Lessons from an inspiring walk in the woods… becoming the person in the commemorative stone.

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It was an ideal fall day in the southern hills of Ohio, perfect weather for an inspiring hike in the woods.  My parents and I wanted to enjoy nature before the weather turned wet and blustery the next day.  They took me to a park I had not visited yet, knowing I’d love it.  

The beautiful park made my heart happy! The grounds had been lovingly developed and maintained by naturalists. A community lodge reflected in a picture perfect pond surrounded by large mature trees.  The trails had a colorful blanket of freshly fallen leaves and smelled heavenly! I was already inspired.

As we walked from the parking lot to the park entrance, a commemorative stone honoring a local naturalist caught me eye.  The first sentence stopped me in my tracks.  

What will you be known for? Hire Tiffany Eckhardt, Life Coach to create the life of your dreams

“Charles R. Goslin. A man of uncommon energy, knowledge and remarkable accomplishments…”  

Charles had uncommon energy.  

Heck, I want to be know for uncommon energy!  I was not even aware that uncommon energy was a cool attribute until I read Charles’ commemorative stone.  How do I cultivate that? 

I currently practice a daily habit of journaling a list of who I want to BE in the form of affirmations:  I am a supportive wife.  I am a loving mother, daughter, sister and FANCY (aka grandma).  I am a loyal friend.  I am a life coach to women who want to create their best life.  Recently I added attributes I want to cultivate in 2020: tenacious, gritty, genuine, creative, connected and courageous.   

Now I MUST add uncommon energy to my list!  

What will your commemorative Stone Read?

Your best life is created with intentional habits and clarity of purpose. Goals are not the end game… it is the person YOU become in accomplishing the goals. It is the “commemorative stone” that makes us FEEL fulfilled. 

To get started, ask yourself the following questions….

1.What do YOU want to BE known for?

2. What were YOU known for in 2019?  Would you change anything?  

3. What do YOU want to be known for in 2020?  Why?  Do you like your reasons?

NOW develop a list of attributes YOU want to cultivate in becoming the person of your dreams. Journal these attributes in the form of affirmations daily. “I am….” Writing them down daily as a reminder of how you want to show up in life is the secret sauce in becoming the person of your dreams! 

So… What will YOUR commemorative stone read???? Who do YOU want to become in reaching your goals? 

Let me help you

I’d like to offer a caveat: it is not possible to control what other people think of you.  The most important thing is what YOU think of yourself.  The most amazing thing you can do for your future dream self is to cultivate the attributes you want to be known for.  Your future self will be grateful for whom you decide to BECOME today.  

I am currently working with women who want to create their best life in 2020.  I’ve already helped several women set a goal to jump start their decade.  I promise YOU, it is so worth the time and investment.  

I am offering a FREE goal session to anyone who commits to a 6 month coaching package to kick start their new decade. A goal session is a $150 value! PLUS… committing to a 6 months package saves you $200 off the cost of monthly coaching! SAVING $350 IN TOTAL (packages must be purchased in the month of December 2019). Email me for details! 

Save money and become the person of YOUR dreams… write your own commemorative stone! It will be the best gift you give yourself this holiday season! 

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!

Is this luck?

Happy Thanksgiving Week!

I want to THANK YOU for supporting my journey!  I feel so lucky to have YOU along for the ride!  

2019 has been a year of tremendous growth for me.   This time last year I closed Flown The Coop the retail store… hard to believe!  Time is flying!  Since then I’ve devoted my time to learning.  I’ve listened to copious hours of podcasts.  I went to two Tony Robins events, one in LA and one in Vegas.  I’ve read more books than ever before.  My friend Dawn Gardner and I have been devouring personal development books together.  Our weekly call is one of the best blessings that developed from attending Tony Robbins events!  Finally, the biggest leap I took this year was enrolling in The Life Coach School.  It was a stretch worth taking!  I love the woman I am becoming!  

So is this what luck looks like?  

“Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity.” 

Are you setting yourself up for luck?  I believe you make your own luck.  I believe YOU can create the life you want.  I also believe that it is never too late or too early to set course on your own journey to become the person of your dreams.  

