The truth is data drama is cramping my style

Tiffany Eckhardt, certified life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  Are you suffering from data drama?
How ya feeling????

Is data drama cramping your style?

Full disclosure, life coaches are not immune to drama.   In today’s blog I will share insights from my journal in hopes that it will help you navigate the chaos created when data drama cramps your style.  

The struggle is real.  At this point, are your thoughts and feelings “large and in charge?”

It dawned on me today that I have fallen into information overload.  I can quickly get sucked into my iPhone apps, scrolling through Instagram and Facebook.  Before I know it, I’ve spent hours down a rabbit hole searching for truth and researching possible solutions. 

YEP, data drama is cramping my style.  It is time to take charge of my thoughts and feelings, live for the moment and create a future that motivates me today.

An a-ha moment while doing a thought download.  

Thank God for journaling!  Thought downloads are extremely important during times of chaos.  Journaling clarifies thoughts on paper and indicates where feelings are coming from.   

It dawned on me today that data drama is like the toilet paper phenomenon.  Investing hours in getting to the facts can be compared to standing in line for toilet paper.  It is an attempt to maintain some control over the uncontrollable. 

As if anything outside ourselves can be controlled. 

The only thing YOU control is YOUR thoughts.  What ever you focus your attention on becomes YOUR truth.  

How about allowing an alternate scenario equal airtime?   

I am not suggesting anyone should burying their head in the sand in ignorance.  It is important to be well informed and know what you believe.  Just understand, it is natural for your mind to obsess over the worst case scenario. 

It takes seventeen seconds for a thought to produce the vibration of a feeling.  If you feel tense or angry, take a hot second to to pause.  What thought produced the feeling of fear, anger, etc. 

“Do you want to feel fear or fierce?” ~Brooke Castillo  

Shut off the data drama long enough to give creativity a chance to shine!  You are in control of your storyline.  Give innovation and curiosity equal airtime.   Your unique talent is in desperate need in this moment. It would be a shame if data drama stole your thunder.

Ask yourself:

1. What do I want?

It is easy to know what you don’t want.  It takes practice to train your brain to look for what you do want.  A more beneficial thought might be, “how do I want to feel?” 

Data drama exposed my need for certainty.  So, I am choosing to look for thoughts that will serve my need for order. Instead of thinking, “This is a really scary time, feels worse than 2008.” I am choosing to think, “Jeff and I are in a better space mentally to deal with what ever presents itself.” Notice which thought gives me power over the unwelcome feeling of uncertainty.

Do you need to pivot?

2. What if this is happening for me, not against me?

Taken from Tony Robbins’ playbook… This is the best question to ask when looking for alternative scenarios.  Your mind makes up shit about the circumstances, so you might as well make up some shit that works for you!  Resist the worst case scenario. You control the narrative!  

3. How can I create and contribute?

Out of the six basic human needs, growth and contribution are the spiritual needs. Using the circumstance as an opportunity to learn, create and serve humanity allows you to connect with your soul! Can you create something that will add value to your community? Are opportunities for growth presenting themselves? What can you do to help your neighbors?

“If you can’t do great things, Mother Teresa used to say, do little things with great love. If you can’t do them with great love, do them with a little love. If you can’t do them with a little love, do them anyway. Love grows when people serve.” John Ortberg

My commitment to solutions

I am dedicated to those who can’t be caged!  Let me offer freedom from data drama! During this season I am committed to:

  1. Sharing information & resources
  2. Promoting wellness & immune health
  3. Asking quality questions
  4. Offering to listen 
  5. Coaching those who want practical ways to deal with real feelings.  
  6. Teaching the tools to manage thoughts
  7. Promoting & supporting my entrepreneurial friends & neighbors
  8. Sending love to this world!

As you can see I have NO time for data drama!  

Reach out to me if you need someone to listen.  I offer a FREE one hour consultation for first time clients. In that hour, I help you clarify how you really want feel and how to create thoughts to produce that feeling.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Do you have the luck of the Irish?

Lucky?  Tiffany Eckhardt, Certified Life Coach helping women take creative control of their lives.
Lucky Me… don’t pinch me!

Do you have the luck of the Irish on your side this week?  I wear green on St. Patty’s day in honor of my Celtic friends and to avoid being pinched!  

