His influence on possibilities?

Sunday night Jeff and I went to see the long awaited movie A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood.  I have fond memories of watching Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood as a child and was looking forward to learning more about the man.  I took for granted the role Mr. Rogers had in my formative years and his influence on possibilities.  

The movie is based on a 1998 Esquire magazine article Can You Say… Hero?  Tom Junod had the honor of getting to know the iconic figure personally.  In his article Junod talked about how Mister Rogers took an interest in his feelings. The movie portrayed this unlikely friendship.

One of the best lines of the movie is a moment when the journalist shares with his wife his  assignment to profile Mr. Rogers.  Knowing her husband’s reputation of exposing the worst in people, she says, “Lyod, please don’t ruin my childhood.” 

Did Mister Rogers influence your possibilities?

Life Coach, Tiffany Eckhardt wants you to create a life on your terms and help you believe in possibilities!

Watching A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood on Sunday made me wonder what I believed was possible as a child?  I love looking at a picture of myself as a little girl, full of childlike optimism. 

I wonder, What did YOU believe was possible as a child?  Do you remember any of the daily lessons from Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood?

I didn’t realize as a child that Mister Rogers was teaching children that they were in control of their thoughts and feelings.  How did I not pick that up as a child?  I just enjoyed all the characters and the regular segments. I was too busy having fun.  

Digging deeper into Mister Rogers’ story I became conscious of why becoming a certified Life Coach is so important to me.  I have always believed that I am capable of creating life on my terms. Unfortunately, somewhere along the way I developed a story in my mind that creating life on my terms was selfish. LORD… that story has not served me! I’d love to have the impact Mister Rogers’ had by teaching people the key to unlock their success in life is to understand their thoughts and feelings.

Here’s what I’ve learned from his influence on possibilities

1. Mister Rogers was paving the way with his intentions…

  • Trying to give the world a way to deal with their feelings
  • Inspiring the world to kindness
  • Sometimes we have to ask for help, and that’s ok
  • Each person is precious
  • We are not broken
  • I like you just the way you are

2. Mister Rogers lived an example of what is possible and never gave up. 

“It would not be easy, No – for in order to win such a battle, he would have to forbid himself the privilege of stopping, and whatever he did right he would have to repeat, as though were already living in eternity.” 

Tom Junod

3. Mister Rogers believed that we are all connected.  

“The connections we make in the course of a life—maybe that’s what heaven is, Tom. We make so many connections here on earth. Look at us—I’ve just met you, but I’m investing in who you are and who you will be, and I can’t help it.” 

Mister Rogers quote to Tom Junod in an interview

In accepting a Lifetime Achievement Award at the 24th Annual Daytime Emmy Awards, Mister Rogers stuns the audience with a moment no one expected.  He asked the audience to take 10 seconds to think about all the special people who have loved them into being.  There wasn’t a dry eye in the place after his 10 second pause.  It was his humble way of reminding us we are all connected.

A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood reminded me of my “why”

I want to remind people it is possible to become whoever they want to be.  It’s never too late to create the life of your dreams.  You just need the tools!

I’d love to help YOU create the life of your dreams with self awareness and intention. Read 3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach  Schedule a coaching session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want.  You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams.  Your first session is FREE!

Oh, and don’t miss a chance to see A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood! It is as heartwarming as you’d expect!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Got GRIT? Three Steps To Build GRIT

 

Got Grit? Tiffany Eckhardt shares the importance of choosing your feelings

Got Grit?  Yes, of course I Got Grit!

I like to think I possess a “never give up” attitude.  Yet, there are times when I bailed on my dream, have not persevered or had the passion to see a project through to the end.  I believe that I have the power to choose grit and can cultivate it.  In fact, I have the power to get back up from a failure and reinvent myself.  I have a lifetime of proof.

Let me share with you how to build GRIT!

Did you know you can choose your feelings?  

Let me share a concept that I’ve recently learned.

The human experience is a balance of the positive and the negative.   Accepting this fact allows for the negative without adding to it.  Time spent avoiding negative emotions and experiences, limits access to the power some negative emotions carry.  

For example, courage is an honorable trait that propels us to do hard things, but is an uncomfortable emotion.  The definition of Courage is – mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.  Wouldn’t it be great to be courageous in the face of obstacles without enduring fear or perseverance?  