I’d love to help YOU create the life of your dreams with self awareness and intention.  Schedule a coaching session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want.  You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams.  Your first session if FREE!

Currently I am working with women who want to set up 2020 to be LUCKY!  

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!

Are you Zesty?

Does your success have a deadline?  

This is a big year for me!  I will become a certified life coach, open a our first guest house and turn 50 years young.  I’m actually very excited about my big milestone year.  I truly believe this will be the best decade of my life.  

Honestly, it did bother me a little that it took 50 years to hit my stride.  I found myself thinking, “I should be successful by now.”  The word “should” is a red flag!  Should we be anything?  

I changed my thought to, “this is my season!” 

Say the two thoughts to yourself.

“I should be successful by now”

“This is my season!”

Don’t they feel completely different? I feel motivated to discover what I’m truly capable of with the thought “This is my season!”  

AND SERIOUSLY…. Does success have a deadline?  

It’s time to be zesty!

“A seasoned woman is spicy,” Gail Sheehy

There are so many examples of women who launched successful businesses later in life.  Martha Stewart, Julia Childs, Vera Wang, Estée Lauder, etc.  Even if you aren’t interested in starting a business in this season, these women are reminders that it is never too late to create the life of your dreams.  

A seasoned woman is definitely not a rookie.  She has experienced life and knows how to turn obstacles into possibilities.  She has learned to be ok with her authentic self.  In fact, she has the confidence to be zesty in this season of life!  

Three things a seasoned woman KNOWS

1.  A seasoned woman is well aware life is 50% good and 50% bad.  

2.  A seasoned woman understands the importance of failing forward.

3.  A seasoned woman knows her seasoning is unique and valuable.

What are YOU going to do with your season?

The Pulitzer Prize winning poet, Mary Oliver once posed the question,

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?” 

Do you believe that you can create the life of your dreams at any season of life?  

I do!

This decade of my life will be zesty!  I have learned the art of failing forward.  I am ready to create the life of my dreams through intentional thought management.  I will be gritty, seasoned with both passion and perseverance.  

I’d love to help YOU create the life of your dreams with self awareness and intention.  Schedule a coaching session with me! I will listen to your ideas and help you discover what you really want.  You’ll develop a strategy to believe in the possibilities of your dreams.  Your first session if FREE!

Here’s to living a ZESTY LIFE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

What do curios people know?

What do curious people know?

What if curious people hold the secret to a successful life?  

Just curious, do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  Could curiosity be the secret?

Travel has taught me to be curious. I love to wander the streets of cities we visit. I always wonder what is around the corner. Could there be something amazing to discover the next street over? Jeff and I have been lost more than once. Curiosity led Michele, Jeff and I to Paolo Sandulli’s art castle in Praiano, Italy. I’d say that was a successful day!

Martha Stewart contributes her success to an avid curiosity.  

Jeff Bezos’ childhood was marked by curious chaos.  Bezos’ mother believed it was her responsibility to allow deep dives into what he enjoyed.  She may have not always liked his questions, but gave him space to explore with curiosity.   

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”  Walt Disney

Curious people are known to think outside the box, not afraid to fail, explore new ideas, and have an unquenchable willingness to grow.  

See why I am drawn to curious friends?  They are kindred spirits who create their lives.  

Questions are the answers

What if curious folks just learned to ask good questions?  What if questions are the answers? 

“Getting the right question is the key to getting the right answer,”  Jeff Bezos.

Curious people tend to be innovative, not content with the status quo.  They are willing to question how they show up in their valued relationships, how their thought life effects their emotional balance and how to contribute with influence and purpose.  

What if a zesty life is an endless journey of discovery?  

How curious are you about YOUR life?  

I’ve seen firsthand the benefits of questioning my thoughts.  The right questions exposed strategic and obstructive thoughts.  Every thought creates a feeling.  Feelings influence our behavior, which gives us our results.  

Questions led to discovering what I really want in every area of my life.  

Let’s get curious about the thoughts that are creating YOUR life in three important areas.  