I looked up the term “luck of the Irish” and learned it was coined during the gold rush years.  The most famous and successful miners were Irish.  Their success was attributed to sheer luck. 

I may be “lucky enough” to have a small percentage of Irish ancestry, but I don’t attribute luck to success, or feel unlucky with lack of success.  Of course I will always welcome luck!  My heart flutters at the idea of luck choosing me, but I understand my role in the husbandry of my future. 

“You’ve got to do your own growing no matter how tall your father was.”  Irish proverb

So let’s play with creation.  How do you create a life you want, with or without the magic of luck?

A managed mind creates opportunities for luck.  

Information continually bombards us on a daily basis.  Our brilliant minds funnel the information to avoid overload.  “They” call it confirmation bias.  

Here is a simple example how my mind funneled information:  I want to retire Miss Dixie, my truck. She served me well as an antique dealer, hauling a trailer of goodies for years.  Now that I have a new “hat” I long to drive something sporty and definitely not owned by the masses.  I made the decision that an off-white Mini Cooper Countryman would be fun.  Literally the moment I chose that car I saw them everywhere!  Weird, until then I hardly noticed them.  

How does confirmation bias affect our opportunities?  An unattended mind will offer only what is programed in a belief system.  Do you believe in lack, you will see lack everywhere.  Do you believe in abundance, you will see abundance everywhere.  In other words, your mind will present evidence to only what you believe. It might be time for a pivot!

The good news is that you get to choose your thoughts and create from any belief system you cultivate.  In fact, a managed mind can create opportunities.  

Give your creative juices room to breathe!  I believe inspiration comes when your mind is at rest.  Occasionally unplugging from information overload allows ideas to flow and the mind to dream.  Daily journalling has helped me to get crystal clear on what I want and choose thoughts that serve the life I want to create.  

Success leaves clues. 

I first learned the concept of success leaving clues from Tony Robbins.  He teaches that instead of reinventing the wheel, look to the ones who paved the way.  There are teachers everywhere!

Sure, life is a great classroom.  I’ve learned many lessons from the school of hard knocks.  Now that I’m entering my 50’s I’m getting wiser.  I prefer to invest time and money into podcasts, books and seminars to learn from other people’s hard knocks.  

A word about hard knocks:  don’t let them surprise you or derail your dream.  I love what Elizabeth Gilbert shares about enduring disappointment in her book Big Magic.  It’s part of the job of any creative.  She quotes Mark Manson, “the secret to finding your purpose in life is to answer this question in total honesty:  Whats your favorite flavor of shit sandwich?”  Because if you love something enough then you don’t mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.  Fail forward my friend!  

Everything is figure-outable.  

I can’t stop talking about Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figure-outable.  If you train your mind to believe that one statement, there is NOTHING you can’t do!  

“Almost everything needed to make your dream a reality requires new skills, experiences, and understanding.  You must do things you’ve never done before.”  Marie Forleo.  

Create your own luck by training your mind and being a student of success.  In doing so you’ll be an inspiration and possibly attract the luck of the Irish!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Are You Living A Life Of Creative Abundance?

Is your goal to live a life of creative abundance?  Do you want to take creative control of your life?  I believe it’s worth taking the leap!

I admire people who ooze creativity.  It always appears to be effortless, natural, like they just ARE creative.  I’m learning that is not exactly the case. 

In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic, she refers to ideas and creativity as mystics that come to you and offer the idea.  It is your job to say yes or no to the idea, understanding there will be a few “shit sandwiches” on the menu. In fact, according to Gilbert the reason we don’t move creatively ahead is always and only fear.

“Creative living is living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than fear.” ~Liz

A poet that Gilbert became intrigued with, once told a literature student, “Do you have the courage?  Do you have the courage to bring forth this work?  The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

Do YOU invest for abundance?

I wholeheartedly support Elizabeth Gilbert’s theory that creativity is an energy that chooses us to co-create with.  Cuz it’s the TRUTH!  It is a gift from God.  

I’ve been mulling over a familiar Bible story in the book of Mathew.  As the story goes, a boss man (my words not the Bible’s) went out of town and left his servants in charge.  He gave “talents” to each according to their ability.  The first servant he gave five talents to invest, to the second servant he gave two talents to invest and to the third servant he gave one talent to invest. When the boss returned he found the first two servants had double their talents.  The third servant buried his talents because he feared loosing the one talent he had. 

Impressed, the boss commended the first two servants with, “Well done, good and faithful servant!  You have been faithful with few things; I will put you in charge of many things.  Come and share in my happiness!”  The boss reprimanded the third servant with, “You wicked, lazy servant… you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.”

The good and faithful servants will be given more talents to work with, while the third servant will be passed over next time the talents are divvied out.  

A verse on abundance: Mathew 25: 29

For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have abundance.  

I am not a Bible scholar.  I simply love that Jesus encourages people to invest their talents. He fully understands the fear and risks involved, as well as the abundance rewarded to the courageous.

It appears that the story is about a dude with a lot of money, entrusting his wealth to his servants.  I view this familiar parable as an example of our benevolent creator continually entrusting gifts and talents to humanity, taking delight in what is created with the gifts.  

When we are willing to invest, share and ship our talents, the talents multiple.  I wholeheartedly believe in abundance.  It is up to all of us to get curious about what we have to offer, develop our talents and be willing to share them. 

Sign me up for abundance!

I am pursuing a creative life.  Abundance is directly related to my willingness to invest in my gifts. I hope the gifts I share inspire and encourage you as well, but most importantly are a gift back to my creator.

The creative life isn’t effortless.  A meaningful, creative life that gives back requires courage.  The courageous receive abundance.

Fear is lazy.  I refuse to bury my talents or play small and will have the courage to continue to grow, and to keep moving towards becoming the best version of myself, feeling the vibration of fear, knowing it will pass.  

Are you curious?

I invite you to get curious about your talents.  Have you given into fear and succumbed to living a small life?  Or are you looking for ideas to invest your talents? 

As Jack Gilbert put it, “The treasures that are hidden inside you are hoping you will say YES!”

I would love to connect with all you badass women who are ready to take creative control of your life!  Let’s shake up this world with our abundant talents!!!!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!  

Need a pivot? How A Life Coach Can Help You!

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach helps women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.

Do you need to pivot? Have you noticed that no matter what you do, some circumstances in your life seem to be stuck?  I promise that there is a thought you simply need to pivot from.  

When you understand that thoughts cause the results in your life, it changes everything!

Let me offer you some thoughts I often hear.  

Familiar thoughts to pivot?

“I just need a break from my thoughts.”  

“I have no idea what I want.”

“Why do I keep self sabotaging?”

“The deck is stacked against me.”  

“Why won’t he/she would just do….”

“My boss is a ….”

“I hate that I can’t seem to get my finances in order.”

“Why can’t I just loose the weight?”

“I’m worried…”

“I’m angry.”

I’m not good, talented, pretty… enough.”

A good life coach can help you flip the switch.  They will help you recognize the thoughts that run on auto pilot and offer thoughts to pivot your feelings, behavior and results in life. 

An opportunity to pivot can present itself in a variety of life circumstances.  You don’t need to be facing a mid life crisis to realize that you need a change.  Regardless of the circumstance, a pivot can happen when you take control of your thought life.  

How can I help you pivot?

Through the work of Brooke Castillo I learned a proven model that helps identify the thoughts that keep you stuck.  Thought work is a powerful tool in self awareness and mental health.  I’ve personally used it to improve my marriage, loose weight, become a girl who loves exercise, make decisions, set goals and learn to love who I am.  

I love this work!  I am passionate about helping people have a-ha moments and pivot to what they really want in life.  

During a coaching session with me, I listen to what your experiencing.  I want to know all the thoughts you have about your circumstances. Next we will examine your thoughts and identify pivots. A pivot happens when you learn that thoughts are interrelated to feelings, actions and ultimately your results in life.  

We will work together to create a future from your future.  So, don’t expect me to drudge up all your wounds from the past.  Although the story you’ve created around your past is effecting your life.  We want YOU to become the hero of your own story and pivot to a new chapter. 

You will need the help of a therapist if you have trauma from abuse or addictions. 

What kind of person hires a life coach?

People who want to pivot.  

I freakin love my coaches!  I’ve experienced numerous pivots working with coaches at the Life Coach School and peer coaching.  They help me discover something new about my thought life every time.  Every brain needs a coach!

I work with women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  You are a person who hires a life coach if…

  • You’re tired of the patterns in your life. You have a vague idea that life could be so much better.  Do you know what you want in life?  Maybe you can’t understand why you do what you do.  
  • You know that you have so much to offer the world and want to pivot towards creating your life.   Self awareness is the key to self care.
  • Are the hero in their own story.  
Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach helps women who are ready to take creative control of their lives pivot.

Free consultation

Does the idea of pivoting intrigue you?  I’m offering a FREE consultation!  This is a no pressure hour of chatting about where you are in life and where you would like to go.  If I am a good fit for you, then we’ll set up sessions to help you pivot to the life you want to create.  

I wholeheartedly believe that YOU have the power to take creative control of your life!  I’d love to guide you in the pivot! Learn more by reading: Three Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach.

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Jumping off points in life, do you take the leap?

At jumping off points in your life, do you take the leap?

Jumping off with a resident sting ray

In the midst of planning for our Gadabout Gals trip to Belize, I came across of a picture on Instagram of a young girl jumping with abandon off the pier of our vacation rental.  It spoke to me.  That girl seemed to embody a fearless abandon that I longed for at the time.  I knew I had to recreate that scene for myself.  I wasn’t about to let that young thing have all the fun.  

Tiffany Eckhardt, Life Coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life

It was scarier than I expected on the day of the envisioned jump.  I had a cheerleading squad on deck to encourage me that I am that girl.  I have a rule… no swimming in water I can’t see clearly what I swimming with.  Even though the fear was real, I jumped.  I did not look as carefree as that young thing, but it was a rush.  I don’t remember how I exactly got out of the water, but I’m sure it was in record time.  

Later we learned that there was a resident sting ray living under the dock.  I pondered my jump.  Would I have jumped if I knew about our pet sting ray we affectionately named Franklin? 

Jumping into the crystal blue

When the Gadabout Gals planned our epic trip to Italy, I had no plans of brave adventure.  I felt more romantic than fearless.  The group planned several boat trips with Blue Star Positano to frolic on the Amalfi coast in crystal blue water.  It is gorgeous!  

On a day trip to Capris, our captain Massimo anchored us near a cave to go swimming.  I was thrilled.  Crystal clear water meant that I can see everything!  Great!  That is until our captain started to throw bread crumbs out for the fish.  I freaked out!  

This time I could see exactly what I was swimming with.  Was I really ready to jump in?  Would I be able to swim into the amazing cavern????  

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.
Fun fact: Turns out Gadabout Kelly is WAY more fearless than me!

Yes, of course! 

Jumping off points

My stories of tested bravery has me thinking about jumping off points in life.  How do you respond to the times when you face fear.  Do you jump?  Or do you wait until you are ready?

Tiffany Eckhardt, life coach for women who are ready to take creative control of life.

Would I have been ready to jump off the pier in Belize if I knew I would be swimming with a resident sting ray?  Yes, of course.  I jumped in the crystal blue waters of Amalfi, despite the fish I knew I’d be swimming with.  

In the new book, Everything is Figure Outable Marie Forleo addresses the idea of starting before you are ready.  She uses a technique called future tripping.  Most people view future tripping as the tendency to worry about the future at the expense of the present.  Marie flips that trip to ask herself, “In ten years, will I regret NOT doing this?” 

There are two types of pain you will go through in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, while regret weighs tons.  ~ Jim Rohn

In other words, would my 60 year old self regret not taking the leap in Belize or in Italy?  I never want to disappoint my future self!  

How many times do we miss out on an amazing rush of adventure because our thoughts convince us that the worse case scenario is definitely in our future?  

Or worse yet, how many times do we miss out on any opportunity in life because you did not feel ready?  The truth that Marie Forleo reveals is, “You are never ready to do the important things you’re meant to do.”  

Manage YOUR jumps

It is very simple.  Manage your mind, manage your life.  The way you think about the opportunities to leap matter.  

