I am

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.
My nickname is Fancy for a reason. 🙂

Fill in the blank to the statement: I am….

Do you believe other humans are better than you, but you want to believe you are 100% worthy?  Who decides your worth anyways? 

I shared on a recent Facebook Live my epiphany of my own worth after ruminating about a disagreement I had with someone I had respected.  My convictions were mocked. I completely understand not everyone needs to agree with me, but the conversation took a mean tone implying that I was less than.  

My coach helped me to clearly see the thoughts causing me to feel unworthy.  I had wonder if what this person was implying about me was true.  

Am I less than?  

Am I more than?

No, I am.

I am enough.  

Words do not define you

You do you.  Here’s the god’s truth, only you define you.  Unfortunately, you may have let words spoken by well meaning people define you.  

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

My mentor, Brooke Castillo, coached a lawyer who let the words of a well meaning colleague determine the law she chose to practice.  Someone told this beautiful, well educated woman who immigrated to the United States as a young adult that she should not choose litigation because of her accent.  From that moment this woman believed that her accent was a determent to her success.  She resisted hearing that Brooke adored her accent.  I loved her accent too!  Who will she choose to believe now?  Why is it easier to continue the old story in her head than to embrace a new belief about her accent?

No matter what parents told you.  No matter what the kids at school told you.  Your boss, your spouse, your teacher or anyone you respect does not have the right to define you.  

Thoughts you have about yourself define you.  

I am enough

“Feelings are a shadow of your thoughts.”  jewel

Do you wondered how you would define your worth if you were skinnier, prettier or richer?  

The biggest lie you can choose to believe is that you have to change yourself to fit a mold to qualify.  What if you already qualified?  Your feelings help you reverse engineer your thoughts about yourself.  

How do you want to feel?  Changing your weight will not achieve that feeling.  Changing your thoughts will.  If your thoughts are like food, what are you feeding your body?  Junk food or whole nourishing food?

Give yourself permission

“Your worthiness is already at capacity, and nothing you have done or will do makes you less worthy as a human,”  Brooke Castillo.

You are 100% worthy.  You deserve the life you dream of.  

When you believe you are already worthy, you give yourself permission to live in abundance, confidence and self-love.  Your energy for life increases.  What you project to others changes. 

What have you waited your whole life to give yourself permission to do?  

I am

I know what you are thinking.  How do I change my thoughts?  How do I believe these radical thoughts about myself?   

You can tell me all the things as if you are reading the news.  I am unlucky, unpopular, have made mistakes, was not born into the right family.  I am too old.  You don’t know what I’ve been through.

These are the common thoughts that I help my clients work through.  I help you see yourself as who you want to be.  Who you are.  I help you create the life you want by developing thoughts that will energize you with confidence.

If you are ready to give yourself permission to to do what you’ve waited your whole life to do, let me help you.  Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  We can chat about what has always held you back and look at what will help you believe you are worth it.  

You are worth it.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky! 

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Uncommon Energy Source

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead.

The park memorial stated, “A man of uncommon energy.”

That park memorial sparked my own epitaph, or at least what I want to be known for.  Tiffany Eckhardt, a cockeye optimist who’s death found her living with uncommon energy.

What is uncommon energy?

The memorial also sparked my curiosity.  What is uncommon energy? 

Uncommon energy is actually a feeling.  Much like any other energy-producing feeling, such as motivated, fascinated, inspired, vigorous, dynamic, energetic, etc.  

Uncommon energy propels you to take massive action, embrace life with enthusiasm, contribute to your family and community with passion, and do what it takes to realize your dreams.  

Uncommon energy creates singular people who are willing to work against the grain.      

I know what your thinking, “sign me up!”  Just kidding.   

You may not aspire to uncommon energy, but have ever considered the idea that your feelings propel you or keep you stuck?  

Generate feelings 

There are two types of feelings; feelings that are energy-creating or feelings that are energy-depleting.  

As a certified life coach, I teach thoughts generate feelings.

Here is an example from my own life….

I was recently coached on thoughts that will help me build my business.  I often indulge in distractions; like surfing social media, projects around my house, etc. My coach helped me identify the thought that was actually causing my procrastination.  

My opposing thoughts: 

  • “I’m not doing enough” 
  • “I’m willing to do what ever it takes.”  

Can you feel the difference between those two thoughts?  

Thinking that I was not doing enough was defeating and depleted my energy.  The other thought creates a feeling of determination and fuels massive action.  

What thoughts would you need to think to generate energy-creating feelings?  

Try on some of these thoughts….

