Rejecting Ageism

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping midlife women believe their best years are ahead.  Today she chats about rejecting ageism.

Have you heard the term ageism?  You may not have experienced anything akin to discrimination, but you might have used it against yourself by buying into stereotypes.  Have you ever limited yourself because of your age?  It is a sneaky thing we do to ourselves when celebrate certain birthdays.  

“You are not a mistake.  You are not a problem to be solved.  But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming, caging, and fearing yourself,”  Geneen Roth.  

Don’t bang your head against your age either. 

I prefer ageless to ageism

“To be ageless is to defy the rules of what it supposedly means to be this age or that,”  Dr. Christiane Northrup.  

After reading Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Goddesses Never Age I was inspired to forge my own path and make my own rules for the next few decades.  Lucky for me I have wonderful role models.  My parents are both health conscious and lead interesting lives.  My Mom loves to say, “You rest, you rust.”  Adopting an ageless attitude will help you flourish physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.   

How to reject ageism for agelessness

1. Find examples

You will find countless examples of midlife success by doing a simple Google search.  I’ve studied well known people like Martha Stewart and Julia child.  But, I love the stories of women who blazed their own trail without the fanfare of fame.

The documentary Fabulous Fashionistas highlights six spunky 80’ish women who refuse to stop living.  These women wear Doc Martens and mini-skirts, and “don’t give a toss” about what people think of them.  Jean Woods, 75 years young, runs several times a week on her new knee and got a job as the oldest employee of GAP.  In their pursuit of life they all stay fit, aren’t afraid of hard work and have a steely determination.  Their indomitable spirits are inspiring.  

Betty White at age 95 remarked, “Don’t try to be young.  Just open your mind.  Stay interested in stuff.  There are so many things I won’t live long enough to find out about.  But I’m still curious about them.”  She is definitely an inspiration.  

2. Be aware

Who determines when your value diminishes?  Do you feel invisible (a common complaint of age conscious people)?  Do you have a shelf life?  

Well, society and stereotypes will attempt to turn you to anti-aging agents, creams or surgeries to make you feel younger.  Because you are “worth it.”  I believe this propaganda is robbing you of who you really are, of your sense of self, wisdom, sense of usefulness.  

Only you can determine your worth.  You can allow the messages that younger is better, or you can reject the message as an outright lie.  Once you become aware of what you truly believe about midlife, you can address these thoughts.  

So, what sneaky thoughts have you noticed depleting your midlife mojo?  Are you aware?

3. Breakthrough

“Our obsession with image is tiring, it’s never ending.  Where as if our emphasis turns inward more, what really our life is about, what turns us on, what makes us feel electric, then that starts to glow outside.”  Scilla Elworthy

At this point in life you can either think there is no time or energy for your dreams, or you no longer want to put your dreams on hold.  One thought is energy depleting and the other creates energy.

A breakthrough demands a radical departure from some of your habitual thoughts.  How would you show up to midlife if you could believe anything is possible?  You are worth exploring this question.  You just as you are.    

Your best years are ahead

I truly believe your best years are ahead.  This is the belief I’m building my coaching practice upon.  I am passionate about sharing tools that will help you realize your best life, at any age.

If you can believe, life is ready to to give you a breakthrough.  This belief is energy creating.  

I’d love to help you create YOUR vision for midlife.  So, I’ve made it easy for you to get started.  I offer a FREE mini session for those of you who are curious about life coaching.  Click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


The amazing resiliency of the mind, body and spirit

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach for midlife women who want to believe the best years are ahead.  Today we are talking about resiliency.
We take on the world… one house at a time.

The amazing resiliency of the mind, body and spirit

Can you remember a time when you blew your own damn mind by your sheer will power to accomplish a goal?  At the end you were exhausted, yet proud of the energy you pulled from a mysterious source called resiliency.

How quickly did you recover from the struggle of that experience? 

“No one escapes pain, fear, and suffering.  Yet from pain can come wisdom, from fear can come courage, from suffering can come strength – if we have the virtue of resilience.”  Eric Greitens

Resilience in action

This past week Jeff and I were preoccupied with the exhausting task of completing a month’s worth of work on our home in Ohio in less than a week.

Most of the empty nesters I know mourn the day their kids fly the coop.  A house once filled with unending activity and the laughter of teenagers becomes piercingly quiet and still.  Jeff and I took an unorthodox approach to this season.  WE flew the coop and left the house to the kids.  I love my kids dearly, but leaving a house to college students who had friends and animals move in and out of it for eight years created a massive project for us.  

So, Jeff and I drove to Ohio (a two day trip), spent six straight days emptying the house of left behind junk, cleaning every nook and cranny, fixing broken things, and painting nearly every room and baseboard.  The house looked brand new when we were done.  Thank God my father in-law flew up to help us and did an awesome job keeping up with the work frenzy.  In between working, I got to play with my grandson who brightened every single day and managed to see my family (if for only a short time).  

Needless to say, every night I went to bed wondering how I would do it agin the next day.  Every day I woke up and worked from a mysterious energy that can only be described as sheer will power.  

It hit me as Jeff and I was driving back to Texas that what I experienced and continue to see in my life is the amazing resiliency of the human mind, body and spirit.  

I’m confident in your resiliency

I know you have your own stories… mind, body and spirit.

Can you remember a time you couldn’t imagine ever recovering from?  {A hurtful word said, a failure that seemed final, etc.}. Your capacity to forgive yourself and others, and to choose to reframe any circumstance is an amazing function of a well managed mind.  

If you ever broken a bone, cut yourself or got stung by a bee, you know the amazing ability of the body to heal.

The best example of resiliency is a mamma who gives birth and is willing to experience it again. 

Have you ever survived a tornado, hurricane or flood?  It is heartwarming to witness the human spirit rally behind communities in the clean up efforts.

There are so many examples!  

At times we have no choice but to be resilient, but we are and that is amazing.

Can you believe?

Resilience is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.  It’s a noun, a thing.  

Once you realize your capacity, resiliency is impelling.  There is nothing you won’t take on with the mysterious energy that comes from wisdom, courage and strength. ~ Tiffany

So, let me encourage you to get curious.  

In unavoidable circumstances, do you believe you are resilient?  

What difficult task would you undertake if you believed you had the ability to recover quickly?  

Looking back, have you ever blown your own damn mind?  

What keeps you from having resilience?  

Who determines your resiliency?  

I’m crazy enough to believe 

Failing forward is essential to your success in any endeavor and resiliency is the key.  I am confident in your capacity.  You can imagine the life you desire and work through any obstacle with wisdom, courage and strength.

Maybe you just need a little push. 

I want you to help you realize your capacity to process the obstacles and take creative control of your life.  

If this resonates with you, please take the time to schedule a FREE mini session with me, someone who truly believes in YOUR possibilities.  Simply click the link below and choose a date on my calendar.  

It really is that simple.  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky

Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach


Will you shut down during lockdown?

ALWAYS BEEN A BIT OF A DREAMER! This was taken before my hair went grey 🙂

Last week I notice a shift from a feisty “get’er done” attitude about the COVID-19 lockdown, to a lethargic F’It attitude.  

We are so close to the end, let’s finish strong!  

With a little effort, it is possible to live well during quarantine.  We were born to create and are naturally innovative, not vegetative.  

Be YOUR hero of YOUR health!

Self-aware is the first step to self-care

First, I would like to offer a huge dose of grace.  Don’t shut down your emotions.  A good cry is therapeutic.  Feelings are an indication of your thoughts, which are totally in your control once you understand how to manage your mind.  

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.  I had a complete melt down when I had to cancel my 50th backyard birthday bash.  I have a good cry every time I think that I could have seen my new grandson, who would have been at my party.  Thankfully, my life coach helped me reframe my thoughts to remember that I can still be connected to them even if it’s not in person.  

A good laugh is medicine too.  That one takes a little effort, but so worth it.  I found Leslie Jordan on Instagram www.instagram.com/thelesliejordan (You’re welcome)

Our mental health is under siege.  

I totally understand getting lost in the last season of Shits Creek or scrolling through social media to get your mind off the lock down.  Just don’t completely shut down your gorgeous mind, shut off the tv and social media!  

This is actually an awesome opportunity to learn something new, create something amazing, or discover something about yourself.  Y’all can’t say you don’t have time!  You simply need to manage your mind!

Innovate.  Create.  Be amazing! 

Your future self will thank you!  

Don’t shut down your imagination!  

Look into your future.  How do you see yourself in a year?

In retrospect, how does your future self feel about lock down?  Will she be glad you watched the Tiger drama, or proud of the victory garden you planted?  Is she ready for her first 5k run, or worried about loosing the Corona 15 she gained (weight gained during the lock down)?  

I don’t know what is important to you, but you won’t achieve it by shutting down your imagination.  

You don’t have to spend all your time productive to be proactive.  Just pick one goal you would like to accomplish in April.  Is your future self worth it?  

Human needs

It is safe to say that COVID-19 has sabotaged our six basic human needs, unless you hold uncertainty as a priority.  The six basic human needs are certainty, uncertainty, love/connection, significance, growth and contribution.  Meeting the need for love and connection, certainty or significance may seem hard during lockdown, but growth and contribution are totally within your control.  

Seriously, don’t let the lockdown shut down your basic human need for growth and contribution!  Finish the lockdown strong!  

Get coaching!

Does the idea of managing your mind resonate with you, but not exactly sure how to apply it to your life?  Click the box below to schedule a FREE Mini Session!  A FREE Mini Session is a 45 minute zoom call where I can help you wrap your mind around where you are emotionally and where you’d like to be a year from now.  So you can be the hero of your health.

As always, I am rooting for you!  Self-aware is the first step to self-care.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Awesome Women over 40

A message for women over 40 that has resonated with all my Facebook friends today!

Finally have control of my thoughts concerning who I am, about food and cocktails, etc

A message from Andy Rooney… LOVE THIS MAN!

In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40:

“As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jack off, or if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.”

The BIG 50

Yep, I turn 50 next month. I can honestly say I am super excited! I have taken creative control of my life and it feels AWESOME! This is my time! I’m having a midlife awakening! This is my decade! I have dreams, plans and am more self aware than ever before!

Light yourself on fire with passion and people will come from miles to watch you burn.

Author Unknown… but I KNOW I’d love them!

The best part

I’d like to offer that the best part is that you can take creative control of your life at any age!

Wow… I can’t even begin to imagine my life {and the lives of my favorite people} if I’d taken hold of this mindset when I was younger. DANG!

Mindset and thought work is now my life’s work as a certified life coach. I love taking a deep dive into what women really want.

What are you waiting for?

I’d love to help you take creative control of YOUR life!

Reach out to me! Set up your FREE consultation. Or go ahead and book your three month session. Let me help you see past your “reality”. There are other options to see YOUR life! There is a better way. I can help you get there!

Book Now!

Your Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit,

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

We Are Fancy! Mister Rogers Said So!

Yep, we are fancy!  Mister Rogers said so. Must be true! 

Let me tell you my FANCY story. 

Once upon a time, my real estate career came to a premature end.  In 2008 the real estate market tanked, along with all my hopes and dreams at the time. 

Not long after I quit, my colleague Wes invited me to apply for an inside sales job at a local manufacturing company.  I had reservations.  I am not corporate or like following rigid rules.  Could I sit at a desk all day???  I decided to apply and successfully made it through an interview.  I knew I’d get it!  Wes knew I was a hard worker and good enough at sales. 

Can you imagine my shock when he called to request a second interview?  I remember telling Wes, “What the heck?  You know me.  What on earth could they need to ask me?”  Wes assured me it was just the policy of the HR department.   UUGH – stupid rules.  As I walked out my front door the morning of the second interview, I turned to asked Jeff, “I have no idea what this could be about, do you have any advice for me?”  His reply was classic Jeff, “I can’t think of anything but, {insert a long pause} this is your one chance Fancy, don’t let me down.” 

I got the job.  It lasted six months.  Turns out I can’t sit at a desk.  I saved all the money from that job for an epic trip to Italy with Jeff.  So, I technically did not let him down.   

Jeff called me Fancy, it must be true.  LOL!  Friends have nicknamed me Fancy ever since then.  I own it!

Are you FANCY?

 If fancy isn’t your thing, what do you want to be known for?  

  • A career can not determine your identity.  
  • Opinions of others can not determine your identity.  
  • ANY outside influence can not determine your identity.  

The truth is YOU determine your identity.  You tell the story of YOUR future by choosing the words you want to identify YOU.  What words would you choose? Use a Thesaurus!  Try on words as if you would try on clothes in a dressing room.  

  • Why did you choose certain words to describe yourself?
  • Do you like your reasons?

Hey seasoned woman… this is YOUR season. Be zesty! Let the words of Mary Oliver inspire you.

Hire Life Coach, Tiffany Eckhardt to help you work through who you want to be.

Steps to become who you want to BE

1. The first step is to identify what you would like to accomplish.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? Mary Oliver

Allow yourself to dream big about YOUR wild and precious life.  If you could do ANYTHING this year, what would that be?  Get creative! What do you want your commemorative stone to read?

Don’t prejudge wether you think it is possible right now.  Really, the more impossible the goal the better!  Then write it down!  

2 ask yourself, “who will I need become to accomplish your impossible goal?”

Success leaves clues.  Do you know of anyone who has done what you hope to accomplish?  Make a list of attributes that person has.  

You are worth becoming the person of your dreams!   Make a list of 25 ways YOU are Fancy, fabulous, zesty, improbable, beautiful, etc!

What do you want to believe about yourself? 

3. Finally, make a list of obstacles that would prevent you from becoming the person of your dreams. 

Remember:

  • Thoughts cause feelings 
  • Feelings cause actions (behavior) 
  • Actions create results.  

It is important to understand the 60,000 daily thoughts that are rogue in your subconscious.  There is a story line in your mind that limits who you can become or achieve.  Take control of the story!  

You know yourself.  Think about the ways you will most likely let yourself down and sabotage your story? 

Make a list of 25 obstacle thoughts.  You can compare the Fancy list to the obstacle list.  

Out smart your brain by identifying the negative thoughts ahead of time.  Your brain will subconsciously use those thoughts against you. 

Now build a plan to address road blocks from a place of authority. Decide ahead of time how YOU will respond to obstacle thoughts with planned responses.  

You are FANCY!

I hope you take the time to create this one wild and precious life!  You are FANCY (if you want to be).  

You can accomplish ANY worthwhile goal if you are willing to become the person who makes that goal a reality.  Take control of your thoughts, feelings, actions and results.  

I have had the honor to work with several people in the last couple months.  It is rewarding to help people question their thoughts and develop thoughts that serve the life they want to create. 

Every brain needs a coach.  I’ve experienced a powerful transformation with coaching and self-coaching.  I’d love the honor of working with you!  Learn More: Three Reasons To Hire A Life Coach

I’m rooting for you!  Happy Holidays!!!!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!