Funky Lockdown

Tiffany Eckhardt, Life Coach Creating YOUR vision for midlife wellness.  Helping you get out of a lockdown funk.

Funky Lockdown ~ Getting out of a funk!

Have you found yourself in a lockdown funk?  In your attempt to NOT shut down during lockdown you managed media input and discovered new things about yourself, but your limits have been severely tested.  So, you spend a day in a funk allowing the feelings to well up.

Is this your story?  It was mine last Friday.   

I had a low energy day after receiving news that our trip to Ohio would be postponed again because the stay at home order for Ohio was extended through the end of May.  I won’t tell you what I thought about that.  Feelings of deep sadness turned to anger as the day progressed.  I was in a funk.  

It is healthy to fully experience all the feels and then release them.  It is detrimental to stuff emotions.  I love Dr. Christiane Norhrup’s take on feelings…

“The crying will stop when it needs to stop.  I have the strength to tolerate my strong emotions.”  Dr. Northrup

Do you believe in coincidences?  

In the book, Goddesses Never Age, Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D. speaks to my soul!  It is no coincidence that this week my friend Dawn and I happen to be reading Chapter 2: Goddesses Know The Power Of Pleasure.  

By Friday evening I knew that I needed to get out of the funk!  It simply is not good for my sense of well being.  Luckily, I had tools!  I self coached myself and then worked on finding some much needed pleasure.  

Here are three simple steps you can take to get out of a lockdown funk.

Make a list

I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, “If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.” ~Kurt Vonnegut

Are you aware of what brings you pleasure?

Dr. Northrup’s prescription for general health is to experience more pleasure every day.  She suggests an activity that I practice daily.  Take a minute every day to list as many joyful activities and experiences that you can.  Think big and small experiences.  

This list can be helpful in getting out of a funk, and could guide you in finding what your soul longs for.  As I became more aware of what gives me pleasure (and what does not), I was surprised by what I discovered.  

Phone a friend

Dr. Northrup calls these friends Wingwomen.  I love that!  

Good friends will point you to a healthy mindset, while allowing you to feel your emotions.  

On Friday I enlisted the help from a life coach from my certification class and my book club friend.  I also had several dear friends reach out to me for encouragement.  It felt like a lifeline. 

Who are your Wingwomen?    

Take action

Saturday morning I woke up with the thought, “this is a new day.”  I knew I had a choice to make it a good day or wallow in my grief.  Fortunately, Jeff was on board with a day of fun!  

Saturday was a beautiful sunny day, nearly perfect with a cool breeze.  Jeff and I rode our bikes to Round Top (thirty miles round trip).  While in Round Top, we had coffee at Royers Pie Haven and ate hamburgers at Popi Burgers. During lunch we FaceTimed with our daughter and grandson (fill my cup).  We then went to Brenham to see what shops had opened.  I bought a new dress at The Canyon Chic and then visited a newly opened Brazos Valley Brewing Co that happened to have live music (heaven).  We took crawfish home for a backyard picnic.  I washed our 48 Ford Maggie and took her for a drive in the country.  After dinner I could barely keep my eyes open.  I fell into bed extremely happy.   

“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.” ~Martin Luther

Discover what fills your pleasure journal

I’m not thankful for the funk, but it did teach me the importance of the pleasure journal.  Taking a day to experience as much pleasure as possible got me out of a funk.  

When you discover what fills your pleasure journal, taking action is very simple.

If you feel stuck in a funk, I can help!  I’ve been trained to identify thoughts that are creating unwanted feelings.  Curious?  I offer a free mini session.  I’d love to chat with you!  

Click the link below to schedule your FREE MINI SESSION!

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

~Tiffany 

And the birds fluttered around her writing “Yes” in the sky!

Busting Midlife Myths

Tiffany Eckhardt, Life Coach busting midlife myths

Are you ready to bust Midlife Myths?

Could it be possible that you have accepted common midlife myths as reality? 

For instance, have you accepted the message that your fighting a loosing battle with age when you reach fifty years?  What if you were actually entering into the best season of your life filled with abundant wellness?  

I am a cockeyed optimist who wants her tomb to read, “Here lies Tiffany Ann Eckhardt.  Her death found her living with uncommon energy.”

I do not subscribe to rainbows or unicorns, but have learned tools that allow me to fully function through life’s 50/50.  I am convinced it is possible to create a life that includes abundant wellness and the realization of dreams at any age.  