  • I am capable
  • I am in the best shape of my life
  • Doing what I love energizes me
  • I am making a tremendous contribution

How do you access feelings to create a life?

Take a moment to think about what you truly want to achieve in life. 

How do you believe you will feel when you achieve it?  The truth is you can actually feel that way right now. What thoughts would support your desire?  

If this concept blows your mind, you are not alone.  

It took me a while to wrap my head around the power of my thoughts.  When I made the decision to be known as a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy, I knew that managing my mind is key to creating that outcome. Death will find my living!    

This is my life’s work.  I love helping women discover thoughts that are creating the life they have, and develop thoughts that will better serve them.  It sounds simple enough, but what I’ve learned is that most people have no idea why they are feeling stuck, frustrated, or unhappy.  They just need a little push to generate energy-creating thoughts.  

If this is you, schedule a FREE mini session with me, someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  Click on the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Jumping off points in life, do you take the leap?

At jumping off points in your life, do you take the leap?

Jumping off with a resident sting ray

In the midst of planning for our Gadabout Gals trip to Belize, I came across of a picture on Instagram of a young girl jumping with abandon off the pier of our vacation rental.  It spoke to me.  That girl seemed to embody a fearless abandon that I longed for at the time.  I knew I had to recreate that scene for myself.  I wasn’t about to let that young thing have all the fun.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Life Coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life

It was scarier than I expected on the day of the envisioned jump.  I had a cheerleading squad on deck to encourage me that I am that girl.  I have a rule… no swimming in water I can’t see clearly what I swimming with.  Even though the fear was real, I jumped.  I did not look as carefree as that young thing, but it was a rush.  I don’t remember how I exactly got out of the water, but I’m sure it was in record time.  

Later we learned that there was a resident sting ray living under the dock.  I pondered my jump.  Would I have jumped if I knew about our pet sting ray we affectionately named Franklin? 

Jumping into the crystal blue

When the Gadabout Gals planned our epic trip to Italy, I had no plans of brave adventure.  I felt more romantic than fearless.  The group planned several boat trips with Blue Star Positano to frolic on the Amalfi coast in crystal blue water.  It is gorgeous!  

On a day trip to Capris, our captain Massimo anchored us near a cave to go swimming.  I was thrilled.  Crystal clear water meant that I can see everything!  Great!  That is until our captain started to throw bread crumbs out for the fish.  I freaked out!  

This time I could see exactly what I was swimming with.  Was I really ready to jump in?  Would I be able to swim into the amazing cavern????  

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.
Fun fact: Turns out Gadabout Kelly is WAY more fearless than me!

Yes, of course! 

Jumping off points

My stories of tested bravery has me thinking about jumping off points in life.  How do you respond to the times when you face fear.  Do you jump?  Or do you wait until you are ready?

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.

Would I have been ready to jump off the pier in Belize if I knew I would be swimming with a resident sting ray?  Yes, of course.  I jumped in the crystal blue waters of Amalfi, despite the fish I knew I’d be swimming with.  

In the new book, Everything is Figure Outable Marie Forleo addresses the idea of starting before you are ready.  She uses a technique called future tripping.  Most people view future tripping as the tendency to worry about the future at the expense of the present.  Marie flips that trip to ask herself, “In ten years, will I regret NOT doing this?” 

There are two types of pain you will go through in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, while regret weighs tons.  ~ Jim Rohn

In other words, would my 60 year old self regret not taking the leap in Belize or in Italy?  I never want to disappoint my future self!  

How many times do we miss out on an amazing rush of adventure because our thoughts convince us that the worse case scenario is definitely in our future?  

Or worse yet, how many times do we miss out on any opportunity in life because you did not feel ready?  The truth that Marie Forleo reveals is, “You are never ready to do the important things you’re meant to do.”  

Manage YOUR jumps

It is very simple.  Manage your mind, manage your life.  The way you think about the opportunities to leap matter.  

Thoughts produce feelings, which create action.  It’s all the thought, Feel, Act Cycle.  After years of wondering if there was something seriously wrong with me, I learned a couple tools that I wish my twenty year old self knew.  In my FREE guide to Unlock The Secret To Knowing What You Want In Life I share how YOU can use the power YOUR thoughts to create the life you really want.  I am living proof!

~Tiffany 

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Awesome Women over 40

A message for women over 40 that has resonated with all my Facebook friends today!

Finally have control of my thoughts concerning who I am, about food and cocktails, etc

A message from Andy Rooney… LOVE THIS MAN!

In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40:

“As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jack off, or if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.”

The BIG 50

Yep, I turn 50 next month. I can honestly say I am super excited! I have taken creative control of my life and it feels AWESOME! This is my time! I’m having a midlife awakening! This is my decade! I have dreams, plans and am more self aware than ever before!

