REBOOT & RECLAIM

REBOOT & RECLAIM WITH TIFFANY ECKHARDT, CERTIFIED LIFE COACH.  Tiffany helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Reboot & Reclaim Your Life!

Every fall I develop a deep desire to end the year strong.  Rebooting near the end of a year eases the stress of the holidays and sets up a new year for success.  Rebooting also feels akin to reclaiming my life by refocusing on the dreams I refuse to give up on.  

Can we all agree 2020 sucked socks?  No matter how you look at it, this year has broken all norms.  

This year’s REBOOT has taken on a deeper meaning for me, more than just an adjustment or refocus, but a reclamation. 

Reboot

Rebooting is not just for computers, by definition a reboot is starting anew with fresh ideas in a new way.  

Three years ago I joined a 90 day challenge to finish the year strong.  I created new habits that  had a lasting effect on my life.  The challenge included getting up an hour earlier, drinking half my body weight in water, committing to move everyday, eat well, and a daily gratitude journal.  

Reclaim

That year inspired me to incorporate a yearly reboot into my life.  This year I realize that I have learned valuable lessons to successfully navigate life no matter what a chaotic world throws at me. 

This year I am incorporating a three step strategy that will reframe 2020, connect with the present and intentionally create a future.  

I’d like YOU to join my journey to REBOOT & RECLAIM.  

Three steps to reboot

Reframe

Have you ever been told to pull up your big girl panties and get over it?  Is that ever helpful? 

Resisting your emotions in an attempt to “just get over it” only gives unwanted emotions more power to wreck havoc in your life.  I work with clients to process all their emotions to reframe their past.  Working through unwanted emotions empowers clients to truly live in the present and create an amazing future.   

“We are all rough drafts of the people we’re becoming.” ~ Bob Goff

Reconnect

The second step is to reconnect with life in the present by becoming aware of creative energy.

Have you ever driven home from work and wondered how the heck you got home?  Similarly, have you ever reached a certain age and wondered where did all the time go?  How is it possible that I have a daughter about to turn thirty years old? 

When you are living life on autopilot you miss the mysteries of life.   I believe we are more than our bodies, or society’s programming.  We are energy, soul, mind and spirit.  In a moment of awareness, you notice whispers of creativity longing to be acknowledged.  

Render

I believe your best years are ahead!  You have the power to create your future, to render your masterpiece.  

The key to create your future is to get in touch with your future self.  This requires imagination.  What does she look like?  How does she spend her time?  Who is she surrounding herself with?  

This is my favorite step of the Three Steps to Reboot.  Once you reframe your past (or a crazy year), connect with your present, you are free to reclaim the life you wish to create.  

Join me

If you hang out with me for too long, I’ll convince you that your best years are ahead.

I am offering a three month coaching package to help you REBOOT & RECLAIM your life.  I want to help you end 2020 strong and create your successful future no matter what a chaotic world throws at you.

As a REBOOTER, you will meet weekly with me to reframe, reconnect and render your life.  We will map out your journey to rebooting and reclaiming your life for 2021.  

BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE!

As an added bonus, In December I will choose one REBOOTER to win a two night stay at our guest house The Roost.  The winner will receive a personalized retreat to celebrate all the work accomplished during REBOOT & RECLAIM.  A $1000 value!

But there’s more… 

I will choose two REBOOTERS to receive a FREE 6 week session for 2021 ($600 value).  

Your Reboot & Reclaim Package

Click the link below to claim your Reboot & Reclaim coaching package.  By picking a date and time that works for you on my calendar, you will be purchasing the three month package.  That date and time will set you up for your weekly call and enter you in the December drawings.  

Self-aware is the first step to Self-care.  You owe it to yourself to become everything you were meant to be.  I invite you to make an investment in your mind, your health and your future.  

Here’s to a strong end of 2020 and an incredible 2021!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

REBOOT & RECLAIM WITH TIFFANY ECKAHRDT, CERTIFIED LIFE COACH.  Tiffany helps midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
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Living Vicariously

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women live vicariously through their future self

By definition, living vicariously is imagining life through other people’s experiences.  You may have lived vicariously through your children, pictures of a friend’s vacation, or someone you admire.  

When I went on picking trips for my antique store I frequently had women tell me they were living vicariously through me.  While I was honored they followed my adventures, I always hoped to inspire them to fly free on their own journeys.  