So what gets in your way?

It occurred to me the other day that there are some common midlife myths accepted as truth.  What if they were simply not true? 

What thoughts do you have about midlife and aging?  Gathering your thoughts is a perfect place to start.  I love journaling!  Take a piece of paper and jot down all the thoughts that you have about midlife.     

Next, take a look at the thoughts circulating in your mind that have now landed on your paper.  Do you like the thoughts? Is it possible that there are limiting beliefs?  Where have these thought and ideas come from?  

It is widely believed that our bodies are not separated from our thoughts or emotions.  This is why I preach Self-Aware is the first step to Self-Care.  It is time to let go of toxic beliefs.  Then frame, or reframe, what your idea of midlife is and create it!  

A few midlife myths worth busting

1.  Midlife means the beginning of a loosing battle with well being.

In her book Goddesses Never Age, Christiane Northrup, M.D. confirms, “physical deterioration occurs in large part because of the accumulation of toxins, which results in cellular deterioration and damage along with tissue and organ breakdown.”  

Yet, she also offers that the body is in a constant state of reinvention.  “You do not have to have the same physical body you had just a few years ago.  Every cell has been replaced.”

I am living proof of this!  In 2017 I decided to question the idea that our bodies have to fall apart in midlife.  I spent three years removing toxins from my diet and home.  In November 2018 I became intentional about personal growth, learning tools to manage my mind. Thanks to this work, I am not the same person I was back then.  

You can achieve wellness at any age, that can carry you into the best season of your life!

2.  An empty nest is boring and lonely

I heard someone say in passing, “An empty nest isn’t lonely because I am there.”

Typically women spend there lives between 20 and 40 tending to their families.  Without giving it a second thought, their schedule is dictated by work and family.  When their little birdies fly the coop, there is naturally a void to fill.  

Although change is rarely popular, a new routine emerges from the quiet house.  At this point in life, you are ready to make decisions about what your future will look like?  

Unfortunately, “we believe that if something great was going to happen, it would have happened when we were 20 or 30, right? It would have happened when we were in college or when we were going to school or whatever. That’s when all the amazing things happen. But what if we’re totally wrong about that?”  ~Brooke Castillo

I guarantee there are several ways to look at an empty nest.  What if you discover that you really enjoy your own company and that you are actually fun? 

3.  Time is running out with little options

The ideas that time is running out and that there are few options to those who are of a certain age are two myths that are definably limiting beliefs, in which the focus is on what can’t be done.  

I intend to bust these two myths wide open!!!!  There have been too many examples of successful people who achieved greatness after the age of 40.  Success leaves clues.  Studying their stories encourages me to explore my own.  

Does the cost of learning new skills feels indulgent?  This might be the real obstacle to busting theses myths.  It feels too indulgent to shift the time, the resources, to something that’s purely for you. I hear people comment that they hesitated taking a course if it cost a few thousand dollars.  They have never given themselves permission to spend on themselves, let alone challenge themselves to expand their minds.  

Time will run out if you indulge in self depravation.  Midlife is the time to invest in childhood dreams, ideas that have took a back seat to the demands of family and what your soul longs to teach you.    

The Crossroads

I am sure you have heard or even thought of a few midlife myths of your own.  Maybe you are manifesting some of your beliefs, and want to pluck out them out of your story!   

Are you at the crossroads, at a point in life when you are ready to make decisions about what your future will look like?  

This is where I can help!  Not only have I mastered the fine art of reinvention, I am a certified life coach that can help you bust the myths.  

Schedule a FREE mini session today!  It is my life’s work to inspire people to aspire to a life of well being!  Self-aware is the first step to self-care.  

What midlife myths do you wish to bust?  Click the link below to schedule your FREE mini session!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach busting midlife myths

Will you shut down during lockdown?

ALWAYS BEEN A BIT OF A DREAMER! This was taken before my hair went grey 🙂

Last week I notice a shift from a feisty “get’er done” attitude about the COVID-19 lockdown, to a lethargic F’It attitude.  

We are so close to the end, let’s finish strong!  

With a little effort, it is possible to live well during quarantine.  We were born to create and are naturally innovative, not vegetative.  

Be YOUR hero of YOUR health!