Ask yourself…  

1. Am I self aware?

What is my current thought? {Right now… as I read this.}

How do I feel about that thought?

Do I like that thought?

What if I thought a different thought?   

Do my thoughts contribute to my wellness?  Why or why not?

2. How do I want to show up with my family and friends?

How am I doing?

What thoughts do I tend to think about my loved ones?

Are my thoughts correct, and strengthening my relationships?

Can I think different thoughts?

3. Am I doing work I love?

How do I define a successful life?

Do I like my definition?  

Why do I even want to be that version of success?

You get the idea… what questions would you ask yourself if you were curious?  Can you imagine a better life if you asked more questions?  Do you believe you have the power to change your life by changing your thoughts, creating feelings that serve you and taking action from the place of pure curiosity? Your best life could be just around the corner. 😉

Curious, do you need help?  

Don’t let yourself off the hook.  This is YOUR life… you deserve to create it.  Do you need to enlist help from someone who will objectively listen to your line of thinking?  

I’d love to offer my services to you.  Are you curious how I can help YOU solve the issues in your life?  A coaching session will help you explore your thoughts with curiosity.  There is a system to unlocking the results you want in your life.   The first session is FREE!  

Do you believe it’s possible to create the life of your dreams?  

Here’s to a cultivating curiosity!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing YES in the sky!  

Got GRIT? Three Steps To Build GRIT

 

Got Grit? Tiffany Eckhardt shares the importance of choosing your feelings

Got Grit?  Yes, of course I Got Grit!

I like to think I possess a “never give up” attitude.  Yet, there are times when I bailed on my dream, have not persevered or had the passion to see a project through to the end.  I believe that I have the power to choose grit and can cultivate it.  In fact, I have the power to get back up from a failure and reinvent myself.  I have a lifetime of proof.

Let me share with you how to build GRIT!

Did you know you can choose your feelings?  

Let me share a concept that I’ve recently learned.

The human experience is a balance of the positive and the negative.   Accepting this fact allows for the negative without adding to it.  Time spent avoiding negative emotions and experiences, limits access to the power some negative emotions carry.  

For example, courage is an honorable trait that propels us to do hard things, but is an uncomfortable emotion.  The definition of Courage is – mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.  Wouldn’t it be great to be courageous in the face of obstacles without enduring fear or perseverance?  

Grit is failing forward

I have been talking about failing forward the past few weeks in an attempt to make failure more acceptable.  Failure is the uncomfortable balance to success and a necessary step in growth.  No one wants to choose failure.  Accepting it as a part of the success experience prevents adding shame, embarrassment, inadequacy, etc. to the experience.  

Once this concept is understood,  the choice is yours.  Will you intentionally think thoughts that produce the feelings required to succeed in life?  It’s worth noting that some emotions are simply negative indulgent emotions that keep us from success.  Choosing confusion, doubt or worry never moves the needle.  Choosing to walk through fear toward success is productive.  Choosing overwhelm in the face of fear keeps you stuck.  Do you see the difference?

I choose GRIT…

I have decided to become the person of my dreams.  Oh my!  2020 is going to be EPIC!  First of all, I turn 50 in March.  I don’t hate turning 50 years young.  It’s time to buckle down and do the things I’ve always dreamed of doing and being.

I made a list of emotions that I want to cultivate.  I want to be tenacious, capable, genuine, authentic, connected and creative.  

When I made the list of traits I think are important for my success, I realized that most of them have a negative connotation to them.  I want to be tenacious.  Well, that requires me to do something bold.  I want to feel capable.  Can’t feel capable sitting on the couch.  I want to be genuine and authentic, but desperately want to fit in.  I want to feel connected, but often find myself not inviting someone to coffee.  Being creative, a truly positive emotion, is my happy place.  

Recently I added gritty to my list of traits I want to be.  In fact, I am starting to see that GRIT needs to be my word for 2020.  I believe grit allows me to stay committed to the uncomfortable feelings necessary for success.  Being gritty means that I will have both passion and perseverance.

What is grit?