I recently lived vicariously through my friend Michele, who treated herself to a resort vacation at Miraval Resort in Austin, Texas.  I was envious of the royal treatment she received at this luxuriously tranquil retreat.  Michele cast a dream for me that I didn’t realize my soul was longing for.  

Let me cast a dream for you

What if the next fifty years were totally directed by you?  

Well, it is NOT impossible if you step away from life on autopilot and the expectations of others.  

It starts with a little imagination.  Think of your life as the ultimate Pinterest board.  What interesting things do you want to learn?  Where would you live and travel to?  Who would you surround yourself with?  Who do you want to be? 

Can you picture it yet?

Where focus goes, energy flows.  

Most people focus their energy on the past.  They make decisions and predict their future based on what has happened (or did not happen) in the past.  The energy it takes to rehearse the past is very low and familiar.  

“How much creative energy is tied up in guilt, hatred, resentment, lack or fear?  The truth is that you could be using all that energy to re-create a new destiny,”  Dr. Joe Dispenza.

I teach my clients to process their past, but become future focused.  

Your Future self will be proud

What if you lived vicariously through your future self?  

You don’t have to look enviously to others.  Create a vision for yourself in your imagination.

What will she appreciate that you dreamed up for her?

First create your ultimate Pinterest life, then consider how the experience will feel; empowered, fortunate, free, blissful, authentic, carefree, calm, easy, expansive, mindful… 

The more energy you can attach to your future self, the more intimate you become with your future.  

Is your view of reality limited?

The mind is a powerful thing.

As you fill your mind with thoughts and add energy to the ideas, you actually experience the vision as if it were in real time.  The mind simply doesn’t know the difference between reality and fantasy.   

Have you ever experienced a physical reaction to a thought?  For instance, when I think about meals I had in Italy, my mouth starts watering.

Living Vicariously through your future self.

What happens when you unlock creativity by rehearsing the future you want in your mind?  The skills you need to thrive in the future will become important to develop.  Your future self’s opinion of your current choices suddenly matter.   Unexpected opportunities present themselves in a new awareness.  

Do you need a guide?

Have you caught yourself living vicariously through someone lately?  What is stopping you from living your dream life?  

I work with midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead.  Learning to live with your future self in mind is a big part of creating that life you’ve always wanted.  

I’d love to help you activate your imagination and manage your mind to direct your next fifty years!  

Still unsure if life coaching is for you?  I offer a FREE mini session to chat about how I specifically can help you.  Click the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar that works for you.  

Here’s to living the best years!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Is your life on autopilot?

Is your life on Autopilot?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
Sitting on the porch aware of life buzzing around me!

“Life is now in session.  Are you present?”  ~ John C. Maxwell.

Is your life on autopilot?

Have you ever driven home from work and wondered how the heck you got home?  Similarly, have you ever reached a certain age and wondered where did all the time go?  

These thoughts can leave you feeling absent minded.  

A buzzing world on autopilot  

I am learning to be present, a very popular topic these days.

This morning I sat on the front porch during my daily journaling practice.  As I sat there processing thoughts, I became aware of my tendency to rehearse issues that I am struggling with and anticipate the day ahead, hardly living in the present.  

I stopped for a moment and wondered what it meant to live in the present moment.  

In that moment I became aware of all the sounds around me that I had not noticed before.  I heard traffic in the distance, a train had just moved through town, crickets were chirping, birds were singing and the wind blew gently across the porch with the wet smell of an early morning rain.  Why had I not noticed any of the life that was buzzing around me?  

Internal buzz on autopilot

I then became aware of my internal world.  I remembered that the systems of my body were humming along without conscious direction from me.  Thank God I don’t have to direct my heart to beat, or my immune system, endocrine system, digestive system, etc.  

I believe we are more than our bodies, or society’s programming.  We are energy, soul, mind and spirit.  In that moment I also noticed whispers of creativity longing to be acknowledged.  Could there be life buzzing internally that I hadn’t taken the time to listen to?

Slow down & turn off autopilot

The best ideas come when you slow down and listen.  You can literally take creative control of your life in that moment.  

“How much creative energy is tied up in guilt, hatred, resentment, lack or fear?  The truth is that you could be using all that energy to re-create a new destiny.”  ~ Dr. Joe Dispenza

As your mind is preoccupied in a predictable story, your inner world whispers secrets that one must slow down to hear.  Turn off the autopilot and create the life you long for. 