Self-aware is the first step to self-care

First, I would like to offer a huge dose of grace.  Don’t shut down your emotions.  A good cry is therapeutic.  Feelings are an indication of your thoughts, which are totally in your control once you understand how to manage your mind.  

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.  I had a complete melt down when I had to cancel my 50th backyard birthday bash.  I have a good cry every time I think that I could have seen my new grandson, who would have been at my party.  Thankfully, my life coach helped me reframe my thoughts to remember that I can still be connected to them even if it’s not in person.  

A good laugh is medicine too.  That one takes a little effort, but so worth it.  I found Leslie Jordan on Instagram www.instagram.com/thelesliejordan (You’re welcome)

Our mental health is under siege.  

I totally understand getting lost in the last season of Shits Creek or scrolling through social media to get your mind off the lock down.  Just don’t completely shut down your gorgeous mind, shut off the tv and social media!  

This is actually an awesome opportunity to learn something new, create something amazing, or discover something about yourself.  Y’all can’t say you don’t have time!  You simply need to manage your mind!

Innovate.  Create.  Be amazing! 

Your future self will thank you!  

Don’t shut down your imagination!  

Look into your future.  How do you see yourself in a year?

In retrospect, how does your future self feel about lock down?  Will she be glad you watched the Tiger drama, or proud of the victory garden you planted?  Is she ready for her first 5k run, or worried about loosing the Corona 15 she gained (weight gained during the lock down)?  

I don’t know what is important to you, but you won’t achieve it by shutting down your imagination.  

You don’t have to spend all your time productive to be proactive.  Just pick one goal you would like to accomplish in April.  Is your future self worth it?  

Human needs

It is safe to say that COVID-19 has sabotaged our six basic human needs, unless you hold uncertainty as a priority.  The six basic human needs are certainty, uncertainty, love/connection, significance, growth and contribution.  Meeting the need for love and connection, certainty or significance may seem hard during lockdown, but growth and contribution are totally within your control.  

Seriously, don’t let the lockdown shut down your basic human need for growth and contribution!  Finish the lockdown strong!  

Get coaching!

Does the idea of managing your mind resonate with you, but not exactly sure how to apply it to your life?  Click the box below to schedule a FREE Mini Session!  A FREE Mini Session is a 45 minute zoom call where I can help you wrap your mind around where you are emotionally and where you’d like to be a year from now.  So you can be the hero of your health.

As always, I am rooting for you!  Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

The practice of audacious wellness. Five steps to be well.

Life coach Tiffany Eckhardt, works with women who practice audacious wellness.

My audacious wellness practice

My practice of audacious wellness began in January 2017, after a horrible hysterectomy that haunts me to this day.  I promised myself that I would do everything in my power to never have another surgery, which inspired my research on creating my own wellness practices.

I do not have a degree in medicine or nutrition, but wholeheartedly believe in the power of my mind to find solutions through books, podcasts and YouTube videos from people who hold degrees and have done case work on the subject. Finally, I do my own experiments on what I learn.  This led to my dairy allergy discovery, explaining my constant break outs.  

Although rare and not covered by insurance, there are doctors willing to create a personalized approach to wellness, before there is a health crisis.  

Will you be the hero of your own story

A highly functioning immune system

Our bodies naturally fight off infection through the immune system.  In fact, our bodies are always working on our behalf.  

I can honestly say that I have not been sick since 2017, except for the occasional self-induced hang over, which rarely happens now that I manage my mind.  I’ve learned to listen to my body and be proactive.  It would be naive to think that I’ll never get sick.  The idea is to provide my body resources to fight off any attack through a strengthened immune system.   

The human body is fascinating and should be addressed as a whole, and on an individual basis.  I don’t subscribe to a one size fits all approach to wellness.  I believe one hundred percent in taking personal responsibility through managing the mind, choosing what you put in and on your body, and evaluating the products you allow in your home.  

If all this feels overwhelming, let me offer you five common sense steps to practice audacious wellness.  You will be surprised to learn most are free and easy.  

1.Thought work

Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

An important step to making any change in your life is thought work.  Journaling is free and easy

Regularly do a “thought download” and observe your thoughts. What do you believe about wellness? What do you want for your body and mind? Why do you believe certain thoughts about wellness?  Do you like your reasons?  

Just as people might discover limiting beliefs concerning money, it is possible that you will discover limiting wellness beliefs.  Get curious about what you believe regarding your health and wellness.  

