Of course you feel

Of course your sad!

I had a fun-filled week with my daughter and grand babies, creating amazing memories!  When they boarded the airplane to return to Michigan, I couldn’t hold back the tears. Of course I was sad.

Yep, it was an ugly cry.  I didn’t fight it because I thought to myself, “of course your sad.”  Once I got into my car, I allow all the sadness to wash over me like a wave in the ocean.  It came from a place of love.  And once I let it out, I was ok to drive home.  

Do you allow your emotions or stuff them, or even worse, beat yourself up for having them?

I teach my clients to observe their emotions and respond with, “of course I feel…”

A time for every emotion

Ecclesiastes teaches us that there is a time for everything, a season for every activity under the sun.  A time to weep and a time to laugh.  A time to mourn and a time to dance.  

When we loose a loved one, we actually want to feel sad.  Of course you grieve.  

Of course you feel unimaginable joy when you spend time with grand children.  

How do you know joy without sorrow? 

Have you ever just sat with an emotion?  

Unwanted emotions are apart of your journey.   In fact, you are supposed to have them.  

So, instead of freaking out and resisting the emotion, simply allow it (sit with it).  

When you are curious, you will begin to realize that they exist to teach you something.  

Conversely, when you resist emotions you create suffering.

Next time you are angry, take a pause.  Where do you feel the emotion in your body? 

Sit with your anger without judgement and you’ll notice it’s vibration in your body eventually pass. 

One day at the park, Arthur was having so much fun swinging that he wasn’t ready to move onto something else when we were.  In upset he literally threw himself on the ground.  My daughter and I walked a safe distance away and just watched.  After the initial anger left, he joined us.  Within a short time, he was laughing and enjoying himself again.  It didn’t ruin his day!

Of course you feel!

The next time you experience an unwanted emotion, say to yourself of course I feel (sad, mad, jealous, frustrated…).  Then ask yourself what’s going on?

Negative emotion highlights what you don’t want, and help you become aware of what you do want.   

Observing my grand kiddos for a week, I notice they didn’t have a problem with emotions.  In fact, they were in touch with exactly how they felt at all times.  

I can help!

I’m not suggesting that you wallow in misery.

I teach my clients how to process unwanted emotions.  

When you are willing to feel any emotion, there is nothing you can’t conquer in your life.  

In fact, you can even build new pathways to embrace discomfort and decide what you want to feel on purpose.

Often when we find ourselves wallowing, buffering with food or alcohol, worrying or procrastinating it is a sign that we are not dealing with unwanted emotions.  

Hiring me as your life coach will help you process the unwanted emotions faster and empower you to no longer dread or beat yourself up for being human.  

If this resonates with you, simply click my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you.   This will schedule a consultation for you to discuss how coaching can help you and if I’m a right fit for you.  

Here’s to the occasional ugly cry… because it’s ok to feel sad.  

~Tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"
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