Questions are the answers

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach with Flown The Coop.  Let her help you create a life YOU are excited to get out of bed for.

What if curious people understood questions are the answer?  

Do you long to wake up excited to get out of bed and be the person you know you can be, but just not sure how to get connected with that life?  What if questions are the answers and curiosity is the key?

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?

Successful people know questions are the answer

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.  

Jeff Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what her son enjoyed.  She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.   

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  Walt Disney 

Questions are the answers

Curious folks just learned to ask good questions.  

Are you known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow?

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,”  Jeff Bezos.    

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?  

How curious are you?  Don’t let yourself off the hook.  This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.  

Here are a few questions to spark your curiosity….

Are you doing what you truly want to do?

How many promises have you kept to yourself?

If you could clone yourself, which of your characteristics you wouldn’t want to be cloned?

Who do you admire and why?

Is there anyone who inspired your life today?

What are you most proud of?

If happiness was a currency, how rich would you be?  

If today was the end of the world, what would you do?  

I hope you came up with some of your own questions!  

Does creating a life resonate with you?   

I’d love to offer a FREE mini coaching session.  The mini session is simply a chat with someone who truly believes your best years are ahead.  

Click on the link below and pick a date on my calendar.  It is really that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her wiring “YES” in the sky.  

You are not broken

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach for midlife wellness... permission to soar!
Permission to soar

Have you ever wondered if something in your life is not right or perhaps you’re broken… yet you are not willing to give up on your dreams?

You are not broken, you just need permission to break free from your cage and soar.

Milestone birthdays

Milestone birthdays are generally catalyst for serious life evaluation.  Leading up to my milestone birthday, I decided that this next phase of life would be epic.  I’ve reached the age that I officially don’t care what others think of my choices.  

I don’t know about you… but I’d like to see more midlife women defy the rules of what this season is supposed to look like. 

Do you believe your soul is ageless?  

Think about it.  

According to Dr. Northrup, “You can change your future starting today by adopting a new, ageless attitude that will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.”

Agelessness is about chunking society’s ideals of what women of a certain age should focus on, look like, dress, be, do, have, etc.  Lord knows you’ve tried to fit in society’s boxes your whole life.  Their boxes have left you feeling broken or not able to measure up.  

Forget that!  Give yourself permission to break free from that cage and soar.

I say it’s time to unstuck your brain

After you’ve given yourself permission to soar into a vision you create for midlife, you’ll need to unstuck your brain from the old, worn-out story you once believed.  You need to replace it with a well-crafted story that serves you and your dreams.  

Address negative emotions

The worst thing you can do for yourself is hold onto destructive emotions.  

“Negative” emotions are indicators of unmet needs that need to be processed for healing.  Think of emotions as your guidance system, pointing to the areas in your life that need to be addressed.  

Emotions like sadness, despair, and unworthiness have an adverse effect on your wellness and keep you stuck in a life that you don’t want. 

It is helpful to process these emotions and not ignore them.  That is where I can help… as a certified life coach I can help you identify what is causing the “negative” emotions so you can release them. 

Curious about coaching? Check out my article: 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

Focus on “causes of health”

Wellness is my jam.  {Yep, I just said jam.}  I love studying “causes of health.”  It makes more sense to me than always reacting to disease.  

It is society, the medical establishment, big Pharma, etc who support a belief that disease and infirmity are inevitable.  

My personal plan is to be “ninety three and prescription free” as Gladys McGarey, M.D. proclaims.  

You have a choice to focus on wellness.  There are plenty of actions you can take to promote wellness; like eat whole fresh foods, get outside, move your body, feed your mind, get good sleep, remove the toxins from your home, etc.

I’d like to offer that Self-Aware is the first step in Self-Care.  The best place to start a wellness journey is your thoughts about it.  What do you actually believe is possible?  Why is it important to you?

For me, I want to soar into midlife and eventually retirement with the energy of a twenty-something.  I want my obituary to read, “Tiffany Eckhardt was a cockeyed optimist with uncommon energy.” 

Do you need to unstuck your brain concerning midlife wellness?  

Surround yourself with positive influences

The tribe I hang with vibrates in another reality entirely.”  Gladys McGarey, M.D.