Grit as defined by Angela Duckworth is the power of passion and perseverance. 

“Our potential is one thing, what we do with it is another.” ~Angela Duckworth

Angela has spent her life studying grit.  You can read more about her journey in her book GRIT The Power of Passion and Perseverance or find her TedTalk on YouTube.  In her Preface she writes, “I won’t just have a job; I’ll have a calling.  I’ll challenge myself every day.  When I get knocked down, I’ll get back up.  I may not be the smartest person in the room, but I’ll strive to be the grittiest.”   

Wow!  Angela personifies grit!  The willingness to get back up from a blow, to work harder, to face fear, to embrace a calling… you get the idea.  Fail forward.  

Will Smith explains grit this way,

“The only thing that I see is distinctly different about me is: I’m not afraid to die on the treadmill.   I will not be outworked, period.  You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me.  You might be all those things.  You got it on me in nine categories.  But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things:  You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die.  It’s really that simple.”

Angela breaks grit down two factors, passion and perseverance.  “Grit is about working on something you care about so much you’re willing to stay loyal to it.”  There are no shortcuts.  It’s about falling in love with what you do and staying in love with it.  

Train your mind for grit

Three steps to build GRIT… choose your feelings

Can you see yourself choosing grit?  It is very similar to choosing to fail forward.    

I’m not suggesting that everyone should choose grit.

I am suggesting that being intentional about how you want to show up in life is crucial to your results.  I am offering that you have the power to choose.  

Start by deciding the feelings you want to foster and becoming self aware.

1.Choose the positive feelings and the negative feelings necessary to succeed in what ever you set your heart.  

2. Keep a log of the thoughts that generate those feelings.  There is always a thought that produces the feeling.  It is also beneficial to document the thoughts that keep you in a negative indulgent emotion like confusion, worry, or anxiety.  

Here is an example of mine:

Positive Feelings

  • Abundant
  • Connected
  • Loved
  • Focused
  • Determined

Negative Feelings

  • Courageous
  • Tenacious
  • Bold
  • Fear
  • Grit

3. Journal your thoughts and feelings on a daily basis.  Are the feelings wanted, necessary or unwanted?  What thoughts produce those feelings?  Are there areas in your life that you can choose to think differently about?  Try on new thoughts.  How does the new thoughts make you feel?  This simple activity will open up so much insight!

What do you choose?

Let me encourage you to become the person of your dreams.  You may not choose grit, but you have the power to be gritty in choosing the feelings that will produce the life you always wanted!  

I am excited to bring you along on my journey!  Becoming a certified life coach is the most rewarding work I’ve done!  I’d love to help you take hold of the thoughts, to help you decide what is servicing you.  Schedule a FREE consultation to see if I’m a right fit for your journey!  It really does help to talk through the thoughts that produce the feelings, that cause action and give results in your life!  

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

Failing Forward With A “YES” Mentality

Failing Forward is the story of my life.  

I am very proud of my failures!  I followed my passions, thought outside the box, attempted greatness and forged my own path.  I decided to make each of my failed attempts mean that I am tenacious, persistent, stout hearted, and most importantly willing to fail.  I have learned the secret by developing a “YES” mindset.  

Friends, I have an impressive collection of business cards to prove it! I enthusiastically approached each business attempt with an attitude of, “this might work, what the hell!”  Some business ventures stung more than others when I let them go.  

Tiffany Eckhardt with Flown The Coop is a self proclaimed serial entrepreneur

The lessons I earned was worth every heart ache!

Failure is simply of mental constraint

YOU decide what failure is by the meaning YOU assign it in your life.  One person’s failure is another person’s success.  A student given the grade of C considers the grade a failure or a complete victory, depending on the student.  Yearly earnings of $100,000 is a failure to one small business owner, and a unimaginable success to another small business owner.   

The subconscious mind is a sneaky, over-protective part of our human experience.  Some people refer to the subconscious as the lizard brain, the resistance, or the protective personality.  Throughout our life, this protective personality creates stories hidden in our subconscious to protect us from danger.  Most people aren’t even aware of the thoughts or stories they are using to avoid failure.  

