Do you have the luck of the Irish?

Lucky?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women take creative control of their lives.
Lucky Me… don’t pinch me!

Do you have the luck of the Irish on your side this week?  I wear green on St. Patty’s day in honor of my Celtic friends and to avoid being pinched!  

I looked up the term “luck of the Irish” and learned it was coined during the gold rush years.  The most famous and successful miners were Irish.  Their success was attributed to sheer luck. 

I may be “lucky enough” to have a small percentage of Irish ancestry, but I don’t attribute luck to success, or feel unlucky with lack of success.  Of course I will always welcome luck!  My heart flutters at the idea of luck choosing me, but I understand my role in the husbandry of my future. 

“You’ve got to do your own growing no matter how tall your father was.”  Irish proverb

So let’s play with creation.  How do you create a life you want, with or without the magic of luck?

A managed mind creates opportunities for luck.  

Information continually bombards us on a daily basis.  Our brilliant minds funnel the information to avoid overload.  “They” call it confirmation bias.  

Here is a simple example how my mind funneled information:  I want to retire Miss Dixie, my truck. She served me well as an antique dealer, hauling a trailer of goodies for years.  Now that I have a new “hat” I long to drive something sporty and definitely not owned by the masses.  I made the decision that an off-white Mini Cooper Countryman would be fun.  Literally the moment I chose that car I saw them everywhere!  Weird, until then I hardly noticed them.  

How does confirmation bias affect our opportunities?  An unattended mind will offer only what is programed in a belief system.  Do you believe in lack, you will see lack everywhere.  Do you believe in abundance, you will see abundance everywhere.  In other words, your mind will present evidence to only what you believe. It might be time for a pivot!

The good news is that you get to choose your thoughts and create from any belief system you cultivate.  In fact, a managed mind can create opportunities.  

Give your creative juices room to breathe!  I believe inspiration comes when your mind is at rest.  Occasionally unplugging from information overload allows ideas to flow and the mind to dream.  Daily journalling has helped me to get crystal clear on what I want and choose thoughts that serve the life I want to create.  

Success leaves clues. 

I first learned the concept of success leaving clues from Tony Robbins.  He teaches that instead of reinventing the wheel, look to the ones who paved the way.  There are teachers everywhere!

Sure, life is a great classroom.  I’ve learned many lessons from the school of hard knocks.  Now that I’m entering my 50’s I’m getting wiser.  I prefer to invest time and money into podcasts, books and seminars to learn from other people’s hard knocks.  

A word about hard knocks:  don’t let them surprise you or derail your dream.  I love what Elizabeth Gilbert shares about enduring disappointment in her book Big Magic.  It’s part of the job of any creative.  She quotes Mark Manson, “the secret to finding your purpose in life is to answer this question in total honesty:  Whats your favorite flavor of shit sandwich?”  Because if you love something enough then you don’t mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.  Fail forward my friend!  

Everything is figure-outable.  

I can’t stop talking about Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figure-outable.  If you train your mind to believe that one statement, there is NOTHING you can’t do!  

“Almost everything needed to make your dream a reality requires new skills, experiences, and understanding.  You must do things you’ve never done before.”  Marie Forleo.  

Create your own luck by training your mind and being a student of success.  In doing so you’ll be an inspiration and possibly attract the luck of the Irish!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Are You Living A Life Of Creative Abundance?

Is your goal to live a life of creative abundance?  Do you want to take creative control of your life?  I believe it’s worth taking the leap!

I admire people who ooze creativity.  It always appears to be effortless, natural, like they just ARE creative.  I’m learning that is not exactly the case. 

In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic, she refers to ideas and creativity as mystics that come to you and offer the idea.  It is your job to say yes or no to the idea, understanding there will be a few “shit sandwiches” on the menu. In fact, according to Gilbert the reason we don’t move creatively ahead is always and only fear.

“Creative living is living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than fear.” ~Liz

A poet that Gilbert became intrigued with, once told a literature student, “Do you have the courage?  Do you have the courage to bring forth this work?  The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

Do YOU invest for abundance?

I wholeheartedly support Elizabeth Gilbert’s theory that creativity is an energy that chooses us to co-create with.  Cuz it’s the TRUTH!  It is a gift from God.  

I’ve been mulling over a familiar Bible story in the book of Mathew.  As the story goes, a boss man (my words not the Bible’s) went out of town and left his servants in charge.  He gave “talents” to each according to their ability.  The first servant he gave five talents to invest, to the second servant he gave two talents to invest and to the third servant he gave one talent to invest. When the boss returned he found the first two servants had double their talents.  The third servant buried his talents because he feared loosing the one talent he had. 

Impressed, the boss commended the first two servants with, “Well done, good and faithful servant!  You have been faithful with few things; I will put you in charge of many things.  Come and share in my happiness!”  The boss reprimanded the third servant with, “You wicked, lazy servant… you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.”

The good and faithful servants will be given more talents to work with, while the third servant will be passed over next time the talents are divvied out.  

A verse on abundance: Mathew 25: 29

For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have abundance.  

I am not a Bible scholar.  I simply love that Jesus encourages people to invest their talents. He fully understands the fear and risks involved, as well as the abundance rewarded to the courageous.

It appears that the story is about a dude with a lot of money, entrusting his wealth to his servants.  I view this familiar parable as an example of our benevolent creator continually entrusting gifts and talents to humanity, taking delight in what is created with the gifts.  

When we are willing to invest, share and ship our talents, the talents multiple.  I wholeheartedly believe in abundance.  It is up to all of us to get curious about what we have to offer, develop our talents and be willing to share them. 

Sign me up for abundance!

I am pursuing a creative life.  Abundance is directly related to my willingness to invest in my gifts. I hope the gifts I share inspire and encourage you as well, but most importantly are a gift back to my creator.

The creative life isn’t effortless.  A meaningful, creative life that gives back requires courage.  The courageous receive abundance.

Fear is lazy.  I refuse to bury my talents or play small and will have the courage to continue to grow, and to keep moving towards becoming the best version of myself, feeling the vibration of fear, knowing it will pass.  

Are you curious?

I invite you to get curious about your talents.  Have you given into fear and succumbed to living a small life?  Or are you looking for ideas to invest your talents? 

As Jack Gilbert put it, “The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

I would love to connect with all you badass women who are ready to take creative control of your life!  Let’s shake up this world with our abundant talents!!!!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

What do curios people know?

What do curious people know?

What if curious people hold the secret to a successful life?  

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  Could curiosity be the secret?

Travel has taught me to be curious. I love to wander the streets of cities we visit. I always wonder what is around the corner. Could there be something amazing to discover the next street over? Jeff and I have been lost more than once. Curiosity led Michele, Jeff and I to Paolo Sandulli’s art castle in Praiano, Italy. I’d say that was a successful day!

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.  

Jeff Bezos’ childhood was marked by curious chaos.  Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what he enjoyed.  She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.   

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  Walt Disney

Curious people are known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow.  

See why I am drawn to curious friends?  They are kindred spirits who create their lives.  

Questions are the answers

What if curious folks just learned to ask good questions?  What if questions are the answers? 

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,”  Jeff Bezos.

Curious people tend to be innovative, not content with the status quo.  They are willing to question how they show up in their valued relationships, how their thought life effects their emotional balance and how to contribute with influence and purpose.  

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?  

How curious are you about YOUR life?  

I’ve seen firsthand the benefits of questioning my thoughts.  The right questions exposed strategic and obstructive thoughts.  Every thought creates a feeling.  Feelings influence our behavior, which gives us our results.  

Questions led to discovering what I really want in every area of my life.  

Let’s get curious about the thoughts that are creating YOUR life in three important areas.  

Ask yourself…  

1. Am I self aware?

What is my current thought? {Right now… as I read this.}

How do I feel about that thought?

Do I like that thought?

What if I thought a different thought?   

Do my thoughts contribute to my wellness?  Why or why not?

2. How do I want to show up with my family and friends?

How am I doing?

What thoughts do I tend to think about my loved ones?

Are my thoughts correct, and strengthening my relationships?

Can I think different thoughts?

3. Am I doing work I love?

How do I define a successful life?

Do I like my definition?  

Why do I even want to be that version of success?

You get the idea… what questions would you ask yourself if you were curious?  Can you imagine a better life if you asked more questions?  Do you believe you have the power to change your life by changing your thoughts, creating feelings that serve you and taking action from the place of pure curiosity? Your best life could be just around the corner. 😉

Curious, do you need help?  

Don’t let yourself off the hook.  This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.  Do you need to enlist help from someone who will objectively listen to your line of thinking?  

I’d love to offer my services to you.  Are you curious how I can help YOU solve the issues in your life?  A coaching session will help you explore your thoughts with curiosity.  There is a system to unlocking the results you want in your life.   The first session is FREE!  

Do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  

Here’s to a cultivating curiosity!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

He was right the whole time. An epiphany about habits

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This is a common occurrence in the Eckhardt home.  Jeff will communicate a thought he thinks will help me.  He is dumbfounded when I share the same thought as an epiphany I learned from a podcast or a book.  Why did I have to hear it from someone else?  He was right the whole time.

Today I had a similar moment with God

Tiffany Eckhardt, owner of Flown The Coop, discovers a paradigm shift reading Atomic Habits, by James Clear

I am a journaler.  I write out all my feelings to determine what I think about them.  God has been whispering the word “BE”  to me for a long time.  It didn’t register until today.

Road to an epiphany

I have created a wonderful habit of listening to podcasts as I get ready for the day.  If you haven’t already, check out my 5 Podcasts To Finish 2018 Strong article.

My habit has introduced me to wonderful Influencers.   I am currently enjoying the #Last90Days challenge with Dave and Rachel Hollis.  I tune into their daily FB live for inspiration.  Their Five To Thrive has really propelled me into some great foundational habits.

I’m seeing a reoccurring topic arise throughout the podcast world.  Everyone seems to be talking about habits.

I am currently listening to The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do on Audible.  This is a book Rachel Hollis recommended the first week of the #Last90Days challenge.  Wow! The study of habits is fascinating.  The same week I started to listen The Power of Habit I heard an interview on Lewis Howes’ podcast with James Clear. James just wrote the book Atomic Habits.  Blew. My. Mind.  I highly recommend listening to this podcast!

The road to an epiphany led me to a Habits.

I am a reader

My copy of Atomic Habits arrived in the mail yesterday.  Ironically, I am creating a new reading habit at night.  (I am a reader)  I devoured the first three chapters, underlining and wiring comments on several key ideas.  Here are a few of my favorites:

  • A habit is a routine or behavior that is performed regularly – and, in many cases, automatically.
  • the quality of our lives depend on the quality of our habits
  • Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement
  • Success is the product of daily habits – not once-in-a-lifetime transformations
  • You don’t rise to the level of your goals.  You fall to the level of your systems
  • an atomic habit refers to a tiny change, a marginal gain, a 1 percent improvement
  • atomic habits are the building blocks of remarkable results
  • there is a difference between outcome based habits and identity habits
  • It’s hard to change your habits if you never change the underlying beliefs that led you to your past behavior
  • The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity… when your behavior and your identity are fully aligned, you are no longer pursuing a behavior change.  You are simply acting like the person you already believe yourself to be.
  • The focus should always be on becoming that type of person, not getting a particular outcome

Wow!  A paradigm shift!  I had to let all of these ideas sink in.  What stood out to me is that I didn’t truly believe I could be the person who accomplished dreams.  I didn’t believe I could BE successful or healthy (skinny).  I didn’t even believe I could BE a nice person.  UUGH!

He was right the whole time

This morning God whispered to me again, “Be.”  Turns out he was right the whole time.  God was leading me to focus on who I wanted to BE.  He is interested in leading me to my true identity.  Why didn’t I hear him from the beginning?  I was focused on outcomes. I didn’t have faith in the journey!

Now what?

I will focus on small changes over time.  My goal is to become the best version of myself.

The question becomes, “Who do I want to BE?”

  • I am a christian (true identity). I am loving and loyal to my family and friends.
  • I am a healthy person who is committed to daily exercise, drinking water, and eating well (I am skinny). 😉
  • I am a natural networker.  I love connecting people and helping them realize their dreams!
  • I am a leader who uplifts her team to the best version of themselves.
  • I am a reader… love to learn!
  • I am patient… becoming the best version of myself takes time.  🙂

This epiphany might only be for my benefit.

He was right the whole time.  I don’t think God is upset that I didn’t hear “BE” the first time.  I think he knew I needed to take this road to an epiphany.  Tiny habits over time compounds into the person I want to become!  I am thankful for this lesson.

I am humbly grateful if this resinates with you!  Let me encourage you!  Decide the person you want to BE and create habits that serve that person.

I’d love to hear from you!  Get a copy of the book Atomic Habits.  Let’s share what we learn with each other!  Let’s believe in who we can BE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!