Thoughts produce feelings, which create action.  It’s all the thought, Feel, Act Cycle.  After years of wondering if there was something seriously wrong with me, I learned a couple tools that I wish my twenty year old self knew.  In my FREE guide to Unlock The Secret To Knowing What You Want In Life I share how YOU can use the power YOUR thoughts to create the life you really want.  I am living proof!

~Tiffany 

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Awesome Women over 40

A message for women over 40 that has resonated with all my Facebook friends today!

Finally have control of my thoughts concerning who I am, about food and cocktails, etc

A message from Andy Rooney… LOVE THIS MAN!

In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40:

“As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jack off, or if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.”

The BIG 50

Yep, I turn 50 next month. I can honestly say I am super excited! I have taken creative control of my life and it feels AWESOME! This is my time! I’m having a midlife awakening! This is my decade! I have dreams, plans and am more self aware than ever before!

Light yourself on fire with passion and people will come from miles to watch you burn.

Author Unknown… but I KNOW I’d love them!

The best part

I’d like to offer that the best part is that you can take creative control of your life at any age!

Wow… I can’t even begin to imagine my life {and the lives of my favorite people} if I’d taken hold of this mindset when I was younger. DANG!

Mindset and thought work is now my life’s work as a certified life coach. I love taking a deep dive into what women really want.

What are you waiting for?

I’d love to help you take creative control of YOUR life!

Reach out to me! Set up your FREE consultation. Or go ahead and book your three month session. Let me help you see past your “reality”. There are other options to see YOUR life! There is a better way. I can help you get there!

Book Now!

Your Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit,

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Take Creative Control Of Your Life!

I am a life coach who works with women who are ready to take creative control of their lives.  

Future Focused

I’d like to share with you a concept that has revolutionized the lens from which women can choose to create their life.  

Have you ever wondered why your life seems to be on repeat?  Why you can’t seem to achieve anything more than what you already have?  I can relate.  

That was my life until I learned about a concept called future focus.  

Think of your life as a horizontal straight line.  At the beginning of the line mark 0 representing the day you were born.  At the end of the line mark 100, the age you hope to live to.  The women I coach are facing the midpoint of 50, or so.  

At 50 you can either see all the life you lived, and make decisions based on past experience.  Or you can look at all the life ahead of you and create from vast possibilities.  

So, are you creating with a future focus or are you repeating the past?  

My A-ha moment

My a-ha moment was when I discovered I was basing my future success on the failures.  I have a box full of business cards from the risks I’ve taken.  Regretfully, my identity became associated with failure.  Now I see that I can’t create a different life with that limiting belief.  I now look at my failures and see all the times I got back up and that failing will not kill me. I am free to create a dream life from future possibilities.  

Are you ready to embrace your future self without the limitations of past proof? Reach out to me if you are ready to take creative control of your life.  

~Tiffany Eckhardt

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Create a life on purpose as a Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit

Gen.U.Ine free spirits create life on purpose and are the definition of radical. rad·i·cal (especially of change or action) relating to or affecting the fundamental nature of something; far-reaching or thorough.

They thoroughly know the power of living with no regrets. They affect the fundamental nature of their future with a far-reaching impact.  

Fly free my friends!

Gen.U.Ine free spirits fly free of limitations that could clip their wings with break through beliefs. They create with no regrets and soar above failures. 

Be thorough

A free spirited life requires being thoroughly self aware, authentic…Gen.U.Ine.  

They understand the power of thoroughly examining their thought life on a daily basis and managing their emotions to create a life on their terms. The life they desire is only a thought away.

Gen.U.Ine free spirits do not allow the opinions and expectations of others to alter their potential and choose their beliefs about their life.

Be far-reaching

Gen.U.Ine free spirits are fierce with uncommon energy and want you to fly free too!  They understand that they are not serving anyone by staying small!  Their potential impact is far-reaching as a radical Gen.U.Ine free spirit!

What do you want your story to be?  

Say out loud, “I am a radical genuine free spirit.”

How does that thought feel????  How would you show up in life with that belief?  

Do you have creative control over your own life and soar above failures with not regrets?  Are you genuine, free of self-imposed limitations and self aware?  Are you fierce with uncommon energy and a far-reaching impact?  