Learning to fail forward is a skill that involves managing thoughts and intentions! 

Will you say “YES” to failure?

“I no longer remember what the question is.  I do know the answer is yes.”  Seth Godin

If you refuse to accept failure as a part of the journey, you will not likely succeed.  If you are willing to take every thought captive and create intentions; you will be ready to face any failure on your journey to success.  I refer to this challenge as developing a “YES: mindset.  

Create a Failure Plan

Here are just a few helpful ways to manage mental constraints around failure.  

  1. Define success.   Answer the questions, “I know I’m successful when…”  List 5 to 10 things that when you do them you will know you are being successful.  I actually never even considered this exercise until last year.  I love the key word “being.”  
  2. Define failures (yes, I used plural).  Not as much fun, but very important.  
  3. Decide how to solve the failures ahead of time.  How will you feel when the worst thing happens?  How will you address it?  Making a plan for the worst case scenarios gives you confidence and helps you avoid the mind drama that will slow down creativity!  
  4. Why are you pursuing this venture?  Define the commitment you have to your definition of success.  A compelling reason will keep you going forward when set backs happen.  
  5. What are common excuses you have to avoid failing?  
  6. What is a believable thought you can practice to feel courage on purpose?

Hiring a life coach is another fantastic choice in developing a “YES” mindset.  I would love to help you identify the thoughts that are  hijacking your success.  Create a mindset that makes it!

Can you identify the failures that shaped you?  Are you proud of them too?  I am.  The failures mean we faced a fear and attempted greatness.  Let me encourage you to keep going.  The absolute worst thing you can do is allow failure to hold you back in any area of your life!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

3 Reasons You Need To Hire A Life Coach

Well-Crafted Life Retreat at Flown The Coop in Burton, TexasDo you need to hire a Life Coach? 

Do you need to hire a Life Coach, but your thoughts automatically dismiss the idea?  

  • Investing in yourself feels selfish?  
  • No time to slow down?
  • It’s scary…what will I learn about myself?

Want to know the truth?  All the reasons you create to dismiss the idea are just thoughts.  Thoughts that keep you stuck in unfavorable results.  

The good news is that you can choose your thoughts, once you learn how.  You can choose your feelings by changing your thoughts.  And you can decide how you want to behave and get the results you want.  

You may be just stuck in your old, worn-out story and unaware of the thoughts.  

YOU can be the hero in your own story!  All you need is a guide that will help you see your mind, and the power of your potential.  

So, why do YOU need a coach?

1. Every brain needs a coach.

Did you know the greats minds in the self-help industry have coaches?  All the top podcasters that I listen to have personal coaches.  They all agree it is an investment worth making.  

The thing is… the subconscious mind is responsible for protecting you from what historically has been a challenge in your life.  Your mind is programed to keep you in a story that is familiar, even when the story is not serving you.  

I’ve listened to seasoned coaches get coached.  It always amazes me!  These people know that their thoughts are causing the results in their lives, but they are too far into their story to recognize it.  

It happened to me.  Intellectually I know to measure success internally.  Yet I found myself looking for validation from external sources.  This is a familiar story in my life.  My coach pointed out that I can only determine success by things I can control… how I show up, the energy I bring, etc.  

It was an a-ha moment that should have been obvious.  I concluded that I would not be serving the ladies I hope to serve if I stayed stuck in that story!  

2. You are totally unaware of your thoughts.  

You have over 60,000 thoughts on a daily basis.  90% of the thoughts are the same ones you had yesterday, and the day before.  Do you wonder why you get the same results?  

Are you on automatic?  Do you automatically block any thought that isn’t familiar?

Is your mind getting in the way of amazing results?  What if you slowed down to discover what you really want in life?  What if you explored your thought life, and created thoughts that will serve you?  

Take the time to become intentional!

3. Your thoughts are directly related to your results.  

A-ha moments happen when you become aware that thoughts are responsible for your results.  A good coach will not give their advice, but will help you see your own mind.  They will gently lead you to your thoughts.  How do you want to feel?  How can you change your thought to change your actions to get a different result?  