It helps to surround yourself with people that are crazy enough to believe that YOU can create a life.  In fact, your friends can be your biggest cheerleaders for midlife wellness.  

Positive influences can also be found outside your circle of friends by following podcasts, reading books, subscribing to YouTube channels, etc.  Who are your go-to influencers who encourage you to live fully?

Unstuck your brain and give yourself permission to soar.  

If you find yourself stuck and you want to start living the life you know is possible, I’d love to help.  I offer a free mini session for those who are curious about what a life coach can offer.  

I am a master at reinvention and have an abundant belief in possibilities.  But what totally makes a difference is the tools I’ve learned to utilize.  

If you are curious, schedule your free mini session today by clicking the link below and choosing a date on the calendar.  It really is that simple.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky. 

Do you have swagger?

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women create swagger

You may be good at beating yourself up for eating the third piece of pizza or forgetting an important zoom call, but hardly ever give yourself credit for the twenty years you spent raising competent children who are now making their way in the world.  So, learning to possess swagger will take some practice.  

Fail Friday

I brought up bragging during my Fail Friday on May 7th.  I shared a three-step daily practice that includes bragging, gratitude and desire.  Focusing on the “trinity” thoughts daily will drastically improve your midlife wellness awakening.

First of all, I believe failure has an important place in your growth.  My weekly Facebook Live called Fail Friday is designed to highlight failure and give examples of people who use their failure as stepping stones to success.   

Sara Blakely is a great example of the importance of acknowledging failure.  Her Dad set her up to embrace failure by insisting on a nightly tradition of sharing failures at the dinner table.  

When it comes to failure, I definitely have swagger.  Unfortunately, it is rare that I’ll boast about a success.  Why is that? 

Focus

What ever your mind focuses on you will attract in your life.  It is easier to focus on problems to be solved than to celebrate a success.  So how do we switch our focus to swagger?

To redirect focus, stop yourself with the statement, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

For example, you notice that you really don’t like feeling out of control when you’ve had the third glass of wine.  The next morning you get up not feeling yourself and start beating yourself up for that third glass.  Stop beating yourself up and proclaim, “NOW I know what I don’t want.”  Then ask yourself, “What do I REALLY want?”  

The Swagger Practice

You may have more of what you don’t want stored in your subconscious.  You simply need to deposit more swagger into the story you rehearse in your mind.  

Dr. Northrup shares in her book Goddesses Never Age a daily practice of bragging, gratitude and desire  “I think it is fantastic for bringing perspective to your daily experiences and remembering how challenges set you up to more deeply appreciate blessings.  Doing this exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of getting through a To Do list.’

So SWAGGER!

  1. Think of something to brag about.  It doesn’t have to be earth shattering, just a thought you can be proud of.  You don’t have to share it publicly, but definitely record it in a journal to look back on.  
  2. Identify something you can be grateful for.  This is different from a brag.  What blessing in your life fills your heart with joy?
  3. What do you desire?  This should be out of reach.  If money or time were not an object, what would you want? 

I LOVE the idea off doing this daily activity with your wingwomen.  It will uplift your tribe and encourage swagger.

Swagger takes practice

You can attain a life your proud of and enjoy getting out of bed for.  If the idea of creating daily swagger is resonating with you, I’d love to help.  I can help you sort through the thoughts that are keeping you stuck.

I help midlife women figure out where they are and where they want to be.  

I am offering a FREE mini session for you to test drive a coaching session.  It’s a pain free way to see if coaching is for you!  

Click the link below and choose a date on the calendar!  It is that easy.  

~Tiffany

And the bird fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

A Wellness Awakening

My Wellness Awakening

I experienced a Wellness Awakening in January 2017, after a horrible hysterectomy that haunts me to this day.  It was a wake up call.  I began researching how to create my own wellness practices.

For three years I explored natural remedies, the power of the mind, and learning how to move my body to stay well.  I don’t live in fear of illness because I am proactive with wellness!  

Grateful for my personal wellness journey, I went from a total lack of hope in 2017 to empowered freedom that has served me well during the 2020 lockdown.

Have you experienced an awakening during lockdown?  

Have you taken inventory on what you hold as essential during this time of isolation?  What is on your list?  Here are a few of mine….