“It’s time to remind ourselves that today’s thoughts and actions become our legacy.” ~ Brendan Burchard

Can you imagine a life practicing audacious wellness?

2. Food is medicine!

This is not a revolutionary idea.  My favorite author on this subject is Dr. Axe.  His book Eat Dirt was the first book I read on the subject.  

Unfortunately our society has lost this awareness.  Replacing immunity boosting foods with fast and fake food.  A recent trip to Walmart highlighted this reality for me.  People were standing in line for an empty toilet paper isle, but the fruits and veggies isles were fully stocked.

I highly recommend a YouTube search of Dr. Axe’s videos.  He is a wealth of FREE information!

3. Vitamins found in natural places boost the immune system

Foods rich in Vitamin A help boost the immune system.  Choose mangos, grapefruit, dark leafy veggies, salmon, ect.  A quick google search will give you more ideas

Vitamin D has the power to destroy viruses, bacterial and fungi.  Experts suggest that the best way to get vitamin D is to be outside midday and soak in the sunshine.  This is especially important for office workers who have very little sun exposure.  Thank God sitting in sunshine is a free and easy step towards wellness. 

Vitamins are proven safe. If you want an in-depth lecture on the subject, tune into Dr. Shiva, an MIT Biologist PhD who studies epigenetics and systems biology.  He has several video lectures on how your immune system works and the benefits of Vitamin A and Vitamin D3.   

4. Exercise

Can anyone disagree that exercise is important?  

I did extensive thought work to embrace exercise.  My “story” was that I hated exercise and did not have a body built for it.  Looking back, that thought is funny.  I’m thankful to my past self for taking the first step past resistance.  

Here’s how my thoughts gradually changed:

“it is possible for me to exercise.”  

“it is possible for me to like exercising.”  

“I enjoy an increase in energy and the satisfaction of offering myself self care!”  

Make a decision to pursue physical activity and don’t negotiate with yourself.  

Start small.  Walk.  Get outside and walk your neighborhood, a free and easy step in the right direction.  Find community to exercise with.  It is always fun to do it with friends.  

5. Breathe & meditate

Feelings are vibrations (energy) experienced from a thought.  Habitual thoughts create the story of our lives, which produces the environment for either wellbeing or an weakened immune system. 

Breathing is a form of renewal, breaking the cycle of resistance.

Test this out.  Think thoughts that upset you in the moment.  Where do you feel it in your body?  Now think happy thoughts.  How is the experience of joy different from anger?  

It is unrealistic to believe there will never be uncomfortable thoughts.  Anger and upset increase the fight or flight response.  Breathing can calm the response and allow space to create better quality thoughts.  

Taking time to breathe and meditate is a free and easy step that allows for the creative juices to flow.  It really is good medicine! 

Where to start

Self-aware is the first step in self-care.

“Our problem as humans isn’t that we are inadequate, wrong, or broken: our problem is that we believe we are.”  Dr. Sue Morter

This list of five common sense steps to practice audacious wellness is by no way exhaustive.  Can you get curious about your own wellness and research ways to take responsibility?

There is not a one size fits all approach to wellness or to addressing a weakened immune system.  I believe with the abundance of scientific information available, it is possible to understand your own body and find both preventions and solutions.  

Do you practice audacious wellness? 

Wouldn’t you love to be the hero of your own wellness journey?  

Self-aware is the first step to self-care.  I’m offering a FREE mini session on practicing an audacious wellness practice.  I can help you discover where you are in the journey and where you’d like to be.  From there you can create a wellness mindset and strategies that will help you take creative control of your life.  

Book a FREE mini session

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.

The truth is data drama is cramping my style

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  Are you suffering from data drama?
How ya feeling????

Is data drama cramping your style?

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.   In today’s blog I will share insights from my journal in hopes that it will help you navigate the chaos created when data drama cramps your style.  

The struggle is real.  At this point, are your thoughts and feelings “large and in charge?”

It dawned on me today that I have fallen into information overload.  I can quickly get sucked into my iPhone apps, scrolling through Instagram and Facebook.  Before I know it, I’ve spent hours down a rabbit hole searching for truth and researching possible solutions. 

YEP, data drama is cramping my style.  It is time to take charge of my thoughts and feelings, live for the moment and create a future that motivates me today.

