlife women experiencing an empty nest and trying to figure out their purpose in this season.  

On the flip side… 

What if having the ability to sit alone at a restaurant and enjoy a meal is actually empowering?

How does the idea sit with you?

Community 

I’m not suggesting that you don’t need family and friends.

There is plenty of evidence that community is basic to our happiness.  Out of the six basic human needs; Significance, Love/Connection and Contribution require community.  

What I am offering is the benefit of being able to entertain, nurture and restore yourself.  Once you learn this skill, boredom and loneliness loose their power over you.  

Could it be fun? 

Coming up with ideas for weekly dates can be just as creative as the date itself.  Here are a few of mine….  A trip to a junk store, drive in the country, try out the new coffee shop, roller skating, a bike ride, etc.  

Are you waiting for your partner to have the time to get out of dodge? What about taking a solo trip somewhere on your bucket list?  

What have you been putting off because you don’t want to do it alone?  Maybe you are the perfect date for the occasion?  

Need a little nudge out of the nest?

You might agree that taking yourself on a date could be empowering, but your mind is working overtime to warn you of all the reasons it’s a horrible idea.  

Being lonely sucks, but at least it is familiar.  

I’d love to help you discover your inner shenanigans and the wings to rise above the resistance.  

You might just discover that you enjoy your own company just as much as you enjoy your family and friends.  

Schedule a free consultation by clicking on my calendar link and choosing a date/time that works for you.  This is an opportunity for you to ask me all the questions you have about hiring a life coach and a chance for you to talk through an issue that you are struggling with.  

Here’s to getting behind the wheel, blasting the music, singing at the top of your lungs… or whatever you need to do to fill the well!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

A midlife artist?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women rise above midlife BS.

“Every child is an artist.  The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.”  Pablo Picasso

Jeff and I were grocery shopping when I found myself in the office supplies isle looking at art supplies.  Jeff wondered what the heck I was doing buying paints and brushes.  I am not usually the arts and crafts type.  

A few days prior I was listening to Tonia Jenny teach on the Circle Of Now and was inspired to try my hand at water colors.  Watching beauty emerge from her page looked fun.

I literally have no idea what I am doing.  It feels playful.  The goal isn’t to become an artist, but to connect with something inside that obviously has been neglected.  

Taking the artist on a date  

You are going to think I’m making shit up.  Art seems to be wooing me.  

I happened to be looking at books at The Good Will store {always looking for herbal and gardening books}, when I came across the book The Artists Way by Julia Cameron.  

It is a book that has been repeatedly recommended to me.  So, I bought it for 99 cents.  

The Artist Way hooked me in the first two chapters.  First of all the author recommends journaling, which she calls the morning pages, and then suggests taking your art for a date.  

Brilliant!  

I love the idea of scheduling fun!  

Boredom

Is it time to stop taking life so serious?

This might be the reason you feel stuck, unable to move forward.

Many of my clients think there is something seriously wrong, when the real issue is boredom.  

Somewhere along the way have you lost touch with creativity.

When the student is ready…  

I want to encourage you to get curious.  

As I wandered through Goodwill, the book appeared to me.  This could be your journey too!  

Be open to what moves you.  

Answers to life appear when you try something new just for the fun of it.

One of my clients signed up for banjo lessons.  BTW:  I am super jealous.  I love the banjo!  

Who wants to sign up for art lessons with me????

Let’s connect

Seriously, let’s not be so serious.  

I’d love to learn how you are connecting with creativity by leaving a comment!

What have you always wanted to try just for you?   

Will you take your art for a date????

If this is resonating with you, but you still feel stuck, I invite you to schedule a consultation. Simply click on my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you!

Here’s to the emerging artists in us all!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

This Milestone Calls For A Party

On March 25th Flown The Coop will celebrate our first year in business!

The past year seems to have gone by quickly, and at the same time feels as if it were a lifetime ago.  It really is hard to believe how connected we feel to Burton in such a short time.