Hugging loved ones is at the top of my list!  Funny, because I’ve never been a touchy-feely type person, at least not in public. 

Freedom to go about a “normal” life!  Movies, restaurants, coffee shops, trips to the beach, having a party, going to hear live music, etc.  

Spreading the truth about wellness!  It is essential that I share the freedom of a managed mind, eating well and a body in motion with everyone. 

We only control a few things….

The truth is we control very few circumstances.  Lockdown has driven this truth home to me.  

A friend of mine shared an article with me that rocked my lockdown world.  Patience during a pandemic: What we can learn from a POW and a Roman slave-turned-philosopher

This article reminded me that the human spirit has the power to overcome the darkest, worst side of humanity.  And that people really do have the ability to write their own story, even when freedom is stripped.  

A tug of war between what is inside and outside of control

In the article, Sara Israelsen-Hartley describes The Stockdale Paradox. James Stockdale, a Vietnam vet, survived 7.5 years as a prisoner in Hanoi Hilton.  “Stockdale’s approach was to come up with a way of actually functioning in the circumstances in which he found himself so he could deal with that day in, day out, for as long as it went on.”  Israelsen-Hartley goes on to explain how Stockdale survived using the Stoic philosophy of compartmentalizing what can be controlled and what can not be controlled.

“In the 30 seconds before he landed and was pounced on by more than a dozen waiting Vietnamese soldiers, Stockdale accepted that soon nearly everything would be outside of his control — even his own body.

But his opinions, judgments and attitude, his grief and joy? Those feelings and emotions were entirely within his control.”

There is hope in an Awakening 

So, what can you control?  Your mind.  Your wellness.

I want you to be empowered by this!  Your mind is in your control, therefore wellness is within your control.  Simply put, you can be proactive instead of reactive.

While freedoms have been surgically removed by a mysterious virus, people all over the globe are awakening to the importance of health and wellbeing.  

“Your thoughts and beliefs are the single most important indicator of your state of health.”  Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D.  (From her book Goddesses Never Age)

It is science!  “Studies by researchers such as Richard Davidson of the University of Wisconsin show that mindfulness practices rewire the brain, resulting in greater immunity and improved ability to manage stress and emotions.”  Dr. Chistiane Northrup, M.D. (Goddess Never Age)

Has the COVID-19 been a wake up call for you?

Self-aware is the first step in self-care.  Let self awareness empower you to create an audacious wellness practice!

Instead of waiting for a health crisis, why not live a lifestyle that prevents it in the first place?  Awaken to the idea that you can control your state of wellbeing.  You have choices.  You can decide to be well.   

Maybe you have never took time to think about your wellbeing.  Time is definitely a commodity that is abundant during lockdown.  Lockdown is giving you time to awaken to the idea of audacious wellness! 

Now is the perfect time to create daily wellness practices and strategies to get through the pandemic for however long as it lasts.  A life of Awakened Wellness can be yours!

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Self-awareness is investing in thought work that can uncover limiting beliefs concerning wellness.  

If a wellness awakening is resonating with you, but your not exactly sure where to start?  Click the box below to schedule a FREE MINI SESSION!

I’d love to chat about your Wellness Awakening!  Schedule a FREE MINI SESSION to uncover where you are and where you would like to be by clicking the link below!

Here’s to the Wellness Awakening!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Will you shut down during lockdown?

ALWAYS BEEN A BIT OF A DREAMER! This was taken before my hair went grey 🙂

Last week I notice a shift from a feisty “get’er done” attitude about the COVID-19 lockdown, to a lethargic F’It attitude.  

We are so close to the end, let’s finish strong!  

With a little effort, it is possible to live well during quarantine.  We were born to create and are naturally innovative, not vegetative.  

Be YOUR hero of YOUR health!

Self-aware is the first step to self-care

First, I would like to offer a huge dose of grace.  Don’t shut down your emotions.  A good cry is therapeutic.  Feelings are an indication of your thoughts, which are totally in your control once you understand how to manage your mind.  

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.  I had a complete melt down when I had to cancel my 50th backyard birthday bash.  I have a good cry every time I think that I could have seen my new grandson, who would have been at my party.  Thankfully, my life coach helped me reframe my thoughts to remember that I can still be connected to them even if it’s not in person.  

