By definition, living vicariously is imagining life through other people’s experiences. You may have lived vicariously through your children, pictures of a friend’s vacation, or someone you admire.
When I went on picking trips for my antique store I frequently had women tell me they were living vicariously through me. While I was honored they followed my adventures, I always hoped to inspire them to fly free on their own journeys.
I recently lived vicariously through my friend Michele, who treated herself to a resort vacation at Miraval Resort in Austin, Texas. I was envious of the royal treatment she received at this luxuriously tranquil retreat. Michele cast a dream for me that I didn’t realize my soul was longing for.
Let me cast a dream for you
What if the next fifty years were totally directed by you?
Well, it is NOT impossible if you step away from life on autopilot and the expectations of others.
It starts with a little imagination. Think of your life as the ultimate Pinterest board. What interesting things do you want to learn? Where would you live and travel to? Who would you surround yourself with? Who do you want to be?
Can you picture it yet?
Where focus goes, energy flows.
Most people focus their energy on the past. They make decisions and predict their future based on what has happened (or did not happen) in the past. The energy it takes to rehearse the past is very low and familiar.
“How much creative energy is tied up in guilt, hatred, resentment, lack or fear? The truth is that you could be using all that energy to re-create a new destiny,” Dr. Joe Dispenza.
I teach my clients to process their past, but become future focused.
Your Future self will be proud
What if you lived vicariously through your future self?
You don’t have to look enviously to others. Create a vision for yourself in your imagination.
What will she appreciate that you dreamed up for her?
First create your ultimate Pinterest life, then consider how the experience will feel; empowered, fortunate, free, blissful, authentic, carefree, calm, easy, expansive, mindful…
The more energy you can attach to your future self, the more intimate you become with your future.
Is your view of reality limited?
The mind is a powerful thing.
As you fill your mind with thoughts and add energy to the ideas, you actually experience the vision as if it were in real time. The mind simply doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy.
Have you ever experienced a physical reaction to a thought? For instance, when I think about meals I had in Italy, my mouth starts watering.
What happens when you unlock creativity by rehearsing the future you want in your mind? The skills you need to thrive in the future will become important to develop. Your future self’s opinion of your current choices suddenly matter. Unexpected opportunities present themselves in a new awareness.
Do you need a guide?
Have you caught yourself living vicariously through someone lately? What is stopping you from living your dream life?
I work with midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead. Learning to live with your future self in mind is a big part of creating that life you’ve always wanted.
I’d love to help you activate your imagination and manage your mind to direct your next fifty years!
Still unsure if life coaching is for you? I offer a FREE mini session to chat about how I specifically can help you. Click the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar that works for you.
Here’s to living the best years!
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!