Rise Above Your Midlife BS

Where is the guide to midlife?
Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Have you found a guide for midlife?  Me neither. Although, I hear a lot of midlife BS. I’m just not ready to accept that midlife means I’m put out to pasture.

The problem my clients encounter is their inability to rise above their midlife bullshit.  Most women don’t even know they are sabotaging themselves.

Up until midlife, your pathway forward is usually laid out for you in a predictable way.  You graduate high school, then off to college or a trade school.  Maybe you went straight into the school of hard knocks, got married and started a family.  What ever path you chose, or was chosen for you, midlife finally offers a the freedom to explore options for the second half of life.  

Do any of the following BS thoughts sound familiar?

I’m too old to reach my ideal weight.

It is too late to find my dream partner.

Why should I start a business at my age?

There is no way I could travel alone.

An empty nest is lonely.

Life will be boring after retirement.

Who is this guy I’ve been married to for thirty years?

It’s inevitable that my health will decline.

I hope I can keep up with my grandkids. 

Which thoughts stand out to you?  Don’t beat yourself up over any of them.  It takes a lifetime to develop ways to sabotage yourself.    

I’m here to help you.  

After becoming aware of some of my own BS, I have created a workbook with thought provoking activities that will challenge your misconceptions about midlife and encourage you to try new things.

Finally, your pathway for a midlife pivot in less than an hour: a guilt free guide to rise above your own bullshit, even if you have a lifetime of BS to rise above.  

The best part is it is FREE!

Click the link below to get started!  

Here’s to the midlife adventure!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Why can’t you just get over it?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention.  Certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
Me… pulling up my big girl panties.

Why can’t you just get over it, if I can’t? The idea that a life coach has it all together and never experiences negative feelings is one of the biggest misconception I have encountered as a life coach.  As much as I would like to avoid unwanted emotions, I must confess that I experience ALL the good/bad and the ugly feelings available to the human race!  

Living in the Texas Tundra this past week has pushed all my buttons, and it got ugly!

During a coaching session with my coach {yes… coaches get coached!}, I bemoaned my dire situation living without water and experiencing rolling blackouts in frigid conditions.  I was heartbroken over canceling a trip to see my grandkids in Michigan.  I hadn’t taken a shower in four days!  

My coach patiently listened and then asked me what do you need right now?  I didn’t know.  I was just so angry!  She reminded me that I might need to stop resisting the anger and sit with awhile.  

It seems contrary to allow a “bad” emotion.  Aren’t we taught to pull up our big girl panties, stuff our emotions and quickly replace unwanted feelings with positivity?  

You might think there is something wrong with you and want to hide the ugly. The problem is the more you resist an emotion, the more power you give it.  

I should just get over it.

I should be able to get over it and pull up those damn big girl panties.

Friends, please don’t “should” yourself.  Feelings are apart of the human experience. 

It is actually not helpful to resist, justify or avoid the negative feelings.  Beating yourself up compounds the negativity.  You are not a bad person for experiencing a “bad” emotion.  

What you need in a funk is compassion.  Don’t be upset about being upset.  Simply think to yourself, Of course I feel….  

One of my clients was experiencing grief from the loss of her father, and anger over all the details left for her to sort through.  She had an a-ha moment when I gave her permission to grieve, and offered that of course she was angry.  Her grief may not totally go away, but she became aware of how it showed up for her, and sometimes it was with anger.  

In my situation, of course I was angry.  Busted pipes, no heat, and the isolation of being stuck inside is frustrating.  The more I tried to talk myself out of being mad, the more I actually perpetuated the anger.  

Sit with it.  

Allowing your feelings to exist takes practice, but once you get good at it you’ll be less likely to drink a bottle of Merlot to avoid the feeling.  

Caution:  I’m not talking about indulging an emotion.  Some women believe that worry is not only necessary but a badge of honor.  I’m suggesting for you to become the witness of your feelings.

A feeling is basically a vibration in your body caused by a thought.  You can become the observer of the feeling and not the reactor. 