An a-ha moment while doing a thought download.  

Thank God for journaling!  Thought downloads are extremely important during times of chaos.  Journaling clarifies thoughts on paper and indicates where feelings are coming from.   

It dawned on me today that data drama is like the toilet paper phenomenon.  Investing hours in getting to the facts can be compared to standing in line for toilet paper.  It is an attempt to maintain some control over the uncontrollable. 

As if anything outside ourselves can be controlled. 

The only thing YOU control is YOUR thoughts.  What ever you focus your attention on becomes YOUR truth.  

How about allowing an alternate scenario equal airtime?   

I am not suggesting anyone should burying their head in the sand in ignorance.  It is important to be well informed and know what you believe.  Just understand, it is natural for your mind to obsess over the worst case scenario. 

It takes seventeen seconds for a thought to produce the vibration of a feeling.  If you feel tense or angry, take a hot second to to pause.  What thought produced the feeling of fear, anger, etc. 

“Do you want to feel fear or fierce?” ~Brooke Castillo  

Shut off the data drama long enough to give creativity a chance to shine!  You are in control of your storyline.  Give innovation and curiosity equal airtime.   Your unique talent is in desperate need in this moment. It would be a shame if data drama stole your thunder.

Ask yourself:

1. What do I want?

It is easy to know what you don’t want.  It takes practice to train your brain to look for what you do want.  A more beneficial thought might be, “how do I want to feel?” 

Data drama exposed my need for certainty.  So, I am choosing to look for thoughts that will serve my need for order. Instead of thinking, “This is a really scary time, feels worse than 2008.” I am choosing to think, “Jeff and I are in a better space mentally to deal with what ever presents itself.” Notice which thought gives me power over the unwelcome feeling of uncertainty.

Do you need to pivot?

2. What if this is happening for me, not against me?

Taken from Tony Robbins’ playbook… This is the best question to ask when looking for alternative scenarios.  Your mind makes up shit about the circumstances, so you might as well make up some shit that works for you!  Resist the worst case scenario. You control the narrative!  

3. How can I create and contribute?

Out of the six basic human needs, growth and contribution are the spiritual needs. Using the circumstance as an opportunity to learn, create and serve humanity allows you to connect with your soul! Can you create something that will add value to your community? Are opportunities for growth presenting themselves? What can you do to help your neighbors?

“If you can’t do great things, Mother Teresa used to say, do little things with great love. If you can’t do them with great love, do them with a little love. If you can’t do them with a little love, do them anyway. Love grows when people serve.” John Ortberg

My commitment to solutions

I am dedicated to those who can’t be caged!  Let me offer freedom from data drama! During this season I am committed to:

  1. Sharing information & resources
  2. Promoting wellness & immune health
  3. Asking quality questions
  4. Offering to listen 
  5. Coaching those who want practical ways to deal with real feelings.  
  6. Teaching the tools to manage thoughts
  7. Promoting & supporting my entrepreneurial friends & neighbors
  8. Sending love to this world!

As you can see I have NO time for data drama!  

Reach out to me if you need someone to listen.  I offer a FREE one hour consultation for first time clients. In that hour, I help you clarify how you really want feel and how to create thoughts to produce that feeling.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you have the luck of the Irish?

Lucky?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women take creative control of their lives.
Lucky Me… don’t pinch me!

Do you have the luck of the Irish on your side this week?  I wear green on St. Patty’s day in honor of my Celtic friends and to avoid being pinched!  

I looked up the term “luck of the Irish” and learned it was coined during the gold rush years.  The most famous and successful miners were Irish.  Their success was attributed to sheer luck. 

I may be “lucky enough” to have a small percentage of Irish ancestry, but I don’t attribute luck to success, or feel unlucky with lack of success.  Of course I will always welcome luck!  My heart flutters at the idea of luck choosing me, but I understand my role in the husbandry of my future. 

“You’ve got to do your own growing no matter how tall your father was.”  Irish proverb

So let’s play with creation.  How do you create a life you want, with or without the magic of luck?

A managed mind creates opportunities for luck.  

Information continually bombards us on a daily basis.  Our brilliant minds funnel the information to avoid overload.  “They” call it confirmation bias.  

