I explored finding a mid-life muse leading up to my 40th Birthday. I spent months interviewing successful friends for a series on my personal blog called Finding Your Muse, hoping to find purpose in an empty nest and new phase of life.
This time frame coincided with the real estate crash of 2008. It was a clear sign I needed to find my muse in a logical way. So, I quit real estate, sold my fancy car and went to Costa Rica for a month. I was experiencing a crisis. Unfortunately, MY muse was elusive!
BTW: thinking that a 40th birthday meant mid-life is adorable! 😉
Midlife Muse Found In A Shift
Many of my mid-life friends have shared that they noticed a definable shift at this stage of life. In my recent article Are You Zesty, I explored three things seasoned women know. I’d like to add a seasoned woman understands mid-life is a mindset, not a crisis.
One friend shared that she developed a “F-U” attitude, finally giving herself permission to devote time and energy to herself. Can anyone relate???
Wether your life has been devoted to family demands or a demanding career, you realize life has shifted. You have more time and financial freedom than you once did. Unfortunately this shift shows up as an identity crisis. How do you get in touch with who you are and what you really want??? Spoil alert… you don’t have to travel far.
WELL, you don’t have to sell your fancy car and go to Costa Rica. That would be crazy. 😉
Leading up to my 50th birthday, my muse found me in a mindset shift. There is an enormous difference between my desperate approach to my 40th birthday and my quiet, reflective approach to my upcoming 50th birthday.
A couple mindset shifts worth considering:
1. You create YOUR identity
At times I found my identity in my family and friends or as an entrepreneur. I am fiercely proud of my roots. I am equally devoted to my wings and will unapologetically promote flying free!
Cue Jessica Andrews’ Who I am video…
I also have a pattern of looking for my identity in the opinions of others. Good Lord, as a young homemaker living in the south my identity was wrapped up in a clean home. I made my family nuts trying to clean up after them. Last year I uncovered an unhealthily thought that was wrecking havoc on my identity. I naively blamed the thought, “I don’t have the IT factor” for some of my business failures. These stories did not serve me!
You get to decide what thoughts you feed your mind daily. I have noticed most people are totally unaware of what they think about themselves. Do you realize you literally create who you are by what you think, consciously or unconsciously?
A mid-life shift is the perfect opportunity to get in touch with what you really want. Who do you want to BE? What do you want to think about? How do you want to feel? How do you want to show up in life? What skills do you need to learn or interests do you want to explore? What ever you invest in NOW will create your future. You might as well be intentional about it!
2. Current trajectory is your future
Your future is not created in the past. Many people limit their future based on what they were able to accomplish in the past. Truly, your current situation has been created by the habits and the beliefs you developed over the years. The good news is that YOU have the power to change the trajectory of your life by changing your habits and creating new beliefs!
Mid-life is not time to take life for granted. Be patient with yourself, but don’t wait for a written invitation. Your future self will thank you!
You are not alone
You are not alone in a mid-life shift. If I can make this shift, you can too!
“Most people find themselves flying too close to the ground. Too often we don’t give ourselves permission to soar!” Price Pritchett
Give yourself permission to soar. Choose to embrace mid-life by finding your muse in a mindset shift.
I’ve enjoyed coaching many women who are ready to create a life on their terms! I’d love the opportunity to help you get in touch with your midlife muse. Read Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach. Then schedule you FREE consultation!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!