Got zest?

Zest adds flavor to life!  

Are you zesty?  

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

This isn’t the first time I’ve written about zest.  I have always promoted the need to have something zesty to look forward to.

The past few weeks I’ve focused on your creativity, taking yourself on a date and getting on the dance floor.  

I hope you saw yourself in these posts and are ready to add zest to your life!

Something zesty to look forward to.  

“The quality of life is in proportion, always, to the capacity for delight.”  Julia Cameron

It is difficult to have capacity for delight when you live in the land of regret.  If you are always looking to the past, it’s hard to see a zesty future.    

To stop dwelling in the past, first learn to delight in the present by taking time to be grateful for all the good that you’ve created in your life.  

And then look to an exciting future by intentionally planning something zesty to look forward to. This excercise creates more of what you love.  

Our need for zest

Midlife is the perfect opportunity to be intentional about your need for zest.  

As a midlife woman, it’s time to unleash your spice.  It’s time to defy the rules and expectations you’ve followed and start doing more of what delights you.  

Working towards a dream or goal, planning a vacation or even planning a garden gives meaning to your life and creates excitement.  

Stay open to opportunities for zest

Do you have a list of zesty things to look forward to?   

Here’s a great place to start…  

Create a list 20 things you like to do.  Don’t overthink it or worry if you can’t come up with 20.  Once you are open to what delights you, more ideas will flow.  

Pick one item and describe how you will feel when you are planning it and doing it.  

Does it feel zesty and add spice to your life???  

The key is to stay open to opportunities for zest.  

Zest zappers

There are bound to be zest zappers in your life.  

You may not even be aware of how you are zapping your zest.  

Do you worry that it’s too late? Does focusing on yourself seem selfish?

Maybe you just need help believing you are capable of creating a zesty life.  

I’d love to help you tackle the blocks preventing you from moving forward toward a life that excites you.  

I invite you to schedule a free consultation.  Let’s chat about what seems to be in the way of you experiencing the freedom and fullness of midlife.  I am confident that I can help you add zest to your life!

Simply click HERE to pick a date/time that works for you.

Here’s to becoming a seasoned women with something zesty to look forward to!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Riding solo?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping women rise above their midlife BS.

My empty nest is NOT boring, because I am in it.  Although, there are times when I just need to get out of the nest and explore. And I don’t mind riding solo!  

Inspired by The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, I took myself on a date this week.  The idea is take time to nurture the creative spirit within and to allow playful inflow.

“As artists {I’ll add midlife women} we must learn to be self-nourishing.  We must become alert enough to consciously replenish our creative resources as we draw on them – to restock the trout pond, so to speak.  I call this process filling the well.”  Julia Cameron

My date

For me, replenishing my creativity requires a drive in the country to The Antique Rose Emporium.  As I drove the pastoral countryside, I had to remind myself it was time to shut down the thoughts about the chaotic world and get caught up in the moment.  So, I cranked up the radio and sang at the top of my lungs.  I can only get away with that volume riding solo.  

Even if I visit the Antique Rose Emporium’s magic gardens a hundred times and see something that I’ve never seen before.  I walk around shooting pictures and wondering how the gardeners created the spaces.  I always leave with a renewed enthusiasm for my garden and a sense of peace with the world…. And on this trip $100 worth of new plants!

How does the idea sit with you?

The idea of going on a date alone is somewhat intimidating.  

Being alone, or lonely, is a very scary thing for midlife women experiencing an empty nest and trying to figure out their purpose in this season.  

On the flip side… 

What if having the ability to sit alone at a restaurant and enjoy a meal is actually empowering?

How does the idea sit with you?

Community 

I’m not suggesting that you don’t need family and friends.

There is plenty of evidence that community is basic to our happiness.  Out of the six basic human needs; Significance, Love/Connection and Contribution require community.  

What I am offering is the benefit of being able to entertain, nurture and restore yourself.  Once you learn this skill, boredom and loneliness loose their power over you.  

Could it be fun? 

Coming up with ideas for weekly dates can be just as creative as the date itself.  Here are a few of mine….  A trip to a junk store, drive in the country, try out the new coffee shop, roller skating, a bike ride, etc.  

Are you waiting for your partner to have the time to get out of dodge? What about taking a solo trip somewhere on your bucket list?  