A good laugh is medicine too.  That one takes a little effort, but so worth it.  I found Leslie Jordan on Instagram www.instagram.com/thelesliejordan (You’re welcome)

Our mental health is under siege.  

I totally understand getting lost in the last season of Shits Creek or scrolling through social media to get your mind off the lock down.  Just don’t completely shut down your gorgeous mind, shut off the tv and social media!  

This is actually an awesome opportunity to learn something new, create something amazing, or discover something about yourself.  Y’all can’t say you don’t have time!  You simply need to manage your mind!

Innovate.  Create.  Be amazing! 

Your future self will thank you!  

Don’t shut down your imagination!  

Look into your future.  How do you see yourself in a year?

In retrospect, how does your future self feel about lock down?  Will she be glad you watched the Tiger drama, or proud of the victory garden you planted?  Is she ready for her first 5k run, or worried about loosing the Corona 15 she gained (weight gained during the lock down)?  

I don’t know what is important to you, but you won’t achieve it by shutting down your imagination.  

You don’t have to spend all your time productive to be proactive.  Just pick one goal you would like to accomplish in April.  Is your future self worth it?  

Human needs

It is safe to say that COVID-19 has sabotaged our six basic human needs, unless you hold uncertainty as a priority.  The six basic human needs are certainty, uncertainty, love/connection, significance, growth and contribution.  Meeting the need for love and connection, certainty or significance may seem hard during lockdown, but growth and contribution are totally within your control.  

Seriously, don’t let the lockdown shut down your basic human need for growth and contribution!  Finish the lockdown strong!  

Get coaching!

Does the idea of managing your mind resonate with you, but not exactly sure how to apply it to your life?  Click the box below to schedule a FREE Mini Session!  A FREE Mini Session is a 45 minute zoom call where I can help you wrap your mind around where you are emotionally and where you’d like to be a year from now.  So you can be the hero of your health.

As always, I am rooting for you!  Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

The practice of audacious wellness. Five steps to be well.

Life coach Tiffany Eckhardt, works with women who practice audacious wellness.

My audacious wellness practice

My practice of audacious wellness began in January 2017, after a horrible hysterectomy that haunts me to this day.  I promised myself that I would do everything in my power to never have another surgery, which inspired my research on creating my own wellness practices.

I do not have a degree in medicine or nutrition, but wholeheartedly believe in the power of my mind to find solutions through books, podcasts and YouTube videos from people who hold degrees and have done case work on the subject. Finally, I do my own experiments on what I learn.  This led to my dairy allergy discovery, explaining my constant break outs.  

Although rare and not covered by insurance, there are doctors willing to create a personalized approach to wellness, before there is a health crisis.  

Will you be the hero of your own story

A highly functioning immune system

Our bodies naturally fight off infection through the immune system.  In fact, our bodies are always working on our behalf.  

I can honestly say that I have not been sick since 2017, except for the occasional self-induced hang over, which rarely happens now that I manage my mind.  I’ve learned to listen to my body and be proactive.  It would be naive to think that I’ll never get sick.  The idea is to provide my body resources to fight off any attack through a strengthened immune system.   

The human body is fascinating and should be addressed as a whole, and on an individual basis.  I don’t subscribe to a one size fits all approach to wellness.  I believe one hundred percent in taking personal responsibility through managing the mind, choosing what you put in and on your body, and evaluating the products you allow in your home.  

If all this feels overwhelming, let me offer you five common sense steps to practice audacious wellness.  You will be surprised to learn most are free and easy.  

1.Thought work

Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

An important step to making any change in your life is thought work.  Journaling is free and easy

Regularly do a “thought download” and observe your thoughts. What do you believe about wellness? What do you want for your body and mind? Why do you believe certain thoughts about wellness?  Do you like your reasons?  

Just as people might discover limiting beliefs concerning money, it is possible that you will discover limiting wellness beliefs.  Get curious about what you believe regarding your health and wellness.  

“It’s time to remind ourselves that today’s thoughts and actions become our legacy.” ~ Brendan Burchard

Can you imagine a life practicing audacious wellness?

2. Food is medicine!

This is not a revolutionary idea.  My favorite author on this subject is Dr. Axe.  His book Eat Dirt was the first book I read on the subject.  