Here is a simple example how my mind funneled information:  I want to retire Miss Dixie, my truck. She served me well as an antique dealer, hauling a trailer of goodies for years.  Now that I have a new “hat” I long to drive something sporty and definitely not owned by the masses.  I made the decision that an off-white Mini Cooper Countryman would be fun.  Literally the moment I chose that car I saw them everywhere!  Weird, until then I hardly noticed them.  

How does confirmation bias affect our opportunities?  An unattended mind will offer only what is programed in a belief system.  Do you believe in lack, you will see lack everywhere.  Do you believe in abundance, you will see abundance everywhere.  In other words, your mind will present evidence to only what you believe. It might be time for a pivot!

The good news is that you get to choose your thoughts and create from any belief system you cultivate.  In fact, a managed mind can create opportunities.  

Give your creative juices room to breathe!  I believe inspiration comes when your mind is at rest.  Occasionally unplugging from information overload allows ideas to flow and the mind to dream.  Daily journalling has helped me to get crystal clear on what I want and choose thoughts that serve the life I want to create.  

Success leaves clues. 

I first learned the concept of success leaving clues from Tony Robbins.  He teaches that instead of reinventing the wheel, look to the ones who paved the way.  There are teachers everywhere!

Sure, life is a great classroom.  I’ve learned many lessons from the school of hard knocks.  Now that I’m entering my 50’s I’m getting wiser.  I prefer to invest time and money into podcasts, books and seminars to learn from other people’s hard knocks.  

A word about hard knocks:  don’t let them surprise you or derail your dream.  I love what Elizabeth Gilbert shares about enduring disappointment in her book Big Magic.  It’s part of the job of any creative.  She quotes Mark Manson, “the secret to finding your purpose in life is to answer this question in total honesty:  Whats your favorite flavor of shit sandwich?”  Because if you love something enough then you don’t mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.  Fail forward my friend!  

Everything is figure-outable.  

I can’t stop talking about Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figure-outable.  If you train your mind to believe that one statement, there is NOTHING you can’t do!  

“Almost everything needed to make your dream a reality requires new skills, experiences, and understanding.  You must do things you’ve never done before.”  Marie Forleo.  

Create your own luck by training your mind and being a student of success.  In doing so you’ll be an inspiration and possibly attract the luck of the Irish!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Are You Living A Life Of Creative Abundance?

Is your goal to live a life of creative abundance?  Do you want to take creative control of your life?  I believe it’s worth taking the leap!

I admire people who ooze creativity.  It always appears to be effortless, natural, like they just ARE creative.  I’m learning that is not exactly the case. 

In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic, she refers to ideas and creativity as mystics that come to you and offer the idea.  It is your job to say yes or no to the idea, understanding there will be a few “shit sandwiches” on the menu. In fact, according to Gilbert the reason we don’t move creatively ahead is always and only fear.

“Creative living is living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than fear.” ~Liz

A poet that Gilbert became intrigued with, once told a literature student, “Do you have the courage?  Do you have the courage to bring forth this work?  The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

Do YOU invest for abundance?

I wholeheartedly support Elizabeth Gilbert’s theory that creativity is an energy that chooses us to co-create with.  Cuz it’s the TRUTH!  It is a gift from God.  

I’ve been mulling over a familiar Bible story in the book of Mathew.  As the story goes, a boss man (my words not the Bible’s) went out of town and left his servants in charge.  He gave “talents” to each according to their ability.  The first servant he gave five talents to invest, to the second servant he gave two talents to invest and to the third servant he gave one talent to invest. When the boss returned he found the first two servants had double their talents.  The third servant buried his talents because he feared loosing the one talent he had. 

Impressed, the boss commended the first two servants with, “Well done, good and faithful servant!  You have been faithful with few things; I will put you in charge of many things.  Come and share in my happiness!”  The boss reprimanded the third servant with, “You wicked, lazy servant… you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.”

The good and faithful servants will be given more talents to work with, while the third servant will be passed over next time the talents are divvied out.  

A verse on abundance: Mathew 25: 29

For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have abundance.  

I am not a Bible scholar.  I simply love that Jesus encourages people to invest their talents. He fully understands the fear and risks involved, as well as the abundance rewarded to the courageous.

It appears that the story is about a dude with a lot of money, entrusting his wealth to his servants.  I view this familiar parable as an example of our benevolent creator continually entrusting gifts and talents to humanity, taking delight in what is created with the gifts.  

When we are willing to invest, share and ship our talents, the talents multiple.  I wholeheartedly believe in abundance.  It is up to all of us to get curious about what we have to offer, develop our talents and be willing to share them. 

Sign me up for abundance!

I am pursuing a creative life.  Abundance is directly related to my willingness to invest in my gifts. I hope the gifts I share inspire and encourage you as well, but most importantly are a gift back to my creator.

The creative life isn’t effortless.  A meaningful, creative life that gives back requires courage.  The courageous receive abundance.

Fear is lazy.  I refuse to bury my talents or play small and will have the courage to continue to grow, and to keep moving towards becoming the best version of myself, feeling the vibration of fear, knowing it will pass.  

Are you curious?

I invite you to get curious about your talents.  Have you given into fear and succumbed to living a small life?  Or are you looking for ideas to invest your talents? 

As Jack Gilbert put it, “The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

I would love to connect with all you badass women who are ready to take creative control of your life!  Let’s shake up this world with our abundant talents!!!!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Need a pivot? How A Life Coach Can Help You!

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach helps women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.

Do you need to pivot? Have you noticed that no matter what you do, some circumstances in your life seem to be stuck?  I promise that there is a thought you simply need to pivot from.  

When you understand that thoughts cause the results in your life, it changes everything!

Let me offer you some thoughts I often hear.  

Familiar thoughts to pivot?

“I just need a break from my thoughts.”  

“I have no idea what I want.”

“Why do I keep self sabotaging?”

“The deck is stacked against me.”  

“Why won’t he/she would just do….”

“My boss is a ….”

“I hate that I can’t seem to get my finances in order.”

“Why can’t I just loose the weight?”

“I’m worried…”

“I’m angry.”

I’m not good, talented, pretty… enough.”

A good life coach can help you flip the switch.  They will help you recognize the thoughts that run on auto pilot and offer thoughts to pivot your feelings, behavior and results in life. 

An opportunity to pivot can present itself in a variety of life circumstances.  You don’t need to be facing a mid life crisis to realize that you need a change.  Regardless of the circumstance, a pivot can happen when you take control of your thought life.  

How can I help you pivot?

Through the work of Brooke Castillo I learned a proven model that helps identify the thoughts that keep you stuck.  Thought work is a powerful tool in self awareness and mental health.  I’ve personally used it to improve my marriage, loose weight, become a girl who loves exercise, make decisions, set goals and learn to love who I am.  

I love this work!  I am passionate about helping people have a-ha moments and pivot to what they really want in life.  

During a coaching session with me, I listen to what your experiencing.  I want to know all the thoughts you have about your circumstances. Next we will examine your thoughts and identify pivots. A pivot happens when you learn that thoughts are interrelated to feelings, actions and ultimately your results in life.  

We will work together to create a future from your future.  So, don’t expect me to drudge up all your wounds from the past.  Although the story you’ve created around your past is effecting your life.  We want YOU to become the hero of your own story and pivot to a new chapter. 

You will need the help of a therapist if you have trauma from abuse or addictions. 

What kind of person hires a life coach?

People who want to pivot.  

I freakin love my coaches!  I’ve experienced numerous pivots working with coaches at the Life Coach School and peer coaching.  They help me discover something new about my thought life every time.  Every brain needs a coach!

I work with women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  You are a person who hires a life coach if…

  • You’re tired of the patterns in your life. You have a vague idea that life could be so much better.  Do you know what you want in life?  Maybe you can’t understand why you do what you do.  
  • You know that you have so much to offer the world and want to pivot towards creating your life.   Self awareness is the key to self care.
  • Are the hero in their own story.  
Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach helps women who are ready to take creative control of their lives pivot.

Free consultation

Does the idea of pivoting intrigue you?  I’m offering a FREE consultation!  This is a no pressure hour of chatting about where you are in life and where you would like to go.  If I am a good fit for you, then we’ll set up sessions to help you pivot to the life you want to create.  

I wholeheartedly believe that YOU have the power to take creative control of your life!  I’d love to guide you in the pivot! Learn more by reading: Three Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Jumping off points in life, do you take the leap?

At jumping off points in your life, do you take the leap?

Jumping off with a resident sting ray

In the midst of planning for our Gadabout Gals trip to Belize, I came across of a picture on Instagram of a young girl jumping with abandon off the pier of our vacation rental.  It spoke to me.  That girl seemed to embody a fearless abandon that I longed for at the time.  I knew I had to recreate that scene for myself.  I wasn’t about to let that young thing have all the fun.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Life Coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life

It was scarier than I expected on the day of the envisioned jump.  I had a cheerleading squad on deck to encourage me that I am that girl.  I have a rule… no swimming in water I can’t see clearly what I swimming with.  Even though the fear was real, I jumped.  I did not look as carefree as that young thing, but it was a rush.  I don’t remember how I exactly got out of the water, but I’m sure it was in record time.  

Later we learned that there was a resident sting ray living under the dock.  I pondered my jump.  Would I have jumped if I knew about our pet sting ray we affectionately named Franklin? 

Jumping into the crystal blue

When the Gadabout Gals planned our epic trip to Italy, I had no plans of brave adventure.  I felt more romantic than fearless.  The group planned several boat trips with Blue Star Positano to frolic on the Amalfi coast in crystal blue water.  It is gorgeous!  

On a day trip to Capris, our captain Massimo anchored us near a cave to go swimming.  I was thrilled.  Crystal clear water meant that I can see everything!  Great!  That is until our captain started to throw bread crumbs out for the fish.  I freaked out!  

This time I could see exactly what I was swimming with.  Was I really ready to jump in?  Would I be able to swim into the amazing cavern????  

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.
Fun fact: Turns out Gadabout Kelly is WAY more fearless than me!

Yes, of course! 

Jumping off points

My stories of tested bravery has me thinking about jumping off points in life.  How do you respond to the times when you face fear.  Do you jump?  Or do you wait until you are ready?

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.

Would I have been ready to jump off the pier in Belize if I knew I would be swimming with a resident sting ray?  Yes, of course.  I jumped in the crystal blue waters of Amalfi, despite the fish I knew I’d be swimming with.  

In the new book, Everything is Figure Outable Marie Forleo addresses the idea of starting before you are ready.  She uses a technique called future tripping.  Most people view future tripping as the tendency to worry about the future at the expense of the present.  Marie flips that trip to ask herself, “In ten years, will I regret NOT doing this?” 

There are two types of pain you will go through in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, while regret weighs tons.  ~ Jim Rohn

In other words, would my 60 year old self regret not taking the leap in Belize or in Italy?  I never want to disappoint my future self!  

How many times do we miss out on an amazing rush of adventure because our thoughts convince us that the worse case scenario is definitely in our future?  

Or worse yet, how many times do we miss out on any opportunity in life because you did not feel ready?  The truth that Marie Forleo reveals is, “You are never ready to do the important things you’re meant to do.”  

Manage YOUR jumps

It is very simple.  Manage your mind, manage your life.  The way you think about the opportunities to leap matter.  

Thoughts produce feelings, which create action.  It’s all the thought, Feel, Act Cycle.  After years of wondering if there was something seriously wrong with me, I learned a couple tools that I wish my twenty year old self knew.  In my FREE guide to Unlock The Secret To Knowing What You Want In Life I share how YOU can use the power YOUR thoughts to create the life you really want.  I am living proof!

~Tiffany 

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Awesome Women over 40

A message for women over 40 that has resonated with all my Facebook friends today!

Finally have control of my thoughts concerning who I am, about food and cocktails, etc

A message from Andy Rooney… LOVE THIS MAN!

In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40:

“As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jack off, or if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.”

The BIG 50

Yep, I turn 50 next month. I can honestly say I am super excited! I have taken creative control of my life and it feels AWESOME! This is my time! I’m having a midlife awakening! This is my decade! I have dreams, plans and am more self aware than ever before!

Light yourself on fire with passion and people will come from miles to watch you burn.

Author Unknown… but I KNOW I’d love them!

The best part

I’d like to offer that the best part is that you can take creative control of your life at any age!

Wow… I can’t even begin to imagine my life {and the lives of my favorite people} if I’d taken hold of this mindset when I was younger. DANG!

Mindset and thought work is now my life’s work as a certified life coach. I love taking a deep dive into what women really want.

What are you waiting for?

I’d love to help you take creative control of YOUR life!

Reach out to me! Set up your FREE consultation. Or go ahead and book your three month session. Let me help you see past your “reality”. There are other options to see YOUR life! There is a better way. I can help you get there!

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Your Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit,

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!