Shed the shoulding

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping midlife women answer the question, what's next

Are you shoulding yourself? 

The word should needs to go!

The word should is a verb and is the least motivating word in the English language.  Should is used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions.

The word carries weight that does not motivate.

You might be shoulding if….

Anytime you think you should act in a certain way in order to be loved or worthy.  Stop it!

Here are some example thoughts you might have had.

I should be able to loose weight, if only I could just stop eating bread and sugar.   

I should like to work out.      

There is a person you’ve been avoiding that you should call.

You wake up in the morning with a list of things you should do, but none if them sound fun.  

The night before you drank a bottle of wine to take your mind off things, and the next morning think you shouldn’t have done that.  

Why you should yourself?

If you are a midlife woman like me, you have a long history of shoulding yourself.   

Your the woman they could count on for the cupcakes at your child’s school.  

You beat yourself up for not being a certain size jeans, as if your weight is the reason someone should like you.   

If you could only live up to the magazine pictures in Better Homes And Gardens!  

You feel guilt and shame when you use the verb should, implying you have no control over your actions or will.

I add a little rebellion to my feelings of guilt and shame.  I personally hate being told what to do, it’s part of my fiery personality. Can you relate?  

In any case, the word should indicates a dissatisfaction with life.  

Ask yourself why

I’ll be a little vulnerable and share a should in my life.  

I have a habit of drinking a couple of glasses of wine or old fashions in the evening.  It really isn’t bad, but I started thinking I should be able to enjoy the evening without the cocktail.  I worry excessive alcohol is affecting my wellness and productivity the next morning.  

I started thinking I should be able to quit the habit during the week.  

That should only caused me to feel ashamed and beat myself up every morning.  

When I finally got honest with myself and journaled my thoughts and feelings, I realized that the real reason I was drinking more than I wanted to was two feelings… boredom and loneliness.  I spent time exploring why I was bored and lonely, which led to even more insights into what was really going on.  

Now that I have identified reasons for my extra glass of wine, I can work on the root thoughts and feelings, and offer myself grace instead of shame.

Ask yourself why when you think you should? When asked a question, your mind will go to work to answer it.  

At the root of every should is a desire for something.  What is your heart really longing for?  

Shed the should

Midlife is time to get honest with yourself.  This is your season to shed the should!  

Start discovering what would feel zesty, juicy and rewarding.  A daily journal practice is a great way to discover what is really going on in your mind.  

Employ the word NO to requests of your time or energy. Say YES to everything that aligns with the life you want to create.  

I can help!

Do you have a long history with the word should?  Could you use a little help ditching the habit?  

My clients are rising above all kinds of midlife BS.  You can too!

It’s been my experience that hiring an objective listener identified where I’ve been shoulding myself.

As your life coach, I will help you leap over the divide from what you think you should be doing to what you want to be doing.  

Your best years begin with a healthy dose of curiosity. 

Curious about hiring a life coach?   I invite you to schedule a consultation by clicking Ask A Coach below

Here’s to shedding the should!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Minding the gap

Mind the gap

As a midlife coach, I focus on fresh starts.  Last week I addressed the feelings of restlessness, helping you to understand your thoughts cause your feelings.  This week I’d like to chat about the distance between what you think you should do and what you are actually doing. Your fresh start hinges upon you minding the gap.

The gap is a feeling.  

The greatest gap in the world is the gap between knowing and doing.  ~John Maxwell

The results we hope for in our lives are always created by the thoughts we entertain.  The gap between knowing and doing is our feelings.  

Again, notice what the gap is not…. obstacles, or any negative circumstance.  

Awareness

According to a Harvard Business Review article, the number one reason people don’t realize their potential is that they don’t know themselves.  

The best way to get to know yourself is develop a healthy measure of curiosity, observing your thoughts and feelings.  

Begin to observe what makes you tense or relaxed.  (Hint: it is a thought you are having). 

“To be true to myself, I must know myself: what I enjoy, what I resist, what moves me.  Pleasure asks that we reacquaint ourselves with who we are.”  ~Victoria Castle. 

Map your gap

I teach my clients a weekly scheduling practice called Monday Hour One.  In the process of scheduling everything out, my clients are taught to map out fun first.  

When I first started practicing Monday Hour One, I didn’t know what I liked to do for fun.  I had to think about what brought me pleasure throughout the week.  From this awareness, I now schedule yoga, gardening and roller skating first into my week.   

Added bonus:  Over time, I realized that the more I enjoyed life, the more creativity energy flowed through me.  Feeling tense or experiencing a sense of dread is an indication that I lack necessary fun in my life.  That’s an easy fix!  I now have a list of things that will add spice to my weekly schedule.

Journal your gap

I intuitively knew from an early age that expressing my thoughts in a journal is the key to minding the gap (my feelings).  

Witnessing your thoughts on paper allows you the opportunity to make changes, respect how you feel, and stop ignoring them.  

Here are a few journal prompts that will help you start minding your gap…

What do you feel?

How do you feel right now, tense or relaxed?

Is there something that inspires you? 

Are you loyal to something?

What do you avoid?

When do you feel most alive?

I can help

I enjoy sharing what I’ve learned from my personal growth journey.  One of my freebies is Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS, a free downloadable workbook.  In this you will get to know yourself better and mind your gap (feelings).  

It’s been my experience that hiring an objective listener helped identify where I was stuck. 

As your life coach, I will help you leap over the divide from what you think you should be doing to what you want to be doing.  I lead you through the four stages of change to fully get to know yourself.  

Your best years begin with a healthy dose of curiosity. 

Curious about hiring a life coach?   I invite you to schedule a consultation by clicking Ask A Coach below

Here’s to not only minding the gap, but embracing a fresh start like the badass you are!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Restless?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping midlife women answer the question, what's next.

Do you feel restless?

The season of midlife is often an unchartered territory.  Many of my clients are experiencing a lack of structure and/or purpose for the first time in their life.  Thoughts of uncertainty often causes you to feel restless.  

You might be restless if…..

You’ve downsized your home or retired from a career.  

The calendar is open and nothing seems predictable, when it once was overbooked.  

Restlessness may even be a form of boredom and loneliness.  

Are you restless from a major life event; such as a wellness awakening or late life divorce?  

Of course you will feel a bit unsettled when you wondering to yourself, what’s next.

Take heart!  Restless feelings are not necessarily a bad thing!  

Don’t fight restless feelings

Argue for your limitations and they are yours.  ~Richard Bach

Restlessness is an indication of change.  Instead of indulging in confusion, answer the questions your restless feelings are begging you to answer.

Do you have a gift to explore?

What dreams did you dream as a child?

What do you love about yourself?

How can you live your best life?

The big questions

My dream had always been to open an antique store.  I remember cutting out articles of Better Homes and Gardens.  I can clearly see in my mind’s eye an article with a happy shop owner sweeping the sidewalk outside her store that I cut out about twenty years ago.  

My vision became a reality in March of 2015, on a beautiful spring day.  I opened my little store in Burton, with all my favorite people surrounding me for a ribbon cutting ceremony.  It was a dream come true. 

I closed that story book chapter of my life in November of 2018.  As that season ended, I had to accept the ending and allowed myself to grieve the loss of my dream.  

This wasn’t my first rodeo.  I’ve experienced drastic changes several times in my life.  I knew it was another opportunity to embrace change.  Eventually, I was reminded how resilient I truly am.   

To move past the restless feelings associated with change, you need to answer the big questions.

What’s now?  

What’s next?  

Stop and ask yourself these two questions and notice where your mind goes?  

Surf the shift

This requires imagination.  If you don’t have it, borrow the imagination of someone you admire.  What do they believe about change?  How do they feel about this season?  How have they show up for life?

Think of imagination as a surfboard, just hop on the board and ride wave of possibilities.  

When you surf the shift, you’ll discover how resilient you are!

Find you future

In the course of reinventing my life numerous times, I have identified four stages of change that can help you navigate uncharted territory.  

What you believe you embody.  I help my clients redefine what’s possible in this season.  

I can help you rise above any BS regarding your possibilities, so you can stop wasting precious time.  

Find your future!

What are you waiting for?  Schedule a consultation today by clicking my calendar link below.  I can help you answer the big questions, what’s now and what’s next?

Here’s to shifting past restless to resilient!  Ride the wave of possibilities!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Of course you feel

Of course your sad!

I had a fun-filled week with my daughter and grand babies, creating amazing memories!  When they boarded the airplane to return to Michigan, I couldn’t hold back the tears. Of course I was sad.

Yep, it was an ugly cry.  I didn’t fight it because I thought to myself, “of course your sad.”  Once I got into my car, I allow all the sadness to wash over me like a wave in the ocean.  It came from a place of love.  And once I let it out, I was ok to drive home.  

Do you allow your emotions or stuff them, or even worse, beat yourself up for having them?

I teach my clients to observe their emotions and respond with, “of course I feel…”

A time for every emotion

Ecclesiastes teaches us that there is a time for everything, a season for every activity under the sun.  A time to weep and a time to laugh.  A time to mourn and a time to dance.  

When we loose a loved one, we actually want to feel sad.  Of course you grieve.  

Of course you feel unimaginable joy when you spend time with grand children.  

How do you know joy without sorrow? 

Have you ever just sat with an emotion?  

Unwanted emotions are apart of your journey.   In fact, you are supposed to have them.  

So, instead of freaking out and resisting the emotion, simply allow it (sit with it).  

When you are curious, you will begin to realize that they exist to teach you something.  

Conversely, when you resist emotions you create suffering.

Next time you are angry, take a pause.  Where do you feel the emotion in your body? 

Sit with your anger without judgement and you’ll notice it’s vibration in your body eventually pass. 

One day at the park, Arthur was having so much fun swinging that he wasn’t ready to move onto something else when we were.  In upset he literally threw himself on the ground.  My daughter and I walked a safe distance away and just watched.  After the initial anger left, he joined us.  Within a short time, he was laughing and enjoying himself again.  It didn’t ruin his day!

Of course you feel!

The next time you experience an unwanted emotion, say to yourself of course I feel (sad, mad, jealous, frustrated…).  Then ask yourself what’s going on?

Negative emotion highlights what you don’t want, and help you become aware of what you do want.   

Observing my grand kiddos for a week, I notice they didn’t have a problem with emotions.  In fact, they were in touch with exactly how they felt at all times.  

I can help!

I’m not suggesting that you wallow in misery.

I teach my clients how to process unwanted emotions.  

When you are willing to feel any emotion, there is nothing you can’t conquer in your life.  

In fact, you can even build new pathways to embrace discomfort and decide what you want to feel on purpose.

Often when we find ourselves wallowing, buffering with food or alcohol, worrying or procrastinating it is a sign that we are not dealing with unwanted emotions.  

Hiring me as your life coach will help you process the unwanted emotions faster and empower you to no longer dread or beat yourself up for being human.  

If this resonates with you, simply click my calendar link and pick a date/time that works for you.   This will schedule a consultation for you to discuss how coaching can help you and if I’m a right fit for you.  

Here’s to the occasional ugly cry… because it’s ok to feel sad.  

~Tiffany

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"
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Fresh Starts

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women answer the question "What's next?"

Fresh start

How many times have you had a fresh start in your life?  

What was the catalyst?  Marriage?  Starting a family?  A job relocation? A new business idea?

If the catalyst was associate with a measure of pain, like a bankruptcy or divorce, you probably spend a great deal of time resisting it or trying to manage it.

Midlife is a season in life that offers a fresh start, depending how you look at it.

Fresh start or fear?

When you think of starting something new do you feel excited, optimistic, adventurous? 

Or do you experience fear, worrying about what might or might not happen?  

Feelings are an indication of how you actually think about it. 

What are you willing to risk?

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more powerful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

I’m experienced at fresh starts.  I’ve moved across country four times in thirty years, renovating six homes (three historic).  After homeschooling and devoting my young adult life to raising our family, the kids moved on and are living their great adventures.  I’ve also had numerous business ventures, short lived careers, heartbreaks and health issues.  

Y’all we got midlife too!  

It is our season to blossom! 

Don’t let the fear of what could happen, make nothing happen.  

I can help

I coach women who are asking the question, “What’s next?”

According to a Harvard Business Review article, the number one reason people don’t reach their potential is that they don’t know themselves.  

Your life experiences, wether a natural part of life or crisis, may have chartered your course up until now, but midlife is the season you can finally get to know yourself.  

What ever is next can be created.  I can help you identify the BS that keeps you stuck in fear and blossom into the woman you know you can be.  

This is your season to bloom!

I offer a free course, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS. This is a great place to start your fresh start.

Coaching is an excellent way to move past your BS faster. Schedule a consultation by clicking on my calendar link below and pick a date/time that works for you.  

Here’s to fresh starts!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Choose HER?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the questions, What's next?"

What happened to your goals?

Do you wonder what happened to the goals you set in January? Will you still choose HER? You know, the woman you set out to become at the beginning of the year? 

In January I wrote a letter to myself, check out the blog that went with it! I hope when open the letter at the end of the year, I am super proud of Tiff!

At the time of this writing, June is knocking at the door.  Already half of 2021 is behind us. 

Do you remember the goals you set at the beginning of the year?  Did you set goals?

Goals as a spiritual practice

I think I’ve figured out why most goals die a sad death by February or March.  

Setting goals has become a ritual at the beginning of the year that neglects the reason for setting them in the first place, to realize who we are capable of becoming.   

What if setting goals could be more of a spiritual practice, a road map that helps you stay focused on your life’s intentions?

“We propel our Life’s Intentions into the physical realm by creating goals.  A goal is literally, a projection of a Life’s Intention into the physical reality.”  ~ Maria Nemeth, Ph.D. and author of The Energy of Money.

Choosing HER is about your life’s Intention

Many of my clients are asking themselves the question, “What’s Next?”

There is a lot of fear behind that question.  What will you do with the gift of midlife?  

A less intimidating question might be, “Who do I want to intentionally become?” 

If you don’t answer this question yourself, it will most likely being answered by outside sources (society, family, friends, etc.)

“Without goals, our Life’s Intentions remain unfilled, and unfulfilled Life’s Intention often results in frustration and resignation.  Conversely, our greatest joy comes from achieving goals that have real meaning and heart for us.”  Maria Nemeth, Ph.D

Choose Her Goal Challenge

I know you will choose HER, the woman you intentionally want to become, the woman you know you can BE!

Setting goals from life’s intentions is exactly the approach I take in my updated Choose HER Goal Challenge.  This self-paced workbook, with videos, will help you end the year with goals set from a place of abundance, will give you an understanding of what success means to you, help you identify the obstacles in achieving results and define who you have to become to be HER.  

Stop wasting precious time. I can help you quickly get over the BS that keeps you stuck without clear goals.

Intentionally end your 2021 by getting your copy of Choose Her Goal Challenge.  Click the link below to get started!

This will be available for a limited time… Monday, May 31 and close on Sunday, June 6th

It is my goal to help you believe your best years are ahead!  I would be honored to take this journey with you.  

Here’s to an amazing second half of 2021!

~Tiffany 

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

There’s another way

Once you become aware there is a another way, you become a magnet for new ideas and alternative ways to live!  

“Though the problems of the world are increasingly complex, the solutions remain embarrassingly simple.” ~ Bill Mollison The Father of Permaculture

This week I celebrate the 4th anniversary of my wellness awakening by acknowledging the practices I’ve developed to keep me well and feeling young.  

January of 2017 I had a unfortunate health crisis that led to a very fortunate wellness journey.  I made a vow to to avoid surgery and disease, as much as it was in my power. Turns out I have more power than first realized. I just needed to become a detective to discover ways to flow with life.

In May of 2017 I joined a community of earthy souls who live a “crunchy” life through essential oils.  There seems to be a misconstrued hippy vibe to using plants instead of synthetics.  Actually, the Young Living community is a very diverse group of intelligent people who proactively replace toxins with plant based products.  

I am in deep appreciation for the journey I embarked upon in 2017. The wellness practices I’ve developed became essential to thriving the past year. 

I’d like to offer five practices that could enriched your life.  

Self aware

Self-aware is the first step in self care.  Managing my mind is the number one tool in my wellness toolbox.

I start my day with meditation and journaling, both are important practices to help me understand my feelings and get in sync with my life.

“Your thoughts and beliefs are the single most important indicator of your state of health.”  Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D.  (From her book Goddesses Never Age)

Instead of waiting for a health crisis, why not get curious about your beliefs.  

  • Do you believe you can control your health?  
  • Do you think it is your responsibility?  
  • What are you willing to embrace on a wellness journey?

Once you become aware of your set of beliefs, you can address your state of health.  Are you thoughts predominantly life giving or causing dis-ease?

Another way to view food

I saw this quote the other day, “never eat something that your great, great, great grandma wouldn’t identify as food.“ 

Early on in my journey I read Eat Dirt by Dr. Josh Axe.  Eat Dirt is primarily about leaky gut, but it made me aware of using food as medicine.  In the process I learned that I had a dairy allergy, which greatly eased an acne issue I dealt with for decades.  

Jeff and I to eat whole foods as much as possible.  Our nutrition has evolved as we tried different approaches.  My latest passion is learning about Ayurveda, an ancient Indian approach to nutrition and wellness.  It is teaching me to eat for my constitution. 

Food can either be life giving or cause disease.  You have choices!

Essential Oils 

I use my apothecary on a daily basis.  

I prefer to reach for a natural remedy if possible.  Developing my apothecary has not only taught me natural ways of dealing with issues, but also how to be proactive. 

Since becoming a brand ambassador for Young Living, I’ve ditched toxins in my home and bathroom cabinet for natural products.  It’s outrageous what we are inhaling and digesting in our daily lives. Read the labels and Google the ingredients!  

I have recently adopted a daily practice called Abhyanga, a self massage with warm oil.  Again, it goes against what we’ve been taught about soap.  I truly believe this practice is reversing the affects of age on my skin.  

You really do have alternatives that are life giving!

Nature

Wilderness is not a luxury but a necessity of the human spirit.  ~ Edward Abbey

I remember as a wild child, I was outside as much as possible. Coming in for dinner was super annoying. The 70’s was a decade for free range children like myself!

Last year I planted a victory garden and fell in love with my little plot of nutrition.  It’s nurturing to my soul to grow food along with my favorite flowers. 

My latest passion is permaculture. A lesson we could take from nature is how it supports itself, when given the opportunity. My vision is to create more plots of nutrition using permaculture principles.

After learning the Japanese practice of forest bathing, I understood my draw to nature. I prefer to be barefoot, feeling the magnetic grounding of the earth. I also love the idea of moon bathing.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to think that getting out in nature is good for health.  Sun provides much needed Vitamin D, fresh air improves immunity and connecting with the earth grounds us.  

How do you connect with nature?  

Fun 

Fun is often overlooked, almost a guilty pleasure these days.  I’ve learned to make it a priority by scheduling it first in my weekly scheduling practice.

When I was introduced to the idea of scheduling fun first, I had to give some serious thought to what I considered fun.  I honestly NEVER gave it any thought.  

Y’all know how much I love roller skating!  I also enjoy yoga as a way of stretching and developing balance.  Both are keeping me young!  I work them both in my calendar before I schedule my to-dos.  

What do you like to do for fun?  Do you make fun a priority?  

Your wellness practice

Do you have wellness practices?  Or is this the fist time you’ve been challenged to think about your contribute to your own well being?  

My passion is working with women who are asking the question, “What’s next?”  If you hang around with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead. 

If you find yourself lacking in any of these practices, I can help you!  

Schedule a consultation by clicking my calendar link below. Pick a date/time that works best for you.

I’d love to help you get curious how you could choose another way, or possibly a few ways. The solutions to your midlife wellness could be embarrassingly simple. 🙂

Here’s to another way!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of Reinvention and Certified Life Coach helping midlife women answer the question, "What's next?"

Living many lives

Tiffany Eckhardt's past life as a picker for Flown The Coop, not a master of reinvention and a certified life coach, helping women rise above their midlife BS!
My past life as a picker

How many lives have I lived?  I’m not a cat, but I can tell you that I’ve reinvented myself at least nine times.  (probably much more than that)

The other day a memory popped up on Facebook to remind me of one of my past lives, a picker of amazing junque for my antique store.  The official title I bestowed upon myself was Creative Executive At Flown The Coop.  

You might wonder if finding amazing pieces to add to my antique store was providential.  Actually it was, but the amazing people I met along the way brought me the most joy.  I met Tim at a small early (WAY TOO EARLY) flea market in Delaware, Ohio.  What Tim unloaded from his little Prius had me curious what else he might be in possession of.  After paying for my stack of goodies, I asked.  Of course he had more unique finds, and knew another guy I needed to meet.  The day I got up WAY TOO EARLY for a flea market, I hit the jackpot!  

Tim introduced me to one of the most interesting men I have ever met.  Ken had barns (plural) of junque to die for!  The picture above is from a very successful day of picking at Ken’s.  My comment on the post said it all…

Had the best day picking with Ken and Tim!  There’s not much these guys wouldn’t do for me.  I now have a specially designed rack for the top of my trailer to haul another awesome 17 ft. Canoe… not to mention the trailer load of finds!!!  Corbels, display cases, a fabulous cash register for the store!

Living Vicariously

While on the numerous trips I took during my magical season as the Creative Executive at Flown The Coop, I freely shared my journey on social media, much like I do now.

What killed me was when I had comments on my pictures from women who told me they were living vicariously through me.  As much as these beloved women honored me with their enthusiasm for my work, I always wondered why they would live through the pictures I posted.  

What prevented them from pursuing something that pulled on their heart strings?

What’s next?

Closing my antique store broke my heart.  I often miss the creative outlet and the connections I made with people I still call friends.  

As I navigated my grief and planned my next steps, I kept remembering the comments from women who were living vicariously through me.  Their comments were pulling at my heart strings.  I felt a calling to help women who wanted to stop waisting precious time upset about midlife, and start believing their best years are ahead. 

I challenge the notion that life goes down hill from here by helping my clients see this season is as a gift.  Together we answer the question, “What’s next?”  The women I work with are stepping into life after retirement or an empty nest, improving relationships, reaching their ideal weight, discovering untapped energy, finding their dream man after divorce, launching new businesses, getting new jobs, planning dream trips, etc.  

Living today!

I am a self-proclaimed Master Of Reinvention, a well earned title after creating numerous business ventures in my fifty years.  I am no longer afraid of failure, but have learned to utilize it for the next adventure.  

Are you ready to rise above the BS that keeps you stuck in fear and worry, to fall in love with life?

It sucks to think that life goes down hill from here, especially because it’s not true.  Working with me will help you get past the BS faster so that you can start your journey NOW.

I’ve created a clear path for you to discover what you truly want, identify where you may be stuck and then create a midlife map to go get it!  

If thinking about seizing the day makes you heart pump, schedule a consultation with me.  Click on Ask a Coach below and pick a date/time that works for you!

Here’s to living more than the nine lives of a cat!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, Master of reinvention and a certified life coach helping women rise above their midlife BS!

Life from abundance

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach, helping women rise above their midlife BS

People who see life from abundance embody an energetic flow that is irresistible. 

Thank God I met Dawn Gardner, my friend who lives her dream of being a working author.  When we started our private book club in the spring of 2019, she mentioned she had never met another Pollyanna before.  

Yep, abundant reasons we are friends!  

Dawn and I have delve deep into the most empowering books and then challenge each other to live out what we are learning.  Believing in abundance takes some practice, especially if you’ve been conditioned in lack.  

It helps to have the influence of a circle of magnetic souls who convince you that abundance exists. 

Rise above broken to live abundantly!

“Our problem as humans isn’t that we are inadequate, wrong or broken; the problem is that we believe we are.”  ~ Dr. Sue Morter

What does it take to break free and embrace the mystery of life?  Step one… get to know yourself.

In March I published my first workbook, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS.  It is free.  So, grab yourself a copy!

In my workbook, I help you get to know yourself and recognize your hangups.  Once you break free from old worn out stories, you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and guaranteed to attract kindred spirits.  

Trance Of Scarcity

In June I will be leading my first book club, studying The Trance Of Scarcity by Victoria Castle.  This book has made obvious the ways I have been operating out of lack and taught me to flow in the cycle of abundance.   

The author, Victoria Castle, hits a nerve with her definition of the Trance of Scarcity, 

“The Trance may show up privately, as self-doubt and over-consumerism, or publicly, as elitism and disregard for future generations.  Many of us spend our time lamenting the way things are, justifying all the reasons why they can’t be different, and preparing for the worst.”

What if your life could be irresistibly abundant?  

You are enough!

“If my aim is to prove I am “enough,” the project goes on to infinity because the battle was already lost on the day I conceded the issue was debatable.”  ~Nathaniel Brandon

I talk to women all the time that honestly believe they’re broken, and that life is a problem to be solved.  Somewhere along the way they lost their ability to be enchanted by life.

Friend, you are enough and worthy just as you are.  It is the belief in your worth that allows you to become magnetic.  

My work offers opportunities for you to get to know yourself and to join a circle of kindred spirits.  

I hope you take advantage of my free workbook, Rise Above Your Own Midlife BS.  

Space is limited for the book club in June, but I’m planning future book studies.  Make sure you are invited to the next one by subscribing to Tiff’s Tidbits, a weekly email!

I’d love to chat with you!

I would also like to invite you to try coaching.  As a life coach, I help you wade through your BS, and then level up your belief in possibilities.   

I’ve helped clients land new jobs, improve relationships, define their perfect partner and believe they exist, and reach for their ideal weight.  

You can create the life you want.

I’d love to chat with you.  Schedule a consultation by clicking my calendar link and pick a date and time that works for you.  

Here’s to discovering an abundant life!

Tiffany

~And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helping women rise above their own BS.  Truly live an abundant life!

Could you be missing the sign?

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of reinvention and certified life coach helps you see the signs you are missing.  Helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.

Could it be that you are missing a good sign?

I love a good sign!  

During my time as an antique dealer, I had an affinity for old rusty signs with unusual stories. 

In the fall of 2012, a really fun guy past through my booth at Texas Antiques Week.  He was on the hunt for cool stuff for his new bar on East 6th St., which at the time was an up-and-coming area of Austin.  He liked an old rusty sign with the word Whislers on it, but didn’t commit as he walked off into the fields.  At the end of the day he showed back up to purchase the sign that would become the name his new bar, Whislers.  

I like to think about stories like this when I feel uncertain. The right sign will eventually appear. Or in this case, the right buyer will take the sign home.

Take a drive

Instead of getting frustrated when I experienced writer’s block this week, I put it aside for the day on Saturday.  

Jeff and I drove to Austin to visit our son.  As usual, we were early and had time to kill.  Fortunately, I saw a sign. The Rising Sun Vineyard directional signs led us down a long dirt road that seemed a little iffy at first.  Curious, we continued until it opened up to one of the prettiest drives.  

Following the signs to this beautiful winery was pure serendipity. 

Move towards fun

Fun is often overlooked when feeling uncertain or frustrated.  Stepping away from what is on your mind allows answers to present themselves.  

Roller skate, call a friend, take a drive, get out in nature, watch a funny movie, etc.  

From a relaxed space, you can surrender to the mystery that allows opportunities to appear.  

Discover Enchantment

Getting away by taking a drive or finding fun is the first step.  The second step is to believe that something magical can happen.  

Enchantment is a kin to serendipity, and comes from a willingness to be touched or moved by something magical.

“To all of you who would like more excitement, pleasure, and satisfaction in your lives, please take note:  Enchantment is self-serve.  Opportunities abound, if you are available,”  Victoria Castle.    

If you were more available to the signs, what new possibilities might open up for you?  

Signs are not woo-woo

Looking for magical signs to appear can seem a little too woo-woo for some.  I get that!  

Consider the opposite of enchantment is control.  Needing to feel in control often feels graspy, and is an illusion anyways.  

In my experience, the mystery of life unfolds when I choose to believe in possibilities.  

Remove the fog to see the sign

If your mind-fog is too dense to step towards enchantment or fun, I can help you get clarity.  

Don’t miss the signs.

It often helps to have a listening ear, one who can help you get curious about what’s blocking you.  

I invite you to schedule a consultation with me.  I can lead you to find more excitement and satisfaction in your life.

If you hang out with me long enough, I will convince you that your best years are ahead!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

Tiffany Eckhardt, master of midlife reinvention and certified life coach.  Tiffany is dedicated to those who are ready to rise above their BS. And  helping you see the signs!