Unfortunately our society has lost this awareness.  Replacing immunity boosting foods with fast and fake food.  A recent trip to Walmart highlighted this reality for me.  People were standing in line for an empty toilet paper isle, but the fruits and veggies isles were fully stocked.

I highly recommend a YouTube search of Dr. Axe’s videos.  He is a wealth of FREE information!

3. Vitamins found in natural places boost the immune system

Foods rich in Vitamin A help boost the immune system.  Choose mangos, grapefruit, dark leafy veggies, salmon, ect.  A quick google search will give you more ideas

Vitamin D has the power to destroy viruses, bacterial and fungi.  Experts suggest that the best way to get vitamin D is to be outside midday and soak in the sunshine.  This is especially important for office workers who have very little sun exposure.  Thank God sitting in sunshine is a free and easy step towards wellness. 

Vitamins are proven safe. If you want an in-depth lecture on the subject, tune into Dr. Shiva, an MIT Biologist PhD who studies epigenetics and systems biology.  He has several video lectures on how your immune system works and the benefits of Vitamin A and Vitamin D3.   

4. Exercise

Can anyone disagree that exercise is important?  

I did extensive thought work to embrace exercise.  My “story” was that I hated exercise and did not have a body built for it.  Looking back, that thought is funny.  I’m thankful to my past self for taking the first step past resistance.  

Here’s how my thoughts gradually changed:

“it is possible for me to exercise.”  

“it is possible for me to like exercising.”  

“I enjoy an increase in energy and the satisfaction of offering myself self care!”  

Make a decision to pursue physical activity and don’t negotiate with yourself.  

Start small.  Walk.  Get outside and walk your neighborhood, a free and easy step in the right direction.  Find community to exercise with.  It is always fun to do it with friends.  

5. Breathe & meditate

Feelings are vibrations (energy) experienced from a thought.  Habitual thoughts create the story of our lives, which produces the environment for either wellbeing or an weakened immune system. 

Breathing is a form of renewal, breaking the cycle of resistance.

Test this out.  Think thoughts that upset you in the moment.  Where do you feel it in your body?  Now think happy thoughts.  How is the experience of joy different from anger?  

It is unrealistic to believe there will never be uncomfortable thoughts.  Anger and upset increase the fight or flight response.  Breathing can calm the response and allow space to create better quality thoughts.  

Taking time to breathe and meditate is a free and easy step that allows for the creative juices to flow.  It really is good medicine! 

Where to start

Self-aware is the first step in self-care.

“Our problem as humans isn’t that we are inadequate, wrong, or broken: our problem is that we believe we are.”  Dr. Sue Morter

This list of five common sense steps to practice audacious wellness is by no way exhaustive.  Can you get curious about your own wellness and research ways to take responsibility?

There is not a one size fits all approach to wellness or to addressing a weakened immune system.  I believe with the abundance of scientific information available, it is possible to understand your own body and find both preventions and solutions.  

Do you practice audacious wellness? 

Wouldn’t you love to be the hero of your own wellness journey?  

Self-aware is the first step to self-care.  I’m offering a FREE mini session on practicing an audacious wellness practice.  I can help you discover where you are in the journey and where you’d like to be.  From there you can create a wellness mindset and strategies that will help you take creative control of your life.  

Book a FREE mini session

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

The truth is data drama is cramping my style

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  Are you suffering from data drama?
How ya feeling????

Is data drama cramping your style?

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.   In today’s blog I will share insights from my journal in hopes that it will help you navigate the chaos created when data drama cramps your style.  

The struggle is real.  At this point, are your thoughts and feelings “large and in charge?”

It dawned on me today that I have fallen into information overload.  I can quickly get sucked into my iPhone apps, scrolling through Instagram and Facebook.  Before I know it, I’ve spent hours down a rabbit hole searching for truth and researching possible solutions. 

YEP, data drama is cramping my style.  It is time to take charge of my thoughts and feelings, live for the moment and create a future that motivates me today.

An a-ha moment while doing a thought download.  

Thank God for journaling!  Thought downloads are extremely important during times of chaos.  Journaling clarifies thoughts on paper and indicates where feelings are coming from.   