What have you been putting off because you don’t want to do it alone?  Maybe you are the perfect date for the occasion?  

Need a little nudge out of the nest?

You might agree that taking yourself on a date could be empowering, but your mind is working overtime to warn you of all the reasons it’s a horrible idea.  

Being lonely sucks, but at least it is familiar.  

I’d love to help you discover your inner shenanigans and the wings to rise above the resistance.  

You might just discover that you enjoy your own company just as much as you enjoy your family and friends.  

Schedule a free consultation by clicking on my calendar link and choosing a date/time that works for you.  This is an opportunity for you to ask me all the questions you have about hiring a life coach and a chance for you to talk through an issue that you are struggling with.  

Here’s to getting behind the wheel, blasting the music, singing at the top of your lungs… or whatever you need to do to fill the well!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Who are you if you ditch the titles?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention helping woman rise above their midlife BS

Ditch the titles

When asked to introduce yourself, do you feel the need to recite an well rehearsed elevator speach?  Midlife seems to be the perfect season to ditch the titles.  However, deciding on an introduction that really captures who you’ve become is not that easy.  

Here’s how I’d like to introduce myself:

Hi I’m Tiffany.  I like to think I have a sparkle and a great smile, and am most found of my indomitable spirit and fierce independence.  My heart swells when my grandkids giggle, reminding me to lighten up and enjoy life.  I have a gift of hospitality and enjoy creating beautiful spaces, both in my home and garden.  Preferring a natural lifestyle, I am curious about how nature provides for us.  Currently I am creating journals for women to rise above the BS, navigate change and live extraordinary lives.  

I haven’t muster the courage to use a lengthy explanation of who I am.  People expect to hear what I DO, not an explanation of WHO I am, especially when it sounds like bragging about all the qualities I like about myself.  

The Titles

It’s so much easier to use titles that are commonly recognized in introductions, which reasonably define you, until they don’t.  

What actually defines you when you’ve retired your well rehearsed elevator speech?  It sucks to feel unsure of your identity as you enter an uncharted season of life.  

Instead of seeing it as a predicament, you could view it as a great opportunity to create the title you want and really learn who you are.  

What’s your essence?

Society loves labels and titles to categorize people.  Have you noticed?  

Many of my clients are just getting to know themselves after a lifetime of service to others. They are tapping into buried interests and passions, and discovering their essence as they  redefine their life.  

Wouldn’t it feel radical to ditch the titles and lead with what makes you unique?  Try it. I am…

Ask the right questions!

You may be wondering who am I now that I am free from my titles?  

Well, start by identifying what you believe about yourself.  What are you proud of?  Would you change anything?  If so, forgive yourself and let it go.  Are there features of yourself you love?  What are your gifts?  What makes you feel alive?  

Are there new skills you’d like to develop or natural talents you could explore? What do you consider fun?  

I don’t pretend to have the answers

I’m a work in progress.  {Maybe that could be how I introduce myself}

I believe this work is vital and necessary to break free from attachments to the past.  It liberates you to blossom into the woman you long to BE.  

This is your season to sparkle.  Only you can answer the question of who you are and who you will become.

I can help

I’d love to help you sort through all the questions that will lead you to discovering your perfect introduction.  

I offer a FREE guide, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS.  This guide will help you ask the right questions, identify who you want to be and stop sabotaging your best made goals for the future.

My Four Stages  Of Reinvention Journal is available on Amazon.  It sucks that change never gets easier.  Journaling is a powerful tool in connecting to your thoughts and creating a map forward.  Learning the Four Stages Of Reinvention will help you discover what phase of change your are in and build a road map for your future.  Once you’ve mastered the four stages, you’ll never waste time fighting change again.

If you are in any stage of reinvention or change, I invite you to take advantage of a free consult call by simply visiting my calendar and picking a date/time that works for you.  This will give you an opportunity to discover what midlife coaching is all about and if it’s a good fit for you.  

Ditch the titles challenge

I’d love to get to know you, not your titles.  I challenge you to craft an introduction free of common titles and send me what you come up with.  It will be fun to see how creative y’all are!  

Here’s to becoming who we are, not what we do!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

What I learned from my new hat

Tiffany Eckhardt; master of reinvention, certified life coach and author.  Helping midlife women answer the question what's next?
photo credit Ellen Renee Photography

What I learned from my new hat

I have a new hat to wear.  It’s actually the new title of published author.

