Get to know her

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coaching teaching you to get to know "HER"

I’d like to encourage you to get to know “HER.”

Do you ever wonder what your future self will look like and feel uncertain what she even wants, but on the other hand… you desperately want to believe the best years are ahead?  

So, wouldn’t it be great to get to know her (your future self) now?  

I’m thankful that I took action to get to know “her” in 2017

I experienced a Wellness Awakening in January 2017 after a horrible hysterectomy that haunts me to this day.  It was a wake up call. As I laid in bed in the worst pain of my life, I decided to never have another surgery. Enough was enough!

As I researched wellness practices, I began dreaming of being an energetic woman, with abundantly creativity and having a life full of adventure.  I slowly became aware of how I wanted to show up for life and what changes I needed to make.  As I look back, I am so grateful that I took the time to create the person I am today.  

Questions to discover her.

Stop waiting for magical certainty to show up.  Take a step back and seriously look at your life.  Self-aware is always the first step. Start by asking yourself a few questions.

  1. Identify what thoughts you regularly have about your life. 
  2. What emotion would you say is most common for you? 
  3. Would you change anything?

Now, give yourself permission to dream.  What does your ideal future self look like?  How does she feel about life?  Who does she spend her time with?  What brings her the most pleasure?  Why is that important to her?  Get to know her in vivid details.   

You must be future focused.

Can we all agree that life after lockdown will never be back to “normal?”  Now, more than ever, you can not rely on the past to dictate the future.  This is good news!  

Become future focused by deciding what is possible for your future self.  Ignore the old playbook.  It doesn’t exist anyways.  

Set her up for success

What are the biggest obstacles between who you are today and the life you want to create?  When you identify roadblocks you are able to set yourself up with solutions ahead of time.  

It will be fun to get to know her! Your future self is waiting for you to create the life you both want. I can help you identify where you are at, where you want to be and develop a plan for success. 

Unsure you need coaching?

Look, I understand that hiring a life coach feels indulgent.  You may be asking yourself, “will coaching really make a difference?”

Well, I don’t want you to waste another day wondering!

I have the perfect remedy… try a FREE mini session.  It is a 45 minute call with someone who truly believes that you can create something great for yourself and your best years are ahead.    

Click the link below and then choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you have swagger?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women create swagger

You may be good at beating yourself up for eating the third piece of pizza or forgetting an important zoom call, but hardly ever give yourself credit for the twenty years you spent raising competent children who are now making their way in the world.  So, learning to possess swagger will take some practice.  

Fail Friday

I brought up bragging during my Fail Friday on May 7th.  I shared a three-step daily practice that includes bragging, gratitude and desire.  Focusing on the “trinity” thoughts daily will drastically improve your midlife wellness awakening.

First of all, I believe failure has an important place in your growth.  My weekly Facebook Live called Fail Friday is designed to highlight failure and give examples of people who use their failure as stepping stones to success.   

Sara Blakely is a great example of the importance of acknowledging failure.  Her Dad set her up to embrace failure by insisting on a nightly tradition of sharing failures at the dinner table.  

When it comes to failure, I definitely have swagger.  Unfortunately, it is rare that I’ll boast about a success.  Why is that? 

Focus

What ever your mind focuses on you will attract in your life.  It is easier to focus on problems to be solved than to celebrate a success.  So how do we switch our focus to swagger?

To redirect focus, stop yourself with the statement, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

For example, you notice that you really don’t like feeling out of control when you’ve had the third glass of wine.  The next morning you get up not feeling yourself and start beating yourself up for that third glass.  Stop beating yourself up and proclaim, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

The Swagger Practice

You may have more of what you don’t want stored in your subconscious.  You simply need to deposit more swagger into the story you rehearse in your mind.  

Dr. Northrup shares in her book Goddesses Never Age a daily practice of bragging, gratitude and desire  “I think it is fantastic for bringing perspective to your daily experiences and remembering how challenges set you up to more deeply appreciate blessings.  Doing this exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of getting through a To Do list.’

So SWAGGER!

  1. Think of something to brag about.  It doesn’t have to be earth shattering, just a thought you can be proud of.  You don’t have to share it publicly, but definitely record it in a journal to look back on.  
  2. Identify something you can be grateful for.  This is different from a brag.  What blessing in your life fills your heart with joy?
  3. What do you desire?  This should be out of reach.  If money or time were not an object, what would you want? 

I LOVE the idea off doing this daily activity with your wingwomen.  It will uplift your tribe and encourage swagger.

Swagger takes practice

You can attain a life your proud of and enjoy getting out of bed for.  If the idea of creating daily swagger is resonating with you, I’d love to help.  I can help you sort through the thoughts that are keeping you stuck.

I help midlife women figure out where they are and where they want to be.  

I am offering a FREE mini session for you to test drive a coaching session.  It’s a pain free way to see if coaching is for you!  

Click the link below and choose a date on the calendar!  It is that easy.  

~Tiffany

And the bird fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Are you Zesty?

Does your success have a deadline?  