Get curious about it.  Can you describe the feeling and where it is showing up in your body?  Does it feel like a rapid heart beat?  Is it a gut feeling?  How is your body responding to this feeling?

Instead of pushing it away, breath with it.  

What do you notice?  Can you begin to acknowledge that the feeling is harmless, simply a vibration that will eventually pass?  

Let it go.

When you identify the feeling and allowed it, you take the power away from it.  

This is a game changer.  You are no longer under the control of the unwanted emotions, but are in control of them.  

It is likely that once the feeling looses it’s power, it melts away and you will feel lighter.  

If it persists, ask yourself how do I want to feel?  

I had a thought that turned my mood around, When you argue for your misery you get to keep it.  Why was I arguing for my misery???

When my coach asked me, “What do you need?”  I needed to feel safe, cared for, assured that it was all going to work out.  Staying mad at my situation was not going to produce the feelings of peace I longed for.  I was able to look for the bright side after sitting with the anger and a proper cry. 

Giving you permission

I am the first to admit that I can be a pill.  I have irrational thoughts, stubborn beliefs and outbursts that I wish to avoid.  Becoming a life coach does not make me immune. 

Thankfully, I have learned how to accept crazy and unwanted feelings with compassion, knowing I have the tools to process them in a healthy way.    

I also acknowledge that some emotions are not an easy fix.  If you are be dealing with abuse or addiction, I highly recommend getting the help of a therapist.  

My intention is to give you permission to be human.  Feel all the feels that life has to offer.  Embrace the idea that occasionally you will feel uncomfortable and unwanted emotions.  

How could you possibly experience bliss if you didn’t also know that awful exists?  

I love helping women embrace life using the tools that I’ve learned.  If you need help working through this messy life, I’d love to chat!  Schedule a FREE session!  It is a one time Zoom call to see if hiring a life coach is a good fit for you.  Simply click the link below and pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to being human and throwing away the damn big girl panties!

~Tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Question: Has beating yourself up ever motivated you to change?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and certified life coach helping midlife women to believe their best years are ahead.
Pretty scary… LOL!

I wonder if beating yourself up ever motivated you to change. Let me explain…

As I headed to my morning Restorative Yoga class last week, I began beating myself up for ditching my fitness and eating protocol.  GEESH, why did I ditched my routine back August, 2020???  I could blame it on the emotional roller coaster of current events, or on family vacation, or on the holidays, but I knew deep down that I couldn’t blame my lack of fitness on any circumstance.  

As I drove myself to yoga the mental beat down continued.  Why had I let myself go?  I had lost interest and the energy to be dedicated to a work out routine. I was aware that beating myself up was not an effective way to get back on track, but couldn’t get a grip on the condemning thoughts that had taken up residency in my mind.  

Restorative yoga was the perfect place for me to take refuge.  I was forced to quiet my mind and enjoy taking care of my body.  As I nestled into the practice a paradigm shift happened.  I thought to myself why not try loving yourself into shape?  

Wait what?  Love myself into shape?  YES, of course.  The reason I want to be in the best shape of my life is so that I can enjoy longevity and an active life.  I reminded myself to take a deep breath.  It is possible to get back into shape.  You aren’t a lost cause.  In fact, last year you whipped your body into shape and enjoyed the process!  

My mantra came to mind:  I love choosing her 2021!  I’ll choose the woman that is both compassionate and completely capable of getting in shape. 

So, where did I begin loving myself into shape?

Create tiny habits

In the book Tiny Habits The Small Changes That Change Everything,  BJ Fogg explains a concept that has revolutionized my approach to creating feel good habits.  He suggests that our bad habits are not character flaws, but behavior designs that can be addressed in tiny steps.  In other words, we are not the problem our approach to change is.

Oh good, you can finally stop beating yourself up!

In his research, Fogg discovered three things that will create lasting change; epiphany, change environment, and change habits in tiny ways.   He goes on to explain tiny is fast, can start now, is safe, can grow big, and most importantly does not rely on motivation or will power.  