Trust me, you are not broken or need to be fixed.  You know deep down inside what your heart is leading you to do.  A coach will guide you to understand that you have the power to solve life’s hardest problems.  You are more powerful than you realize!  

You have the power to become the person of your dreams and to create a life you want.  

You can be the hero in your own story.  

Are YOU ready to talk to a coach?  I am offering FREE consultations for my friends.  Simply email me a request for an appointment.  Eckhardt.tiffany@gmail.com

Do not be scared… Surely you have time for a friendly conversation to see if coaching is something that will benefit you!  

DON’T MISS THE NEXT WELL-CRAFTED LIFE RETREAT!

OCTOBER 25TH & 26TH 2019

FLOWN THE COOP, BURTON

REGISTER ON EVENTBRITE

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

3 Mistakes Choosing An Exit Strategy

Does your current circumstances have you feeling caged in a life you didn’t choose?  Do you have an exit strategy?  Let me share what I believe are 3 mistakes choosing a working exit strategy.

A few reasons you might not even have an exit strategy.

  1. You love the life you created
  2. You don’t believe there is a choice
  3. You have a pattern of self-sabotage
  4. You are telling yourself stories about your abilities
  5. It’s not the right time to try something new
  6. There isn’t enough money to explore dreams
  7. I don’t have support from family or friends
  8. I’m too old
  9. I’m too young
  10. I need to be perfect

There are infinite reasons to excuse yourself from living the life you want to create.  I believe we all have limiting beliefs that keep us caged.  It is important to recognize the storyline you’ve created for the life you currently have.

A working exit strategy?

According to a recent Forbes article on retirement by Robert Laura,

increasing number of baby boomers are disenchanted with their current careers.  They’re worn-out from years of the corporate grind and don’t feel the connection between their job and the people it impacts outside their office walls or company grounds.  They’re shifting their focus from accumulating a giant nest egg to a desire to be part of something bigger and better… to have a positive effect on others… and working in retirement.

This concept can be applied to any segment of society.  You don’t have to be a baby boomer to wake up and realize you aren’t satisfied with your current trajectory.  An exist strategy is a shift in focus.

I don’t profess to have all the answers.  God blessed me with a tenacious spirit, bent on sharing my imperfect journey with the world.

I “woke up” a couple of years ago after a series of unfortunate health issues.  My journey is committed to promoting wellness and entrepreneurship.  In the process, I chose to leave a traditional business model (my store.)  I’m now apart of a “clean” movement in wine and wellness.  I’ve embraced social selling and enjoy developing leaders who want to have an impact on the world.

A business model for personal growth with a compensation plan.  ~Bob Heilig

I know you love lists!  Here are the top ten benefits of developing the social selling business model.

  1. Low investment
  2. No overhead
  3. Shipping, product development, customer service is handled
  4. Can be part-time
  5. Freedom to work from anywhere
  6. Contribute to a movement
  7. Personal development
  8. Passive income
  9. Impact helping change people’s stories
  10. Surrounding your life with enthusiastic people

3 mistakes in choosing a working exit strategy.

I’ve been teetering a learning curve for the past two years.  I’ve approached this new journey several different ways.  Here’s what I know to be important…

1. Product

You must have a product you believe in.  The product could be a life changing consumable, fun clothing, fitness related, wellness related, education, coaching or technology.  There are a gazillion options.

You don’t need to become an evangelist to be excited about a product.  I think endless product pushing has given the social selling business model a bad name.  Unfortunately, I’ve been guilty of being over zealous for the products I represent.  Rather, choose a lifestyle product and join a bigger movement.

2. Company

Is the company apart of the Direct Sales Association?  I would say that most companies are reputable.  It doesn’t hurt to check.

What is the company’s mission?  What is their outlook for future growth?  Does the company have a plan to help you succeed in the first ninety days?  Is there continual product education and personal development?

3. Leadership

Ideally you will be working closely with the people who invite you to join a company.  What investment will they make into your success?

