Will you shut down during lockdown?

ALWAYS BEEN A BIT OF A DREAMER! This was taken before my hair went grey 🙂

Last week I notice a shift from a feisty “get’er done” attitude about the COVID-19 lockdown, to a lethargic F’It attitude.  

We are so close to the end, let’s finish strong!  

With a little effort, it is possible to live well during quarantine.  We were born to create and are naturally innovative, not vegetative.  

Be YOUR hero of YOUR health!

Self-aware is the first step to self-care

First, I would like to offer a huge dose of grace.  Don’t shut down your emotions.  A good cry is therapeutic.  Feelings are an indication of your thoughts, which are totally in your control once you understand how to manage your mind.  

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.  I had a complete melt down when I had to cancel my 50th backyard birthday bash.  I have a good cry every time I think that I could have seen my new grandson, who would have been at my party.  Thankfully, my life coach helped me reframe my thoughts to remember that I can still be connected to them even if it’s not in person.  

A good laugh is medicine too.  That one takes a little effort, but so worth it.  I found Leslie Jordan on Instagram www.instagram.com/thelesliejordan (You’re welcome)

Our mental health is under siege.  

I totally understand getting lost in the last season of Shits Creek or scrolling through social media to get your mind off the lock down.  Just don’t completely shut down your gorgeous mind, shut off the tv and social media!  

This is actually an awesome opportunity to learn something new, create something amazing, or discover something about yourself.  Y’all can’t say you don’t have time!  You simply need to manage your mind!

Innovate.  Create.  Be amazing! 

Your future self will thank you!  

Don’t shut down your imagination!  

Look into your future.  How do you see yourself in a year?

In retrospect, how does your future self feel about lock down?  Will she be glad you watched the Tiger drama, or proud of the victory garden you planted?  Is she ready for her first 5k run, or worried about loosing the Corona 15 she gained (weight gained during the lock down)?  

I don’t know what is important to you, but you won’t achieve it by shutting down your imagination.  

You don’t have to spend all your time productive to be proactive.  Just pick one goal you would like to accomplish in April.  Is your future self worth it?  

Human needs

It is safe to say that COVID-19 has sabotaged our six basic human needs, unless you hold uncertainty as a priority.  The six basic human needs are certainty, uncertainty, love/connection, significance, growth and contribution.  Meeting the need for love and connection, certainty or significance may seem hard during lockdown, but growth and contribution are totally within your control.  

Seriously, don’t let the lockdown shut down your basic human need for growth and contribution!  Finish the lockdown strong!  

Get coaching!

Does the idea of managing your mind resonate with you, but not exactly sure how to apply it to your life?  Click the box below to schedule a FREE Mini Session!  A FREE Mini Session is a 45 minute zoom call where I can help you wrap your mind around where you are emotionally and where you’d like to be a year from now.  So you can be the hero of your health.

As always, I am rooting for you!  Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Awesome Women over 40

A message for women over 40 that has resonated with all my Facebook friends today!

Finally have control of my thoughts concerning who I am, about food and cocktails, etc

A message from Andy Rooney… LOVE THIS MAN!

In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40:

“As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jack off, or if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.”

The BIG 50

Yep, I turn 50 next month. I can honestly say I am super excited! I have taken creative control of my life and it feels AWESOME! This is my time! I’m having a midlife awakening! This is my decade! I have dreams, plans and am more self aware than ever before!

Light yourself on fire with passion and people will come from miles to watch you burn.

Author Unknown… but I KNOW I’d love them!

The best part

I’d like to offer that the best part is that you can take creative control of your life at any age!

Wow… I can’t even begin to imagine my life {and the lives of my favorite people} if I’d taken hold of this mindset when I was younger. DANG!

Mindset and thought work is now my life’s work as a certified life coach. I love taking a deep dive into what women really want.

What are you waiting for?

I’d love to help you take creative control of YOUR life!

Reach out to me! Set up your FREE consultation. Or go ahead and book your three month session. Let me help you see past your “reality”. There are other options to see YOUR life! There is a better way. I can help you get there!

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Your Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit,

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

We Are Fancy! Mister Rogers Said So!

Yep, we are fancy!  Mister Rogers said so. Must be true! 

Let me tell you my FANCY story. 

Once upon a time, my real estate career came to a premature end.  In 2008 the real estate market tanked, along with all my hopes and dreams at the time. 

Not long after I quit, my colleague Wes invited me to apply for an inside sales job at a local manufacturing company.  I had reservations.  I am not corporate or like following rigid rules.  Could I sit at a desk all day???  I decided to apply and successfully made it through an interview.  I knew I’d get it!  Wes knew I was a hard worker and good enough at sales. 

Can you imagine my shock when he called to request a second interview?  I remember telling Wes, “What the heck?  You know me.  What on earth could they need to ask me?”  Wes assured me it was just the policy of the HR department.   UUGH – stupid rules.  As I walked out my front door the morning of the second interview, I turned to asked Jeff, “I have no idea what this could be about, do you have any advice for me?”  His reply was classic Jeff, “I can’t think of anything but, {insert a long pause} this is your one chance Fancy, don’t let me down.” 

I got the job.  It lasted six months.  Turns out I can’t sit at a desk.  I saved all the money from that job for an epic trip to Italy with Jeff.  So, I technically did not let him down.   

Jeff called me Fancy, it must be true.  LOL!  Friends have nicknamed me Fancy ever since then.  I own it!

Are you FANCY?

 If fancy isn’t your thing, what do you want to be known for?  

  • A career can not determine your identity.  
  • Opinions of others can not determine your identity.  
  • ANY outside influence can not determine your identity.  

The truth is YOU determine your identity.  You tell the story of YOUR future by choosing the words you want to identify YOU.  What words would you choose? Use a Thesaurus!  Try on words as if you would try on clothes in a dressing room.  

  • Why did you choose certain words to describe yourself?
  • Do you like your reasons?

Hey seasoned woman… this is YOUR season. Be zesty! Let the words of Mary Oliver inspire you.

Hire Life Coach, Tiffany Eckhardt to help you work through who you want to be.

Steps to become who you want to BE

1. The first step is to identify what you would like to accomplish.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? Mary Oliver

Allow yourself to dream big about YOUR wild and precious life.  If you could do ANYTHING this year, what would that be?  Get creative! What do you want your commemorative stone to read?

Don’t prejudge wether you think it is possible right now.  Really, the more impossible the goal the better!  Then write it down!  

2 ask yourself, “who will I need become to accomplish your impossible goal?”

Success leaves clues.  Do you know of anyone who has done what you hope to accomplish?  Make a list of attributes that person has.  

You are worth becoming the person of your dreams!   Make a list of 25 ways YOU are Fancy, fabulous, zesty, improbable, beautiful, etc!

What do you want to believe about yourself? 

3. Finally, make a list of obstacles that would prevent you from becoming the person of your dreams. 

Remember:

  • Thoughts cause feelings 
  • Feelings cause actions (behavior) 
  • Actions create results.  

It is important to understand the 60,000 daily thoughts that are rogue in your subconscious.  There is a story line in your mind that limits who you can become or achieve.  Take control of the story!  

You know yourself.  Think about the ways you will most likely let yourself down and sabotage your story? 

Make a list of 25 obstacle thoughts.  You can compare the Fancy list to the obstacle list.  

Out smart your brain by identifying the negative thoughts ahead of time.  Your brain will subconsciously use those thoughts against you. 

Now build a plan to address road blocks from a place of authority. Decide ahead of time how YOU will respond to obstacle thoughts with planned responses.  

You are FANCY!

I hope you take the time to create this one wild and precious life!  You are FANCY (if you want to be).  

You can accomplish ANY worthwhile goal if you are willing to become the person who makes that goal a reality.  Take control of your thoughts, feelings, actions and results.  

I have had the honor to work with several people in the last couple months.  It is rewarding to help people question their thoughts and develop thoughts that serve the life they want to create. 

Every brain needs a coach.  I’ve experienced a powerful transformation with coaching and self-coaching.  I’d love the honor of working with you!  Learn More: Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach

I’m rooting for you!  Happy Holidays!!!!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!