It dawned on me today that data drama is like the toilet paper phenomenon.  Investing hours in getting to the facts can be compared to standing in line for toilet paper.  It is an attempt to maintain some control over the uncontrollable. 

As if anything outside ourselves can be controlled. 

The only thing YOU control is YOUR thoughts.  What ever you focus your attention on becomes YOUR truth.  

How about allowing an alternate scenario equal airtime?   

I am not suggesting anyone should burying their head in the sand in ignorance.  It is important to be well informed and know what you believe.  Just understand, it is natural for your mind to obsess over the worst case scenario. 

It takes seventeen seconds for a thought to produce the vibration of a feeling.  If you feel tense or angry, take a hot second to to pause.  What thought produced the feeling of fear, anger, etc. 

“Do you want to feel fear or fierce?” ~Brooke Castillo  

Shut off the data drama long enough to give creativity a chance to shine!  You are in control of your storyline.  Give innovation and curiosity equal airtime.   Your unique talent is in desperate need in this moment. It would be a shame if data drama stole your thunder.

Ask yourself:

1. What do I want?

It is easy to know what you don’t want.  It takes practice to train your brain to look for what you do want.  A more beneficial thought might be, “how do I want to feel?” 

Data drama exposed my need for certainty.  So, I am choosing to look for thoughts that will serve my need for order. Instead of thinking, “This is a really scary time, feels worse than 2008.” I am choosing to think, “Jeff and I are in a better space mentally to deal with what ever presents itself.” Notice which thought gives me power over the unwelcome feeling of uncertainty.

Do you need to pivot?

2. What if this is happening for me, not against me?

Taken from Tony Robbins’ playbook… This is the best question to ask when looking for alternative scenarios.  Your mind makes up shit about the circumstances, so you might as well make up some shit that works for you!  Resist the worst case scenario. You control the narrative!  

3. How can I create and contribute?

Out of the six basic human needs, growth and contribution are the spiritual needs. Using the circumstance as an opportunity to learn, create and serve humanity allows you to connect with your soul! Can you create something that will add value to your community? Are opportunities for growth presenting themselves? What can you do to help your neighbors?

“If you can’t do great things, Mother Teresa used to say, do little things with great love. If you can’t do them with great love, do them with a little love. If you can’t do them with a little love, do them anyway. Love grows when people serve.” John Ortberg

My commitment to solutions

I am dedicated to those who can’t be caged!  Let me offer freedom from data drama! During this season I am committed to:

  1. Sharing information & resources
  2. Promoting wellness & immune health
  3. Asking quality questions
  4. Offering to listen 
  5. Coaching those who want practical ways to deal with real feelings.  
  6. Teaching the tools to manage thoughts
  7. Promoting & supporting my entrepreneurial friends & neighbors
  8. Sending love to this world!

As you can see I have NO time for data drama!  

Reach out to me if you need someone to listen.  I offer a FREE one hour consultation for first time clients. In that hour, I help you clarify how you really want feel and how to create thoughts to produce that feeling.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you have the luck of the Irish?

Lucky?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women take creative control of their lives.
Lucky Me… don’t pinch me!

Do you have the luck of the Irish on your side this week?  I wear green on St. Patty’s day in honor of my Celtic friends and to avoid being pinched!  

I looked up the term “luck of the Irish” and learned it was coined during the gold rush years.  The most famous and successful miners were Irish.  Their success was attributed to sheer luck. 

I may be “lucky enough” to have a small percentage of Irish ancestry, but I don’t attribute luck to success, or feel unlucky with lack of success.  Of course I will always welcome luck!  My heart flutters at the idea of luck choosing me, but I understand my role in the husbandry of my future. 

“You’ve got to do your own growing no matter how tall your father was.”  Irish proverb

So let’s play with creation.  How do you create a life you want, with or without the magic of luck?

A managed mind creates opportunities for luck.  

Information continually bombards us on a daily basis.  Our brilliant minds funnel the information to avoid overload.  “They” call it confirmation bias.  

Here is a simple example how my mind funneled information:  I want to retire Miss Dixie, my truck. She served me well as an antique dealer, hauling a trailer of goodies for years.  Now that I have a new “hat” I long to drive something sporty and definitely not owned by the masses.  I made the decision that an off-white Mini Cooper Countryman would be fun.  Literally the moment I chose that car I saw them everywhere!  Weird, until then I hardly noticed them.  