I’m excited to announce my newly published journal, The Four Stages of Reinvention Journal, A Journal For the Journey on Amazon.  

Good thing I love hats, I have many.  My personal hats are of a wife, mother, daughter, sister, Fancy (aka grandma), niece and loyal friend.  Professionally I wear the hat of a certified life coach, but prefer to be called master of reinvention. My beloved guest house owner hat hardly feels like work.  Heck, you could say I have an abundant collection of hats!

My new hat accentuates my passion for helping women find their future, to believe their best years are ahead.  The Four Stages Of Reinvention walks you through the stages of resistance to resilience with journal practices to compliment each stage.  

Now that I’ve survived the process of publishing a journal on Amazon, I am ready to share what I’ve learned.

Get help from friends with amazing hats

Abundance is relational.  Thank God I’m abundantly blessed with people willing to help me.  The classic book Think And Grow Rich teaches the importance of building a network of support.

I could not have completed this project without my bestie, author Dawn Gardner.  First of all, she is the amazing photographer I used for many of the graphics.  As if that wasn’t valuable enough, she offered design suggestions, helped me format my pages for the journal and the cover, and was an invaluable beta reader.  

An awesome Master Mind leader and coach, Peg Wedig graciously offered editing suggestions, line by line and word by word to correct grammar and help fine tune my message.

I had several friends who read the journal before publishing, including a new friend Jillian McGill.  I’m honored to be included in her upcoming Empowered Woman’s Summit and love the review she offered!  

“Made me think quite a bit. For me, it seems that with a BIG life challenge I’m currently moving through, I dance between the four stages.  The inquiries and journal prompts are rich and robust. It’s beautifully put together.”

Wear an editor’s hat often

I will just admit it here.  I have poor grammar and spelling skills, which most likely frustrates my teacher and author friends.  The grammar police on social media has given me many citations over the years. 

In my haste to publish, I misspelled the word whether, the first word on the description page.  UUGH!  I discovered the misspelled word after I announced the journal on my personal Facebook page.  As a result, I learned how to properly correct copy on Amazon’s publishing, which took me several days.  Forgetting the first “h” in whether set me back about a week.  

Again, in my haste to share the journal, I sent out an email to 600 subscribers in the third person.  I had copied and pasted the the description page on Amazon.  It was too late to do anything about it.  I apologize for that one!  I was just too excited to edit my email properly.  

Live and learn!

Practice patience

Yeah, I don’t have much.  Can you relate?

I did practice patience in the creation stage of the journal, taking the time to recruit beta readers and painfully editing the journal.  Gratefully, my patience produced a beautiful journal.  

Publishing the journal tried my patience.  I love graphic design, but learning to format pages with bleed was frustrating.  {Thanks Dawn for getting me through that!}.  Waiting for the journal to go live was nerve-racking.  Waiting for a correction on the description page was gut-wrenching.  Finally, waiting for the first report on sales to post had me in knots. I’m hoping the journal will be well received, and to have a Sally Field moment, “You like me!  You really, really like me!”

Learning curve

I will continue to be a student of the publishing world, occasionally frustrating the grammar police on my blog and social media posts, and bugging my fiends for input on my grand ideas.  My work will gradually become polished as I learn from all the mistakes along the way.  

I am embracing the learning curve with humility and proving that age does not dictate what can be done or experienced. 

I share all of my imperfections in the hope of inspiring you to step out of your comfort zone.  

What are you waiting for?

Let me know how I can help!  

If you are resisting change in your life, let me encourage you. Once you’ve mastered the four stages or reinvention, you’ll never waste time fighting change again. 

You are capable of wearing multiple hats and learning to wear new ones.  

If you need help moving through a big life challenge, let’s connect.  I can help you dance through the stages of reinvention.  Check out my calendar for a free consultation!  

AND… check out my newly published journal on Amazon!  

Here’s to new hats!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Shed the shoulding

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping midlife women answer the question, what's next

Are you shoulding yourself? 

The word should needs to go!

The word should is a verb and is the least motivating word in the English language.  Should is used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions.

The word carries weight that does not motivate.

You might be shoulding if….