If you can answer yes to any of the above questions, you thoroughly enjoy life as a Rad.I.cal – Gen.U.Ine Free Spirit! 

Let me help you fly free!

What do you want to create?  What do you want to achieve?  Who do you want to be?

How do you want to define yourself?

I’d love to help you break through your thoughts to create life on your terms.  Working with me will give you the clarity you need to move forward with confidence.  It truly is my passion to help women choose to think they can be, do or have anything they set their minds on!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around them writing “YES” in the sky!

The life you desire is only a thought away

Dreaming of a life I create!

What is the secret sauce to making your dreams come true? 

Do people who realize their dreams have a secret sauce?  What if I told you that the life you desire is only a thought away?

Indulge in an exercises to stretch your dream muscle.  

I want to encourage you to take a break from marinating in “what is.”  Take a hot second to fully embody YOUR dream life!  Transport yourself into that life.  Build that dream with all the thoughts that excite you.  

What does it look like?  How does it feel?  What new skills did you learn?  How do you behave differently?  Where do you shop?  What car do you drive?  Who do you hang around with?  What fills your calendar?  What does a person who has your dream life think about on a daily basis? 

Embodying the dream is creating the future from the future

What are you willing to do to achieve the dream?  

I’m not talking about being willing to do something immoral or illegal.  I’m talking about addressing the thoughts that oppose your dream.  Although not as sexy as flexing your dream muscle, it is equally important to address all or your obstacle thoughts upfront.  

Would you be willing to risk embarrassment? Would you be willing to stick to a protocol or a calendar?  Can you think of possible attitudes that would creep in?  All these obstacles are currently just thoughts.  What if you created a strategy to nip those thoughts in the bud and replace them with thoughts that served you?

Identifying obstacles and creating a strategy ahead of time is creating the future from the future.

My dream is to create a 100k coaching business the first year as a coach.  

Wow.  I said it.  That is scary.  You might judge me.  Well, so what?

100K means different things to different people.  

  • Some might think, “who does she think she is with that outrageous goal?”
  • While others dismiss the goal as chunk change.  You might already have a million dollar business.

All those thoughts (good or bad) don’t matter when I am working towards my dream.  Both views are simply thoughts, beliefs of what is possible.  I could choose to think it’s impossible or easy.   

The only thing that matters in creating YOUR dream life is what YOU think!  

I’m a product of the product

I coached myself through this exercise by imagining what life will be like when I see 100k on my tax return.  Let me share my example so you can start applying it to your example.

First I flexed my dream muscle.  Honestly, at first I couldn’t begin to imagine how life will be different.  The exercise was harder for me than I thought it would be.  I meditated on it.  Nothing popped in my head. 

Then a brilliant idea came to me… What would you do if 100k landed in my lap today?  It all came to me as I began to journal.  I know exactly what I’d do with a 100k today.  I’d buy a Mini Cooper (because I’d look cute driving one), pay off Jeff’s car and pay off the random credit card debt we have.  Then I’d reinvest the rest of the money into developing a kick ass business.  I’d hire a web designer, enroll in Stacey Boehman’s 2k for 2k mastermind, and buy the equipment I need to create videos, podcasts and online seminars.  

The dream is worth it!  What am I willing to do to achieve it?

So, what is exactly standing in my way?  In addition to fear of rejection and the fear of failure, I have all the mind drama associated with a start-up. Creating systems for finances and time management will require a lot of planning.  Learning to create a website, funnels, creating videos and classes will stretch me. Hiring people to help me. It all sounds hard!  

I actually found myself thinking the second 100k would be so much more fun because it would be easy.  

WAIT>>>> why can’t I think it is easy NOW?????  

A light bulb moment!  I can think anything I want.  From now on, I will choose to think creating a 100k business is easy.  I will face each obstacle with the thought that it can be figured out.  My future self will be so grateful I chose to create from the future.  She will know it’s easy because it’s done.  I’ll trust her.    

Change your thoughts, change your life”  Wayne Dyer

Dreaming becomes realistic when you do thought work around the accomplishing the dream.  Realizing your dream is truly a matter of acknowledging your desires and identifying the obstacle thoughts you will need to strategically address.    

What thoughts are preventing you from stepping towards your dream life?  How does the thought make you feel?  How do you behave when you feel that way?  Are your results confirming your belief?  Do you want to change that?