I created a tiny habit that is getting me back into planking form.  I make coffee using the pour over method.  It creates a great cup of java, but takes a little bit of time with each cup.  I’m usually barely functional when I make my first cup of coffee, but have a pep in my step by the second cup.  So, while I wait for my second pour over to brew, I set the microwave alarm for one minute and plank in my kitchen.   I then pat myself on the back and think, just a little habit that I can build upon.  Yep, it definitely feels like loving myself back into shape.  

Identify obstacle thoughts in advance

It is human nature to sabotage your best made plans.  We know what we “should” do.  But friends, please don’t “SHOULD” yourself.  Simply identify how you will likely sabotage yourself in advance.

You know yourself better than anyone else.  If you are honest there are times when you don’t feel like doing the thing that gets you closer to your goal.  You can use the Tiny Habit method to create habits, but there will be times when your mind will get highjacked.  

Identifying obstacle thoughts gives you an opportunity to create a strategy.  

For example:  At the get go, I am always enthusiastic about an exercise plan.  However, there are mornings that I would rather avoid the discomfort of working out.  My tendency is to think of a million other things that need to be done and skip the workout.  I KNOW these thoughts do not produce the result I am hoping for.  

To combat the obstacle thoughts, I have chosen two replacement thoughts:  

  1. I don’t negotiate with myself.  
  2. I love to choose her.  

Bonus thought:  I am a girl who loves exercise.  I truly believed this thought prior to August 2020.  I know I can work towards this thought again, because I love the girl who loves exercise. 🧘🏼‍♀️🚴‍♂️🚣‍♀️ 

The struggle is real

No need to beat yourself up.  You are not alone in resistance to change.  The struggle is real for everyone with a desire to create something new.  

Seriously, as I just passed the mirror I was tempted to make a mental note on how my sweater made me look huge.  Luckily, I stopped in mid sentence to think instead Tiff you are working on it.  It won’t take long before your in bathing suit condition!  

There are definitely steps you can take.  Tiny habits and identifying obstacle thoughts in advance are great places to start.  Hiring a life coach will also help you rise above your BS to create change in your life.   

If this is resonating with you, schedule a FREE session.  This is a risk free opportunity to answer your questions about life coaching.

Simply click the calendar link below and pick a date/time that works for you.  

If I leave you with anything, I hope you will stop beating yourself up!  You have the power to create your life and are absolutely capable of change, but do it from a place of genuine love.  

So, here’s to loving ourselves into shape!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

The Gift That Keeps On Giving

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women get past their midlife BS to create an amazing 2nd half.
CIRCA 2008 – biker babe season

The gift that keeps on giving.  No, I’m not talking about a STD, but a life season that first appears as a quandary, but is actually a gift.

Let me explain…

When you think of midlife do you first think of crisis?  These days a midlife crisis is not reserved for men in their 40’s and 50’s, but women are also throwing all caution to the wind for what makes them feel young and carefree.  Not to be outdone, the millennials are now claiming a quarter life crisis for different reasons.  GEESH.  

So, what is this really all about?  According to John Mayer, it might just be a stirring of the soul.    The quandary seems to be, am I living it right?

Ditching responsibility for fun seems to be the answer to the stirring of the soul at midlife, at least for those souls who misunderstand the gift.   

Biker Babe

Ditching responsibility certainly felt right while on the back of Jeff’s Harley Davidson riding through the Blue Ridge Mountains with the wind blowing through my hair.  

Ok I’ll admit, I had my own melt down in my early 40’s.  Jeff and I were dealing with the housing crash of 2008.  Real estate investing was yet another business I tried and failed at.  It was a very stressful time for both of us.

Thankfully, we were able to ride out the stress together, on the back of Jeff’s Harley.  I loved escaping life on his Harley!  I felt like a badass biker babe in all my leather gear.  