Anytime you think you should act in a certain way in order to be loved or worthy.  Stop it!

Here are some example thoughts you might have had.

I should be able to loose weight, if only I could just stop eating bread and sugar.   

I should like to work out.      

There is a person you’ve been avoiding that you should call.

You wake up in the morning with a list of things you should do, but none if them sound fun.  

The night before you drank a bottle of wine to take your mind off things, and the next morning think you shouldn’t have done that.  

Why you should yourself?

If you are a midlife woman like me, you have a long history of shoulding yourself.   

Your the woman they could count on for the cupcakes at your child’s school.  

You beat yourself up for not being a certain size jeans, as if your weight is the reason someone should like you.   

If you could only live up to the magazine pictures in Better Homes And Gardens!  

You feel guilt and shame when you use the verb should, implying you have no control over your actions or will.

I add a little rebellion to my feelings of guilt and shame.  I personally hate being told what to do, it’s part of my fiery personality. Can you relate?  

In any case, the word should indicates a dissatisfaction with life.  

Ask yourself why

I’ll be a little vulnerable and share a should in my life.  

I have a habit of drinking a couple of glasses of wine or old fashions in the evening.  It really isn’t bad, but I started thinking I should be able to enjoy the evening without the cocktail.  I worry excessive alcohol is affecting my wellness and productivity the next morning.  

I started thinking I should be able to quit the habit during the week.  

That should only caused me to feel ashamed and beat myself up every morning.  

When I finally got honest with myself and journaled my thoughts and feelings, I realized that the real reason I was drinking more than I wanted to was two feelings… boredom and loneliness.  I spent time exploring why I was bored and lonely, which led to even more insights into what was really going on.  

Now that I have identified reasons for my extra glass of wine, I can work on the root thoughts and feelings, and offer myself grace instead of shame.

Ask yourself why when you think you should? When asked a question, your mind will go to work to answer it.  

At the root of every should is a desire for something.  What is your heart really longing for?  

Shed the should

Midlife is time to get honest with yourself.  This is your season to shed the should!  

Start discovering what would feel zesty, juicy and rewarding.  A daily journal practice is a great way to discover what is really going on in your mind.  

Employ the word NO to requests of your time or energy. Say YES to everything that aligns with the life you want to create.  

I can help!

Do you have a long history with the word should?  Could you use a little help ditching the habit?  

My clients are rising above all kinds of midlife BS.  You can too!

It’s been my experience that hiring an objective listener identified where I’ve been shoulding myself.

As your life coach, I will help you leap over the divide from what you think you should be doing to what you want to be doing.  

Your best years begin with a healthy dose of curiosity. 

Curious about hiring a life coach?   I invite you to schedule a consultation by clicking Ask A Coach below

Here’s to shedding the should!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Minding the gap

Mind the gap

As a midlife coach, I focus on fresh starts.  Last week I addressed the feelings of restlessness, helping you to understand your thoughts cause your feelings.  This week I’d like to chat about the distance between what you think you should do and what you are actually doing. Your fresh start hinges upon you minding the gap.

The gap is a feeling.  

The greatest gap in the world is the gap between knowing and doing.  ~John Maxwell

The results we hope for in our lives are always created by the thoughts we entertain.  The gap between knowing and doing is our feelings.  

Again, notice what the gap is not…. obstacles, or any negative circumstance.  

Awareness

According to a Harvard Business Review article, the number one reason people don’t realize their potential is that they don’t know themselves.  

The best way to get to know yourself is develop a healthy measure of curiosity, observing your thoughts and feelings.  

Begin to observe what makes you tense or relaxed.  (Hint: it is a thought you are having). 

“To be true to myself, I must know myself: what I enjoy, what I resist, what moves me.  Pleasure asks that we reacquaint ourselves with who we are.”  ~Victoria Castle. 

Map your gap

I teach my clients a weekly scheduling practice called Monday Hour One.  In the process of scheduling everything out, my clients are taught to map out fun first.  

When I first started practicing Monday Hour One, I didn’t know what I liked to do for fun.  I had to think about what brought me pleasure throughout the week.  From this awareness, I now schedule yoga, gardening and roller skating first into my week.   