This is a big year for me!  I will become a certified life coach, open a our first guest house and turn 50 years young.  I’m actually very excited about my big milestone year.  I truly believe this will be the best decade of my life.  

Honestly, it did bother me a little that it took 50 years to hit my stride.  I found myself thinking, “I should be successful by now.”  The word “should” is a red flag!  Should we be anything?  

I changed my thought to, “this is my season!” 

Say the two thoughts to yourself.

“I should be successful by now”

“This is my season!”

Don’t they feel completely different? I feel motivated to discover what I’m truly capable of with the thought “This is my season!”  

AND SERIOUSLY…. Does success have a deadline?  

It’s time to be zesty!

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

There are so many examples of women who launched successful businesses later in life.  Martha Stewart, Julia Childs, Vera Wang, Estée Lauder, etc.  Even if you aren’t interested in starting a business in this season, these women are reminders that it is never too late to create the life of your dreams.  

A seasoned woman is definitely not a rookie.  She has experienced life and knows how to turn obstacles into possibilities.  She has learned to be ok with her authentic self.  In fact, she has the confidence to be zesty in this season of life!  

Three things a seasoned woman KNOWS

1.  A seasoned woman is well aware life is 50% good and 50% bad.  

2.  A seasoned woman understands the importance of failing forward.

3.  A seasoned woman knows her seasoning is unique and valuable.

What are YOU going to do with your season?

The Pulitzer Prize winning poet, Mary Oliver once posed the question,

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?” 

Do you believe that you can create the life of your dreams at any season of life?  

I do!

This decade of my life will be zesty!  I have learned the art of failing forward.  I am ready to create the life of my dreams through intentional thought management.  I will be gritty, seasoned with both passion and perseverance.  

I’d love to help YOU create the life of your dreams with self awareness and intention.  Schedule a coaching session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want.  You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams.  Your first session if FREE!

Here’s to living a ZESTY LIFE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

What do curios people know?

What do curious people know?

What if curious people hold the secret to a successful life?  

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  Could curiosity be the secret?

Travel has taught me to be curious. I love to wander the streets of cities we visit. I always wonder what is around the corner. Could there be something amazing to discover the next street over? Jeff and I have been lost more than once. Curiosity led Michele, Jeff and I to Paolo Sandulli’s art castle in Praiano, Italy. I’d say that was a successful day!

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.  

Jeff Bezos’ childhood was marked by curious chaos.  Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what he enjoyed.  She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.   

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  Walt Disney

Curious people are known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow.  

See why I am drawn to curious friends?  They are kindred spirits who create their lives.  

Questions are the answers

What if curious folks just learned to ask good questions?  What if questions are the answers? 

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,”  Jeff Bezos.

Curious people tend to be innovative, not content with the status quo.  They are willing to question how they show up in their valued relationships, how their thought life effects their emotional balance and how to contribute with influence and purpose.  

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?  

How curious are you about YOUR life?  

I’ve seen firsthand the benefits of questioning my thoughts.  The right questions exposed strategic and obstructive thoughts.  Every thought creates a feeling.  Feelings influence our behavior, which gives us our results.  

Questions led to discovering what I really want in every area of my life.  

Let’s get curious about the thoughts that are creating YOUR life in three important areas.  

Ask yourself…  

1. Am I self aware?

What is my current thought? {Right now… as I read this.}

How do I feel about that thought?

Do I like that thought?

What if I thought a different thought?   

Do my thoughts contribute to my wellness?  Why or why not?

2. How do I want to show up with my family and friends?

How am I doing?

What thoughts do I tend to think about my loved ones?

Are my thoughts correct, and strengthening my relationships?

Can I think different thoughts?

3. Am I doing work I love?

How do I define a successful life?

Do I like my definition?  

Why do I even want to be that version of success?

You get the idea… what questions would you ask yourself if you were curious?  Can you imagine a better life if you asked more questions?  Do you believe you have the power to change your life by changing your thoughts, creating feelings that serve you and taking action from the place of pure curiosity? Your best life could be just around the corner. 😉

Curious, do you need help?  

Don’t let yourself off the hook.  This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.  Do you need to enlist help from someone who will objectively listen to your line of thinking?  

I’d love to offer my services to you.  Are you curious how I can help YOU solve the issues in your life?  A coaching session will help you explore your thoughts with curiosity.  There is a system to unlocking the results you want in your life.   The first session is FREE!  

Do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  

Here’s to a cultivating curiosity!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

3 Mistakes Choosing An Exit Strategy

Does your current circumstances have you feeling caged in a life you didn’t choose?  Do you have an exit strategy?  Let me share what I believe are 3 mistakes choosing a working exit strategy.

A few reasons you might not even have an exit strategy.

  1. You love the life you created
  2. You don’t believe there is a choice
  3. You have a pattern of self-sabotage
  4. You are telling yourself stories about your abilities
  5. It’s not the right time to try something new
  6. There isn’t enough money to explore dreams
  7. I don’t have support from family or friends
  8. I’m too old
  9. I’m too young
  10. I need to be perfect

There are infinite reasons to excuse yourself from living the life you want to create.  I believe we all have limiting beliefs that keep us caged.  It is important to recognize the storyline you’ve created for the life you currently have.

A working exit strategy?

According to a recent Forbes article on retirement by Robert Laura,

increasing number of baby boomers are disenchanted with their current careers.  They’re worn-out from years of the corporate grind and don’t feel the connection between their job and the people it impacts outside their office walls or company grounds.  They’re shifting their focus from accumulating a giant nest egg to a desire to be part of something bigger and better… to have a positive effect on others… and working in retirement.

This concept can be applied to any segment of society.  You don’t have to be a baby boomer to wake up and realize you aren’t satisfied with your current trajectory.  An exist strategy is a shift in focus.

I don’t profess to have all the answers.  God blessed me with a tenacious spirit, bent on sharing my imperfect journey with the world.

I “woke up” a couple of years ago after a series of unfortunate health issues.  My journey is committed to promoting wellness and entrepreneurship.  In the process, I chose to leave a traditional business model (my store.)  I’m now apart of a “clean” movement in wine and wellness.  I’ve embraced social selling and enjoy developing leaders who want to have an impact on the world.

A business model for personal growth with a compensation plan.  ~Bob Heilig

I know you love lists!  Here are the top ten benefits of developing the social selling business model.

  1. Low investment
  2. No overhead
  3. Shipping, product development, customer service is handled
  4. Can be part-time
  5. Freedom to work from anywhere
  6. Contribute to a movement
  7. Personal development
  8. Passive income
  9. Impact helping change people’s stories
  10. Surrounding your life with enthusiastic people

3 mistakes in choosing a working exit strategy.

I’ve been teetering a learning curve for the past two years.  I’ve approached this new journey several different ways.  Here’s what I know to be important…

1. Product

You must have a product you believe in.  The product could be a life changing consumable, fun clothing, fitness related, wellness related, education, coaching or technology.  There are a gazillion options.

You don’t need to become an evangelist to be excited about a product.  I think endless product pushing has given the social selling business model a bad name.  Unfortunately, I’ve been guilty of being over zealous for the products I represent.  Rather, choose a lifestyle product and join a bigger movement.

2. Company

Is the company apart of the Direct Sales Association?  I would say that most companies are reputable.  It doesn’t hurt to check.

What is the company’s mission?  What is their outlook for future growth?  Does the company have a plan to help you succeed in the first ninety days?  Is there continual product education and personal development?

3. Leadership

Ideally you will be working closely with the people who invite you to join a company.  What investment will they make into your success?

The leader who invites you to join the company should be committed to growth.  Do they treat the opportunity like a business or a hobby?  Can they clearly articulate their exit strategy?

Are they interested in your goals and dreams?  Do they know the reason you want an exit strategy?  Leaders who are serious about your success will check in regularly to encourage you and offer experienced perspective.  Remember, the success of your leader depends on their investment of time and resources in developing you as a leader.

The beauty of social selling is community support.  Does the leader foster community space to share ideas, successes and failures?  Do they offer consistent opportunities to interact in Facebook groups, monthly meetings and special events?

Do you have an exit strategy?

Flown The Coop has always been dedicated to those who can’t be caged.  I am committed to helping entrepreneurs, makers and creatives.

Side note:  Please remember to support your friends who are blazing a trail.  These entrepreneurs are the new “Mom & Pops” fighting the Amazons of the world.  And they have more of an impact in their communities!

Have you considered your options, questioned your beliefs and/or contemplated your dreams for the future?  Does an exit strategy excited you?  Let’s chat!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Destination shopping

As much as I love hitting the open road, it is refreshing to discover a fun destination close to home.  Annette’s Touch of Class, located north of Houston, isn’t your typical junking experience!

I LOVE a good success story

I had the privilege of meeting Annette at the Dallas Market Center Vintage Home.  Annette and her daughter Megan have spent the past ten years creating a successful retail business, eventually expanding to wholesale and trade shows, selling unique apparel and accessories.  In May they celebrated the Grand Opening of their 5000 square foot “spirited” shopping experience, complete with a full soda bar, man cave, child’s area with tv and a barn filled with unique junque (my fav).

This mother and daughter team got it right, in my opinion.  🙂  They have created a fun destination that can be enjoyed by the whole family.

Sensory Overload

My junque senses were in overload!  I love their creative displays using awnings, old signs, car parts, benches, etc.  I saw something to ooh and awe at everywhere I looked!

 

Family Friendly

Who doesn’t love an old fashion soda fountain?

And a place to park the hubby!

The Red Barn

Owning a barn like Annette’s would be a dream come true!  🙂

Abel, a young junker in training, was impressed too.  🙂

Inspiration

I enjoyed a fun morning shopping Annette’s, looking at all their creative displays and junking in the red barn.  I left inspired by the successful business Annette and Megan built together.  And I definitely recommend taking a road trip to visit them!