Harley Davidson has some of the best commercials.  And just like this commercial, Jeff and I were going where the wind took us, believing in going our own way.  It was a time to buck the system that was built to smash individuals like bugs on a windshield.  And God knows I wanted to stick it to the MAN!  OH, FREEDOM!  {Jeff might come home to a new Harley… forgot how much I loved it}

The problem was that when we returned home from trips to the Blue Ridge Mountains, we still had major problems to solve.  

The Gift

This biker babe believes that midlife is what you make it, and it can be one hell of a ride!  It is THE gift that keeps on giving if you choose to believe your best years are ahead.  

If life expectancy is around 100, you may have approximately 50 years of life ahead, with the invaluable advantage of life experience behind you.  Think about it.   

What are the gifts of midlife?

1. Financial Freedom

Generally speaking, midlife is a season with more disposable income than ever before.  

I can remember balancing the checkbook after Jeff got paid as a young airmen in the Air Force.  We often had $15 to our name for the next two weeks, of which we’d go get pizza.  Thank God, thirty years later we don’t have the pressure of lack.  Jeff and I make more money than we could have imagined in our twenties.  

On top of earning more than we once thought was possible; Jeff and I have learned from our epic financial failures.  Don’t get me wrong, I am still uncovering faulty money beliefs, but I have the time and resources to work through them!

The gift of midlife is that you can afford to relax the fear of lack, using your well earned financial maturity to fully live.  So, there is money to travel or invest in hobbies, or take off on a Harley!

2. Time Freedom

Even though the house is eerily quiet, you’ll notice this season offers autonomy. 

The kids have flown the coop {or you did – see my story}.  You are retired, or close to it. Although, I found that I am getting up earlier than I did when I was forced to follow a schedule, there really is no need for an alarm clock.  

Once you get past the shock of an empty nest, you start to fill your time with things you’ve always wanted to do.  There is now freedom to develop your own circadian rhythm and to explore what sets your heart free.  

God forbid the kiddos move back home, then move out, then move back home, and finally move out again.  You LOVE them, but you start to thoroughly enjoy freedom of time!

3. Failure Freedom {aka wisdom}

We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. ~Marcel Proust

Hopefully, you have figured out by midlife that a failure is just a stepping stone, a lesson learned.  You aren’t a failure because you have a set back.  It is an event.  

Ok, I know you don’t get a mystic pass from failures at midlife.  It is naive to think you can avoid them, but failure do not paralyze you any longer. 

In addition to midlife wisdom, the opinions of others simply don’t factor into our choices as much as they once did.  What other people think of your decisions is none of your business.  In fact, some of us badass midlife women relish in giving “them” something to talk about!  {ok… maybe that’s just me}

You get it, but can’t quite embrace it    

You may want an interesting life, just without the midlife crisis.  Me too!  Although, I am scheming ways to get Jeff a new Harley, so we can escape into the sunset.  🤔

Viewing midlife as a gift might make sense, but are you still unsure that you can embrace it?  Is there still a sneaky feeling that you missed the window of opportunity, as if dreams are reserved for the youth? 

This is where I can help!  As a master of reinvention, I can help you get past your own bullshit to believe it is possible to create your life.  If you hang out with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!  

I offer a FREE session to those of you who have a stirring in your soul.  I’d love to chat with you about where you are currently and where you’d like your life to be.  I can help you rise about your own BS to start creating!

As always, I am dedicated to those who can’t be caged.  Here’s to midlife freedom, the gift that keeps on giving!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Can you teach an old dog new tricks?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Her husband Jeff, teaching an old dog new tricks.

Can you teach an old dog new tricks? In fact, the inter-webs says yes…. “adult dogs are often easier to train than their younger canine friends specifically because they aren’t as active… ability to concentrate helps them learn new routines more easily.”

Granted, I know your life can’t be compared to a canine’s. 

Can’t teach an old dog new tricks is a saying applied to a person who is unwilling to learn something new.  They might be stuck in their ways, or overwhelmed by change.  

The person this applies to is doggedly determined in their inability…. But that’s not you.  Right?