How does confirmation bias affect our opportunities?  An unattended mind will offer only what is programed in a belief system.  Do you believe in lack, you will see lack everywhere.  Do you believe in abundance, you will see abundance everywhere.  In other words, your mind will present evidence to only what you believe. It might be time for a pivot!

The good news is that you get to choose your thoughts and create from any belief system you cultivate.  In fact, a managed mind can create opportunities.  

Give your creative juices room to breathe!  I believe inspiration comes when your mind is at rest.  Occasionally unplugging from information overload allows ideas to flow and the mind to dream.  Daily journalling has helped me to get crystal clear on what I want and choose thoughts that serve the life I want to create.  

Success leaves clues. 

I first learned the concept of success leaving clues from Tony Robbins.  He teaches that instead of reinventing the wheel, look to the ones who paved the way.  There are teachers everywhere!

Sure, life is a great classroom.  I’ve learned many lessons from the school of hard knocks.  Now that I’m entering my 50’s I’m getting wiser.  I prefer to invest time and money into podcasts, books and seminars to learn from other people’s hard knocks.  

A word about hard knocks:  don’t let them surprise you or derail your dream.  I love what Elizabeth Gilbert shares about enduring disappointment in her book Big Magic.  It’s part of the job of any creative.  She quotes Mark Manson, “the secret to finding your purpose in life is to answer this question in total honesty:  Whats your favorite flavor of shit sandwich?”  Because if you love something enough then you don’t mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.  Fail forward my friend!  

Everything is figure-outable.  

I can’t stop talking about Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figure-outable.  If you train your mind to believe that one statement, there is NOTHING you can’t do!  

“Almost everything needed to make your dream a reality requires new skills, experiences, and understanding.  You must do things you’ve never done before.”  Marie Forleo.  

Create your own luck by training your mind and being a student of success.  In doing so you’ll be an inspiration and possibly attract the luck of the Irish!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Need a pivot? How A Life Coach Can Help You!

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach helps women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.

Do you need to pivot? Have you noticed that no matter what you do, some circumstances in your life seem to be stuck?  I promise that there is a thought you simply need to pivot from.  

When you understand that thoughts cause the results in your life, it changes everything!

Let me offer you some thoughts I often hear.  

Familiar thoughts to pivot?

“I just need a break from my thoughts.”  

“I have no idea what I want.”

“Why do I keep self sabotaging?”

“The deck is stacked against me.”  

“Why won’t he/she would just do….”

“My boss is a ….”

“I hate that I can’t seem to get my finances in order.”

“Why can’t I just loose the weight?”

“I’m worried…”

“I’m angry.”

I’m not good, talented, pretty… enough.”

A good life coach can help you flip the switch.  They will help you recognize the thoughts that run on auto pilot and offer thoughts to pivot your feelings, behavior and results in life. 

An opportunity to pivot can present itself in a variety of life circumstances.  You don’t need to be facing a mid life crisis to realize that you need a change.  Regardless of the circumstance, a pivot can happen when you take control of your thought life.  

How can I help you pivot?

Through the work of Brooke Castillo I learned a proven model that helps identify the thoughts that keep you stuck.  Thought work is a powerful tool in self awareness and mental health.  I’ve personally used it to improve my marriage, loose weight, become a girl who loves exercise, make decisions, set goals and learn to love who I am.  

I love this work!  I am passionate about helping people have a-ha moments and pivot to what they really want in life.  

During a coaching session with me, I listen to what your experiencing.  I want to know all the thoughts you have about your circumstances. Next we will examine your thoughts and identify pivots. A pivot happens when you learn that thoughts are interrelated to feelings, actions and ultimately your results in life.  

We will work together to create a future from your future.  So, don’t expect me to drudge up all your wounds from the past.  Although the story you’ve created around your past is effecting your life.  We want YOU to become the hero of your own story and pivot to a new chapter. 

You will need the help of a therapist if you have trauma from abuse or addictions. 

What kind of person hires a life coach?

People who want to pivot.  

I freakin love my coaches!  I’ve experienced numerous pivots working with coaches at the Life Coach School and peer coaching.  They help me discover something new about my thought life every time.  Every brain needs a coach!