Self-aware is the first step in self-care   

Time passes and suddenly you become aware of age.  Do you wonder how midlife happen?  You no longer have to go through life absent minded.

There is a way to become more aware of life buzzing around you and intentionally create a life.   

As your midlife coach, I can help you establish what you really want and develop a strategy to get you there.  Self-aware is the first step in self-care.    

Life is now is session!  Let’s get busy creating!  

Schedule a FREE mini session to see if midlife coaching is for you!  It is a 45 minute conversation with someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  Simply click the link below and pick a date and time that works for you.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Do you have a zesty future?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Do you have a zesty future?

I always love to have something zesty to look forward to.

This is a big year for me!  I became a certified life coach, opened our first guest house and turned 50 years young.  I’m actually very excited about my big milestone year.  I truly believe this will be the best decade of my life. So many zesty things ahead!

Does your dreams and success have a deadline?

Honestly, it did bother me a little that it took 50 years to hit my stride.  I found myself thinking, “I should be successful by now.”  The word “should” is a red flag!  Should we be anything?  

I changed my thought to, “this is my season!” 

Say these two thoughts to yourself.

“I should be successful by now”

“This is my season!”

When spoken, does each thought feel completely different?

The thought, “This is my season” creates a different energy and compels me to explore what I’m truly capable of. 

AND SERIOUSLY…. Does success have a deadline?  

It’s time to be zesty!

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

There are so many examples of women who launched successful businesses later in life.  Martha Stewart, Julia Childs, Vera Wang, Estée Lauder, etc.  Even if you aren’t interested in starting a business in this season, these women are reminders that it is never too late to create the life of your dreams.  

A seasoned woman is definitely not a rookie.  She has experienced life and knows how to turn obstacles into possibilities.  She has learned to be ok with her authentic self and has the confidence to BE zesty in every season of life!

What are YOU going to do?

The Pulitzer Prize winning poet, Mary Oliver once posed the question,

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?” 

This decade of my life will be zesty!  I have learned the art of failing forward and am ready to create the life of my dreams through intentional thought management.  I will be gritty, seasoned with both passion and perseverance.  

I’d love to help YOU create a zesty life.  Schedule a FREE mini session with me, someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.

Here’s to living a ZESTY LIFE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Are you a Midlife Multipotentialite?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their. best years are ahead.  Are you a midlife mulitpotentialite?

Are you a midlife woman who hasn’t figured out who she wants to be when she grows up?  Sure, you fit well into a mold for most of your adult life, but now your set free from traditional responsibilities and your creativity is going in a million directions.  If you resonate with this, you might be a midlife multipotentialite.  

You’re a woman with multiple passions to pursue.  This is not a problem.  What if your curiosity and creative genius is exactly what the world needs today?  

The Roost 

Opening our guest house, The Roost At Flown The Coop, was a dream come true.  I employ my passion for creating unique spaces, gardening and my gift of hospitality to encourage guests to slow down and relax for a well needed retreat from life.  I developed these multifaceted talents over the course of my lifetime.  

Our very first guest was an interesting gentleman who was curios about our story.  As I shared our vision with him, he offered that I might be a multipotentialite.  I had never heard the term before, but it peaked my interest. 

So what is a mulitpotentialite?

Our guest recommended watching Emilie Wapnick’s TEDx to get a better understanding of the term she coined.  After the twelve minute clip, I knew that my guest’s assessment was right on the money.  

According to Wapnick, a multipotenialite is someone with many interests and creative pursuits.  Check out her TEDX!  

Does this concept explain your inner wiring?  

“It’s rarely a waist of time to pursue something you are drawn to, even if you end up quitting.  You might apply that knowledge to a different field entirely in a way you couldn’t have anticipated,”  Emilie Wapnick.  

Mulitpotentialite Gene

I get the mulitpotentialite gene honestly.  

It was fun to text my Dad the TEDx talk and thank him for the MP gene.  He texted me after watching the talk that he couldn’t deny it.  Here are some of his life pursuits:  athlete, musician, husband, father, chef, hearing aid salesman (didn’t know this one), business owner, firefighter, woodworker, emergency room paramedic and suture tech, radio operator, gardener, etc.  He continues to work on multiple pursuits, it’s the way he’s wired.    

Some tips for the mulitpotentialite

1. There is no rush

We spend most of our lives hustling.  The midlife season is a chance to slow down and give your ideas a chance to blossom without the hustle.  

2. Embrace your many passions.

There isn’t something wrong with multiple passions.  This is the perfect time in life to explore things you never had time for!  

3. Look for interesting intersections

Some of your passions could intertwine.  Lessons learned from one pursuit could be helpful in another.  The intersection of passions can create powerful innovations.  

The Midlife Mulitpotentialite

If you are learning of this concept for the first time, like I did, you might feel relieved that you are not alone in the world.  There is nothing wrong with you, you just have multiple capacities.  Join the club!

It is my mission to help midlife women to believe their best years are ahead.  I can help you navigating through your multifaceted talents, gifts, ideas and curiosities.  

Schedule a FREE mini session if this resonates with you.  It is a 45 minute zoom call.  I can help you work through one idea or develop a plan to work through multiple ideas.  Simply click the link below and pick a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


4 Things You Need To Know About Rejection

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping  midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  How do you deal with rejection?

Dealing with rejection can sting!  No matter your season in life; you will deal with the preverbal high school lunch room.  Let me share 4 things you need to know about rejection to finally kick it to the curb.

1. They don’t like peaches

“You can be the juiciest peach in the world, but there’s always going to be someone who doesn’t link peaches.”  Dita Von Teese

Jeff doesn’t like peaches.  He doesn’t like watermelon either.  I know, WHAT?  No matter how much I try to convince him of their juicy goodness, he insists he hates them. 

So, if you can’t control people’s choice of fruit or their opinion of you, why do you keep trying?

2. You believe you can control another person’s opinion  

What other people think about you is none of your business.  

You could spend your time trying to control what people believe about you, but let me offer you a little secret.  They really aren’t thinking about you.  Their opinion of you says more about their opinion of themselves.

It’s true.  Other people are busy trying to control what other people think of them, so they can feel better about themselves.  It never works.  

Don’t you wish you could have learned this truth during your high school lunchroom days?  

3. You don’t accept yourself  

I know what you are thinking.  How do I recognize rejection and not take it personally? 

A better question to ask yourself is why don’t you feel accepted? 

Trust me, I know what it feels like to want the approval of others, only to feel rejected.  I am a rebel.  I was born to buck the system.  I’ve taken several personality tests.  I am a RED/BLUE or an A/B depending on the chart.  I scored an 8/7 on the Enneagram test, the challenger.  Not many people know how to take a strong personality.  It took me nearly fifty years to finally love that I am fiery, with deep convictions.  That is who I am.  I feel accepted now, because I decided to accept myself.  Yeah, I may not be a cup of tea because I prefer being a shot of tequila.

When you rely on other people to make you feel accepted, they will always fail.  It isn’t possible for someone to create a feeling within you. 

Your thoughts about yourself is what create feelings of acceptance within.    

4. The things we appreciate will appreciate 

What if you developed your own opinion of yourself and recognize your full worth.   

Homework:  Make a list of twenty five things you appreciate about yourself.  Create this list in less than five minutes.  Don’t give yourself a chance to analyze the list as you go.  Step back and appreciate all that you have going for you!  

*Remember:  Self-Appreciation is not arrogance.  Arrogance is believing you are better than another person.  When you show up with self-appreciation you are offering all your gifts and talents.

Take creative control

Most women who reach midlife are sick of the drama of fitting into a mold.  The proverbial high school lunchroom has shown up more times than you care to admit.  Fitting into perceived molds is frankly exhausting.  

Midlife women conversely know that they are capable of hard things.  You can recall all the times you survived life’s trails.  So, why not ask yourself, “what do I want to create?”

Will you let the fear of rejection get in your way?

If you’re still resistant about the opinions of others, you know you have work to do.

I’d love to help you take creative control of your life.  It is my mission to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead of them.  

Schedule a FREE mini session with me.  It is a 45 minute chat to discover what is holding you back.  You may or many not be dealing with rejection, but I guarantee you it is a sneaky little thought or well rehearsed story that objects to your dreams.  

Simply click the link below and pick a date on my calendar that works for you.  

Let’s take the sting out of rejection!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Be unrealistic about age and get what you want

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead.  Be unrealistic and get what you want.
“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.” C.S. Lewis

Now that you’ve entered the season labeled midlife, do you fear it’s unrealistic to create something new at your age?  

Many clients of mine share a fear that age limits their ability to create something new.  I believe the opposite.  Your best years are ahead.  Finding yourself at the end of one season is an exciting opportunity to make decisions about life in the next season.   

Of course you are capable of learning new things and creating your life as you would like it to be.  