Learning the Cello at 50

I asked Mr. Flown The Coop if he thought you could teach an old dog new tricks?  Y’all, Jeff just bought himself a cello to learn at 50 years young.  He quickly replied, “Well, it depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it.”  I hope he continues to put effort in learning the cello, cuz that trick is so HOT!  

Can you remember when you learned to walk?  Yeah, me neither.  It is incredible what we are able to learn in a lifetime, most of which is likely now taken for granted.  

When you say you are too old for something new, are you actually thinking, I missed my window of opportunity? Are dreams and new tricks only for the youth?

No time like the present

I’m just full of cliches this week!  What would you start today if you didn’t allow age to hold you back? 

In the bestseller The Last Lecture, Randy Pausch shares his childhood dreams that he was able to realize later in life.  His innate curiosity and determination allowed to him to experience zero gravity in Nasa’s Weightless Wonder, meet Captain Kirk and spend a sabbatical as a Disney Imagineer… just to name a few. 

I thought to myself after reading Randy’s stories from a life cut short, “I don’t want to waist time.” There’s no time like the present to live an interesting life… age really has nothing to do with it.  

Would you like to make new friends, there’s no time like the present.

Want to reach your ideal weight, there’s no time like the present.  

Thinking about a new career or business, there’s no time like the present.

Dreaming about a destination, book the flight!

Get past your BS

“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting sick of their own bullshit.”  Elizabeth Gilbert.

You might be thinking, Tiff you don’t understand, I am too old to learn {fill in the blank}.  By the way, age is one of a million possible bullshit excuses that can prevent you from trying.

I’ve been in your shoes, but have pivoted. I am learning that creating something new in life is possible when you learn to think new thoughts.  

The tricks

Are you feeling convicted?  It isn’t my plan to make you feel lousy, but to push you to think.  

Is it unrealistic to learn new skills, create new habits or try something new in midlife?  

What would you attempt today if you believed you were not too old?

Is crappy thinking in your way?

These are areas that I can help you with.  I know what it is like to admit a limitation and to be overwhelmed by the prospect of learning a new skill, but also have felt the yearning to explore possibilities. I choose to explore!

Midlife is a gift.  There is so much freedom (financial, time, patience, wisdom, etc) in this season of our life.

Even though I am no spring chicken {couldn’t resist another cliche},  I’m here to tell you anything is possible!  Let’s chat about YOUR possibilities!  I offer a FREE mini session for midlife women who want to believe their best years are ahead.  

Simply click the link below and choose a date and time on my calendar that works for you.  It really is that simple.

Here’s to new tricks!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky! 

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

I can’t wait to meet ya!

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  In this blog she discusses being future focused. Ever wonder about her, Can't wait to meet ya!

Dear Tiff (because that is what I call myself), I can’t wait to meet ya!  

Can you remember what was important to you last year?  Are you a little unsure of what you want to create for your life in 2021? Let me share with you a future focused practice that will help you stay in touch with where you’ve been and who you want to become.

In 2019, at a Tony Robbins event, I wrote a letter to myself at the end of a few intense days.  I was full of powerful optimism.  It felt great!  

When I wrote the letter, I sealed it up and handed it to a staff member at the event, who promised to send the letter to me at a random date.  I can’t tell you how fun it was to open the letter from myself.

In that letter I promised myself a few things.  I’m proud to say that I actually followed through with becoming a certified life coach with The Life Coach School.  I pressed the “enroll” button on their website while sitting in my hotel room late at night after committing to my future during the event.  The final line of that letter was, “Above all – keep fucking going.”  And I did.  

A tradition is born…. can’t wait to meet ya!

On January 15, 2020 I decided to write another letter to my future self.  Again, I was full of optimism with big dreams.  That’s the way I like it!  

I give myself a HUGE pass for 2020.  There was no way to predict how our world would implode.    One of my favorite lines of the 2020 letter is, “No more leading a life of quiet desperation.  You are a solution seeker.”  And I was.  