The leader who invites you to join the company should be committed to growth.  Do they treat the opportunity like a business or a hobby?  Can they clearly articulate their exit strategy?

Are they interested in your goals and dreams?  Do they know the reason you want an exit strategy?  Leaders who are serious about your success will check in regularly to encourage you and offer experienced perspective.  Remember, the success of your leader depends on their investment of time and resources in developing you as a leader.

The beauty of social selling is community support.  Does the leader foster community space to share ideas, successes and failures?  Do they offer consistent opportunities to interact in Facebook groups, monthly meetings and special events?

Do you have an exit strategy?

Flown The Coop has always been dedicated to those who can’t be caged.  I am committed to helping entrepreneurs, makers and creatives.

Side note:  Please remember to support your friends who are blazing a trail.  These entrepreneurs are the new “Mom & Pops” fighting the Amazons of the world.  And they have more of an impact in their communities!

Have you considered your options, questioned your beliefs and/or contemplated your dreams for the future?  Does an exit strategy excited you?  Let’s chat!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

He was right the whole time. An epiphany about habits

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This is a common occurrence in the Eckhardt home.  Jeff will communicate a thought he thinks will help me.  He is dumbfounded when I share the same thought as an epiphany I learned from a podcast or a book.  Why did I have to hear it from someone else?  He was right the whole time.

Today I had a similar moment with God

Tiffany Eckhardt, owner of Flown The Coop, discovers a paradigm shift reading Atomic Habits, by James Clear

I am a journaler.  I write out all my feelings to determine what I think about them.  God has been whispering the word “BE”  to me for a long time.  It didn’t register until today.

Road to an epiphany

I have created a wonderful habit of listening to podcasts as I get ready for the day.  If you haven’t already, check out my 5 Podcasts To Finish 2018 Strong article.

My habit has introduced me to wonderful Influencers.   I am currently enjoying the #Last90Days challenge with Dave and Rachel Hollis.  I tune into their daily FB live for inspiration.  Their Five To Thrive has really propelled me into some great foundational habits.

I’m seeing a reoccurring topic arise throughout the podcast world.  Everyone seems to be talking about habits.

I am currently listening to The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do on Audible.  This is a book Rachel Hollis recommended the first week of the #Last90Days challenge.  Wow! The study of habits is fascinating.  The same week I started to listen The Power of Habit I heard an interview on Lewis Howes’ podcast with James Clear. James just wrote the book Atomic Habits.  Blew. My. Mind.  I highly recommend listening to this podcast!

The road to an epiphany led me to a Habits.

I am a reader

My copy of Atomic Habits arrived in the mail yesterday.  Ironically, I am creating a new reading habit at night.  (I am a reader)  I devoured the first three chapters, underlining and wiring comments on several key ideas.  Here are a few of my favorites:

  • A habit is a routine or behavior that is performed regularly – and, in many cases, automatically.
  • the quality of our lives depend on the quality of our habits
  • Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement
  • Success is the product of daily habits – not once-in-a-lifetime transformations
  • You don’t rise to the level of your goals.  You fall to the level of your systems
  • an atomic habit refers to a tiny change, a marginal gain, a 1 percent improvement
  • atomic habits are the building blocks of remarkable results
  • there is a difference between outcome based habits and identity habits
  • It’s hard to change your habits if you never change the underlying beliefs that led you to your past behavior
  • The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity… when your behavior and your identity are fully aligned, you are no longer pursuing a behavior change.  You are simply acting like the person you already believe yourself to be.
  • The focus should always be on becoming that type of person, not getting a particular outcome

Wow!  A paradigm shift!  I had to let all of these ideas sink in.  What stood out to me is that I didn’t truly believe I could be the person who accomplished dreams.  I didn’t believe I could BE successful or healthy (skinny).  I didn’t even believe I could BE a nice person.  UUGH!

He was right the whole time

This morning God whispered to me again, “Be.”  Turns out he was right the whole time.  God was leading me to focus on who I wanted to BE.  He is interested in leading me to my true identity.  Why didn’t I hear him from the beginning?  I was focused on outcomes. I didn’t have faith in the journey!