Added bonus:  Over time, I realized that the more I enjoyed life, the more creativity energy flowed through me.  Feeling tense or experiencing a sense of dread is an indication that I lack necessary fun in my life.  That’s an easy fix!  I now have a list of things that will add spice to my weekly schedule.

Journal your gap

I intuitively knew from an early age that expressing my thoughts in a journal is the key to minding the gap (my feelings).  

Witnessing your thoughts on paper allows you the opportunity to make changes, respect how you feel, and stop ignoring them.  

Here are a few journal prompts that will help you start minding your gap…

What do you feel?

How do you feel right now, tense or relaxed?

Is there something that inspires you? 

Are you loyal to something?

What do you avoid?

When do you feel most alive?

I can help

I enjoy sharing what I’ve learned from my personal growth journey.  One of my freebies is Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS, a free downloadable workbook.  In this you will get to know yourself better and mind your gap (feelings).  

It’s been my experience that hiring an objective listener helped identify where I was stuck. 

As your life coach, I will help you leap over the divide from what you think you should be doing to what you want to be doing.  I lead you through the four stages of change to fully get to know yourself.  

Your best years begin with a healthy dose of curiosity. 

Curious about hiring a life coach?   I invite you to schedule a consultation by clicking Ask A Coach below

Here’s to not only minding the gap, but embracing a fresh start like the badass you are!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Restless?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping midlife women answer the question, what's next.

Do you feel restless?

The season of midlife is often an unchartered territory.  Many of my clients are experiencing a lack of structure and/or purpose for the first time in their life.  Thoughts of uncertainty often causes you to feel restless.  

You might be restless if…..

You’ve downsized your home or retired from a career.  

The calendar is open and nothing seems predictable, when it once was overbooked.  

Restlessness may even be a form of boredom and loneliness.  

Are you restless from a major life event; such as a wellness awakening or late life divorce?  

Of course you will feel a bit unsettled when you wondering to yourself, what’s next.

Take heart!  Restless feelings are not necessarily a bad thing!  

Don’t fight restless feelings

Argue for your limitations and they are yours.  ~Richard Bach

Restlessness is an indication of change.  Instead of indulging in confusion, answer the questions your restless feelings are begging you to answer.

Do you have a gift to explore?

What dreams did you dream as a child?

What do you love about yourself?

How can you live your best life?

The big questions

My dream had always been to open an antique store.  I remember cutting out articles of Better Homes and Gardens.  I can clearly see in my mind’s eye an article with a happy shop owner sweeping the sidewalk outside her store that I cut out about twenty years ago.  

My vision became a reality in March of 2015, on a beautiful spring day.  I opened my little store in Burton, with all my favorite people surrounding me for a ribbon cutting ceremony.  It was a dream come true. 

I closed that story book chapter of my life in November of 2018.  As that season ended, I had to accept the ending and allowed myself to grieve the loss of my dream.  

This wasn’t my first rodeo.  I’ve experienced drastic changes several times in my life.  I knew it was another opportunity to embrace change.  Eventually, I was reminded how resilient I truly am.   

To move past the restless feelings associated with change, you need to answer the big questions.

What’s now?  

What’s next?  

Stop and ask yourself these two questions and notice where your mind goes?  

Surf the shift

This requires imagination.  If you don’t have it, borrow the imagination of someone you admire.  What do they believe about change?  How do they feel about this season?  How have they show up for life?

Think of imagination as a surfboard, just hop on the board and ride wave of possibilities.  

When you surf the shift, you’ll discover how resilient you are!

Find you future

In the course of reinventing my life numerous times, I have identified four stages of change that can help you navigate uncharted territory.  

What you believe you embody.  I help my clients redefine what’s possible in this season.  

I can help you rise above any BS regarding your possibilities, so you can stop wasting precious time.  

Find your future!

What are you waiting for?  Schedule a consultation today by clicking my calendar link below.  I can help you answer the big questions, what’s now and what’s next?

Here’s to shifting past restless to resilient!  Ride the wave of possibilities!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Fresh Starts

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women answer the question "What's next?"

Fresh start

How many times have you had a fresh start in your life?  

What was the catalyst?  Marriage?  Starting a family?  A job relocation? A new business idea?

If the catalyst was associate with a measure of pain, like a bankruptcy or divorce, you probably spend a great deal of time resisting it or trying to manage it.

Midlife is a season in life that offers a fresh start, depending how you look at it.