Light yourself on fire with passion and people will come from miles to watch you burn.

Author Unknown… but I KNOW I’d love them!

The best part

I’d like to offer that the best part is that you can take creative control of your life at any age!

Wow… I can’t even begin to imagine my life {and the lives of my favorite people} if I’d taken hold of this mindset when I was younger. DANG!

Mindset and thought work is now my life’s work as a certified life coach. I love taking a deep dive into what women really want.

What are you waiting for?

I’d love to help you take creative control of YOUR life!

Reach out to me! Set up your FREE consultation. Or go ahead and book your three month session. Let me help you see past your “reality”. There are other options to see YOUR life! There is a better way. I can help you get there!

Book Now!

Your Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit,

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Final 2019 message on failure

This is my final message on failure, for 2019. I’ve talked a lot about the fine art of failing. 

Failure is not taught in school.  Yet, all the successful people I’ve studied this year have harnessed the power of failing forward.  

Recognize YOUR script on failure.

  1. Can YOU agree?  
  • Life is 50/50 good & bad.  
  • Nothing worth having in life is handed to you.  
  • There is a lot you can learn from failure if you are curious.  
  • Failure can be good or bad.  You decide.

2. What is failure?

Failure is simply YOUR unmet expectations.  No one can define failure for you.   

2. How do you view failure?

  • Do you view it as something that happens to you from outside sources?
  • Do you view yourself as the failure, somehow broken and not capable?

Either approach to failure will not serve you!  YOUR approach to failure becomes a familiar story in your mind that will block any attempt to pursue greatness.  You are the captain of your own destiny.

For my recent Fail Friday Facebook Live, I shared Pema Chödrön’s book Fail. Fail Again. Fail Better.  Her wisdom can help flip the script on the olé familiar story.

  • View failures as portals of discovery, a chance to get creative and to learn something new.  
  • Be willing to feel a wide range of feelings when things don’t go the way you want them to.  {Rage, upset, sadness, loneliness}.  
  • Notice what you do in this space. Do you blame others?  Do you call yourself a failure? 

Get curious about your failure thoughts

Don’t believe all the stories that play on repeat in your mind, simply get curious about them.  Take time to ask yourself questions.

What is your inner dialog saying?  

How does the story impact your feelings?  

What actions do you take when you feel that way?  

What results are you getting from that space?  How is that working for you?

OK… enough talk about failure. Let’s Kick 2020 into gear by celebrating the 2019 successes.  

Success is defined as something that works out the way you expected it to. Focus on your 2019 successes and toot your own horn! 

Your homework, take a hot second to think good thoughts about yourself. Trust me it is fun!  

1. Make a list of ten successes you are proud of from 2019.  

  • Did you loose weight?  
  • Did you read the books you wanted to read?  
  • Did you travel?  
  • Did you buy that thing you’ve always wanted?  
  • Did you learn a language?  
  • Did you repair a relationship?
  • Did you start a business?
  • Did you reach a financial goal?
  • Did you get that raise?
  • Did you learn a new craft?  

Only YOU can determine what can be on that list.  

I firmly believe in the power of creating the life you want.  

What ever is on your list add the sentence “I created this.”  Friend, I promise you did something out of the ordinary to achieve that result.  

  • I lost twenty pounds and can wear that dress.  I created this.” 

2. Now imagine what you want to report on December 31, 2020.  

Take time to imagine yourself on December 31,2020.  Can you imagine how you will feel when you make your list of 2020 accomplishments at the end of next year? On the last day of 2020 what do you feel most proud of? What actions did you take? What results are you celebrating?

From this space, make your future list NOW.  Blow YOUR own mind in 2020!  Become the person of your dreams!

I am a product of the product.  

I spent nearly 50 years believing I was a failure, like there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I finally took hold of my thought life and am curious about my beliefs. I am proud of the person I am becoming.

I did the homework, and was blown away by my list of accomplishments in 2019.  Yes, I had unmet expectations.  I am not a failure. Failure doesn’t happen to me. I decide what it means in my life. I am free to recognize my own script and flip it!

Creating my 2019 list inspired me to create a list for 2020.  I’m excited to create the 2020 Tiff!  This is going to be the best decade of my life!

Let me help you create the life you want in 2020!  I will help you identify exactly where you are, where you want to go and the obstacles that will be in the way.  We’ll make a plan to hurdle any failure and celebrate all successes!  

I am offering coaching packages for 2020. Purchase a three month package before January 1, 2020 to receive a free copy of Pema Chödrön’s book Fail. Fail Again. Fail Better.  

Happy New Year!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

Are you Zesty?

Does your success have a deadline?  

This is a big year for me!  I became a certified life coach, opened our first guest house and turned 50 years young.  I’m actually very excited about my big milestone year, despite the COVID shutdowns.  I truly believe this will be the best decade of my life.  I always love to have something zesty to look forward to.

Honestly, it did bother me a little that it took 50 years to hit my stride.  I found myself thinking, “I should be successful by now.”  The word “should” is a red flag!  Should we be anything?  

I changed my thought to, “this is my season!” 

Say the two thoughts to yourself.

“I should be successful by now”

“This is my season!”

Don’t they feel completely different? I feel motivated to discover what I’m truly capable of with the thought “This is my season!”  

AND SERIOUSLY…. Does success have a deadline?  

It’s time to be zesty!

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

There are so many examples of women who launched successful businesses later in life.  Martha Stewart, Julia Childs, Vera Wang, Estée Lauder, etc.  Even if you aren’t interested in starting a business in this season, these women are reminders that it is never too late to create the life of your dreams.  

A seasoned woman is definitely not a rookie.  She has experienced life and knows how to turn obstacles into possibilities.  She has learned to be ok with her authentic self.  In fact, she has the confidence to be zesty in this season of life!  

Three things a seasoned woman KNOWS

1.  A seasoned woman is well aware life is 50% good and 50% bad.  

2.  A seasoned woman understands the importance of failing forward.

3.  A seasoned woman knows her seasoning is unique and valuable.

What are YOU going to do with your season?

The Pulitzer Prize winning poet, Mary Oliver once posed the question,

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?” 

Do you believe that you can create the life of your dreams at any season of life?  

I do!

This decade of my life will be zesty!  I have learned the art of failing forward and am ready to create the life of my dreams through intentional thought management.  I will be gritty, seasoned with both passion and perseverance.  

I’d love to help YOU believe the best years are ahead.  Schedule a FREE mini session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want.  You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams. Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.

Here’s to living a ZESTY LIFE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


What do curios people know?

What do curious people know?

What if curious people hold the secret to a successful life?  

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  Could curiosity be the secret?

Travel has taught me to be curious. I love to wander the streets of cities we visit. I always wonder what is around the corner. Could there be something amazing to discover the next street over? Jeff and I have been lost more than once. Curiosity led Michele, Jeff and I to Paolo Sandulli’s art castle in Praiano, Italy. I’d say that was a successful day!

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.  

Jeff Bezos’ childhood was marked by curious chaos.  Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what he enjoyed.  She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.   

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  Walt Disney

Curious people are known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow.  

See why I am drawn to curious friends?  They are kindred spirits who create their lives.  

Questions are the answers

What if curious folks just learned to ask good questions?  What if questions are the answers? 

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,”  Jeff Bezos.

Curious people tend to be innovative, not content with the status quo.  They are willing to question how they show up in their valued relationships, how their thought life effects their emotional balance and how to contribute with influence and purpose.  

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?  

How curious are you about YOUR life?  

I’ve seen firsthand the benefits of questioning my thoughts.  The right questions exposed strategic and obstructive thoughts.  Every thought creates a feeling.  Feelings influence our behavior, which gives us our results.  

Questions led to discovering what I really want in every area of my life.  

Let’s get curious about the thoughts that are creating YOUR life in three important areas.  

Ask yourself…  

1. Am I self aware?

What is my current thought? {Right now… as I read this.}

How do I feel about that thought?

Do I like that thought?

What if I thought a different thought?   

Do my thoughts contribute to my wellness?  Why or why not?

2. How do I want to show up with my family and friends?

How am I doing?

What thoughts do I tend to think about my loved ones?

Are my thoughts correct, and strengthening my relationships?

Can I think different thoughts?

3. Am I doing work I love?

How do I define a successful life?

Do I like my definition?  

Why do I even want to be that version of success?

You get the idea… what questions would you ask yourself if you were curious?  Can you imagine a better life if you asked more questions?  Do you believe you have the power to change your life by changing your thoughts, creating feelings that serve you and taking action from the place of pure curiosity? Your best life could be just around the corner. 😉

Curious, do you need help?  

Don’t let yourself off the hook.  This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.  Do you need to enlist help from someone who will objectively listen to your line of thinking?  

I’d love to offer my services to you.  Are you curious how I can help YOU solve the issues in your life?  A coaching session will help you explore your thoughts with curiosity.  There is a system to unlocking the results you want in your life.   The first session is FREE!  

Do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  

Here’s to a cultivating curiosity!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!