I’d love to help you sort through your thoughts to create life on your terms.  Working with me will give you the clarity you need to move forward with confidence.  It truly is my passion to help women choose to think they can be, do or have anything they set their minds on!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

A future created from the future

Now is the time to create.  It’s time to decide what you want to believe.  The title of your next chapter is yet to be written.
Definitely not Grandma Maggie’s swing! 😉

Last week in Mid-Life Muse I touched on creating a future.  This week I’d like to chat about creating a future from the future.  

It may appear to be pointing out the obvious, but the future is in the future and not the past.  

Life is just getting started for me.  I’m currently writing the next chapter of my story with a future focus.  

This past weekend my Grandma Maggie would have celebrated her 100th birthday.  She missed the milestone by only 2 years.  I turn 50 years young this March.  By her standard, I have another 50 to live!  

I wonder what occupied her mind when she turned 50 years?  I know she was willing to try new things.    

Grandma Maggie took up golf in her 50s.  She wanted to spend time with my Grandpa, who had just retired.  Eventually her golf game was so good that my Grandpa wouldn’t play with her anymore.  That didn’t stop her from joining several golf clubs and earning numerous awards!  

She was spunky.  No grass grew under her feet.  She worked on her swing into her late 80s. 

Like my Grandma, no grass will grow under my feet.  I am capable of learning new things at any age.  I might just have to pick up golf.  

You are either creating from your past or your future. 

How do you experience your future?  This isn’t a trick question.

Your future is experienced now in your thoughts.  The same is true for experiencing your past. You can believe ANYTHING you want about your future and your past. LET THAT SINK IN!

I am surprised to learn just how many people are viewing their future through past experiences.  Even worse, most are totally unaware of the thoughts influencing your future.

Who are you?  Where do you go to answer that question?  Does past experiences shape your identity?  

The first step is to get curious about your thoughts concerning your life.  Then notice if the thoughts are based on the past or the future.  

Do you notice that you relive past experiences?  Is it possible that you allow those stories to dictate your future? Wether or not you are aware, you mind finds evidence to support what ever you choose to believe about your past and future.  

You have a choice to create a future based on past experiences, or based on a dream you create into existence.  Granted, some past experiences can be built upon.  Just be aware what is serving you. 

A couple things to keep in mind…

First of all, success does not have an expiration date.  Do not use your age as an excuse.

Secondly, your life is not on auto pilot.  You are the author of your story.  

Choose your thoughts… choose your future identity.

  • Were you a horrible student? You can choose to believe you are capable of learning something new.  
  • Have you always been overweight? You can choose to believe it’s possible to loose weight and be healthy.  
  • Have you been irresponsible with money? You can choose to respect money and learn how to budget.  
  • Do you think you are too old to run a marathon? Find examples of people who ran a marathon in their 90s.  

There are plenty of examples of people who overcame similar circumstances and limiting beliefs!

I have a ton of new beliefs about my future self!  In the past I avoided exercise.  Now, I am a girl who loves exercise.  I was a horrible student.  Now, I love learning new skills.  Heck, I figured out how to change my website server last week!!!  I might have to believe I am techy!!!  

Chart new territory

Mid-life is a blank slate to write on! 

Now is the time to create.  It’s time to decide what you want to believe.  The title of your next chapter is yet to be written.  

Start writing on your blank slate as if you were embarking on a new adventure.  You are going to uncharted territory. As the author, you can also be the editor.  Only pack thoughts that are useful for your future.  Delete the thoughts that don’t serve you.  

On your journey you will experience difficulties and unforeseen challenges.  You have lived through enough to know you can handle it.  Believe anything can be figured out.  😉

Test your focus

Here’s a little test.  Keep a log of all your thoughts throughout the day.  What percentage of the thoughts you think are based on the past?  What percentage of the thoughts serve you today? 

Are you feeling hopeful of the future?  If not, what exactly are the thoughts you think about your future?  

The power of our thoughts to create our future is mind-blowing.  It is literally my favorite subject to talk about.  I’d love the opportunity to help you write the next chapter of your story.  

I believe you can create a life on your terms by becoming future focused.

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~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!