Now what?

I will focus on small changes over time.  My goal is to become the best version of myself.

The question becomes, “Who do I want to BE?”

  • I am a christian (true identity). I am loving and loyal to my family and friends.
  • I am a healthy person who is committed to daily exercise, drinking water, and eating well (I am skinny). 😉
  • I am a natural networker.  I love connecting people and helping them realize their dreams!
  • I am a leader who uplifts her team to the best version of themselves.
  • I am a reader… love to learn!
  • I am patient… becoming the best version of myself takes time.  🙂

This epiphany might only be for my benefit.

He was right the whole time.  I don’t think God is upset that I didn’t hear “BE” the first time.  I think he knew I needed to take this road to an epiphany.  Tiny habits over time compounds into the person I want to become!  I am thankful for this lesson.

I am humbly grateful if this resinates with you!  Let me encourage you!  Decide the person you want to BE and create habits that serve that person.

I’d love to hear from you!  Get a copy of the book Atomic Habits.  Let’s share what we learn with each other!  Let’s believe in who we can BE!

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!

The Practice Life!

The practice life is rich in opportunity!

The Practice Life is taking action on an idea, and an exercise repeated regularly in order to improve or maintain one’s proficiency.

Tiffany Eckhardt, owner of Flown The Coop takes a look at life as a practice.

People practice patience, hospitality, yoga, wellness, gratitude and their business.  Here are a few practices I’m currently working on.

Patience

Let’s just say that I am cultivating patience in tandem with all the other fruits of the spirit (Galations 5:22-23). This is a necessary gift from God!  I don’t come by it naturally.  Our guest house project is testing my patience.  The struggle is real.  I’ve been dreaming of this project for three years.  I do not claim to be long suffering.  It takes practice to accept the things I can not control.

Hospitality

I love to practice hospitality.  I was fortunate to hear a speaker on hospitality as a young mother.  The speaker set me free from imperfect entertaining.  Entertaining is preforming to impress your guest.  Hospitality is welcoming friends in your home with the intention of blessing them.  The focus is on the guests, not on me.

One of my biggest joys is to have fun events and classes at Creative At The Coop.  It is a gift to be able to offer what I’ve learned from years of practice.  I enjoy learning new skills for my practice!  Recently I discovered the ease of creating a charcuterie board.  Charcuterie boards have been a fun creative outlet for my Scout & Cellar wine tastings.

Yoga

My wellness practice began over a year ago.  Jeff and I first embraced a paleo diet and Young Living essential oils!  My home and health became less toxic as I transferred my buying habits to plant based items.  Most importantly, I learned how to listen to my body for clues on what it needs.

I’ve noticed a need to be more active.  Jeff and I joined ​​gen·e·sis yog​a​​​ in Brenham.  Yoga is a patience patient practice, supporting mobility and mindfulness.  I discovered a love for restorative yoga!  It feels like a yoga massage!  I love the challenge of the strength building poses.  I need a lot of practice at this stage of the game!

Business

I am not a doctor or a lawyer.  I am a serial entrepreneur that has spent my life practicing business.  This is one area of my life that feels like an endless climb upward.  I had to learn to embrace the mystery and create a pro mindset.

Podcasts have become a staple in my development this past year.  Some of my favorite podcasters feel like friends.  Truly, at this point in my life I need mentors.  I long to surround myself with people who are in spaces I want to occupy.  Check out my latest blog to learn about 5 podcasts to finish 2018 strong!

Grace

Flown The Coop Guest HouseFinally, I’d like to offer a bit of grace by imagining all areas of life is a practice.  I am grateful to God for grace!  It is an open gate to excepting life in it’s fullest.  I will repeatedly, on a regular basis, move toward my goals allowing myself to makes mistakes along the way.  No one is perfect right out of the gate.  The important thing to remember is keep on practicing.  Right?

Are you giving yourself grace to view life as a practice?  Let’s encourage each other to finish 2018 strong!  Please feel free to share your stories in the comments below!

 

~Tiffany

And the birds fluttered around her writing “YES” in the sky!