Did you have a familiar script to live by up until now? Are you ready to birth something new at midlife? Here’s a fun exercise to stir those creative juices and to begin to flip the script.
If your life played out on the big screen, what would the title of your life be?
Sex In The City
The Housewife of {your town}
Real Women Have Curves
Last Woman Standing
Unfortunately, here are a few midlife titles I hear instead…
I Am Too Old To Attract My Dream Partner
My Empty Nest Is Boring
My body Is In Decline
I Have Never Done That Before
All too often, midlife misconceptions keep women stuck in a script that they didn’t write. Dear friend, you are capable of far more than you can possibly imagine.
In fact, you are not doing anyone favors by staying stuck. You just need to flip the script.
How do you flip the script?
As the master of reinvention, let me offer you ideas to take charge of your manuscript.
1. Ditch midlife BS
Last week I launched a free workbook, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS. The first lesson I teach is to ask the question, is it true?
The simple, yet powerful, question trains your brain to not accept every thought as the truth.
For instance, you might think that you are too old to reach your ideal weight. Is that true? Is believing your are too old to be skinny a thought worth keeping? It’s up to you.
As the author, it is your decision to keep it or ditch it.
2. Journal
The daily “trinity thoughts” are useful journal prompts, and will allow you see patterns in your life. “This exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of just getting through your To Do list.” ~ Dr. Christiane Northrup.
1. Something to brag about – wow! I had a hard time with this one at first. What are you really proud of? Can you imagine how good you will feel celebrating daily successes?
2. Something to appreciate – gratitude is a an attitude everyone could agree on. Look for something you appreciate about your life, your body and/or your tribe on a daily basis.
3. Something you desire – OK this is a muscle that needs to be flexed! I have gotten very clear on what I want in life by answering this daily. It might be easier to answer what you don’t want, but can you name one thing you desire right now?
3. Know the what and why, ditch the how
Jeff and I dream of the day when he can finally retire from his career. To clarify, retirement does not mean an end to projects or adventure. I envision building more guest homes and scaling my coaching business. For fun, we both want to hike and travel. Jeff dreams of cycling across the United States. Purchasing a RV to see family and friends across the US is a huge part of our dream.
There are many reasons why this dream pulls us, but the main one is to invest more time together and with our family. When the why is strong enough the how will take care of itself.
Dr. Martin Luther King had a “I have a dream” speech, not a “I have a how” speech. Often times, the how chokes your dream. So, save the plan for later… DREAM!
Here’s a fun activity to tap into your dream muscle….
1. Ask yourself, “wouldn’t it be amazing if…”
2. What comes up for you when you allow your heart to dream?
3. Give your dream a title. The title to YOUR manuscript.
4. WHY did you chose that title?
Do you feel stuck in an old story?
I’d love to help you flip the script and start creating your dream.
As a certified life coach I am trained in helping you identify the old worn out story that is holding you back. I am also a master of reinvention. I’ve been in your shoes and know how to get your journey off on the right footing.
Schedule a FREE mini session with someone who truly believes YOUR best years are ahead.
Here’s to YOUR manuscript!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!