According to Marie Forleo, “Everything is figure-outable.”  

What if being unrealistic IS the answer to creating something new?  

What is the first thing your mind offers when you decide to create something new?  All the reasons it can’t work, all the reasons it isn’t a good idea and all the reasons it isn’t reasonable.  Yep, your mind is very clever in keeping you safe and secure. 

When you spend your time considering all that your brain offers, you fail ahead of time.  You stop yourself before you even get started.

So, trick you brain.  Agree with it.  Don’t give it anything to argue with.  

Agree with your brain that your new idea might not work, there will be obstacles and it could be completely unrealistic.  Decide to appreciate all the lessons and proceed anyways.    

Remind your brain the only way to create anything new is through trail and error.  

The fail factor

Should we fail on purpose?  Of course not!   

Brooke Castillo teaches in her eight week Business Course there are two different types of failures, escape failures and worthy failures.  

Escape failures 

Are you curios about why you don’t keep your word or follow through with your decisions?  Escape failures are a form of avoiding what is needed to realize your new creation and choosing to fail ahead of time.  

Examples:

  • Making excuses for not following through with a commitment
  • Indulging in confusion about the next step
  • Changing your mind
  • Not planning ahead of time, protecting your calendar
  • Any form of perfection is an escape failure
  • Waiting until your ready or have learned every aspect  

Worthy failures

Worthy failures are not caused by inaction, but by taking a step forward.

“We were never taught to fail.  We are taught that F’s are bad growing up.  This programming has contributed to steering away from starting things and changing,”  Brooke Castillo.  

For example, this past week I conducted my first FREE workshop on Self Appreciation.  I spent hours deciding what to teach, gathering information, putting it into an understandable form, etc.  I enthusiastically marketed the workshop, but only had a couple people show up to the live event.  Was that a failure?  NO!  No, it was not a failure.  I learned better ways to approach the next workshop and will continue to market the replay, which will reach untold amount of women.  

You can check our my Self Appreciation Workshop by clicking here: SELF APPRECIATION WORKSHOP

Never tried.

Ever failed.

No matter.

Try again.

Fail again.

Fail better.

Samuel Beckett

Get crystal clear

There will never be an age limit to creating something meaningful, but take time to get crystal clear about what you wish to create.  

  • Define: What does it feel like once you create it?  Who will benefit from your creation?  
  • Objections: What makes it unrealistic?  Go ahead and let your mind offer you the objections.  
  • Solutions:  Then answer the objections with, “That objection is true, but…”  What skills will you need to create it?  

Basically, allow your mind to define what you want to create, the obstacles in your way, and strategies to solve them ahead of time.  

BE unrealistic, a challenge

Let’s be honest, being a little unrealistic sounds like a fun challenge.   

I’d like to challenge you to a worthy fail.  Well, not just one.  I’d like to challenge you to write out 25 worthy failures you are willing to take action on.  First brainstorm all the ways you could take action that will likely fail.  From the brainstorm, pick 25 that you will commit to and then put the 25 worthy fails on your calendar.    

Taking this challenge will inspire you to take the first step.  By simply taking action, you will learn everything is figure-outable!  

Let me help you!

I love working with midlife women who are ready to believe their best years are ahead.  It is not a time to avoid the hard things, it is a time to embrace them with the self confidence earned at this age.

This past week I had the privilege to coach a beautiful spunky woman in her sixties who was was considering a new idea.  We worked through her thoughts, feelings and actions around the idea.  Afterwards I asked her what she thought she would be creating as a result.  She lit up and said, “a new career!”  

Sometimes you just need to be able to work through all the thoughts, feelings and obstacles to believe in the possibility.    

If you are ready to break some of your own limitations, let me help you!  Schedule a FREE mini session.  It’s a 45 minute chat with someone who truly believes in your possibilities.  It is also a great way to see if life coaching is for you.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

I am

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
My nickname is Fancy for a reason. 🙂

Fill in the blank to the statement: I am….

Do you believe other humans are better than you, but you want to believe you are 100% worthy?  Who decides your worth anyways? 

I shared on a recent Facebook Live my epiphany of my own worth after ruminating about a disagreement I had with someone I had respected.  My convictions were mocked. I completely understand not everyone needs to agree with me, but the conversation took a mean tone implying that I was less than.  

My coach helped me to clearly see the thoughts causing me to feel unworthy.  I had wonder if what this person was implying about me was true.  

Am I less than?  