This milestone calls for a party, or two!  {of course}

Friday, March 25th we’ll host the Karaoke Night at The Coop.  Our good friend, The Kountry Chick Karaoke & DJ will kick off the MUSIC at 7:30pm.  Come out for good ole fashion country fun with singing and dancing in our back yard!  I always look forward to hearing my Karaoke friends sing their favorite songs.  It will be great to see the friends I’ve made over the years setting up in the fields come for a night out.  EVERYONE is welcome!  Being surrounded by friends is the perfect way to celebrate our first year anniversary!  Stayed tuned for updates to the evening.  We hope to entice a food truck or two.  BYOBeverage & Bring lawn chairs if you can.

The party will continue the next weekend on April 2nd when we close Live Oak Street in front of The Coop for Burton’s own White Linen Night.  White Linen night this past fall was such a huge success that we decided to make it a bi-annual event.  My heart was touched seeing our little corner of Burton alive with the community dressed in white!

During White Linen Night on April 2nd, we will celebrate spring with White-Hot FUN!  Come out to peruse beautiful art, enjoy live and chow down on some good fix-ins; dressed in your favorite all-white ensemble.

 We are accepting applications for artists, makers and creatives; and also food and fashion trucks.  Please email me at eckhardt.tiffany@gmail.com for application details.

The Coop will be open for the Burton Antique Market on March 17th – April 2nd.  We’ll be open daily 9am – 5pm, staying open until 7pm on select evenings.  {which means that we’ll figure it out as we go}  Follow us on FB or Instagram @2flownthecoop for daily updates.

Until then check out our NEW HOURS!  The Coop is now open Thursday – Saturday 10am-5pm and SUNDAY 11AM-4PM!  Come visit us year round!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

 

Christmas At The Coop

It’s hard to believe that we are celebrating our first anniversary of life in Burton, Texas!  Jeff and I moved into our Burton home a few days prior to Thanksgiving 2014.  It has been a very full year of making memories, realizing our dreams and becoming apart of an amazing community.

Christmas At The Coop

December 6th 11am – 5pm

I have thoroughly enjoyed planning our very first gen.u.ine Christmas At The Coop!  Here’s what you can expect on Dec 6th…

From the beginning, I envisioned featuring homestead goods at The Coop.  It has been a joy procuring local products, such as honey and honey jams from Lazy Bee Honey and lavender from Lacey Farms.  I am confident you will find unique gifts from our mixture of vintage and industrial home goods, along with our hand crafted items and fun tee designs.

I dream of filling The Coop with live music.  It was a goose bump kind of moment when my friend Abbey Road helped me book T-Roy Miller for an acoustic jam from 11am – 2pm. Not sure how we got so lucky! T-Roy’s guitar picking is mesmerizing and will definitely put us in the holiday spirit! Check out his web site http://www.t-roymiller.com/ and this video: https://youtu.be/7KGIu4-iQuE! If you weren’t in the holiday spirit yet, you will be now!

Where the backroads end, Burton is a homestead for creative and talented people!  I am thrilled to be hosting two very talented individuals whom I have had the privilege to become friends.

Pamela Fagan Hutchins, author and co-owner of Skipjack Publishingwill be joining us for a book signing.  I recently completed her Kate Annalise trilogy and couldn’t put the books down.  Her books will make great gifts, especially signed by the author!

 

Local artist, John Lowery has chosen The Coop to exclusively display his Engelbrecht Longhorn.  The original painting is quite large at 50″x50″ and depicts a typical scene if you drive down Engelbrecht drive between 390 and Post Oak Road.  You will be able to meet John and purchase one of his prints for the art lovers on your gift list.

Be sure to get there early!

11am – 1pm Boomtown Coffee, voted reader’s choice 3 years in a row, will be in the house!  My son, Hayden Eckhardt will be using his mad barista skills to serve java and espresso drinks.  Bags of freshly roasted coffee will be available to purchase as well.  The perfect hostess gift for your upcoming gatherings.

Make it a day!

Burton’s Heritage Society has planned a Tannenbaum Tour and Christmas at the Depot. Tour our local businesses and vote for your favorite Christmas tree, have your photo taken with Santa and enjoy the holiday spirit in our magical little town!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Make it a tradition

December 4th – 6th small towns throughout the Roundtropolis area will be celebrating the holiday season.  So, book a B&B and make a weekend of it!  We hope that slowing down for a country Christmas will become your annual tradition.

Stay updated on the event HERE!

Happy Holidays!  ~ Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!