Fresh start or fear?

When you think of starting something new do you feel excited, optimistic, adventurous? 

Or do you experience fear, worrying about what might or might not happen?  

Feelings are an indication of how you actually think about it. 

What are you willing to risk?

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more powerful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

I’m experienced at fresh starts.  I’ve moved across country four times in thirty years, renovating six homes (three historic).  After homeschooling and devoting my young adult life to raising our family, the kids moved on and are living their great adventures.  I’ve also had numerous business ventures, short lived careers, heartbreaks and health issues.  

Y’all we got midlife too!  

It is our season to blossom! 

Don’t let the fear of what could happen, make nothing happen.  

I can help

I coach women who are asking the question, “What’s next?”

According to a Harvard Business Review article, the number one reason people don’t reach their potential is that they don’t know themselves.  

Your life experiences, wether a natural part of life or crisis, may have chartered your course up until now, but midlife is the season you can finally get to know yourself.  

What ever is next can be created.  I can help you identify the BS that keeps you stuck in fear and blossom into the woman you know you can be.  

This is your season to bloom!

I offer a free course, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS. This is a great place to start your fresh start.

Coaching is an excellent way to move past your BS faster. Schedule a consultation by clicking on my calendar link below and pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to fresh starts!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Choose HER?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the questions, What's next?"

What happened to your goals?

Do you wonder what happened to the goals you set in January? Will you still choose HER? You know, the woman you set out to become at the beginning of the year? 

In January I wrote a letter to myself, check out the blog that went with it! I hope when open the letter at the end of the year, I am super proud of Tiff!

At the time of this writing, June is knocking at the door.  Already half of 2021 is behind us. 

Do you remember the goals you set at the beginning of the year?  Did you set goals?

Goals as a spiritual practice

I think I’ve figured out why most goals die a sad death by February or March.  

Setting goals has become a ritual at the beginning of the year that neglects the reason for setting them in the first place, to realize who we are capable of becoming.   

What if setting goals could be more of a spiritual practice, a road map that helps you stay focused on your life’s intentions?

“We propel our Life’s Intentions into the physical realm by creating goals.  A goal is literally, a projection of a Life’s Intention into the physical reality.”  ~ Maria Nemeth, Ph.D. and author of The Energy of Money.

Choosing HER is about your life’s Intention

Many of my clients are asking themselves the question, “What’s Next?”

There is a lot of fear behind that question.  What will you do with the gift of midlife?  

A less intimidating question might be, “Who do I want to intentionally become?” 

If you don’t answer this question yourself, it will most likely being answered by outside sources (society, family, friends, etc.)

“Without goals, our Life’s Intentions remain unfilled, and unfulfilled Life’s Intention often results in frustration and resignation.  Conversely, our greatest joy comes from achieving goals that have real meaning and heart for us.”  Maria Nemeth, Ph.D

Choose Her Goal Challenge

I know you will choose HER, the woman you intentionally want to become, the woman you know you can BE!

Setting goals from life’s intentions is exactly the approach I take in my updated Choose HER Goal Challenge.  This self-paced workbook, with videos, will help you end the year with goals set from a place of abundance, will give you an understanding of what success means to you, help you identify the obstacles in achieving results and define who you have to become to be HER.  

Stop wasting precious time. I can help you quickly get over the BS that keeps you stuck without clear goals.

Intentionally end your 2021 by getting your copy of Choose Her Goal Challenge.  Click the link below to get started!

This will be available for a limited time… Monday, May 31 and close on Sunday, June 6th

It is my goal to help you believe your best years are ahead!  I would be honored to take this journey with you.  

Here’s to an amazing second half of 2021!

~Tiffany 

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

There’s another way

Once you become aware there is a another way, you become a magnet for new ideas and alternative ways to live!  

“Though the problems of the world are increasingly complex, the solutions remain embarrassingly simple.” ~ Bill Mollison The Father of Permaculture

This week I celebrate the 4th anniversary of my wellness awakening by acknowledging the practices I’ve developed to keep me well and feeling young.  

January of 2017 I had a unfortunate health crisis that led to a very fortunate wellness journey.  I made a vow to to avoid surgery and disease, as much as it was in my power. Turns out I have more power than first realized. I just needed to become a detective to discover ways to flow with life.

