Flip The Script

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women believe their best years are ahead.  Today she is chatting about Flipping the Script.
Embracing my grey hair! What parts of midlife are you embracing????

Your Script

Do you feel that you were handed a script to live by when you were young, but at midlife feel ready to birth something new? As the master of reinvention, let me offer you ideas to get your creative juices flowing and allow you to flip that script.

Here’s a fun exercise to stir those creative juices.  If your life played out on the big screen, what would the title of your movie be?  

Sex In The City

The Housewife of {your town}

Real Women Have Curves

Last Woman Standing

Unfortunately, the titles I typically hear sound like these instead…

Do I Deserve It?

Why do I Always Attract The Wrong Partner

They Just Don’t Like Me

I’m Too Old For This

All too often, women can not identify what they truly want. Has society conditioned women to assume what they should want?  If you do know what you want, do you tend to believe you don’t deserve it? 

Dear friend, please know you were born worthy.  You deserve the desires of your heart, have purpose and are capable of far more than you can possibly imagine.  

In fact, you are not doing anyone favors by staying stuck.  You just need to flip the script.  

How do you flip the script?

Ditch the old worn out story

The past does not equal your future, unless you live there.  

Look, I am a self professed master of reinvention, with a stack of business cards to prove it.  I could choose the title of failure, allowing the failures to prevent me from pursuing something new, or create a different future.  

I prefer to be future focused. My future self will be so proud of the work I am doing today to flip the script.  

Recognize your story

The daily “trinity thoughts” are useful prompts for journaling.  I learned this exercise from Dr. Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age.  

“This exercise will help you remember how important it is to enjoy life instead of just getting through your To Do list.”  ~ Dr. Northrup.

1. Something to brag about – wow!  I had a hard time with this one at first.  What are you really proud of?  Can you imagine how good you will feel celebrating daily successes?  

2. Something to appreciate – gratitude is a an attitude everyone could agree on.  Look for something you appreciate about your life, your body and/or your tribe on a daily basis. 

3. Something you desire – OK this is a muscle that needs to be flexed!  I have gotten very clear on what I want in life by answering this daily.  It might be easier to answer what you don’t want, but can you name one thing you desire right now? 

Know the what and why, ditch the how

A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul.  Proverbs 13:19

I long for the day Jeff can retire from his full-time job.  {Some say be careful of what you wish for LOL}  We both want to stay active with outdoors sports and activities.  We will pursue projects that will support our retirement goals.  I desire to spend more time with family and friends who live across the United States.  So, travel is an important component.  Although I am crystal clear on the what and why, I don’t stress over the “HOW”. 

“When you know your WHY, you can endure any HOW.” ~ Viktor Frankl 

A longing fulfilled is sweet for the soul.   

Your heart is engaged by the WHY.  

Dr. Martin Luther King had a “I have a dream” speech, not a “I have a plan” speech.

Tap into your imagination.  Ask yourself, “wouldn’t it be amazing if…”

What comes up for you when you allow your heart to dream?  

Can you get creative with a title for this dream? 

Do you know WHY you chose that title?  

Please, just don’t let the HOW choke out your dream.  

Do you need a guide?

I have come to realize that I no longer fear death.  I fear a life not fully lived, a purpose not fulfilled.  

Do you feel stuck in an old script and fear you may not be fully living?  

I’d love to help you flip the script.  As a certified life coach I am trained in helping you identify the old worn out story that is holding you back.  

Schedule a FREE mini session with someone who truly believes YOUR best years are ahead.  

We can discuss where you are and where you would like to be, and then identify strategies for overcoming the obstacles.  

Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple!  

Cheers,  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach

Take Creative Control Of Your Life!

I am a life coach who works with women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  

Future Focused

I’d like to share with you a concept that has revolutionized the lens from which women can choose to create their life.  

Have you ever wondered why your life seems to be on repeat?  Why you can’t seem to achieve anything more than what you already have?  I can relate.  

That was my life until I learned about a concept called future focus.  

Think of your life as a horizontal straight line.  At the beginning of the line mark 0 representing the day you were born.  At the end of the line mark 100, the age you hope to live to.  The women I coach are facing the midpoint of 50, or so.  

At 50 you can either see all the life you lived, and make decisions based on past experience.  Or you can look at all the life ahead of you and create from vast possibilities.  

So, are you creating with a future focus or are you repeating the past?  

My A-ha moment

My a-ha moment was when I discovered I was basing my future success on the failures.  I have a box full of business cards from the risks I’ve taken.  Regretfully, my identity became associated with failure.  Now I see that I can’t create a different life with that limiting belief.  I now look at my failures and see all the times I got back up and that failing will not kill me. I am free to create a dream life from future possibilities.  

Are you ready to embrace your future self without the limitations of past proof? Reach out to me if you are ready to take creative control of your life.  

~Tiffany Eckhardt

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

A future created from the future

Now is the time to create.  It’s time to decide what you want to believe.  The title of your next chapter is yet to be written.
Definitely not Grandma Maggie’s swing! 😉

Last week in Mid-Life Muse I touched on creating a future.  This week I’d like to chat about creating a future from the future.  

It may appear to be pointing out the obvious, but the future is in the future and not the past.  

Life is just getting started for me.  I’m currently writing the next chapter of my story with a future focus.  

This past weekend my Grandma Maggie would have celebrated her 100th birthday.  She missed the milestone by only 2 years.  I turn 50 years young this March.  By her standard, I have another 50 to live!  

I wonder what occupied her mind when she turned 50 years?  I know she was willing to try new things.    

Grandma Maggie took up golf in her 50s.  She wanted to spend time with my Grandpa, who had just retired.  Eventually her golf game was so good that my Grandpa wouldn’t play with her anymore.  That didn’t stop her from joining several golf clubs and earning numerous awards!  

She was spunky.  No grass grew under her feet.  She worked on her swing into her late 80s. 

Like my Grandma, no grass will grow under my feet.  I am capable of learning new things at any age.  I might just have to pick up golf.  

You are either creating from your past or your future. 

How do you experience your future?  This isn’t a trick question.

Your future is experienced now in your thoughts.  The same is true for experiencing your past. You can believe ANYTHING you want about your future and your past. LET THAT SINK IN!

I am surprised to learn just how many people are viewing their future through past experiences.  Even worse, most are totally unaware of the thoughts influencing your future.

Who are you?  Where do you go to answer that question?  Does past experiences shape your identity?  

The first step is to get curious about your thoughts concerning your life.  Then notice if the thoughts are based on the past or the future.  

Do you notice that you relive past experiences?  Is it possible that you allow those stories to dictate your future? Wether or not you are aware, you mind finds evidence to support what ever you choose to believe about your past and future.  

You have a choice to create a future based on past experiences, or based on a dream you create into existence.  Granted, some past experiences can be built upon.  Just be aware what is serving you. 

A couple things to keep in mind…

First of all, success does not have an expiration date.  Do not use your age as an excuse.

Secondly, your life is not on auto pilot.  You are the author of your story.  

Choose your thoughts… choose your future identity.

  • Were you a horrible student? You can choose to believe you are capable of learning something new.  
  • Have you always been overweight? You can choose to believe it’s possible to loose weight and be healthy.  
  • Have you been irresponsible with money? You can choose to respect money and learn how to budget.  
  • Do you think you are too old to run a marathon? Find examples of people who ran a marathon in their 90s.  

There are plenty of examples of people who overcame similar circumstances and limiting beliefs!

I have a ton of new beliefs about my future self!  In the past I avoided exercise.  Now, I am a girl who loves exercise.  I was a horrible student.  Now, I love learning new skills.  Heck, I figured out how to change my website server last week!!!  I might have to believe I am techy!!!  

Chart new territory

Mid-life is a blank slate to write on! 

Now is the time to create.  It’s time to decide what you want to believe.  The title of your next chapter is yet to be written.  

Start writing on your blank slate as if you were embarking on a new adventure.  You are going to uncharted territory. As the author, you can also be the editor.  Only pack thoughts that are useful for your future.  Delete the thoughts that don’t serve you.  

On your journey you will experience difficulties and unforeseen challenges.  You have lived through enough to know you can handle it.  Believe anything can be figured out.  😉

Test your focus

Here’s a little test.  Keep a log of all your thoughts throughout the day.  What percentage of the thoughts you think are based on the past?  What percentage of the thoughts serve you today? 

Are you feeling hopeful of the future?  If not, what exactly are the thoughts you think about your future?  

The power of our thoughts to create our future is mind-blowing.  It is literally my favorite subject to talk about.  I’d love the opportunity to help you write the next chapter of your story.  

I believe you can create a life on your terms by becoming future focused.

Check out Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach! Reach out for a FREE consultation.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!