I work with women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  You are a person who hires a life coach if…

  • You’re tired of the patterns in your life. You have a vague idea that life could be so much better.  Do you know what you want in life?  Maybe you can’t understand why you do what you do.  
  • You know that you have so much to offer the world and want to pivot towards creating your life.   Self awareness is the key to self care.
  • Are the hero in their own story.  
Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach helps women who are ready to take creative control of their lives pivot.

Free consultation

Does the idea of pivoting intrigue you?  I’m offering a FREE consultation!  This is a no pressure hour of chatting about where you are in life and where you would like to go.  If I am a good fit for you, then we’ll set up sessions to help you pivot to the life you want to create.  

I wholeheartedly believe that YOU have the power to take creative control of your life!  I’d love to guide you in the pivot! Learn more by reading: Three Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Jumping off points in life, do you take the leap?

At jumping off points in your life, do you take the leap?

Jumping off with a resident sting ray

In the midst of planning for our Gadabout Gals trip to Belize, I came across of a picture on Instagram of a young girl jumping with abandon off the pier of our vacation rental.  It spoke to me.  That girl seemed to embody a fearless abandon that I longed for at the time.  I knew I had to recreate that scene for myself.  I wasn’t about to let that young thing have all the fun.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Life Coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life

It was scarier than I expected on the day of the envisioned jump.  I had a cheerleading squad on deck to encourage me that I am that girl.  I have a rule… no swimming in water I can’t see clearly what I swimming with.  Even though the fear was real, I jumped.  I did not look as carefree as that young thing, but it was a rush.  I don’t remember how I exactly got out of the water, but I’m sure it was in record time.  

Later we learned that there was a resident sting ray living under the dock.  I pondered my jump.  Would I have jumped if I knew about our pet sting ray we affectionately named Franklin? 

Jumping into the crystal blue

When the Gadabout Gals planned our epic trip to Italy, I had no plans of brave adventure.  I felt more romantic than fearless.  The group planned several boat trips with Blue Star Positano to frolic on the Amalfi coast in crystal blue water.  It is gorgeous!  

On a day trip to Capris, our captain Massimo anchored us near a cave to go swimming.  I was thrilled.  Crystal clear water meant that I can see everything!  Great!  That is until our captain started to throw bread crumbs out for the fish.  I freaked out!  

This time I could see exactly what I was swimming with.  Was I really ready to jump in?  Would I be able to swim into the amazing cavern????  

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.
Fun fact: Turns out Gadabout Kelly is WAY more fearless than me!

Yes, of course! 

Jumping off points

My stories of tested bravery has me thinking about jumping off points in life.  How do you respond to the times when you face fear.  Do you jump?  Or do you wait until you are ready?

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.

Would I have been ready to jump off the pier in Belize if I knew I would be swimming with a resident sting ray?  Yes, of course.  I jumped in the crystal blue waters of Amalfi, despite the fish I knew I’d be swimming with.  

In the new book, Everything is Figure Outable Marie Forleo addresses the idea of starting before you are ready.  She uses a technique called future tripping.  Most people view future tripping as the tendency to worry about the future at the expense of the present.  Marie flips that trip to ask herself, “In ten years, will I regret NOT doing this?” 

There are two types of pain you will go through in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, while regret weighs tons.  ~ Jim Rohn

In other words, would my 60 year old self regret not taking the leap in Belize or in Italy?  I never want to disappoint my future self!  

How many times do we miss out on an amazing rush of adventure because our thoughts convince us that the worse case scenario is definitely in our future?  

Or worse yet, how many times do we miss out on any opportunity in life because you did not feel ready?  The truth that Marie Forleo reveals is, “You are never ready to do the important things you’re meant to do.”  

Manage YOUR jumps

It is very simple.  Manage your mind, manage your life.  The way you think about the opportunities to leap matter.  

Thoughts produce feelings, which create action.  It’s all the thought, Feel, Act Cycle.  After years of wondering if there was something seriously wrong with me, I learned a couple tools that I wish my twenty year old self knew.  In my FREE guide to Unlock The Secret To Knowing What You Want In Life I share how YOU can use the power YOUR thoughts to create the life you really want.  I am living proof!

~Tiffany 

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!