Grit is failing forward

I have been talking about failing forward the past few weeks in an attempt to make failure more acceptable.  Failure is the uncomfortable balance to success and a necessary step in growth.  No one wants to choose failure.  Accepting it as a part of the success experience prevents adding shame, embarrassment, inadequacy, etc. to the experience.  

Once this concept is understood,  the choice is yours.  Will you intentionally think thoughts that produce the feelings required to succeed in life?  It’s worth noting that some emotions are simply negative indulgent emotions that keep us from success.  Choosing confusion, doubt or worry never moves the needle.  Choosing to walk through fear toward success is productive.  Choosing overwhelm in the face of fear keeps you stuck.  Do you see the difference?

I choose GRIT…

I have decided to become the person of my dreams.  Oh my!  2020 is going to be EPIC!  First of all, I turn 50 in March.  I don’t hate turning 50 years young.  It’s time to buckle down and do the things I’ve always dreamed of doing and being.

I made a list of emotions that I want to cultivate.  I want to be tenacious, capable, genuine, authentic, connected and creative.  

When I made the list of traits I think are important for my success, I realized that most of them have a negative connotation to them.  I want to be tenacious.  Well, that requires me to do something bold.  I want to feel capable.  Can’t feel capable sitting on the couch.  I want to be genuine and authentic, but desperately want to fit in.  I want to feel connected, but often find myself not inviting someone to coffee.  Being creative, a truly positive emotion, is my happy place.  

Recently I added gritty to my list of traits I want to be.  In fact, I am starting to see that GRIT needs to be my word for 2020.  I believe grit allows me to stay committed to the uncomfortable feelings necessary for success.  Being gritty means that I will have both passion and perseverance.

What is grit?

Grit as defined by Angela Duckworth is the power of passion and perseverance. 

“Our potential is one thing, what we do with it is another.” ~Angela Duckworth

Angela has spent her life studying grit.  You can read more about her journey in her book GRIT The Power of Passion and Perseverance or find her TedTalk on YouTube.  In her Preface she writes, “I won’t just have a job; I’ll have a calling.  I’ll challenge myself every day.  When I get knocked down, I’ll get back up.  I may not be the smartest person in the room, but I’ll strive to be the grittiest.”   

Wow!  Angela personifies grit!  The willingness to get back up from a blow, to work harder, to face fear, to embrace a calling… you get the idea.  Fail forward.  

Will Smith explains grit this way,

“The only thing that I see is distinctly different about me is: I’m not afraid to die on the treadmill.   I will not be outworked, period.  You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me.  You might be all those things.  You got it on me in nine categories.  But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things:  You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die.  It’s really that simple.”

Angela breaks grit down two factors, passion and perseverance.  “Grit is about working on something you care about so much you’re willing to stay loyal to it.”  There are no shortcuts.  It’s about falling in love with what you do and staying in love with it.  

Train your mind for grit

Three steps to build GRIT… choose your feelings

Can you see yourself choosing grit?  It is very similar to choosing to fail forward.    

I’m not suggesting that everyone should choose grit.

I am suggesting that being intentional about how you want to show up in life is crucial to your results.  I am offering that you have the power to choose.  

Start by deciding the feelings you want to foster and becoming self aware.

1.Choose the positive feelings and the negative feelings necessary to succeed in what ever you set your heart.  

2. Keep a log of the thoughts that generate those feelings.  There is always a thought that produces the feeling.  It is also beneficial to document the thoughts that keep you in a negative indulgent emotion like confusion, worry, or anxiety.  

Here is an example of mine:

Positive Feelings

  • Abundant
  • Connected
  • Loved
  • Focused
  • Determined

Negative Feelings

  • Courageous
  • Tenacious
  • Bold
  • Fear
  • Grit

3. Journal your thoughts and feelings on a daily basis.  Are the feelings wanted, necessary or unwanted?  What thoughts produce those feelings?  Are there areas in your life that you can choose to think differently about?  Try on new thoughts.  How does the new thoughts make you feel?  This simple activity will open up so much insight!

What do you choose?

Let me encourage you to become the person of your dreams.  You may not choose grit, but you have the power to be gritty in choosing the feelings that will produce the life you always wanted!  

I am excited to bring you along on my journey!  Becoming a certified life coach is the most rewarding work I’ve done!  I’d love to help you take hold of the thoughts, to help you decide what is servicing you.  Schedule a FREE consultation to see if I’m a right fit for your journey!  It really does help to talk through the thoughts that produce the feelings, that cause action and give results in your life!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!