This year I wrote another letter with the thought, can’t wait to meet ya!

Building a relationship with yourself

Do you have a relationship with your past, present and future self?  Building this relationship is a wonderful way to create the life you’ve always wanted.  

I am extremely compassionate with who I was January 15, 2020.  Poor girl had no idea what fresh hell she would have to endure on a daily basis.  One thing I can say about her is that she plugged into growth and embraced the journey.  What can you say about your January 2020 self?  Be kind to your past self.  Despite all the failures, I bet you learned valuable lessons along the way.  

Living in the now is an extremely helpful skill to learn.  The Bible says to not worry about tomorrow, it will take care of itself.  Your future self is encouraging you to build the skills today that she will need in the future. So, get busy creating!

What will your future self think about you a year from now?  Will she be proud of what you attempted or how you grew?  I guarantee if you start thinking about her, you will show up differently today.  What is important to her?  What do you need to learn today to set her up for success?  

Write the letter

Writing a letter to your future self each January is a pivotal way to learn about yourself from year to year.  

I had forgotten what was important to me in 2019 and then at the beginning of 2020.  I realigned with some of my past ambitions and pivoted from some that no longer serve me. 

Writing a letter to your future self is a valuable tradition.  It’s a chance to write from the heart to the person you know yourself to BE.  Here are a few ideas to get you started:

Offer compassion to your past self

High five your accomplishments

Explain what is important to you today (in the now).

Share your goals with her

Tell her how you will work on for her behalf

What do you enjoy and hope to add to your life during the year?  Any adventures you hope to take her on?  

What relationships will you foster?

Your future self will thank you!

I can speak from the receiving side of a letter, and am grateful to my past self for caring about me.  

I hope my letter tradition will inspire you to write your own letters to the woman you will be in January 2022.  This practice can inspire you to act on her behalf today.  It can become a tradition you look forward to each year as a marker of your personal evolution.  

Becoming future minded allows you to aim for possibilities.  Your future self will thank you!  

I concluded my January 2022 letter with, “I hope you will be proud of me. Can’t wait to meet ya.” XOXO Tiff

On a side note:  It was magical when I received a letter from myself after the Tony Robbins event in 2019.  I am offering to hold your letters until the end of December 2021.  If you send me your letter sealed in a self addressed stamped envelope, I will drop it in the mail in late December.  

Send to:  Tiffany Eckhardt, P.O. Box 174, Burton, Texas 77835

I can help

It is my goal to help midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Writing a letter to your future self is just one of the tools I use to help women get in touch with who they are and how they want to show up in the world.  

Are you a little unsure of what you want to create in your life?  

I’d love to chat with you about creating a future from the future with exciting growth.  

I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious how a life coach can help build a bridge to the life you want.  Click on the link below to view my calendar, then click a date and time that works for you.  It really is as simple as that!  

Here’s to a year of working towards who we know we can be!  I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to meet her!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Packed up another year!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  On the blog today she shares how she packed up Christmas and is ready for an exciting new year with a Choose Her Community Goal Challenge

Yep, my Christmas decorations are packed up for another year. I truly loved celebrating our favorite traditions and staying connected to my family and friends with our yearly Christmas cards. On Christmas Day we hopped on a Zoom call with my family before Christmas dinner. While it was definitely different, I managed to soak in all the magic of the season.

Packing up Christmas does not mean I’m a humbug!

I am known to pack up my Christmas decorations the day of. This year I left them up two extra days. I’m really not a humbug, I just get excited about a new year.

This is the second year I have set goals for the new year with a system I absolutely love. I am super clear on what I need to work on to become my future self, the woman I know I can become. I love choosing HER in 2021!

You can Choose Her too!

Join the Choose Her Community Goal Challenge beginning the first full week of January, 2021.

I am excited about facilitating a community of kindred spirits who want to make 2021 a year of intentional growth!

Set yourself up for a winning 2021 with exciting clear goals, new friends to keep you on track, an understanding what success means to you and who you have to become to achieve the possibilities. 