Am I more than?

No, I am.

I am enough.  

Words do not define you

You do you.  Here’s the god’s truth, only you define you.  Unfortunately, you may have let words spoken by well meaning people define you.  

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

My mentor, Brooke Castillo, coached a lawyer who let the words of a well meaning colleague determine the law she chose to practice.  Someone told this beautiful, well educated woman who immigrated to the United States as a young adult that she should not choose litigation because of her accent.  From that moment this woman believed that her accent was a determent to her success.  She resisted hearing that Brooke adored her accent.  I loved her accent too!  Who will she choose to believe now?  Why is it easier to continue the old story in her head than to embrace a new belief about her accent?

No matter what parents told you.  No matter what the kids at school told you.  Your boss, your spouse, your teacher or anyone you respect does not have the right to define you.  

Thoughts you have about yourself define you.  

I am enough

“Feelings are a shadow of your thoughts.”  jewel

Do you wondered how you would define your worth if you were skinnier, prettier or richer?  

The biggest lie you can choose to believe is that you have to change yourself to fit a mold to qualify.  What if you already qualified?  Your feelings help you reverse engineer your thoughts about yourself.  

How do you want to feel?  Changing your weight will not achieve that feeling.  Changing your thoughts will.  If your thoughts are like food, what are you feeding your body?  Junk food or whole nourishing food?

Give yourself permission

“Your worthiness is already at capacity, and nothing you have done or will do makes you less worthy as a human,”  Brooke Castillo.

You are 100% worthy.  You deserve the life you dream of.  

When you believe you are already worthy, you give yourself permission to live in abundance, confidence and self-love.  Your energy for life increases.  What you project to others changes. 

What have you waited your whole life to give yourself permission to do?  

I am

I know what you are thinking.  How do I change my thoughts?  How do I believe these radical thoughts about myself?   

You can tell me all the things as if you are reading the news.  I am unlucky, unpopular, have made mistakes, was not born into the right family.  I am too old.  You don’t know what I’ve been through.

These are the common thoughts that I help my clients work through.  I help you see yourself as who you want to be.  Who you are.  I help you create the life you want by developing thoughts that will energize you with confidence.

If you are ready to give yourself permission to to do what you’ve waited your whole life to do, let me help you.  Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  We can chat about what has always held you back and look at what will help you believe you are worth it.  

You are worth it.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky! 

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Rejecting Ageism

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Today she chats about rejecting ageism.

Have you heard the term ageism?  You may not have experienced anything akin to discrimination, but you might have used it against yourself by buying into stereotypes.  Have you ever limited yourself because of your age?  It is a sneaky thing we do to ourselves when celebrate certain birthdays.  

“You are not a mistake.  You are not a problem to be solved.  But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming, caging, and fearing yourself,”  Geneen Roth.  

Don’t bang your head against your age either. 

I prefer ageless to ageism

“To be ageless is to defy the rules of what it supposedly means to be this age or that,”  Dr. Christiane Northrup.  

After reading Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age I was inspired to forge my own path and make my own rules for the next few decades.  Lucky for me I have wonderful role models.  My parents are both health conscious and lead interesting lives.  My Mom loves to say, “You rest, you rust.”  Adopting an ageless attitude will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.   

How to reject ageism for agelessness

1. Find examples

You will find countless examples of midlife success by doing a simple Google search.  I’ve studied well known people like Martha Stewart and Julia child.  But, I love the stories of women who blazed their own trail without the fanfare of fame.

The documentary Fabulous Fashionistas highlights six spunky 80’ish women who refuse to stop living.  These women wear Doc Martens and mini-skirts, and “don’t give a toss” about what people think of them.  Jean Woods, 75 years young, runs several times a week on her new knee and got a job as the oldest employee of GAP.  In their pursuit of life they all stay fit, aren’t afraid of hard work and have a steely determination.  Their indomitable spirits are inspiring.  

Betty White at age 95 remarked, “Don’t try to be young.  Just open your mind.  Stay interested in stuff.  There are so many things I won’t live long enough to find out about.  But I’m still curious about them.”  She is definitely an inspiration.  

2. Be aware

Who determines when your value diminishes?  Do you feel invisible (a common complaint of age conscious people)?  Do you have a shelf life?  

Well, society and stereotypes will attempt to turn you to anti-aging agents, creams or surgeries to make you feel younger.  Because you are “worth it.”  I believe this propaganda is robbing you of who you really are, of your sense of self, wisdom, sense of usefulness.  