In May of 2017 I joined a community of earthy souls who live a “crunchy” life through essential oils.  There seems to be a misconstrued hippy vibe to using plants instead of synthetics.  Actually, the Young Living community is a very diverse group of intelligent people who proactively replace toxins with plant based products.  

I am in deep appreciation for the journey I embarked upon in 2017. The wellness practices I’ve developed became essential to thriving the past year. 

I’d like to offer five practices that could enriched your life.  

Self aware

Self-aware is the first step in self care.  Managing my mind is the number one tool in my wellness toolbox.

I start my day with meditation and journaling, both are important practices to help me understand my feelings and get in sync with my life.

“Your thoughts and beliefs are the single most important indicator of your state of health.”  Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D.  (From her book Goddesses Never Age)

Instead of waiting for a health crisis, why not get curious about your beliefs.  

  • Do you believe you can control your health?  
  • Do you think it is your responsibility?  
  • What are you willing to embrace on a wellness journey?

Once you become aware of your set of beliefs, you can address your state of health.  Are you thoughts predominantly life giving or causing dis-ease?

Another way to view food

I saw this quote the other day, “never eat something that your great, great, great grandma wouldn’t identify as food.“ 

Early on in my journey I read Eat Dirt by Dr. Josh Axe.  Eat Dirt is primarily about leaky gut, but it made me aware of using food as medicine.  In the process I learned that I had a dairy allergy, which greatly eased an acne issue I dealt with for decades.  

Jeff and I to eat whole foods as much as possible.  Our nutrition has evolved as we tried different approaches.  My latest passion is learning about Ayurveda, an ancient Indian approach to nutrition and wellness.  It is teaching me to eat for my constitution. 

Food can either be life giving or cause disease.  You have choices!

Essential Oils 

I use my apothecary on a daily basis.  

I prefer to reach for a natural remedy if possible.  Developing my apothecary has not only taught me natural ways of dealing with issues, but also how to be proactive. 

Since becoming a brand ambassador for Young Living, I’ve ditched toxins in my home and bathroom cabinet for natural products.  It’s outrageous what we are inhaling and digesting in our daily lives. Read the labels and Google the ingredients!  

I have recently adopted a daily practice called Abhyanga, a self massage with warm oil.  Again, it goes against what we’ve been taught about soap.  I truly believe this practice is reversing the affects of age on my skin.  

You really do have alternatives that are life giving!

Nature

Wilderness is not a luxury but a necessity of the human spirit.  ~ Edward Abbey

I remember as a wild child, I was outside as much as possible. Coming in for dinner was super annoying. The 70’s was a decade for free range children like myself!

Last year I planted a victory garden and fell in love with my little plot of nutrition.  It’s nurturing to my soul to grow food along with my favorite flowers. 

My latest passion is permaculture. A lesson we could take from nature is how it supports itself, when given the opportunity. My vision is to create more plots of nutrition using permaculture principles.

After learning the Japanese practice of forest bathing, I understood my draw to nature. I prefer to be barefoot, feeling the magnetic grounding of the earth. I also love the idea of moon bathing.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to think that getting out in nature is good for health.  Sun provides much needed Vitamin D, fresh air improves immunity and connecting with the earth grounds us.  

How do you connect with nature?  

Fun 

Fun is often overlooked, almost a guilty pleasure these days.  I’ve learned to make it a priority by scheduling it first in my weekly scheduling practice.

When I was introduced to the idea of scheduling fun first, I had to give some serious thought to what I considered fun.  I honestly NEVER gave it any thought.  

Y’all know how much I love roller skating!  I also enjoy yoga as a way of stretching and developing balance.  Both are keeping me young!  I work them both in my calendar before I schedule my to-dos.  

What do you like to do for fun?  Do you make fun a priority?  

Your wellness practice

Do you have wellness practices?  Or is this the fist time you’ve been challenged to think about your contribute to your own well being?  

My passion is working with women who are asking the question, “What’s next?”  If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead. 

If you find yourself lacking in any of these practices, I can help you!  

Schedule a consultation by clicking my calendar link below. Pick a date/time that works best for you.

I’d love to help you get curious how you could choose another way, or possibly a few ways. The solutions to your midlife wellness could be embarrassingly simple. 🙂

Here’s to another way!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"