Follow the link to learn more

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I hope you join me in making your future self so proud that you invested time and energy into her success!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Merry Christmas Y’all!

Jeff and I with our awesome grandkids Arthur & Eleanor

Merry Christmas Y’all!

I want to wish you a Merry Christmas Y’all! I hope you are enjoying every second of your traditions, or finding new ones. Either way, I hope you are creating all the magic of this season.

I want to take this opportunity to say…Y’all, I appreciate you! 2020 has been a crazy year. Thank you for sticking with me as I navigated a year of tremendous growth.

Join me in the excitement of a new year. Have you set yourself up for an awesome 2021? If you learned anything from me this year, I hope you are becoming future focused, creating your future from your future. Here’s a great podcast to check out on the subject: I’ve Never Done That Before episode #347.

I hope my journey has inspired you to believe your best years are ahead. One of my 2021 goals is to help 21 women get the results they never thought possible. If you have big dreams for 2021 or just want to get clear on life in this season, I’d love to chat. Take advantage of my free mini session by clicking the link below.

This year will be a magnificent year! But first, let me encourage to spend the week soaking in ALL the magic of the season. 🎄

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Do you love choosing her?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife.  She helps women believe their best years are ahead.

Do you love choosing her, the woman you know yourself to BE?

Last year I chose a mantra that served me well, “I love the woman I am becoming in 2020,”  which turned out to be a year of tremendous growth.  Each obstacle that tempted me to quit, I remembered my commitment to my future self, and continued on the journey.  I can honestly say that I love who I am today because I fought hard to become her.  

I want to see what happens if I don’t give up in 2021. So, I choose a mantra that will inspire me to keep going in the face of any obstacle.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women redefine midlife.  She helps women believe her best years are ahead.
I love choosing her!

The inspiration to choose her

Janet, one of my favorite teachers at the Life Coach School, taught a workshop this month called: Turning Obstacles Into Results.  This timely workshop focused on an important part of a goal setting process, identifying obstacles ahead of time. 

The key to achieving your heart’s desire is to acknowledge that your feelings will wax and wane in the process.  Identifying obstacles ahead of time gives you the chance to not only strategize, but understand what you will make that obstacle mean.  

Will you make the obstacle mean you are a failure or your dream is impossible?  Janet decided that overcoming an obstacle meant that she loved choosing her, the woman who is willing to do hard things to create the life she wants.

Janet inspired me to adopt the mantra “I love choosing her” for 2021.  Every time I do something that stretches me, I will proclaim, “I love choosing her,” the woman I know myself to BE!  

Keep choosing her

I have used various tools to effectively stay the course; vision boards, Pinterest boards for the word of the year, vision video, affirmations and mantras like my new one for 2021.  

Developing a future focus has revolutionized goal setting for me.  Don’t get me wrong, I love creating tools like the ones I listed.  They just never moved the needle until I learned to create a future from my future.  

I understood that 2020 would be a tremendous year of growth as I continually focused on my future self.  Moving forward in 2021 I have a strong relationship with my future self and want her to be proud that I stayed the course.  I understand that obstacles are not in my path, they are the path.  I will choose her on a daily basis.  

Setting goals

Will you choose her today, the woman you know yourself to BE?  Set her up for success by setting goals.

Wouldn’t it be great if you had clear goals, understood what separated you from your goals and developed strategies that will help you stay the course?  Yes!  And wouldn’t it be nice if the process was actually fun?

I can help!  I’d love to walk you through a goal setting process that I used to achieve my goals for 2020.  During one of the most trying years in our history, I became a certified life coach, read fiction books for fun, lost weight, improved key relationships, opened an Airbnb and started a coaching business.  One of my clients who went though the goal setting process landed a new job this year.  

Schedule a FREE mini session to get all your questions answered.  Simply click on the link provided and choose a date and time that works for you. 

Don’t ignore your own potential… go for it!  

Cheers to choosing HER!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Do you trust your intuition?

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach, helping women reinvent midlife.  Do you trust your intuition?  Read more...
You will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way, walk in it.”

Do you trust your intuition? 

Many of my clients are experiencing anxiety about the new year.  It seems that something new is brewing, but fear of the unknown in an unpredictable world is paralyzing growth.  

Intuition is defined as the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.  It’s your knowing.  It’s the little voice that you most likely ignore.  

Even ancient scriptures encourage you to listen to the voice:

Isaiah 30:21

Wether you turn to your right or to your left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way, walk in it.”

Why don’t you listen to your intuition?

It’s a fair question worth being curious about.  

Have you ever experienced a time when you knew what to do, but chose a familiar path to be safe, only to later wish you had listened to that nudge from inside?  

Are you afraid of making a mistake or a wrong decision?  

Does trusting your inner voice seem dangerous?  

Are you afraid of being singled out or standing alone?

Become aware

You and I are conditioned to become the victim of outside influences.  It is easier to blame people or circumstances for your inability to create the life you want. It is time to become aware of the familiar thoughts and feelings keeping you from embracing the unknown.

“You are continuously keeping your life the same because you are keeping your attention (thoughts) and your energy (feelings) the same.”  Dr. Joe Dispenza 

You can take steps away from being the victim of life by becoming aware of your thoughts and feelings.    

Practice listening

How much room do you make in your life for the unpredictable, the unknown?  

Have you had the urge to journal and meditate?  Maybe this is the first bit of intuition you should listen to.  These two practices are the best ways to become aware of the thoughts and feelings actually guiding your life.  

Journal

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to understand the three w’s: what, where and why.  Next to hiring a life coach, a daily journal habit is the best tool to help you get clear on what you want, where you currently are, and why you want the ideal life you envision. Last month I shared my four favorite journal prompts to help you past any resistance.  Choosing one of these prompts will help you discover what keeps you victimized to a thinking/feeling loop.  

Meditate/Prayer

The best way to turn off the noise of the world is meditation.  Slowing down to breath and listen is key.

Start with five minutes of breathing and quiet.  Notice when your mind wanders and gently bring it back to the present moment.  Don’t judge your inability to sit still.  This is totally natural.    Slowing down your mind is not only good for your creative juices, but aides in wellness.  The more you allow yourself to be still, the easier it gets to rest.  

There are so many resources for meditation practices.  I use the Insight Timer app to explore different meditation techniques.  YouTube offers numerous videos. Sometimes I listen to Pandora’s 528 Hz Miracle Radio for soft background music.

Explore your wisdom

It’s important to protect your ability to listen to your own wisdom.  I urge you to turn off your tv.  At least limit your exposure to the fear based programing.  

It is possible that during these chaotic times you have become addicted to information, which keeps you paralyzed. I confess that at times I have been glued to the information highway, but can tell a huge difference in my life when I listen to my own wisdom.

I realized a shift the other day when I was journaling.  I’ve noticed that in the past I looked for a something to deliver my dreams to me, to take care of me.  At some point during 2020 I turned inward for the answers.  I learned to take responsibility for my own thoughts and feelings.  This can be lonely work, but totally freeing.  

I believe God created you with an amazing mind.  You and I only use a fraction of the mind’s power.  God blessed you with unique gifts and talents as well.

Your voice, or intuition, is worth exploring.  Can you trust your ability to hear your own voice, your answers within? What is possible in your life is within the unknown!

Unlock the unknown

If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you your best years are ahead.  

Navigating these chaotic times is not easy.  You may be experiencing anxiety about the new year.  I can help!

You do not have to be a victim of your life.  You can learn to trust your dreams and discover a new way of thinking, that will allow you to create your life.  It is possible to not only embrace the unknown, but to welcome it with enthusiasm.  

If you want to walk in creative freedom, schedule a free mini session today.  Simply click on the link below and pick a date and time on my calendar.  

Here’s to discovering the unknown in your life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach