This is my final message on failure, for 2019. I’ve talked a lot about the fine art of failing.
Failure is not taught in school. Yet, all the successful people I’ve studied this year have harnessed the power of failing forward.
Recognize YOUR script on failure.
- Can YOU agree?
- Life is 50/50 good & bad.
- Nothing worth having in life is handed to you.
- There is a lot you can learn from failure if you are curious.
- Failure can be good or bad. You decide.
2. What is failure?
Failure is simply YOUR unmet expectations. No one can define failure for you.
2. How do you view failure?
- Do you view it as something that happens to you from outside sources?
- Do you view yourself as the failure, somehow broken and not capable?
Either approach to failure will not serve you! YOUR approach to failure becomes a familiar story in your mind that will block any attempt to pursue greatness. You are the captain of your own destiny.
For my recent Fail Friday Facebook Live, I shared Pema Chödrön’s book Fail. Fail Again. Fail Better. Her wisdom can help flip the script on the olé familiar story.
- View failures as portals of discovery, a chance to get creative and to learn something new.
- Be willing to feel a wide range of feelings when things don’t go the way you want them to. {Rage, upset, sadness, loneliness}.
- Notice what you do in this space. Do you blame others? Do you call yourself a failure?
Get curious about your failure thoughts
Don’t believe all the stories that play on repeat in your mind, simply get curious about them. Take time to ask yourself questions.
What is your inner dialog saying?
How does the story impact your feelings?
What actions do you take when you feel that way?
What results are you getting from that space? How is that working for you?
OK… enough talk about failure. Let’s Kick 2020 into gear by celebrating the 2019 successes.
Success is defined as something that works out the way you expected it to. Focus on your 2019 successes and toot your own horn!
Your homework, take a hot second to think good thoughts about yourself. Trust me it is fun!
1. Make a list of ten successes you are proud of from 2019.
- Did you loose weight?
- Did you read the books you wanted to read?
- Did you travel?
- Did you buy that thing you’ve always wanted?
- Did you learn a language?
- Did you repair a relationship?
- Did you start a business?
- Did you reach a financial goal?
- Did you get that raise?
- Did you learn a new craft?
Only YOU can determine what can be on that list.
I firmly believe in the power of creating the life you want.
What ever is on your list add the sentence “I created this.” Friend, I promise you did something out of the ordinary to achieve that result.
- I lost twenty pounds and can wear that dress. I created this.”
2. Now imagine what you want to report on December 31, 2020.
Take time to imagine yourself on December 31,2020. Can you imagine how you will feel when you make your list of 2020 accomplishments at the end of next year? On the last day of 2020 what do you feel most proud of? What actions did you take? What results are you celebrating?
From this space, make your future list NOW. Blow YOUR own mind in 2020! Become the person of your dreams!
I am a product of the product.
I spent nearly 50 years believing I was a failure, like there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I finally took hold of my thought life and am curious about my beliefs. I am proud of the person I am becoming.
I did the homework, and was blown away by my list of accomplishments in 2019. Yes, I had unmet expectations. I am not a failure. Failure doesn’t happen to me. I decide what it means in my life. I am free to recognize my own script and flip it!
Creating my 2019 list inspired me to create a list for 2020. I’m excited to create the 2020 Tiff! This is going to be the best decade of my life!
Let me help you create the life you want in 2020! I will help you identify exactly where you are, where you want to go and the obstacles that will be in the way. We’ll make a plan to hurdle any failure and celebrate all successes!
I am offering coaching packages for 2020. Purchase a three month package before January 1, 2020 to receive a free copy of Pema Chödrön’s book Fail. Fail Again. Fail Better.
Happy New Year!
~Tiffany
And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!