Only you can determine your worth.  You can allow the messages that younger is better, or you can reject the message as an outright lie.  Once you become aware of what you truly believe about midlife, you can address these thoughts.  

So, what sneaky thoughts have you noticed depleting your midlife mojo?  Are you aware?

3. Breakthrough

“Our obsession with image is tiring, it’s never ending.  Where as if our emphasis turns inward more, what really our life is about, what turns us on, what makes us feel electric, then that starts to glow outside.”  Scilla Elworthy

At this point in life you can either think there is no time or energy for your dreams, or you no longer want to put your dreams on hold.  One thought is energy depleting and the other creates energy.

A breakthrough demands a radical departure from some of your habitual thoughts.  How would you show up to midlife if you could believe anything is possible?  You are worth exploring this question.  You just as you are.    

Your best years are ahead

I truly believe your best years are ahead.  This is the belief I’m building my coaching practice upon.  I am passionate about sharing tools that will help you realize your best life, at any age.

If you can believe, life is ready to to give you a breakthrough.  This belief is energy creating.  

I’d love to help you create YOUR vision for midlife.  So, I’ve made it easy for you to get started.  I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.  Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Perfectly Imperfect

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Do you have a desire to create something new in your life, yet fear the discomfort of change?  I’d like to offer the unconventional wisdom and beauty of perfectly imperfect.  

Japanese culture has a word for the idea of perfectly imperfect.  Wabi-sabi (侘寂) is a world view centered on the acceptance of transience and imperfection. The aesthetic is sometimes described as one of beauty that is “imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete”.

Anyone who knows me can verify that I qualify for wabi-sabi.  I love mismatched and well loved furniture that tell a story.  I rarely wait until things line up perfectly before I launch a project.  Going against the grain of society is usually messy.    

No test, No testimony

When was the last time you allowed something to be imperfect?  Can you remember a time when you really didn’t have a choice?   

I was recently asked to give a ten minute talk on failure for my entrepreneur class at the Life Coach School.  I prepared my talk with numerous testimonies and awaited the zoom call with enthusiasm.  The day finally arrived.  Out of four panelists, I was asked to present second.  The first speaker brought up the term wabi-sabi.  I thought that concept went well with what I had planned.  It was finally my turn, but all I was able to share was a thought about being perfectly imperfect before my internet failed me.  I failed at a talk on failure.  Perfectly imperfect.  The moderator moved onto the next speaker, promising to come back to me.  After a brief freak out, I managed my presentation on my Iphone and presented last. 

I restarted my talk with a Les Brown quote, “No test, no testimony.”  

Later I received the sweetest message from the moderator.  

“Hey Tiffany, way to roll with the tech and share such great insights! I loved the way you weaved in your own story throughout and made it so raw, real, and genuine. Way to be an example, and I’m so glad we got to learn from you!”

“When you are going through hell, don’t stop.” Les Brown

Are you uncomfortable with imperfection? 

“It is normal and important to allow yourselves to be uncomfortable,”  Brooke Castillo.

Discomfort is the currency of your success.  It develops grit.  Experts agree that if you don’t experience a little discomfort on your way to goals, you are doing it wrong.  Stepping outside of you comfort zone is where real growth can occur.  

Two types of discomfort

When you embark on anything new, your brain will offer you all kinds of resistance.  You will immediately think of all the reasons not to move forward; excuses, confusion, not being perfect, etc. 

Understanding the two different types of discomfort will help you navigate confusion and choose discomfort that serves you.  

1. The discomfort of NOT growing into your potential.  

This kind of discomfort is caused by thoughts that keep you stuck such as, “I’m not good enough” or “this is hard” or “this is not the right time.”  These are thoughts that will not allow you to move forward out of fear of being imperfect.

2. The discomfort required to change.  

This is short term discomfort with long term gains and will move you closer towards your goals.  This is the kind of action that gives you butterflies in your stomach, like public speaking or trying something new.  

Embracing imperfection

I have learned the secret of being perfectly imperfect.  This concept has allowed me to flow towards the discomfort required to change and develop grit.   

Growth that leads to success is not always the easy road to follow, but the rewards are worth it.  You are worth it.  

If you’d like to embrace the secret of being perfectly imperfect, I’d like to offer my help!  I love chatting with midlife women who want to believe the best years are ahead.  Schedule a FREE mini session by clicking on my link below and picking a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach