The life you desire is only a thought away

Dreaming of a life I create!

What is the secret sauce to making your dreams come true? 

Do people who realize their dreams have a secret sauce?  What if I told you that the life you desire is only a thought away?

Indulge in an exercises to stretch your dream muscle.  

I want to encourage you to take a break from marinating in “what is.”  Take a hot second to fully embody YOUR dream life!  Transport yourself into that life.  Build that dream with all the thoughts that excite you.  

What does it look like?  How does it feel?  What new skills did you learn?  How do you behave differently?  Where do you shop?  What car do you drive?  Who do you hang around with?  What fills your calendar?  What does a person who has your dream life think about on a daily basis? 

Embodying the dream is creating the future from the future

What are you willing to do to achieve the dream?  

I’m not talking about being willing to do something immoral or illegal.  I’m talking about addressing the thoughts that oppose your dream.  Although not as sexy as flexing your dream muscle, it is equally important to address all or your obstacle thoughts upfront.  

Would you be willing to risk embarrassment? Would you be willing to stick to a protocol or a calendar?  Can you think of possible attitudes that would creep in?  All these obstacles are currently just thoughts.  What if you created a strategy to nip those thoughts in the bud and replace them with thoughts that served you?

Identifying obstacles and creating a strategy ahead of time is creating the future from the future.

My dream is to create a 100k coaching business the first year as a coach.  

Wow.  I said it.  That is scary.  You might judge me.  Well, so what?

100K means different things to different people.  

  • Some might think, “who does she think she is with that outrageous goal?”
  • While others dismiss the goal as chunk change.  You might already have a million dollar business.

All those thoughts (good or bad) don’t matter when I am working towards my dream.  Both views are simply thoughts, beliefs of what is possible.  I could choose to think it’s impossible or easy.   

The only thing that matters in creating YOUR dream life is what YOU think!  

I’m a product of the product

I coached myself through this exercise by imagining what life will be like when I see 100k on my tax return.  Let me share my example so you can start applying it to your example.

First I flexed my dream muscle.  Honestly, at first I couldn’t begin to imagine how life will be different.  The exercise was harder for me than I thought it would be.  I meditated on it.  Nothing popped in my head. 

Then a brilliant idea came to me… What would you do if 100k landed in my lap today?  It all came to me as I began to journal.  I know exactly what I’d do with a 100k today.  I’d buy a Mini Cooper (because I’d look cute driving one), pay off Jeff’s car and pay off the random credit card debt we have.  Then I’d reinvest the rest of the money into developing a kick ass business.  I’d hire a web designer, enroll in Stacey Boehman’s 2k for 2k mastermind, and buy the equipment I need to create videos, podcasts and online seminars.  

The dream is worth it!  What am I willing to do to achieve it?

So, what is exactly standing in my way?  In addition to fear of rejection and the fear of failure, I have all the mind drama associated with a start-up. Creating systems for finances and time management will require a lot of planning.  Learning to create a website, funnels, creating videos and classes will stretch me. Hiring people to help me. It all sounds hard!  

I actually found myself thinking the second 100k would be so much more fun because it would be easy.  

WAIT>>>> why can’t I think it is easy NOW?????  

A light bulb moment!  I can think anything I want.  From now on, I will choose to think creating a 100k business is easy.  I will face each obstacle with the thought that it can be figured out.  My future self will be so grateful I chose to create from the future.  She will know it’s easy because it’s done.  I’ll trust her.    

Change your thoughts, change your life”  Wayne Dyer

Dreaming becomes realistic when you do thought work around the accomplishing the dream.  Realizing your dream is truly a matter of acknowledging your desires and identifying the obstacle thoughts you will need to strategically address.    

What thoughts are preventing you from stepping towards your dream life?  How does the thought make you feel?  How do you behave when you feel that way?  Are your results confirming your belief?  Do you want to change that?

I’d love to help you sort through your thoughts to create life on your terms.  Working with me will give you the clarity you need to move forward with confidence.  It truly is my passion to help women choose to think they can be, do or have anything they set their minds on!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

A future created from the future

Now is the time to create.  It’s time to decide what you want to believe.  The title of your next chapter is yet to be written.
Definitely not Grandma Maggie’s swing! 😉

Last week in Mid-Life Muse I touched on creating a future.  This week I’d like to chat about creating a future from the future.  

It may appear to be pointing out the obvious, but the future is in the future and not the past.  

Life is just getting started for me.  I’m currently writing the next chapter of my story with a future focus.  

This past weekend my Grandma Maggie would have celebrated her 100th birthday.  She missed the milestone by only 2 years.  I turn 50 years young this March.  By her standard, I have another 50 to live!  

I wonder what occupied her mind when she turned 50 years?  I know she was willing to try new things.    

Grandma Maggie took up golf in her 50s.  She wanted to spend time with my Grandpa, who had just retired.  Eventually her golf game was so good that my Grandpa wouldn’t play with her anymore.  That didn’t stop her from joining several golf clubs and earning numerous awards!  

She was spunky.  No grass grew under her feet.  She worked on her swing into her late 80s. 

Like my Grandma, no grass will grow under my feet.  I am capable of learning new things at any age.  I might just have to pick up golf.  

You are either creating from your past or your future. 

How do you experience your future?  This isn’t a trick question.

Your future is experienced now in your thoughts.  The same is true for experiencing your past. You can believe ANYTHING you want about your future and your past. LET THAT SINK IN!

I am surprised to learn just how many people are viewing their future through past experiences.  Even worse, most are totally unaware of the thoughts influencing your future.

Who are you?  Where do you go to answer that question?  Does past experiences shape your identity?  

The first step is to get curious about your thoughts concerning your life.  Then notice if the thoughts are based on the past or the future.  

Do you notice that you relive past experiences?  Is it possible that you allow those stories to dictate your future? Wether or not you are aware, you mind finds evidence to support what ever you choose to believe about your past and future.  

You have a choice to create a future based on past experiences, or based on a dream you create into existence.  Granted, some past experiences can be built upon.  Just be aware what is serving you. 

A couple things to keep in mind…

First of all, success does not have an expiration date.  Do not use your age as an excuse.

Secondly, your life is not on auto pilot.  You are the author of your story.  

Choose your thoughts… choose your future identity.

  • Were you a horrible student? You can choose to believe you are capable of learning something new.  
  • Have you always been overweight? You can choose to believe it’s possible to loose weight and be healthy.  
  • Have you been irresponsible with money? You can choose to respect money and learn how to budget.  
  • Do you think you are too old to run a marathon? Find examples of people who ran a marathon in their 90s.  

There are plenty of examples of people who overcame similar circumstances and limiting beliefs!

I have a ton of new beliefs about my future self!  In the past I avoided exercise.  Now, I am a girl who loves exercise.  I was a horrible student.  Now, I love learning new skills.  Heck, I figured out how to change my website server last week!!!  I might have to believe I am techy!!!  

Chart new territory

Mid-life is a blank slate to write on! 

Now is the time to create.  It’s time to decide what you want to believe.  The title of your next chapter is yet to be written.  

Start writing on your blank slate as if you were embarking on a new adventure.  You are going to uncharted territory. As the author, you can also be the editor.  Only pack thoughts that are useful for your future.  Delete the thoughts that don’t serve you.  

On your journey you will experience difficulties and unforeseen challenges.  You have lived through enough to know you can handle it.  Believe anything can be figured out.  😉

Test your focus

Here’s a little test.  Keep a log of all your thoughts throughout the day.  What percentage of the thoughts you think are based on the past?  What percentage of the thoughts serve you today? 

Are you feeling hopeful of the future?  If not, what exactly are the thoughts you think about your future?  

The power of our thoughts to create our future is mind-blowing.  It is literally my favorite subject to talk about.  I’d love the opportunity to help you write the next chapter of your story.  

I believe you can create a life on your terms by becoming future focused.

Check out Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach! Reach out for a FREE consultation.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Mid-life Muse

Tiffany finding her midlife muse.  Hire her as your midlife life coach!

I explored finding a mid-life muse leading up to my 40th Birthday.  I spent months interviewing successful friends for a series on my personal blog called Finding Your Muse, hoping to find purpose in an empty nest and new phase of life.

This time frame coincided with the real estate crash of 2008. It was a clear sign I needed to find my muse in a logical way. So, I quit real estate, sold my fancy car and went to Costa Rica for a month.  I was experiencing a crisis.  Unfortunately, MY muse was elusive!

BTW: thinking that a 40th birthday meant mid-life is adorable!  😉

Midlife Muse Found In A Shift

Many of my mid-life friends have shared that they noticed a definable shift at this stage of life.  In my recent article Are You Zesty, I explored three things seasoned women know.  I’d like to add a seasoned woman understands mid-life is a mindset, not a crisis.  

One friend shared that she developed a “F-U” attitude, finally giving herself permission to devote time and energy to herself.  Can anyone relate???

Wether your life has been devoted to family demands or a demanding career, you realize life has shifted.  You have more time and financial freedom than you once did.  Unfortunately this shift shows up as an identity crisis.  How do you get in touch with who you are and what you really want??? Spoil alert… you don’t have to travel far.

WELL, you don’t have to sell your fancy car and go to Costa Rica.  That would be crazy. 😉

Leading up to my 50th birthday, my muse found me in a mindset shift.  There is an enormous difference between my desperate approach to my 40th birthday and my quiet, reflective approach to my upcoming 50th birthday.  

A couple mindset shifts worth considering:   

1. You create YOUR identity

At times I found my identity in my family and friends or as an entrepreneur.  I am fiercely proud of my roots.  I am equally devoted to my wings and will unapologetically promote flying free!   

Cue Jessica Andrews’ Who I am video… 

I also have a pattern of looking for my identity in the opinions of others.  Good Lord, as a young homemaker living in the south my identity was wrapped up in a clean home.  I made my family nuts trying to clean up after them.  Last year I uncovered an unhealthily thought that was wrecking havoc on my identity.  I naively blamed the thought, “I don’t have the IT factor” for some of my business failures.  These stories did not serve me! 

You get to decide what thoughts you feed your mind daily.  I have noticed most people are totally unaware of what they think about themselves.  Do you realize you literally create who you are by what you think, consciously or unconsciously? 

A mid-life shift is the perfect opportunity to get in touch with what you really want.  Who do you want to BE?  What do you want to think about?  How do you want to feel?  How do you want to show up in life?  What skills do you need to learn or interests do you want to explore?  What ever you invest in NOW will create your future.  You might as well be intentional about it!  

2. Current trajectory is your future

Your future is not created in the past.  Many people limit their future based on what they were able to accomplish in the past.  Truly, your current situation has been created by the habits and the beliefs you developed over the years.  The good news is that YOU have the power to change the trajectory of your life by changing your habits and creating new beliefs!  

Mid-life is not time to take life for granted.  Be patient with yourself, but don’t wait for a written invitation.  Your future self will thank you!  

You are not alone

You are not alone in a mid-life shift.  If I can make this shift, you can too!  

“Most people find themselves flying too close to the ground.  Too often we don’t give ourselves permission to soar!” Price Pritchett

Give yourself permission to soar.  Choose to embrace mid-life by finding your muse in a mindset shift.  

I’ve enjoyed coaching many women who are ready to create a life on their terms!  I’d love the opportunity to help you get in touch with your midlife muse.  Read Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach. Then schedule you FREE consultation!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

We Are Fancy! Mister Rogers Said So!

Yep, we are fancy!  Mister Rogers said so. Must be true! 

Let me tell you my FANCY story. 

Once upon a time, my real estate career came to a premature end.  In 2008 the real estate market tanked, along with all my hopes and dreams at the time. 

Not long after I quit, my colleague Wes invited me to apply for an inside sales job at a local manufacturing company.  I had reservations.  I am not corporate or like following rigid rules.  Could I sit at a desk all day???  I decided to apply and successfully made it through an interview.  I knew I’d get it!  Wes knew I was a hard worker and good enough at sales. 

Can you imagine my shock when he called to request a second interview?  I remember telling Wes, “What the heck?  You know me.  What on earth could they need to ask me?”  Wes assured me it was just the policy of the HR department.   UUGH – stupid rules.  As I walked out my front door the morning of the second interview, I turned to asked Jeff, “I have no idea what this could be about, do you have any advice for me?”  His reply was classic Jeff, “I can’t think of anything but, {insert a long pause} this is your one chance Fancy, don’t let me down.” 

I got the job.  It lasted six months.  Turns out I can’t sit at a desk.  I saved all the money from that job for an epic trip to Italy with Jeff.  So, I technically did not let him down.   

Jeff called me Fancy, it must be true.  LOL!  Friends have nicknamed me Fancy ever since then.  I own it!

Are you FANCY?

 If fancy isn’t your thing, what do you want to be known for?  

  • A career can not determine your identity.  
  • Opinions of others can not determine your identity.  
  • ANY outside influence can not determine your identity.  

The truth is YOU determine your identity.  You tell the story of YOUR future by choosing the words you want to identify YOU.  What words would you choose? Use a Thesaurus!  Try on words as if you would try on clothes in a dressing room.  

  • Why did you choose certain words to describe yourself?
  • Do you like your reasons?

Hey seasoned woman… this is YOUR season. Be zesty! Let the words of Mary Oliver inspire you.

Hire Life Coach, Tiffany Eckhardt to help you work through who you want to be.

Steps to become who you want to BE

1. The first step is to identify what you would like to accomplish.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? Mary Oliver

Allow yourself to dream big about YOUR wild and precious life.  If you could do ANYTHING this year, what would that be?  Get creative! What do you want your commemorative stone to read?

Don’t prejudge wether you think it is possible right now.  Really, the more impossible the goal the better!  Then write it down!  

2 ask yourself, “who will I need become to accomplish your impossible goal?”

Success leaves clues.  Do you know of anyone who has done what you hope to accomplish?  Make a list of attributes that person has.  

You are worth becoming the person of your dreams!   Make a list of 25 ways YOU are Fancy, fabulous, zesty, improbable, beautiful, etc!

What do you want to believe about yourself? 

3. Finally, make a list of obstacles that would prevent you from becoming the person of your dreams. 

Remember:

  • Thoughts cause feelings 
  • Feelings cause actions (behavior) 
  • Actions create results.  

It is important to understand the 60,000 daily thoughts that are rogue in your subconscious.  There is a story line in your mind that limits who you can become or achieve.  Take control of the story!  

You know yourself.  Think about the ways you will most likely let yourself down and sabotage your story? 

Make a list of 25 obstacle thoughts.  You can compare the Fancy list to the obstacle list.  

Out smart your brain by identifying the negative thoughts ahead of time.  Your brain will subconsciously use those thoughts against you. 

Now build a plan to address road blocks from a place of authority. Decide ahead of time how YOU will respond to obstacle thoughts with planned responses.  

You are FANCY!

I hope you take the time to create this one wild and precious life!  You are FANCY (if you want to be).  

You can accomplish ANY worthwhile goal if you are willing to become the person who makes that goal a reality.  Take control of your thoughts, feelings, actions and results.  

I have had the honor to work with several people in the last couple months.  It is rewarding to help people question their thoughts and develop thoughts that serve the life they want to create. 

Every brain needs a coach.  I’ve experienced a powerful transformation with coaching and self-coaching.  I’d love the honor of working with you!  Learn More: Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach

I’m rooting for you!  Happy Holidays!!!!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Lessons from an inspiring walk in the woods… becoming the person in the commemorative stone.

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It was an ideal fall day in the southern hills of Ohio, perfect weather for an inspiring hike in the woods.  My parents and I wanted to enjoy nature before the weather turned wet and blustery the next day.  They took me to a park I had not visited yet, knowing I’d love it.  

The beautiful park made my heart happy! The grounds had been lovingly developed and maintained by naturalists. A community lodge reflected in a picture perfect pond surrounded by large mature trees.  The trails had a colorful blanket of freshly fallen leaves and smelled heavenly! I was already inspired.

As we walked from the parking lot to the park entrance, a commemorative stone honoring a local naturalist caught me eye.  The first sentence stopped me in my tracks.  

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“Charles R. Goslin. A man of uncommon energy, knowledge and remarkable accomplishments…”  

Charles had uncommon energy.  

Heck, I want to be know for uncommon energy!  I was not even aware that uncommon energy was a cool attribute until I read Charles’ commemorative stone.  How do I cultivate that? 

I currently practice a daily habit of journaling a list of who I want to BE in the form of affirmations:  I am a supportive wife.  I am a loving mother, daughter, sister and FANCY (aka grandma).  I am a loyal friend.  I am a life coach to women who want to create their best life.  Recently I added attributes I want to cultivate in 2020: tenacious, gritty, genuine, creative, connected and courageous.   

Now I MUST add uncommon energy to my list!  

What will your commemorative Stone Read?

Your best life is created with intentional habits and clarity of purpose. Goals are not the end game… it is the person YOU become in accomplishing the goals. It is the “commemorative stone” that makes us FEEL fulfilled. 

To get started, ask yourself the following questions….

1.What do YOU want to BE known for?

2. What were YOU known for in 2019?  Would you change anything?  

3. What do YOU want to be known for in 2020?  Why?  Do you like your reasons?

NOW develop a list of attributes YOU want to cultivate in becoming the person of your dreams. Journal these attributes in the form of affirmations daily. “I am….” Writing them down daily as a reminder of how you want to show up in life is the secret sauce in becoming the person of your dreams! 

So… What will YOUR commemorative stone read???? Who do YOU want to become in reaching your goals? 

Let me help you

I’d like to offer a caveat: it is not possible to control what other people think of you.  The most important thing is what YOU think of yourself.  The most amazing thing you can do for your future dream self is to cultivate the attributes you want to be known for.  Your future self will be grateful for whom you decide to BECOME today.  

I am currently working with women who want to create their best life in 2020.  I’ve already helped several women set a goal to jump start their decade.  I promise YOU, it is so worth the time and investment.  

I am offering a FREE goal session to anyone who commits to a 6 month coaching package to kick start their new decade. A goal session is a $150 value! PLUS… committing to a 6 months package saves you $200 off the cost of monthly coaching! SAVING $350 IN TOTAL (packages must be purchased in the month of December 2019). Email me for details! 

Save money and become the person of YOUR dreams… write your own commemorative stone! It will be the best gift you give yourself this holiday season! 

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!